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It’s about trust (or lack thereof) and hope.
Kramer is a contrarian who sees himself as always under attack. He will argue with anyone, even if he’s wrong. Dismissing people on Truvada as cowards overlooks the myriad reasons for people to pursue PrEP. Condoms are effective at preventing HIV transmission, but abstinence is more effective. Why not call people who use condoms instead of abstinence cowards, Larry? I think there is a very clear generational gap. People my age have always conflated gay sex with HIV, and Larry has a different worldview. There are people his age who are more open minded and interested in all avenues for decreased transmission, but some are stuck fighting the same battle from three decades ago. If condoms were the panacea, HIV incidence amongst MSM wouldn’t be on the rise.
Disappointed but not surprised by queerty for clearly taking kramer’s side in this article without marking it an opinion piece. Disappointed but not surprised.
I think it’s all a matter of perspective. Larry witnessed first hand the carnage Aids did in the beginning and has that to fall back onto as his opinion. I don’t know Ben has seen but he’s also going off his own experiences. We need to keep educating people on the many ways to prevent getting HIV and the ways to treat it. It’s neither good or bad their viewpoints.
My issue is why would you daily take a pill that causes some pretty massive side-effects rather than just wrapping it up if you are not in a long term relationship?
I have no problem with people who want to do it, it just seems not only way more expensive but condoms don’t cause nausea and diarrhea. The only other concern is that if the people using this medication to not get AIDS are more of the party and play types get ready for a massive upswing in Herpes, Warts, and all the other old STD’s
@Cam: I guess in the not too distant future there’s a pill for everything and guys will take pills on a daily basis for every occasion and old fashioned STDs won’t be an issue anymore (because you keep taking pills to keep them away) … until new STDs show up and more costly pills are required.
@Cam: My issue is why would I take a pill at all if I don’t have to? Why not simply use an effective and cheaper method of protection – and one that protects against other STDs? Why line the pockets of the drug companies who should be finding a cure instead of keeping us on the hook for the rest of our lives?
Johnson is right about one thing: there IS a generational gap. Kramer comes from a generation when ordinary people made sacrifices to fight HIV. When people attended rallies, protested, picketed and didn’t think it was a big deal to sacrifice a little pleasure to be more responsible. Johnson, unfortunately grew up in an entitled age in which all problems can be handled via email, text or pill. I grew up in the same age, but thank god, I haven’t given over to it!
Larry used to walk to school in the snow 10 miles each way. And it was uphill both ways!
@Cam @ChiChi Man @robirob I agree completely. Larry is correct. He’s not saying the drug will make loose energy really. He’s saying people who take the drug and think everything is fine, no longer feel the need to get up and fight and work towards something better. I can’t imagine taking a pill everyday for no reason. I can wrap it with a condom when I am having sex and not worry about what it’s doing to my body or if I’m building up a resistance to medication. We over-medicate for everything. A pill is NOT the answer.
It is entirely a generational divide, but a very dangerous one IMO.
I was born in the beginning years of the AIDS crisis (85), and all sex-education I have ever received has always included information pertaining to safer sex with condoms, etc. But the danger lies in young people being told that it is “OK” to have bb sex, just as long as you take this pill.
I mean, look at current statistics, even pre-PREP. There is a huge increase in young people being diagnosed as HIV+, and I think a large part of that is due to our being raised knowing that it is no longer necessarily the guaranteed death sentence that Mr. Kramer, and countless others, lived through. We (younger people) didn’t watch many/most/all of our friends die a horribly tragic death. We didn’t experience ANYTHING even remotely like it first hand. Not even non-HIV related. There’s been no serious health outbreak in my lifetime, after HIV/AIDS, and like I said, everyone up to young 30-somethings sex education has always included being taught safer sex. So there’s no real-life experience with that in-your-face-fear. I personally can’t blame Mr. Kramer for being, well, Mr. Kramer and continuing to feel obviously very passionate about such an important issue.
That said, I am a proponent of live and let live. If you want to take PREP and have bb sex, then by all means please do so. I have had long-term boyfriends and I definitely see/feel/understand the enjoyment in real, skin-on-skin love, but I think it is incredibly dangerous to promote the widespread use of the drug as it only really see it acting as an encouragement to younger people to continue practicing unsafe sex. What happens when a new strand of HIV is immune to these pills?
I think this is a very important topic, probably long overdue for debate. Maybe there is no right or wrong answer or solution.. but it is an entirely unavoidable conversation in the least and I think it is owed to every living soul to have it.
I personally have a problem with the term “Truvada Whore’…it implies something less than self-respectful and lends itself to stereotyping that once I take this pill I am FREE to engage in HIGH RISK sexual behaviors.
Yes, of course there are some generational divide and the TRUST that we now have in drug companies will probably never be fully embraced by Mr. Kramer and others his generation.
Lastly, there still needs to be MORE activism and MORE instance of reducing the shame and stigma that is rampant in the “gay community” towards those who are HIV+.
I would also welcome MORE films that deal with HIV as it stands today and NOT going backwards to address in the deluge of movies that have come out lately.
Even here on Queerty there was a piece on Films and AIDS but this is seriously not the issue any longer it is HIV and managing the disease and living with it…sadly as Tom Hanks said so well in the Celluiod Closet …”the hero dies at the end whether on screen or it is implied”…
Gay men are living with HIV and that needs to be the next revolution to bring about awareness and change
@Cam: I’ve been taking it for 5 months with no obvious side effects. If there were I would not take it. I’m getting regular blood work to track any other possible issues and will make a determination at 6 months if I want to continue it. There is a pill that prevents HIV…I take it.
This Ben Johnson person sounds like one of the many self-destructive ghetto queens I’ve listened to over the last thirty years, with a million excuses and distractions to confuse some very simple issues.
1) Pills cost money and cause side effects, and anti-virals have unpredictable effects.
2) Condoms work and are cheap and used responsibly would stop hiv in this community. Period, end of sentence.
3) We haven’t stopped the spread of hiv because the ghetto crowd have fought us on every issue, instead of helping us set responsible standards in the community.
4) Here we go again with the endless nonsense of the self-destructive crowd. It’s been ten whole minutes since their last crazy-fest.
@Polaro: That is awesome…I am pleased that you have made a decision for yourself but remember that sex is a two person activity…I surely do not think you are taking it for solo performances…that being said you do not know the other person’s efficacy of taking the drug…BE CAREFUL while you are trusting another person…
Also since you are on PrEP; are you open to dating HIV+ men; I mean what a blessing it would be if he is undetectable and you are on PrEP…this is what needs to be the next conversation in my opinion…releasing some of the stigma from the men who are HIV+
There are gay men taking PrEP and there are MANY gay men with undetectable viral loads so this should be a no brainier….right???
@Wilberforce: your points are valid but made less so with name calling there are enough people who enact laws and other systemic measures that yours are not needed or appreciated…unless you are trying to STEAL the thread with hyperbolic language
Now with that said, there does need to be a conversation and but the MOST IMPORTANT conversation needs to happen when you are “hooking up”, “dating’ or in a relationship…how are WE going to be sexually active and keep one another disease free/
BPJ has a lot more faith in the pharmaceutical industry than I do. Anti-virals are powerful medications that should only be taken as a last resort — not a first line of prevention. I’ve seen the side-effects of drug therapy on HIV+ men over the years. The idea of taking an anti-viral daily as prophylaxis seems nuts to me, unless you work in the sex trade or the porn industry. I’m with Larry Kramer.
Is this idiot being paid by the pharmaceutical industry? Or is he just a self-absorbed moron? If one looks at the pharma industry’s track record over the past 20 years, one sees that drugs are rushed to market without sufficient trials and many are often withdrawn because of their deleterious, sometimes fatal, side effects. Furthermore, it should be simple common sense that one should refrain from taking drugs unless absolutely necessary. The body is not designed to process these foreign chemicals and the long term effects on vital organs/systems, such as the liver, kidneys, bladder, are usually not good.
I agree wholeheartedly with Larry, but a point that his quote does not drive home is that the pharma industry is focused upon containing illnesses and diseases, not curing them, for the obvious economic reason. The former approach creates a lifelong customer (like the simple-minded Johnson), whereas the cure is a one-off that would eventually eradicate the market for all of the current HIV-related drugs. That is the real danger with embracing this prophylactic approach. PReP will forestall the hope for a real cure as it disincentives finding one.
@Cam: It’s HIV not AIDS. It comes down to choice and if someone is educated and knows the possible side effects then at least they are taking a steps in protecting themselves. If ya wanna use condoms use condoms, if ya wanna use prep use prep. Judgement’s like Kramer’s stop people from discussing. It’s slut shaming plain and simple. Btw there are a host of std’s you can get with a condom. I’m not judging and neither should anyone else. protect yourself your way and let others do the same.
I feel Ben made some very eloquent points in his article but it feels presumptive. I am younger than both Ben and Larry and a lot of younger gay men I know will use this an excuse to have bareback sex whether in a monogamous relationship or not. Plus, it’s not a cure all and we need the support and efforts of the younger generation in all aspects of HIV/AIDS issues. Many, not all, younger gay guys don’t do their homework or know their history. They will use diatribes like this as the reason to have BB sex, take Truvada and not give it another thought when they are not positive to begin with. I feel this will take a lot of education and planning now or it will cause many new problems and health risks.
The first line of defense against HIV should always, always, ALWAYS be:
“Let’s not do anal tonight, dude — let’s do oral sex and frot(tage) instead.”
Condoms are important, TasP is important, quick-result HIV tests and sero-sorting can be helpful — but “let’s save anal sex for another night” is the most important, because it doesn’t cost money and is available even when the drugstores are closed and even when government health services are “sequestered.”
@TO: “I know will use this an excuse to have bareback sex whether in a monogamous relationship or not.”.
No shit. Hear I thought they were just taking it for better health. You learn something every day;)
@Throbert McGee: Frottage just sounds so fun!!..if you’re 10 years old.
My boyfriend of 2 years is HIV+ and I am not. We have a very fulfilling sex life and we do not use condoms. I am tested regularly every 2 months and am still HIV-. I talked to my doctor about starting PrEP, but I have not made the decision to start it because it’s been 2 years and nothing has changed. I’m not saying that I will not want to in the future. People are ridiculous if they think that it is only party boys or whatever taking this. PrEP, I believe, can help remove the stigma of people living with HIV.
Honestly, if I decide to taking prep in daily, I would be considered myself no difference from hiv positive/undetectable people who taking pills in daily as well… except $$$ due to my insurance not cover that in compared to them. That’s my thought.
@Throbert McGee: “Let’s not do anal tonight, dude — let’s do oral sex and frot(tage) instead.” Seriously? *This* is how you speak to someone you are potentially going to have such an intimate encounter with?
Oh G*D how I despise when a man that is attracted to me and is trying to entice me out of my pants calls me “dude” like we are a pair of frat brothers playing a 2 player game on the Xbox.
@Throbert McGee: What??? You can’t be serious?
For the first time in my life, I agree with Kramer. I am not Poz, but I will not take Truvada just so I can bareback. I will use a condom or I will not have sex. I am not afraid of having sex with poz people, but I will not bareback with them or any stranger. I know people who are on antivirals, and though they are happy to be taking them to stay alive, if they had their choice, they would not be taking them at all due to the side effects. I can relate and understand. I was told my cholesterol was too elevated. I could choose to continue to eat like I had always eaten and take a statin or I could change my diet. I chose to change my diet and my numbers are good. Prevention without medicine is better (for those with high cholesterol due to genetics, this does not apply to you).
If someone is going to give the finger to condoms, then yes, I would prefer they take the PReP, but ultimately I would rather they use the condom.
@Ihadtosayit I try not to have sex with condescending pricks – I just argue with them here. Otherwise, the drug protects me and those I have sex with regardless of their status. Since you can never know another person’s status the drug is perfect. But, you seem to miss the entire point.
“” It’s HIV not AIDS. It comes down to choice and if someone is educated and knows the possible side effects then at least they are taking a steps in protecting themselves. If ya wanna use condoms use condoms, if ya wanna use prep use prep. Judgement’s like Kramer’s stop people from discussing. It’s slut shaming plain and simple.””
No, please point out anywhere in my post where I “Judged” people for having sex. I stated simply that I thought it sounded much more complicated to take a pill that could cause some really uncomfortable side-effects and is very expensive (Although Polaro just said he hasn’t experienced side-effects which is good news). As for your comment that there are STD’s you can get even if you are using condoms, OF COURSE there are, but lets not pretend that they don’t stop a hell of a lot of them.
If what Polaro says about the side-effects is widespread then that is great news and would make the medication much more attractive.
Kramer is dead wrong on this issue. He’s done a lot for our community and I’m grateful to him but there is no rational basis not to take a drug that could save your life if you engage in risky behavior. None.
You can say “just use a condom” or “remain abstinent” — and these options have always been available yet HIV is still spreading. That’s because a lot of people being judgy about barebacking secretly do it themselves after they get drunk and meet a hot guy one night at the bar. This drug is for them.
@felipec: Most of the side-effects you’ve mentioned are alleviated by taking your pill with food, so I’m not surprised you’ve (thankfully) not had to deal with them. The real issues are what most ART pills suffer from: prolonged use can result in damage to the liver and kidney functions.
Now as to whether PrEP is ‘good’ or ‘bad’ well… both?
If PrEP leads to people seeing HIV as a less serious disease; then PrEP is a terrible idea. Children growing up in a post-ART world already have a VERY different view of HIV than those of us born in the 80s – and as a result infection rates are going up. Our community especially is seeing a rise in infection rates. People aren’t terrified anymore and they are taking risks.
From what I’ve read you see PrEP much as I do – an added defense in your arsenal against HIV. That’s fine, but it’s not how a lot of blogs are promoting Truvada. They cite how when ‘taken correctly’ Truvada is actually more effective at preventing HIV transmission than condoms.
There are two important caveats here:
1.) “Taken Correctly” means taken every day without fail, and within roughly the same timeframe.
2.) “HIV” means specifically HIV-1. Yes HIV-2 is less prevalent but it exists.
I think opponents are rushing to judge because they are TERRIFIED that a pill could completely derail the progress that has been made. If people mistakingly think that a single pill will keep them from ever getting HIV no matter how unsafe they are… well… like I said; infection rates were already going up before Truvada.
There are lots of different opinions about whether or not to take Truvada – but surely that should be a personal decision.
If you don’t want to take it, don’t take it – like if you don’t like gay marriage, don’t get gay-married. But I wish old and young anti-Truvada vocal “activists” (and there are many of all ages) would just shut up and let people look at the facts and decide for themselves.
I am not taking Truvada, and don’t intend to. But that’s my choice for myself. It’s not my choice for anyone else, and I’m happy to support anyone else’s decision to take it.
@Cam: Show me where I said you judge people? Also I made the comment about condoms and people getting stds still not as a pro prep anti condom statement but to remind people that you still need regular testing even if you use a condom. Many people don’t understand this. As for me saying I’m not judging and neither should others as long as they are educated and taking precautions, I stand by that. The way Kramer stated his opposition to Prep is slut shaming. Never said you bud!
@Cam: Oh and it is HIV not AIDS!
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