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That was a good story but I totally wanted to read more. Part 2?
This is such a good story, I just wish there was more of it. I would like to see more stuff like this on the site. I partly enjoyed it because that’s exactly how my father and I are with each other. …and you should probably tell him you’re gay; just for the record.
I also think it’s great story. It would be an awesome beginning, to the tales of ones life.
I too, wish there was more.
Although I sort of identify, I’m not sympathetic. Since Graham lives far away I suggest coming out in an email, or even an old-fashioned formal letter, if it’s that fucking difficult to come out.
Or maybe Graham could wait until he’s 37, or 47 (if dad lives that long), and NEVER has a girlfriend, and maybe dad will figure it out! You know, from all that “gay stuff” in the news. Come to think of it, a lot of Queerty commenters seem to do this. Their reports always seem sad and pointless and I don’t recommend this route.
My father was a truly scary, terrifying individual, but if I’d still been in the closet to him at 27 (which I’m proud to say I was NOT!), and we had a conversation like the one described, I’m afraid I wouldn’t have been able to help cracking up laughing hysterically.
Sorry! – I’ve reread my comment #4 and I apologize for being too dismissive. I would like to say to Graham that it’s important to come out – if only because, for instance, they might find out by other means, or figure it out – so why not do it on YOUR terms? Agree that a Xmas visit is not ideal. Awkward.
But I think Graham’s living far away makes it easier. (That was my situation too.) There’s nothing wrong with coming out in an email, if you don’t see them often anyway & think it’s too stressful to do in person. They can have time to collect their thoughts and reply. In fact if they take a few days to reply that’s probably a good sign. Good luck.
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