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ADVICE: Can You Get Hooked On Hooking Up?

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By:           Les Fabian Brathwaite
On:           Nov 10, 2012
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  • 19 Comments
    • hotboy1423
      hotboy1423

      1 word, WOW… This is my life in a handfull of paragraphs. I was exactly the same as screwed. I then realized how much it is bad for me such as Micheal explained so well and then I met someone and currently setteling down and hoping for the best

      Nov 10, 2012 at 1:10 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • thenameismatt
      thenameismatt

      This blog post reflects my experience with Grindr and the like. Deleting them and loading them up again countless times indicated to me just how powerfully addictive they are. I know not everyone experiences hook up apps this way, but for me, I had to leave that form of social interaction behind for my own sanity.

      Nov 10, 2012 at 1:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hotboy1423
      hotboy1423

      @thenameismatt: I totaly did the same, meeting soemone u get alng well with (niot encessarly a BF, maybe a stable fuck buddy) could be very helpful

      Nov 10, 2012 at 1:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • GreenmanTN
      GreenmanTN

      In the internet age “hooking up” isn’t that difficult. A friend of mine calls it “internet pizza” because it’s so easy and it comes right to your door. And it’s not just that way only for the 1%ers, the absolutely gorgeous. There are specialty sites just for people of certain body-types and inclinations. A friend of mine is in his 60s and he’s suddenly a “daddy” dreamboat, in demand. He’s getting more ass than I ever did in my 20s.

      And don’t get me wrong, I’ve done it. Dial-a-dick, Woo Hoo! Have condoms, will travel. Team Orgasm for the win!

      But what I’ve noticed is that it makes people more judgmental, less willing to accept differences in others, actually work on relationships. Why bother overcoming differences when there are so many fish (dicks) in the sea? Any and every personal failing or idiosyncrasy is grounds for moving on because finding another dick or ass is so easy. “He hates MUSHROOMS, can you believe it?!” “He actually LIKES watching Real Housewives and I just decided that life is too short to put up with that!” Throw it away because another penis or ass, with a person only incidentally attached to it, will come along.

      People pretend they’re looking for “a relationship” but many of them are lying. Relationships take effort so why bother when you always assume something better will come (and cum) along?

      Nov 10, 2012 at 4:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • gregergjp2006
      gregergjp2006

      @GreenmanTN: Couldn’t agree more with your last statement Greenman!

      Nov 10, 2012 at 7:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cee
      Cee

      Yes. You can get hooked on hooking up. I’d like to say you grow out of it, but a lot of people don’t. I feel like I did though. I know what it feels like to care about someone and them care about you. That feeling is better than sex to me. It helps me keep perspective. Not saying I’ll never hook up again, but I definitely have it under control. As long as I can remember that feeling I know that’s what I ultimately want again and it’s not a feeling you’re going to get from hooking up.

      Nov 10, 2012 at 9:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • gppm1103
      gppm1103

      @hotboy1423: When I was your age in San Francisco I spent most of my time when I wasn’t at work in Nob Hill Cinema or some other cruising place. It was the same as this without the app.

      Glad you found a boyfriend. That is the best way to go guy. The chase is always fun but after a while it really destroys you. Good Luck.

      Nov 11, 2012 at 9:48 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      Where do you people find all these hot guys to hook up with on Grindr? It is certainly not my experience with that app? Do I need to move?

      Nov 11, 2012 at 11:38 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hotboy1423
      hotboy1423

      @viveutvivas: well i don’t wanna be offensive or anything but u have to be hot ursealf to get a reply from these hot guys, or els they re gonna ignore u :p

      Nov 11, 2012 at 11:42 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      @hotboy, what makes you assume I am not hot? I am complaining about a lack of supply, not demand. My guess is that you don’t live in a small economically depressed city.

      Nov 11, 2012 at 1:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hotboy1423
      hotboy1423

      @viveutvivas: well sorry then, I porbably did offend u. I live in montreal, in not such a good economic area. I dont think economics have a correlation with the hotness of guys, actualy stats shows that gay men have more chances to live in poorer area, look it up. But yeah, if ur hot then maybe we should hook up! ( lol I’m so funny :P )

      Nov 11, 2012 at 2:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      @hotboy, well, Montreal is quite the gay destination for us New Englanders, so in my experience things are definitely better there than over here, manwise. Also, where I live is not so much the economic depression as it is the smallness, I guess, although the lack of economic and relationship opportunities here is definitely driving many of the better educated gay guys away to bigger cities, depleting the local supply of gay men even more.

      Nov 11, 2012 at 3:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hotboy1423
      hotboy1423

      @viveutvivas: i agreed, but u never said if ur willing to hook up… Lol :p

      Nov 11, 2012 at 3:58 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      @hotboy1423: @viveutvivas:
      Wouldn’t it be funny if hotboy and viveutvivas already HAVE hooked up, in some Montreal bathhouse a few years ago, and it was hot and they both remember the incident vividly (& fondly) but they didn’t happen to have a conversation?

      I like hotboy’s observation in comment #3. “Stable” sex buddies are very underrated! Too many guys think in terms of “either/or”: either you’re seriously looking for a bf, or you’re a slut. There really IS an in-between.

      You can also make longtime friendships (non-sexual, after the one time) via casual sex, with the right attitude.

      Nov 11, 2012 at 3:58 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hotboy1423
      hotboy1423

      @the other Greg: lol im sure we did but not in a bathhouse, i usualy fuck guys at their place

      Nov 11, 2012 at 4:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      @hotboy1423: So maybe you remember a hotel room with some hot guy from New England? :-)

      Nov 11, 2012 at 4:21 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hotboy1423
      hotboy1423

      @the other Greg: Haha maybe, love american butts :p

      Nov 11, 2012 at 4:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      @hotboy1423: I suspect you met my boyfriend at some point. (We’re in N.E. too.) He’s out of town so I have to go beat off now, thanks for the unexpectedly hot conversation! – merci’.

      Nov 11, 2012 at 4:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hotboy1423
      hotboy1423

      @hotboy1423: lol np , im always good at makin ppl horny haha

      Nov 11, 2012 at 6:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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