“I’ve always believed that bottoms have more fun,” blogger Jerry Plaza writes in a new op-ed published by GayGuys.com. “We’re able to tease, please and squeeze our way into sexual situations necessary for us to be a part of. After all, if there isn’t a man willing to bend over backwards, penetration is out of the question.”
Plaza, a self-proclaimed “power bottom,” says that when it comes to red hot gay lovin’, bottoms hold most of the cards.
“Most of the time, bottoms don’t need to seek out sex,” he writes. “Guys are drawn to us like a moth to a flame. … Go to the dance club and see for yourself, or better yet change the preference on your Grindr or online dating profile to ‘Power Bottom’ and see how many more messages you receive.”
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But does having seemingly unlimited access to so many hot and horny guys make bottoms more likely to be promiscuous?
“For whatever reason, the world sees bottoms as more sex-hungry than tops or versa tiles,” Plaza says, “and it’s time to start asking ourselves why.”
“Why is it we’re considered sluts when we’re constantly getting played by horny tops looking to get in our jocks?” Plaza wonders. “Perhaps it’s time to look in the mirror from both sides. Just because we’re the ones who have to bend over doesn’t mean we’re the ones seeking it, though I admit, top-teasing comes in handy sometimes.”
“The truth is, promiscuity lies within the person, not their sexual position.”
What do you think? Are bottoms more promiscuous than tops? Vote in the poll below.
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lauraspencer
Si, oui, yes!
Clark35
Sometimes they can be; but all the bottom/versatile guys I know are promiscuous and crave d!ck up their @$$.
Michael Wray Coco
Stanley Salas
lauraspencer
I think bottoms tend to be easier and are often more on the hunt then tops. As for who is more in demand I would say that a good looking top is the more desired. It’s easy to find a bottom and more difficult to find a top.
Vigo Beninger
No…. horny is horny….
Bradley Wood
Well if the top isn’t making them cum….
Jesse Soria
There are a lot more bottoms, at least where I’m from. A lot of people identify as tops but when it comes to it… Well, let’s just say actual tops are like finding a needle in a hay stack. Hard to meet the demand.
Low Country Boy
Seriously? This is gay news? What the fuck happened to this site?
Gregg Jabarisidiki
I think it depends on the person. But good question I will have to ask .
lykeitiz
When it comes to bottoms, I’m never judgmental……always thankful!
Milk
Okay is this like a tricky math quiz? For someone to be a promiscuous bottom, doesn’t he need a promiscuous top?
John P Farinhas
way more bottoms in the world! :/
John Newman
yes
Tim Grogan
100% top here. But a lot a tramps either way.
Peter Bettou
I m bottom too
Giovanni de Lesseps
Yors Truly is a whore slut bottom
Alex Reed
Every guy that talks to me now is a bottom. Where are all the tops? I only bottom.
A?e Aronovich
Queerty, go home.
Dan Nichols
I hope so! 😉
bottom250
Sweethearts we so are. My ass is like 7/11 it is open 24/7.
Cy
May be more bottoms in the world, but for the power ones, yes they/we do tend to be more promiscuous to find a decent top.
Craig LaRue
9 catchers ain’t much of a baseball team!
Gary Langfield
Majority of them are whores ð??µ
Troy Brock
I think it’s opposite.
Ricky Mattingly
bottoms are always more fun. plus they do all work for tops.
Paul Tidd
I haven’t had sex since 2012, and I haven’t bottomed since 2009. So, you tell me if I’m promiscuous. My career saps too much of my time and energy for anonymous gay hook ups.
Jess Collins
I think they are equal
Dane Griffiths
The discourse about gay men, sex and pleasure fucking sucks and this article contributes to it failing
Karl Michael
What about versatile bisexuals hahaha
Nate Valriz
This is so stupid. Classifying ourselves as tops and bottoms is so heteronormative #Icant #lol
Carlos Alejandro Bernal
Stephen James
Robert Stensland
I’m a bttm n been with 5 guys lol
Milk
Not sure about promiscuous bottom. Seems there’s a lot of promiscuous posters here.
Giovanni Vidals
Where are all the world’s bottoms? I need to move where there’s a surplus of them. New York doesn’t have enough!
Ricco Mashatt
Meaningless sex has no orientation or Conscience.
jason smeds
Power bottoms tend to attract straight guys because straight guys see power bottoms as muscular vaginas.
In any case, there’s risks associated with being a promiscuous power bottom. You’ve turned your bowel into a container for all sorts of living things.
Billy Budd
I am a versatilie bottom. I have more fun bottomming because condoms compromise sensibility on the glans.
F. Jay Ver
I had a friend who thought I was saying tops and bottles. I never corrected her. She still thinks I am a bottle.
heavylifter
@jason smeds: “Power bottoms tend to attract straight guys because straight guys see power bottoms as muscular vaginas.”
I agree, str8/bi curious types want to hook up with a bottom for no strings attached encounters.
In the gay market place there is a massive oversupply of bottoms so tops have a premium. Interestingly I prefer to top but the guys I find hot, str8 curious, want to top so I end up obliging.
Kieran
Are promiscuous bottoms more likely to be HIV infected?
F. Jay Ver
Also does anyone know the name of the guy pictured in the headline for this post? He is adorable.
Random
“Most of the time, bottoms don’t need to seek out sex,” he writes. “Guys are drawn to us like a moth to a flame…”
In my experience, it’s the other way around. I get tons of messages from bottoms, usually very eager for sex, and hardly any from even versatile guys, let alone tops. To me, it seems like there are FAR more bottom guys and thus, there appears to be a premium placed on tops, making them much more in demand. In fact, I’d go as far as to say that if you’re a top, who’s OK looking with a decent sized dick, you’ll never be short of potential sex partners.
Captain Obvious
Since when is everyone a bottom? Most guys I come across say the opposite and pretty much laugh at bottoming which doesn’t really make sense but they treat it like it’s not masculine enough… despite the fact that they need a bottom to be a top.
Billy Budd
I am butch and I have bottommed for femme guys in the past.
Deon Letsoalo
Let’s just say Hell would freeze over the day I let anyone touch my anus with anything! It’s degrading to me.
jwtraveler
Is there someone at Queerty who is assigned the task of coming up with dumber and dumberer questions to post to inspire ridiculous comments?
Dameon Gene Rogers
If he is interesting I will set him up for life, if not then someone else should talk to him. Just be safe brothers whether young or old….
Roberson Randy
Straight up hoes!!
Realitycheck
@heavylifter:
Years ago the Ny times (LOL) publish a survey done by or with GMHC
and according to the survey 60% of gay guys described themselves as versatile
30% as bottoms and 10% as tops.
That said a lots of guys say their are top but flip quickly…….
Anyway back to the article, I agree with other posters, horny is horny,
nothing to do with top or bottom, either can be promiscuous or not.
Random
@Dieter Michaels: Not sure which sites you’re using but whenever site owners have analysed the data, it’s always worked out that there are more bottoms than tops.
Dieter Michaels
What I have a hard time figuring out is how do so many gay men have sex at all? I mean every single guy is a “top” online in their profile, yet they are all power bottoms when you meet them…. just sayin.
Clark35
@Dieter Michaels: I’ve had that experience too. I’m an actual top and have never bottomed and don’t want to and when I was on dating sites guys who were supposedly “tops” would tell me how they wanted to bottom for me; but I only do that with a guy who I’m in a relationship with.
@jason smeds: If they’re hetero then they’re not going to have sex with a guy. I’m bisexual but I don’t like power/total bottoms since anal sex all the time or everytime you have sex is boring.
Jordan Walker
Fucking really guys ?
Saint Law
@jason smeds: “You’ve turned your bowel in to a container for all sorts of living things.”
Quoth Queerty’s resident shitweasel.
Anthony Bott
I not a bottom or a top. I’m just a slut jk
Josh Franklin
These comments! ð???ð???
Chance Petersen
A good bottom works with a good top. And vice versa is why I’m vers bahaha
bottom250
I was put on earth to serve and be used by as many tops as possible. If that makes me slutty honey than I am a true slut.
Realitycheck
@bottom250:
Nothing wrong with that, as long as you are honest about it, with your pick ups, or dates.
Talking as some one that was totally deceived by a guy that asked me to be his BF, and
spend an entire dinner talking about how important monogamy was for him, and how he
wanted our relationship to be special.
Find out later on, he cheated on me with hundreds of guys and keep in touch with dozens,
he even met people that heard about him from other people with out a pictures or stats,
it was all about the dick, OMG and LOL yes now I can laugh about it……..
iveivan
Who are all these promiscuous bottoms sleeping with? Themselves? Other bottoms? Is there a groups of ultra promiscuous tops that’s doing all the bottoms?
onthemark
@Paul Tidd: “I haven’t had sex since 2012, and I haven’t bottomed since 2009. So, you tell me if I’m promiscuous. My career saps too much of my time and energy for anonymous gay hook ups.”
Thanks for being off-topic (although I guess you’re trying to brag, in a way). But you appear to be reasonably cute. You could easily find a nice guy to blow you twice a week, in ten minutes or less, and leave. For free! … Hey, where do you live?
@jwtraveler: “Is there someone at Queerty who is assigned the task of coming up with dumber and dumberer questions to post to inspire ridiculous comments?”
You make it sound like such hard work. It’s an innate talent.
Colin Bissbort
#TeamVers ð??
bottom250
@Realitycheck: Sorry sweetheart big hugs for you. I am very open with men I live for sex and enjoy the sexy variety of men out there.
bottom250
@iveivan: Sweetheart, it is a wide variety of men sleeping with us bottoms. Thank you tops for filling us bottoms up.
Dale Landefeld
dunno….take a survey!…. I’m sure there will be authentic answers….not
Reverse Transcriptase
What type of DUMBASS question???!?
Billy Budd
I love total TOPS, I mean 100% top, no compromises. They are the real men I strive to find.
Random
@Billy Budd: That implies that bottoms, including yourself, are not ‘real men’.
crowebobby
I’m not dyslexic, but for some reason I read the headline as: “Are bottoms more PRECOCIOUS than tops?” and had a WTF moment.
Prinny
Lame
bottom250
@Billy Budd: Sweetheart I couldn’t agree more.
Billy Budd
@Random: Bullshit. Bottoms are more masculine.
iveivan
@bottom250:
The point is that if bottoms are promiscuous then they must be getting with lots of tops. Therefore the tops must also be promiscuous.
Unless they are saying there are fewer bottoms than tops. There are far more bottoms than tops in my experience.
bottom250
iveivan: A good top is hard to find a hard top is good to find. Ohhh sweetheart
iveivan
@bottom250:
You can’t be promiscuous you’d be saying any top is good to find 😉
Random
@Billy Budd: My point is that preferring one sexual position over another doesn’t make automatically anyone a ‘real man’ or ‘more masculine’.
Donnie Bass
Sick of these stupid top and bottom labels
Billy Budd
@Donnie Bass: Well, there ARE some of us who prefer only one single position in bed. I am a versatile bottom, but i’ve met many total bottoms in my life. Argh.
Arvo Toolanen
Yuck
Alan Strozak
lol, i think we are!
bottom250
@iveivan: Thank you sweetheart for the laughs
Gerald GeeLocke Panuthos
its the same “double standard” as for men and women… if a Top screws around alot… he’s just viewed as more desirable… if a bottom does… he’s a whore. smfh.
iveivan
@Gerald GeeLocke Panuthos:
Sees like that to me too
Paco
The question should be…
“How many tops does it take for the average bottom to feel satisfied for the evening, compared to the number of bottoms it takes for the average top to feel satisfied?”
Joseph Pearcy
I think some guys are more promiscuous than others, but it isn’t a top/bottom thing. From a “being ready for it” point of view, bottoming has a premeditated necessity to it, while a top can just “do it” when the opportunity arises.
Jilian Essandre
Matthew Gavin care to disagree?
Clark Wilson
Guy Hamel
surreal33
Bottoms usually are fem-bots. Fem-bots in general are usually bitchy, bitter, self-loathing therefore, more like to engage promiscuous,unsafe, sex.
Billy Budd
I’ve always wanted to know what a Pig Bottom is. Also, what is a Power Bottom?
Also, I disagree with @surreal33. I’ve met total tops that were total fems. I am a versatile bottom and I am 100% butch.
Christopher Varnado
This article only perpetuates heteronormative stereotypes. Stating that all people who bottom are whores is unbelievably misogynistic.
Josh Barnes
Brian Fulkerson
Christopher Austgen
Joey Zimmer
Brian I’d say so HAHAA
Brian Fulkerson
Haha I say so to Josh Barnes. We hold all the cards!!
bottom250
@surreal33: Sweetheart, I love the effeminate queen I am and it is men like you that make me bitchy. I won’t apologize for loving sex and the great joy i get from bottoming.
notevenwrong
When I’m in bottom mode I am able to be more promiscuous than when I’m in top mode, because as a top there is usually a limit to how long and how many times you can do it in a day.
notevenwrong
@Paco, yes, my point exactly.
Cee
Bottoms are more thirsty. I never see tops in the comments section of myvidster or pornhub talking about how they wish it was them in the video getting Fukd, or comments that read “Fuk me! Fuk me!” but you know who writes comments like that all the time on porn videos? Bottoms lol Sometimes they write whole paragraphs.
Cee
I should rephrase my comment above lol I mean I never see tops in the comments section of porn videos talking about how they wish they were the top in the video. or how they wish it was them eating the bottoms ass so bad, or giving it to them doggy, and showing how thirsty they are. Bottoms go crazy in comments on porn videos.
Gary Foster
Um, ok.
Evji108
This is pure hogwash. Bottoms are a dime a dozen, real tops are rare in most countries and highly sought after. Tops have to work harder however – got get it hard and stay that way. It’s certainly easier to be a slut if you are a bottom.
notevenwrong
@Cww, As a where-vers (top or bottom depending on the phase of the moon) I know both sides. I know that insatiable bottom feeling! It’s different when topping because topping is, well, “satiable” for the top.
Billy Budd
I’ve met only a handful of 100% exclusively real true TOPS in my life. I miss all of them.
MCLamb
As someone Vers that knows intimately both ends of the spectrum, these are my points:
I wonder how much of this is skewed by tweakers and other PNP bottoms that get on Grindr, ManHunt, WhatEver and are hyper aggressive sending hole pics and graphic messages to anyone they view as a top that could stick it in.
Also, bottoms, especially power bottoms and hole stretchers, probably seem like they’re on the prowl because, unlike a top who can down a bean burrito just before hitting the bars, they have to prepare and invest for sex if they want to be clean and ready. If a bottoms is feeling frisky and goes out for a night on the town, (if they’re fastidious about cleanliness anyway) they’ve watched what they’re eating for the whole day (if they ate at all, some paranoid bottoms do this), groomed and shaved if that’s their custom, and evacuated the dance floor. You’re not going to want all that work to go to waste, and all the prep can really get your appetite going.
notevenwrong
@MCLamb, “…get on Grindr, ManHunt, WhatEver and are hyper aggressive sending hole pics and graphic messages to anyone they view as a top that could stick it in.”
Maybe because good tops are hard to find and jealously guarded. No PNP necessary to explain the desperation.
Chaz
@Jesse Soria: Where are you from that seems to have a lack of tops?
Willyam Firth
Yes we are!
Frank Chu
No tops have more fun
Robert Doll
Hell no! Tops are much more promiscuous. From what I’ve experienced and from what I see on craigslist and other social media and sex sites, it’s the tops that are obsessed with “getting their nut” or “dropping their load.” Bottoms tend to want to have more of an all-around experience..
Christopher R Leserra
I have a hard time with the question because I am not a top or a bottom
Carlos Zuniga
Remember, It takes two
Frank Chu
There is nothing wrong with wanting dump my load haha
Kraig Fiero
No. It’s hard finding a decent top nowadays.
Carl Roux
I think bottoms generally want to have a more emotionally connection
Mikhail Strait
Nick Anthony nope. I guess not.
Gary McCoy
Some bottoms do seem pretty promiscuous.
Geeker
Most total or mostly bottom guys I’ve known were pretty slutty so it might be true.
Doug Lia
Why are bottoms “sluts” when they should be called STUDS!!!
Donaven Scott-Mann
Hmmmm…. Beau… any thoughts?
Gary Langfield
Absolutely
Kyle Duncan
Nope
William Mc Gregor
It takes two!
Craig Shapiro
Catchers and pitcher’s. That’s the game plan, get what we want, just how we like it. There’s a little bit of everything in ALL walks of life.
James Dee
Tried finding a top recently ?? LMAO
Kevin Davis
If bottoms are more promiscuous wouldn’t that by definition mean that tops are just as promiscuous? It takes two to tango
Sam Raether
Does it matter? As long as you don’t cheat when you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t matter.
William Holahan
Are there more flowers than bees?
Amaurys Arias
He basically said it, at the end of the article:
“Truth is, promiscuity lies within the person, not their sexual position.â?
Juan Diego Tovar M
Camilo Cortés gegege
Douglas Grabowski
slow news day, huh?
Morgan S. Trouillet
i dont know, i dont care, but damn that pic’s hot
Brent Daum
Some bottoms are very slutty!
Mykey
Of course they are! Bottoms can be ready for sex after the last top cums in them (if they need to clean up) Tops need time to recharge before they start seeking another bottom!