5 Reasons Lesbian Moms Raise Better Kids Than Straights
The economic breakdown of the parent groups showed a larger number of “working class” types on the lezmo side, but the costs of insemination suggest that the lezmos also had higher paying jobs and possibly higher degrees of education. Women who get collegiate and university degrees and high paying careers tend to be older, more stable, and overall better equipped to handle a baby.
Of course, it’s ridonkulous how many loopholes gay couples still have to jump through just to become parents when straight couples can pop out kids, divorce, remarry, and respawn as often as they like. But the more of these studies we have under our belts, the better equipped we will be not only to fight the opponents of gay adoption, but to learn how to be better LGBT parents ourselves.
@bskibs: There should be, gays can be just as good parents as women since they are probably gonna be more emotionally connected to their children than straights too because of the struggle they likely would have had to go through to just have a child. Gays are great emotionally with children too unlike a lot of straight fathers who just up and go when they get women pregnant.
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Lesbian mothers are better parents because they are LESBIANS. Plain and simple.
The Greeks and Romans were right about same-sex love. They knew that breeder sex is disgusting and deviant and was only good for baby-farming and nation-building. It is only tolerated today because science has not come up with a better solution.
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I am so happy that Queerty wrote this. Studies have long shown that the joined efforts of two women parents, not always homosexual, usually raise happier, more well-adjusted children than other parental pairings. The studies that I’ve seen usually show a great disparity between the parenting of two women and that of mother/father parenting.
The studies I’ve seen on the parenting of two men, again, not always homosexual, vary greatly. Generally, parenting by two men tends to come out behind other pairings. However, it should be noted that the studies behind the parenting of male/male headed families are not nearly as complete simply because there are not as many male/male parents as there are woman/woman parents. Also, gay men tend to use foster care programs as a way to parent children rather than undertaking an adoption or facilitating a surrogate. Since foster care programs tend to produce less emotionally stable children and the relationships between foster parents and children are often not permanent, it makes the situation more difficult and lowers the numbers for gay men.
There’s also the fact that the female portion of parenting is biologically more “necessary” to a child’s development than the male portion. Thus, an overload on the female portion in the child’s upbringing from two mothers is probably more good than bad.
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One more thing, on the second page of this article, this issue always infuriates me and I think the last quote from Dan Savage paraphrases it nicely. The studies that religious groups and pro-traditional-family groups cite are ALWAYS so sketchy. I was reading an article from Catholic Online on this same topic and of course the findings they reported were in complete contrast to this article. So many of those studies are developed by NARTH, a group of allegedly unbiased researchers and therapists that are out to prove that homosexuality is an abomination and a threat to society. Anything developed by NARTH is often religion-sponsored, and the vast majority of NARTH members subscribe to Christian beliefs. Talk about setting out to prove a particular result! It’s science at its worst. For sure, there are probably the same problems with pro-homosexual studies and that shouldn’t be ignored, but the anti-homosexual side is sooooo patently guilty of this, it’s despicable. Luckily, NARTH has no real following outside of the religious sphere and most reputable members of the scientific/medical community condemn its research practices.
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On the male/male question, I do think it’s very important to recognize that gay men’s intentional families look quite different from lesbians’. Lesbians have historically had greater access to means of having biological children, since artificial insemination doesn’t require nearly as much outside contribution than surrogacy. And historically, women (including lesbians) have had an easier time retaining kids form previous heterosexual relationships.
Children of gay men are disproportionately adopted. And since there’s discrimination against gays by many of the private adoption organizations that procure healthy mostly-white infants, gay men are more likely to go through the foster system. There are plenty of studies that have established that kids who have been in the foster system tend to do worse than kids adopted as newborns or ones raised by their biological parents. So we can expect that on average, gay men’s kids might not be as well-adjusted. A good study would have to control very carefully for the children’s background.
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I think that, in fairness, you have to remember that a queer couple who decides to have as kid has already self selected for financial security and maybe even had a home-study done by a licensed social worker. With heterosexual couples, (including many of our parents, BTW) pregnancy just “happens” ready or not.