my humble peice is something I took from the gay writer Roles: Being a bottom or top has to do with the personalities of the people involved. Tops are more physically control oriented while bottoms are more nuturant . It’s not really just a step different than submissive/Dominant in S/M.
From the School of San Fransisco’s hayday Some people are just Identified as being tops; it’s just something that you recognise in each other without speaking.

People post HIV are usually much more naive about their sexuality and the potentials. Although I ran into someone who I was immediately talking to who told me that peolpe where I live now almost didn’t know how to do it. Do I ever know.

why are you labeling me and trying to talk about my color?
look in the mirror & be honest.
it’s cute to be a gadfly and talk sh*t, but if you stand for nothing you will fall for anything.

Divine Grace is very funny about our lil Twinkle Obama.

Sparkle Obama is a total black bottom! There, feel better now?

BTW – A Bottom once told me that there is no such thing as a Versatile Gay man and I replied “That’s what the Tops might tell YOU honey!”

I’m not mad, Sparky. Insane, perhaps. Verbose, definitely. But not mad.

What I am suggesting is that everybody stops nit-picking and dissecting a word until it’s pointless to even speak it. Pardon the digression, but “LGBTQ” yanks my knickers into a bit of a twist. I understand that all communities want to be sufficiently recognized, but if we are all going to sit around harping that everybody’s are “one in the same” and that “people are people”, why then do we keep dividing ourselves in such a calculated manner? You worry about you and I’ll worry about me. What I am labeled as has little effect on me in any arena that matters…and nobody with any brains is using any of those words in that arena. Who specifically refers to bottoms by name in legislative politics?

I oftentimes bottom out. I’m not sure how to put that more delicately, but I’m even more perplexed as to WHY I should have to do so. Why? Because it makes somebody else uncomfortable to use a word that specifically means “below”? Well, oftentimes, that’s what I am: BELOW the guy who’s fucking me in my ass. I find it easier to say “bottom” than to say “parallel”, “at a ninety-degree angle to an LGBTQ penis” or “anally wrapped around some homosexual’s phallus”. I have no issue with “bottom” or “faggot”, or “sissy” or “queer” or any other host of random words that have been used to belittle me. Why? Because I OWN those words. I LIVE them. Well…and because I AM those words. I have no problem with being a bottom or a faggot. You shouldn’t have any issue with my being comfortable with being called those words as they really don’t affect anybody else in the end.

You want something that’s more “politically comfortable” or “dignified” to describe taking it up the poop chute? Good luck with that. So far, all I’m given is “bottom”, “butt-pirate” and “cum-dumpster”. At present, I most closely identify with “bottom”. Who knows what tomorrow might bring?

Any takers?

And Mr. Hoppe, I hope that you don’t mind my being a bit silly in my blog about all of this. I think that this is a great idea and I am excited to see what becomes of it. Best of luck and keep us all abreast of what the hell is going on in the development.

To the rest of the readers, pardon my long-windedness, but this is a topic that I find both amusing and insightful. I don’t mean to monopolize, but once I get going…well, I’m like a hungry ass at an all-you-can-bottom buffet.

~Gracie

golleee, don’t be mad!
i think “bottom” is “gay ghetto”, all right?
nothing to do with “race”, except when b*tches ask me for two forms of i.d. at the door.
part of “vagina monologue”‘s cachet was the normalizing of “vagina” in english use.
what i am saying is, gays: please think twice about enshrining “top/bottom” in the popular lexicon extending beyond gay ghetto lingo.
what about “the insertee monologues”?
kidding, don’t be mad, boo.
listen, we all have our own style.
i don’t like that word “bottom”; it grosses me out.
like “top”, it’s fraught with politically uncomfortble (for me) implications.
i think that “gay” guys label theselves so often by their perhaps over-determined sexual preferences that maybe we could come up with a more dignified default term.
innocent gay kids coming up don’t need to hear about no “top/bottom” mess.
“bottom”?
really?
is that the best We can do as a group?

Girl, get over yourself. You don’t care for the word “bottom” (probably because you’ve attached a feminine notion to it– and it’s even more likely that you are unhappy that you identify with said feminine notion) Well, for the record: I’m not a big fan of the word “sparkle” either and for precisely all of the same reasons. And where the hell are you living that “bottom” hasn’t already proliferated the larger vernacular in such a manner that a THEATRICAL PLAY about GAY BUTT-FUCKING could be used as a tool to suppress it? The instrument itself is so gay that it Richard Simmons would top it!!!

And honey…how do we plan to win the “use” of marriage when we cling to the word “bottom”? Hell, I guess the same way that straight people use the terms “doggie-style”, “face-boink”, “pile-driver” or “cooter crunch” and still manage to “use” marriage. You act as if we are marching into the State Assembly saying, “Give my faggotty husband and I Marriage Equality because he’s a bottom and I’ve always wanted to bareback a Ted Haggart in a wedding gown”.

You are so “grossed out” by the word “bottom”, but casually toss around the word “fuck”. Interesting. Hypocritical, but interesting. Is “fuck” a word that you would suggest us using during legislative proceedings? Apparently “bottom’s” out. (Ha-ha! I said Bottoms out!)

Also, I would suggest that your use of the word “ghetto” is more damaging than “bottom”. That kind of language is classist and racist in MY opinion.

Listen, Miss Sparkle, from one drag queen to another: It’s my guess that your future husband isn’t going to have all that much trouble earning change for a nickel, if you catch my drift. (“grossed-out”, “honey”, “how you gonna”…Who do you think you are kidding, Mary? Bitch, please.)

I’d suggest packing some poppers in that pleather pocketbook of yours. If it makes you more comfortable, everybody else can refer to you as “Anally Compromised”, but in my opinion, you are that squeaky wheel begging to be greased.

This play will be genius.

P.S. Eartha Kitt was a bottom.

“God must have loved gay men, or He wouldn’t have put the prostate where He did.”

Or is that She?

If you are reading this Dan Savage – MORE PEGGING!

Hey bitch, quit hogging the double-ended dildo!