Just as there’s no timetable for coming out, people accept themselves at varying rates. Maybe you grew up in an environment where you were always encouraged to be open and honest, and realizing you were gay was like realizing you had freckles on your back. If so, consider yourself lucky.
For countless others, self-love is an uphill battle.
For those who are still ascending, here’s a bit of hope from the guys on Whisper who have finally broken through:
Richard C. Liu
This is dumb
Da'Vi Perez
Richard C.Liu amen.
Da'Vi Perez
Pour me another. #Dasonallmhs
Kim Singh
The LGBT community; in particular the gay community worldwide is guilty of glorifying youth, worshipping the physique which comes with youth and disdains everyone else; the fat and the older. West Hollywood, Miami and the Castro district area in San Francisco are littered with gyms and shops selling protein suppliers, tans and plastic surgery…Gay men in these gay ghettos look plastic and identical. They have perfect skin and teeth but their innards are corroded from being caustic towards anyone who does not resemble a gym hunk. It is a sad existence indeed.
https://blog.moovz.com/gay-community-loves-fat-shame/
John Kuehnle
I’m 44 and my boyfriend is 57 and if we’re lucky we’ll all age, even the 20 something’s with amazing bodies.
Mark Pointon
Good on them.
MisterDemand
Queerty,
Posting completely unverifiable internet statements cannot possible be a “story”. This lazy trend of whisper comments coupled with some attractive clickbait image has to stop. A gay couple in Flordia were beaten at a burger king for embarcing, why dont you report that?
bottom250
This makes me so sad sweethearts. I was lucky I have been extremely effeminate and flamboyant since I was very little so it was always known I was gay.
Will Glitzern
Guys have it a lot easier today than I did 30 years ago. A lot of that is because so many public figures have led the way, everyone from Rock Hudson to Anderson Cooper.
Shane Carson
Im 47 and the young gays of to day are just spiolt bitches want want want they give us men a bad rep.ive kick a few of there arses myself
GC1985
Another whisper article… more clickbait. None of these quotes are real and even if they are a day late and a dollar short.
NoCagada
@Kim Singh: How many places are you going to post the same ignorant tripe?
bottom250
@Kim Singh: Lol you are to blame as well look at your avatar
DarkZephyr
@MisterDemand: Oh for God’s sake lighten up. This is not CNN, its a blog. They don’t always do news stories.
Trevor McGee
If you come out at age 26+ you don’t get to wear baby-tees & trendy club wear, from kitschy places that end with -mart. You are just going to have to accept, that there are some things that you did wait too long on. Let that be one of them. The rest, fine. Join the ranks, & best to you!
Brian
Let’s not necessarily celebrate the gay embrace. Many times, it’s indicative of homophobia. Yes, identifying oneself as gay can often be a product of homophobia.
Here is a very cold and uncomfortable fact for a lot of you: women find male homosexuality threatening unless it is confined away from them. A woman’s true reaction to male homosexual desire can be seen when a husband says to his wife that he has feelings for men. She will often insist on a divorce despite the fact that he has no intention of being unfaithful.
Such men are often forced into what I call the “false gay” category. It rationalizes their rejection by women and also gives the woman a rationale as to why she has the right to reject him.
Be very careful and wary about how the homophobic attitudes of women play a role in this gay dynamic.
Solly
May we have a story about Brian, please? I’d love to know what drives him to connect almost every story to female biphobia.
Black Pegasus
@MisterDemand: agreed! This is some clickbait bullshhht and they know it! Why would I or anyone with common sense care to comment on completely false scribble pulled from a App? I try to avoid these whisper advertisements disguised as articles but they get me each time.
GC1985
@Brian: You are one incredibly homophobic person and your very presence is homophobic. You are a misogynist horrible little man. The only reason why we have equality is because of women. Women are the ones joining in the fight for equality.
Heterosexual men (particularly old white heterosexual republican men) have opposed us every step of the way. So you’re really going after the wrong group of people. Not to mention the overwhelming vast majority of hate crimes are committed by heterosexual right wing men.
So you really have everything messed up because of your mommy issues. Your mom must have been horrible to you.
And one last thing, this article has nothing to do with what you said. Learn how to stay on subject if that is possible for such a backwards mind like your own.
Jerimiah Lee Buchanan
Because you’re a twink what a snorejob….
Brian
I’m a very open-minded person but lies and distortions are completely unacceptable.
I believe in the power of male homosexual desire. The gay rights movement is afraid of male homosexual desire. That is why the gay rights movement is afraid of my argument.
I don’t resile from the notion that wives push their husbands into the “false gay” category. Wives fear the power of male sexuality, and thus seek to curtail it or eliminate it.
Dee Stephens
Be who you are and be proud!
GC1985
@Brian: If lies and distortions are completely unacceptable, why don’t you stop lying? Hypocrisy is never pretty.
The power of what? The equality movement isn’t afraid of anything. You are the one that rides on the coattails and now you have the audacity to attack those who are making a difference?
You are nothing more than a coward with mommy issues. Heterosexual men are the ones that want to curtail sexuality in about 95% of the time. This is a fact. So instead of lying and saying women are to blame, maybe you should criticize those heterosexual men you lust after?
You will always be a self hater.
Merv
By far the biggest news here is that there is panda bear fluent in English and able to operate a computer.
slymteo
@GC1985:
Brian is a troll. None of what it says have any basis in reality. It’s just making it up as it goes along, just to be offensive.
scotshot
@Brian:zzzz
Daggerman
…because of the detrimental and horrific effects of religion throughout history is it any surprise that’s it’s a problem to come out?…society really infuriates me, because if you are gay you get told, ‘Oh it’s alright now, you can be and act natural, as the rest of society accepts it. But then you invariably come up against some fascist behavior from idiots that are still in the dark ages. How can we detain these swines?
Ukin Blome
@Kim Singh: When you spend your days with your face stuck in dog shit the whole world looks like dog shit. I live in the Castro and my neighbors are a diverse, compassionate and giving people who care for others and provide for those who struggle to get through life.
Nixter
@slymteo: I disagree. Much of what Brian says has merit. I don’t think he does it to be a troll or offensive.