It all started when the promoter of a bareback party for black and Latino men sent an invitation to the executive director of an organization that works to fight the HIV/AIDS epidemic among black, gay men. Tokes Osubu of Gay Men of African Descent was obviously horrified by the invitation, which stated, “Anyone caught using jimmies (condoms) will be asked to leave with no refund given!!” and his organization has planned to protest outside the East Harlem building as the party happens on Saturday.
Despite that major cock block, we still expect that some men will attend the party, and we will not lie: We don’t understand why. Sure, condomless sex might feel better, but the anti-condom policy at the party seems to be promoting a dangerous agenda more than allowing guests to exercise their own free will.
There are a lot of opinions on both sides of the barebacking issue, and we would never try to poke our noses into the privacy of your bedroom, but organized barebacking parties like these are bad news. It’s hard to get inside the heads of the people who organize or attend them and so it’s hard to think of ways to make them safer, but we think the first step is spreading awareness that they are happening.
Harlem Gay Group Denounces Barebacking Party [AP]
Gay Men of African Descent [Official Site]
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craig
I know this isn’t PC, but anyone going to these parties are a) stupid; b) lacking in self respect; and c) I don’t want to have to go there- should accept the consequences of their actions and pledge not to receive any support by way of AIDS organization from their behavior.
fernando
Um, “condomless sex is better”? Since when? What kind of sensitive ass-palate must one be in possession of in order to even notice having an infinitesimally thin bit of latex wrapped around a schlong?
There are a lot of people who’ve never had condomless sex. Saying things like “condomless sex is better” only incites their curiosity, which is wrong, especially given that they are likely to not even notice the difference. Unless they are to buttfucking what Robert Parker is wine.
Frank
I wrote “condomless sex might feel better,” which I stand by because many claim that it does, especially for the active partner. While it is true that a lot of people have never had condomless sex, there are also a lot of people in committed relationships who prefer not to use condoms and also behave safely.
These barebacking parties are flat-out not safe, and we do not approve of them. Beyond that, we just urge you to use your head in whatever choices you make.
FED UP
Hey let all the fags congregate in one place then hold a KKK rally there too………..wooooooooooooooooo whooooooooooooo what fun that would be!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Crawl back into the sick perverted hole you came outta you fucking fags!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mark
What sanctimonious twaddle! This “article” is nothing more than another opportunity for a bitter fag to make himself feel superior. HE’s not ugly and unattractive to others. HE’s SOOOO much better than everyone else because HE’s not having sex.
All of you guys (especially the haters) bareback – some more frequently than others. How DARE you dictate to me how to have sex. I will never go back to condoms. Most of us who bareback are already poz so that “scare” is no longer available to you. Most of us have also long ago realized that the “super-bug/super-infection” scare is also complete condom-nazi propaganda as well, so that scare too is no longer available to you. It just hasn’t happened. I am happy, poz, and healthy, – a proud barebacker. So just butt out and mind your own business. I hope LOTS of guys showed up to the party. Maybe some cute ones hooked up, fell in love – and bred the way God intended. CONDOMLESS SEX IS GREAT SEX… Sex with condoms is cookie-baking.
ron
@Mark: Are you fucking kidding me???!!!