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Angela Stanton Knows Men Like Eddie Long. And She Knows Adults Who Protect These Monsters

Angela Stanton, a 33-year-old published author and single mother in Atlanta, says that when she was five “I was sexually molested by a family member.” When she woke up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom, this man placed his hand over her mouth, told her to stay quiet or die, and “shoved his dick so far down my throat I remember throwing up.” When she gagged, he would punch her in the head until he … finished. When she told her mother and grandmother, Angela was told to never speak about the abuse. She eventually told a friend about the abuse, at age 9; that friend told Angela that Angela’s father was abusing her. Fast-forward to giving birth to five children (one of them in handcuffs; she was in prison) and ending up homeless with a rap sheet. My god. And then she heard about what Bishop Eddie Long allegedly did to at least four young men. And she can relate. Expose these people now, says Angela, “or these children will be ruined.”

By:           Sarah Nigel
On:           Oct 7, 2010
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  • 11 Comments
    • nowliveit
      nowliveit

      Wow, brought me to tears. Thank you, Angela for your bravery. I just wonder if any local Atlanta TV news has the balls to play this video. It’s true. This is the way children get wounded. When adults choose to protect their family instead of protecting their child then wounded children turn into damaged adults. Secrets keep the molestation happening; the 1 out of 3 girls and 1 out of 5 boys who are molested.

      I know as a man who was sexually molested in a family that still protects the generations of molesters on that side of the family. I am not a part of that “family” since I spoke out. I am fortunate that I was saved from the illegal acting out that Angela got caught up in… and I can see the impact in my own life in many ways.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 1:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Vann
      Vann

      Wow. I’m not a religious person; don’t believe in heaven or hell. But I can’t help but wish that there was a hell for people who could commit such atrocities against children.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 1:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Theo
      Theo

      The clip brought me to tear too. I am going to post this on my facebook. Maybe you all out there should do the same.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 3:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Hilarious
      Hilarious

      I think we should wait to see the evidence before we decide either way what did or didn’t happen.

      I was a victim of molestation myself and thank God everyday it only happened to me once and not by a family member.

      But I also know not everyone out there is on the up and up and there are people who have cried wolf for profit and people believed them until the day it was proven to be a lie.

      Like the woman who drowned her children and said “a black man did it”. Everyone believed her and even brought in many “suspects” fully prepared to ruin one of their lives even though they hadn’t actually committed the crime.

      So all I’m saying it before we start spouting it like it’s gospel(pun intended) maybe we should wait for the facts.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 3:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Black Pegasus
      Black Pegasus

      Fuck Eddie Long! That Evil Monster!

      Lets point and laugh at his Hypocrisy!

      New Eddie Long Song Parody:

      Oct 7, 2010 at 3:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Hilarious
      Hilarious

      Wow saying lets wait to get all the facts is worthy of a thumbs down now?

      Talk about hypocrites. So many people want to play judge and jury without waiting for any information.

      Go ahead and hurl your stones. Just make sure you don’t shatter your glass house in the process.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 3:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • FluffyInDrag
      FluffyInDrag

      The problem isn’t with “waiting,” the problem is that so many people entirely discount the accusations simply because they think they know that person better.
      People like to say that such accusations are taken very seriously, but really that’s not true. It’s only serious once it comes to legal action. Up until that point, I know from experience that it’s hard to even get people to listen to you sometimes. If it was understood that this sort of accusation comes from a condition of much duress, that there’s such an enormous stigma AND a lot of forces working against the accuser, maybe people would start listening.

      On the other hand, it’s also very necessary to understand that MAKING these accusations is a very serious action and should be taken seriously. It has the potential to ruin someone’s life, guilty or not, just as much as a molestation victim’s would be ruined. You have to be conscious from both sides.

      Honestly, in Long’s case he has enough community support that if the accusations are false he’ll brush off his shoulders and just move on, but up until it is proven it should be assumed that there is a good reason for the accusations to have been placed. I only have limited belief in “innocent until proven guilty”… meaning that, while he should not be PUNISHED prematurely, it is fair to assume that he did wrong someone somehow to incite accusations of this severity.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 5:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Hilarious
      Hilarious

      @FluffyInDrag: I agree with some of your points, but misinformation and placing blame on the innocent just because you “think” something may have happened isn’t right.

      I mean just look at the description of the video: “woman tells how she wqas sexually abused because of eddie long”

      There’s a reason we have laws and courts. So collective stupidity doesn’t reign supreme and we start running around hunting witches with no proof the witches we’re searching for even exist.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 5:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • FluffyInDrag
      FluffyInDrag

      @Hilarious: I think that bit in the description was an error made in reposting. Like I said, accusations should be made carefully… but really, 4 different people making the same accusation? That can not, in any way, be discounted and should be taken more seriously not in a LEGAL manner, since legally everything is being done in due time, but socially. I’m not sure if you saw the video where some young members of Long’s church were interviewed, but one girl said she didn’t believe the accusations because she KNOWS him and she doesn’t think he LOOKS like a molester.
      THAT is the issue afoot, and that is the issue Ms Stanton was attacking. People assume that molesters look different, act different… could not possibly be someone they know and love or trust. Because of this, so many people will completely ignore and refute any accusation made. As much as the ability to make these accusations can hurt the accused, I think it’s much, much worse that an actual victim could potentially be silenced simply because society tends to side with the accused.
      Of course, there are cases where once more facts are exposed the support shifts to the accusers but it can be very difficult to get there within the LOCAL society.

      This is the trouble… it calls upon people to question what they believe. That’s always a picky subject, but it really has to be done. Ms. Stanton is telling people that you really have to listen when the accusations are made.

      Yes, you can’t punish the accused until they are proven guilty, but the accusers should not be on trial yet either.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 5:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • REVEMUPMAN
      REVEMUPMAN

      I’m not going to blame anyone until the truth is out. I can only imagine someone falsely accusing me of molestation. That’s a major blow to your reputation there.

      Now I really feel for this woman here. But she has to understand that we can’t call wolf without at least examining the animal at question.

      If he did do it I hope they throw the book at him.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 7:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • NIki@
      NIki@

      @FluffyInDrag:@Fluffy Very Well Said!!!

      Mar 15, 2012 at 10:56 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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