The Daily Dotâs Jordan Valinsky caught up with Randy Phillips, the gay soldier who famously came out to his father and mother over the phone and posted the conversations on YouTube.
As Queerty readers know, Phillips began vlogging under the pseudonym AreYouSuprised while Donât Ask Donât Tell was still in effect. After the ban was lifted, we got to see his worried face as he called up his dad to tell him he was gayâafter first asking his father, âWill you still love me? Serious?â
Since that clip was posted in September, itâs been viewed more than five million times and Phillips has become one of the gay communityâs best-known web celebritiesâthough according to Valinksy, heâs a little surprised by all the attention.
 âIâm such a boring person. I couldnât believe that that many people wanted to see something that hundreds and thousands of kids do every single year,â he said. âIt was just a conversation on the phone.âBut it obviously meant more to others. The seven minute video has more 57,000 likes and 84,000 comments. Many are supportive of him, but there also are some homophobic haters in the crowd, which doesnât  bother him.
âEverybody can feel bulletproof behind the safety of their own computer,â he said bluntly. âA lot of haters are going to click on it and theyâre going to feel insecure,â he said. âItâs super easy to make really negative comments, and they did.â
Phillips said the video received between 5,000 to 10,000 hateful comments.
Homophobic flame wars aside, some critics thought it was unfair of Phillips to ambush his parents by posting their conversations without their knowledge.
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âMaybe,â Phillips said. âI am not going to argue with that 100 percent. I donât think either of my parents, if I were to ask them, âHey, is it OK if I put this on the Internet?â, I donât think they anybody wouldâve said âyeah, go ahead.ââ
âI explained to my parents about how much I owe that to the YouTube community and how many emails [he received]â that he forwarded to his parents including one who came out to his parents at 34-years-old thanks to Phillipsâ video.
The repeal of Donât Ask Donât Tell is still in effect and, as far as we can tell, the military hasnât collapsed. So Phillips has felt freer to record less emotionally draining fare (We shared one of his workout tapes recently.)
âI am going to film whatever I want to from now on, I have absolutely no push to g
o in any direction whatsoever,â Phillips said confidently. Also, he wants to evolve past being known as the âgay soldier,â and to show the world there is more to him than that.
âI want to show everyone out there in the YouTube world that I am a plain, boring, normal guy and that being gay is just a part of me,â Phillips asserted. âI am not trying to make a career out of it. Iâve said everything that I need to say as far as coming out.â
Showing off indeed. The boyish, but built, Phillips is often times shirtless. âIâm from Alabama, Iâve been shirtless more of my life than Iâve been clothed, so whatever,â he joked. But clearly the lack of attire doesnât hurt when it comes to gaining an audience.
A down-to-earth, good-looking, media savvy soldier who likes to take his shirt off? Phillips might want to consider running for office.
Source: Daily Dot
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David
*Yawn* What a surprise he’s a professional media whore and has been milking his 15 seconds of fame ever since.
RVH
@David: I’m tired of all you vain gays. So what if it’s his ‘fifteen minutes’? You can’t be happy for him? It was a touching story and just because you’re jealous of it and the attention he received from it doesn’t mean you have some sort of obligation to tear him down.
christopher di spirito
Randy Phillips is adorable.
Mike in Asheville
@RVH: +100%
Oh, ok.
@RVH: One could argue that it’s also vanity that gave this kid his 15 minutes in the first place. The only reason you’re paying any attention to him is he’s young, white, and attractive.
He certainly isn’t the first person to come out and post it on Youtube. He really didn’t do anything special and to be honest it was quite rehearsed and planned anyway.
Most of these people on Youtube are in it for the money(not that I blame them, it’s lucrative), but it’s hilarious when people fall for it. Youtube has taken reality shows to a whole new level.
It’s like people have forgotten that directors have been using Youtube to launch shows since the second year of Youtube’s creation. A lot of what you see on Youtube is fake, there’s a reason certain people are promoted out of the blue, and have millions of views daily with no talents or interesting videos to speak of.
RVH
@Oh, ok.: I don’t “pay attention to him.” I remember hearing his story in the news and I really haven’t followed him since. It’s just a touching story and hits a little closer to home since I come from a military family. But how dare you accuse me of being drawn in becuase of his race. This story would be just as heartwarming regardless of his skin color. Your racism is not appreciated.
Oh, ok.
How is it racism? The real racism is pretending like what I just said doesn’t exist, not only within the gay community, but across America as a whole.
Young, white, and beautiful is what drives Hollywood. A billion dollar industry. Are you kidding right now or what?
Are you trying to tell me if this kid was black and nothing else changed that he would still have gotten national news coverage and everyone would be talking about it?
The only black viral videos that get national news coverage are embarrassing ones with the subjects being made fun of such as Tay Zonday, that girl who fell off a table, and Antonie Dodson(until he tried to make something of himself and they suddenly lost interest).
Your racism is not appreciated, your blinders aren’t appreciated, and your hypocrisy isn’t appreciated. Lie to yourself, no one else is buying it.
The only reason anyone cares about one random kid coming out to his parents over the phone on camera is because he’s young, white, and beautiful. Give me a break pretending it’s anything else. He did nothing spectacular in that video. He did something many of us had to do in person with no camera on our parents and we had to deal with whatever their response was.
This video was a mockery of the children who have been kicked out of their parents homes, the adults who’ve been shunned by their whole family, and the people who have taken their own lives. So seriously shut up.
RVH
@Oh, ok.: I stand by my claim. You said that one of the only reasons I was ‘paying attention’ to him was because he’s white. I don’t doubt that he got the coverage he did because of his race, but to say that’s why I was touched by his story is racism. You’re insinuating that because I’m white I only care about white people. Not all white people are the same. So, again, your racism is not appreciated.
Drew
Oh OK-I agree, just look at how people like Rebecca “Friday” Black, and Lana Del Rey are famous and can’t even sing!
I agree that if this guy hadn’t been white, handsome, and athletic there’s no way he would have been covered by the media at all, and nobody would have cared.
Furthermore it’s not the first time a GLBT person has came out to their parents, or done so in a video on the internet.
I agree that yes this video and even the whole “It gets better” project were all done just for self promotion since Dan Savage now has a reality TV show on MTV and doesn’t give a shit about LGBT youth yet still continues to be racist, biphobic, and transphobic but he obsesses over hot, white, athletic gay white men.
Cam
@David:
Yes, David, Please, continue, lets just attack ANYBODY who ever does ANYTHING.
Give me a break, these are the same comments that the right wing and the bigots attacked Constance McMillan with in Mississippi when she wanted to go to her Prom. They said she was only doing it for attention.
Frankly, I would rather see somebody like this soldier get some attention and some money than another boatload of closetcases or somebody like Joe Solomnase who only exists to sheild people who seem to hate us.
Cam
@Oh, ok.:
Aaaaannnnnnnd it begins.
Yes, again, lets attack ANYBODY who has gotten any positive attention for the community because you need to make your little point.
You aren’t different than the Transgender activist who launched an all out attack on the gay community the DAY that marriage became legal in NYC.
If you hate white people at least be honest about it. But if you don’t, then please explain to me how any positive movement towards civil rights for gays hurts non white gays. And again, just so you get it. I am specifically asking you to let me know, how this kid getting postive attention for gays hurts minority gays.
Oh, ok.
@Cam: Blah blah blah. Obsession over the young, white, and beautiful is a large part of the problem. Apologists like you are a huge part of the problem.
I don’t hate anyone and you don’t know the first thing about me. Pointing out white privilege does not equate hate. Addressing it’s effects on others does not equate hate. This kid and kids like him getting positive attention while others struggle does HURT minority gays.
You’re too busy being stuck up white men’s asses that you can’t see the forest through the trees.
You can be aware, vocal, and truthful without sucking up to white men. You can make progress by pointing out the negative things that are wrong with this country.
Putting white kids on a pedestal every time they make a poopie in the toilet and ignoring minority kids altogether IS A PROBLEM. Why? It makes the white kids feel they can do no wrong and everything they do is golden and it makes minority kids feel like they don’t matter and will never make a difference in this world.
There are gay kids of color all over youtube making profound and insightful videos. Yet two “drunk” white kids using Grindr gets featured on Youtube, even when they make racist remarks within those videos. This soldier does something plenty of others have done before and he gets world wide attention.
If you don’t see a problem with that then you are a pathetic excuse for a human being who is nothing but the problem itself.
There are many racist gay white men and women within the gay community and you don’t see to be saying a damned thing to them. They exclude minorities save the random token, and lift young white gays on their shoulders for little to no reason other than being young, white, and beautiful.
How on Earth can you pretend everything is ok? Yes it does magically get better if you’re young, white, and beautiful. Not so much for the rest of us. And you think I have no reason to say anything. Go back to your shed, Tom.
Loveeveryone
@Oh, ok.: This is the first time I have written on this site. I just have to say that you have some serious issues that you need to work on in your life. You claimed Randy’s video is a mockery of everyone who’s ever come out. What the hell?!
That was a pretty brave video for him to do. He got publicity just because he’s white? B.S.!! If he was black, that would’ve made national news as well in my opinion. Yes, there is still racism in this country, but this video has absolutely NOTHING to do with it.
You also made most people come out on youtube just for the money. What?! These kids aren’t getting money, there doing it to help others. These videos have helped me come to terms with myself as well.
Enough with these idiotic attacks. There are right-wing politicians that would be better served with your criticisms.
Fawkes
@Oh, ok.: You realize that you can address the problems of white privilege without sounding like a total racist, right?
“There are many racist gay white men and women within the gay community and you donât see to be saying a damned thing to them.” First off, there aren’t ‘many,’ that’s an absurd statement. The gay community I’ve been a part of has been widely diverse and I’ve yet to receive any sort of animosity for my race from white gays. Your resentment of all things white doesn’t help us whether you realize it or not. It’s people like you driving a wedge in the gay community. Randy Phillips doesn’t deserve your hatred just because he’s white.
“This soldier does something plenty of others have done before and he gets world wide attention.” Once again, you’re wrong. No American soldier has come out before on camera while still serving in the military. If they have, they sure haven’t shown the courage to post the recording online. It’s sensationalistic, and of course our sensationalist media ran with it and gave it more coverage than it probably would otherwise deserve, but don’t diminish what it means for a lot of people just because you don’t like whites. I’m black and I found it moving, not because of my race, but because I’m a human being.
“If you donât see a problem with that then you are a pathetic excuse for a human being who is nothing but the problem itself.” Yikes. After your diatribe maybe you should take a look in the mirror before you make that kind of a statement.
Ever hear of Bayard Rustin? You could learn a thing or two from him.
Oh, ok.
@Fawkes: Long post in which you didn’t say anything or disprove racism exists within the gay community. This very site harbors anti-black racism quite often both in the comments and in a disturbing amount of articles.
You could learn a thing or two from reality.
The gay black community, which it’s sad that it has to exist a separate entity, has had a problem with this site for years.
Apologists like you are the reason change takes so long. You claim there’s no animosity towards you from white gays, are you black? If you’re not black then sit down and shut up because you can’t speak on the black experience in the first place. If you are black then how the hell can you make this claim? At best white gays allow a few tokens in and shun everyone else. That’s a problem.
Yes I will address it on this article that once again praises another white gay male for making poopies in the toilet. He literally did nothing special and yet he’s on a pedestal. Meanwhile young gay males of Hispanic, Asian, of African descent go ignored by this “community”.
Mike UK
@Oh, ok.: take the chip off your shoulder!
Oh, ok.
@Mike UK: Speaking the truth about racist white gays who exist within this community means I have a chip on my shoulder? Ok.
Now when are you going to address their existence? Or is it just easier to deny that they uplift young, white, gay men, and ignore everyone else?
Ironically they’ll ignore you and each other as they get older. It’s like devouring yourself. It’s almost hilarious.
Fawkes
@Oh, ok.
“This very site harbors anti-black racism quite often both in the comments and in a disturbing amount of articles.” In the comments, sure. It’s also clear by your posts that it harbors plenty of anti-white racism, too.
I am black and I can make that claim because unlike you my world view hasn’t been so tainted by disdain for whites that I only see what I want to see. Resentment of and opposition to all things white will get you nowhere, but instead you’ll just turn around and blame your lack of progress on us ‘apologists.’ Martin Luther King, Jr., knew what he was talking about whether you realize it or not. But to you I’m sure he’s just an Uncle Tom and a sell-out.
You black supremacists make me sick and give the rest of us a bad name. No matter what progress we make you will always be angry and have some awful chip on your shoulder, even if one day we do receive full equality.
Oh, ok.
@Fawkes: I love how you just invented a bunch of bullshit to give yourself something to talk about.
Am I going out into the street berating white people? Nope. Do I have the power to effect them in any way? Nope.
My boyfriend is white, most of my friends are white(and I can actually discuss racism with them because they aren’t overly sensitive like yourself), and I’ve never been called a racist anywhere but online where the actual racists call other people racists.
You are an apologists because you immediately jump to the defense of whites right here on this site, the same site that calls ALL black people homophobic. You are homophobic because you’re black, it doesn’t matter than you’re gay.
Funny how you haven’t noticed any of the anti-black racism on Queerty, yet you have time to tell me how I’m racist when you don’t know the first thing about me.
What a tool.
Fawkes
@Oh, ok.: I invent things? You’ve got some nerve. This site has NEVER called all black homophobic. If it has, point it out to me and I’ll eat my hat. And I said that there is anti-black racism on Queerty especially in the comments section. If you’re not going to read my posts then I really shouldn’t bother with you.
The only person’s defense I’m jumping to is Randy Phillips who you’ve basically made to be scum and completely undeserving of anyone’s attention just because of his race. You don’t know the first thing about me either, yet you call me a ‘tool’ for daring to challenge your narrow worldview. I feel sorry for your boyfriend that he has to put up with a complete asshole.
Oh, ok.
@Fawkes: I didn’t make him out to be scum, but he is rather undeserving of attention, not that he’s really getting any beyond the initial video anymore anyway.
It’s nice that you’ve made up a ton of assumptions based on some comments on an internet article. Stroke your cat and cry more you lonely sob. I’m just laughing at your jealous ass now.
You’re a tool and you know it. That’s why you keep coming back trying to one up me. Your tears only keep me coming back to feed off your misery over an internet post.
Jason
I’m white, young, hot and agree with this Oh, ok character despite me exploiting (and enjoying) my whiteness and hotness to my advantage.
Don’t kid yourself RVH, how many youtube videos of gay, fat, black kids talking about being gay or coming out did you watch (as there are tons out there I’d assume) before your heart melted for my young hot white brethren?
While I revel in the racism in our community due to my paleness (now tan ;)) and take advantage of getting free bottles at Pink Elephant because of it, knowing Hollywood and the gay scene caters to me, doesn’t make me blind to the racism within our community where we turn a blind eye to the coloreds, despite pretending to be “liberal.”
I’m not saying I’m any better, but at least I sometimes acknowledge it, when I’m not too busy being white, and young.
Scott Bonzitski
I have nothing negative to say… you all just fight amongst yourselves. It’s just to make you feel better about yourself and it is not appealing. How many of you out there are ALONE? How sick and sad. Say something nice ~or~ DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. It makes you appear prissy and weak. Go on to better yourselves…SAD indeed!…SB
WJoaquin
I was going to comment on how this was a touching story when I first heard about it but after reading some of the comments I am truly stunned. The level of hatred here is at least close to that of a KKK message board.
Bobo
@oh,ok: if you started a blog geared towards queers of color, i would totally read it. I’m tired of all the racist, transphobic, classist, politically apathetic, sensationalistic, reactionary articles and commenters on this website. it is about time to splinter off from the worst of the gay white male community and start something new.
William
I must say bravo to Oh, Ok.
Pretty much nailed it with every comment.
Oh and P.S Randy’s Boyfriend is black.
Fawkes
@Oh, ok.: Yikes. Apparently you’re as full of yourself as you are resentful of anyone who’s even just slightly better off than you are. I really don’t think Queerty should allow anyone under the age of ten to comment on their articles, but that’s just my humble opinion.
And thank you for proving my earlier assertion.
JohnAGJ
@Oh, ok.: No, I paid attention to him because he is a young soldier who came out to his parents on YouTube. I didn’t even think that he should have done it in such a public fashion out of respect for his family, but he did it and that’s between him and them. Yet for many of those who served under DADT, like myself, seeing this was simply amazing. It helped bring home that DADT is dead, dead, dead. I’ve seen other “coming out” videos online but nothing like this one. Turn it into a racial issue all you like if that’s your thing but I could care less what color he is. That he is in (partial) uniform while coming out to his parents essentially in front of the whole world? Very moving to me.
Global Traveler
can we all just stop saying “the reason is because”. goes through my head like a nail.
Vndv
@Global Traveler: Where did anyone say “the reason is because”? Did you forget to take your medication?
Cam
@Oh, ok.: said…
“@Cam: Blah blah blah. Obsession over the young, white, and beautiful is a large part of the problem. Apologists like you are a huge part of the problem.
I donât hate anyone and you donât know the first thing about me.”
_____________________
1. You don’t know what I am.
2. I wasn’t apologizing for anybody. What I did do was ask you SPECIFICALLY how a video that gets the gay community positive press harms minority gays.
In response to that, you called my pathetic and went on a rant against me, but you know what? The funny thing is, you couldn’t answer my question. But then again, racists like you are RARELY able to logically defend their position are they?
in support of oh, ok
@Oh, ok.
Totally agree with you. I’m sick of the over proliferation of white shirtless gay vloggers and their promotion in gay media. I beginning to wonder if there are any American Homosexuals of different races as your media don’t seem to want to write about them. Being a white middle class gay male myself I am acutely aware of this ridiculous prejudice… and don’t get me started on the sexual racism I see in on line dating profiles.
I’m also aware of the fact that when you point out to a white person who prides themselves on how liberal they are can be some of the most prejudiced people I’ve ever had the misfortune to talk to.
Shame on the vlogger in question for hijacking a private moment that his parents shouldn’t have had to share with the rest of the world. It totally disgusted me and now all he seems to post are vlogs with his shirt off… makes me wonder if he really was after sexual attention. If he put his shirt on I might take him a little more serious… all he is doing now is conforming to a repellent gay meme, the shirtless vlogger
Oh, ok.
@in support of oh, ok: He’ll be moderately wealthy and moderately famous within the “gay community” in no time. He already had organized events ready to go on his Youtube channel and a slew of topics already done before to talk about.
I don’t hate the guy, but I’m tired of seeing this repeatedly while others go ignored.
I’m glad you posted, some of them had me questioning if I was making all white people feel like I was attacking them when that was not my intention. I mean most of the people I know are white, including my boyfriend. However, I can’t sit back, and be quiet about this stuff anymore.
The gay community supposedly includes all of us, until it’s time to support gay people who are non-white. I remember after Prop 8 passed and the blame was entirely placed on black people as a whole(as if all black people even live in California) and certain people started talking about outreach to black churches to “educate them” on homosexuality. Meanwhile those same people never said anything about outreach to gay black people.
We have gay events separated by race here because hundreds of thousands of non-white gay men and women aren’t excepted by white gay men and women at events, in social circles, or even gay areas.
While most of the people I know are white, most of them are also straight. It’s easier for me to find straight white people to be friends with and hang out with than white gay people. How fucked up is that?
As far as the Vlogger I agree it’s really messed up to air your parents reaction to being gay on the internet, let alone tell them impersonally over the phone in such a way. He takes his shirt off because he’s really not that interesting and he knows it. I’ve watched a few of his videos, he just rambles on in a monotone voice. Yet plenty of gay men are telling him how awesome he is because he’s pretty…
It’s the same with a lot of gay Vloggers. They take their shirts off and ramble to pander to the lowest common denominator for easy money. It’s sad that it works really.
BubbasBack
Again this guy? reall? He’s the new Davey Wavey? Good Lord, just take him away. Burp.
Cam
@Oh, ok.:
1. I notice that you once again ignored my question about how this video in any way damages minority gays.
2. If you are going to create a troll who is supposedly somebody coming on here to support you, you shouldn’t have them write the exact same way you do and then post in your original screename right after they do.
But then again, I wouldn’t expect a racist to be that bright.
Mark
He might not have said it in the most pc way, but “oh, ok” does have a point. Although Mr. Phillips has no control over it, that doesn’t change the fact that most of the time if you are young, white, and good looking more people tend to identify or be sympathetic to your story. Look at Matthew Sheppard and the amount of media attention that his murder generated. I hate to admit it, but if he had been transgendered, middle aged, or a minority, none of you would probably even know is name. I won’t go as far as calling Randy a shameless self-promoter and an opportunist, but he is clearly benefiting from being a photogenic white boy. This subject about privilege reminds me of a funny clip from the onion I saw on youtube.
http://youtu.be/84phU8of02U
Mike UK
some of the people who come on this site are obsessed with race and colour some more than others! so he’s white, big deal, some people just cannot accept that he’s getting a little attention! green doesn’t suit most people but on here it seems to be the favourite colour of choice!
Using Matthew Sheppard as an example is pretty low, the way that poor guy died was sick, he was led on, he was battered, tied crucifiction style to a fence, battered to within an inch of his life, pissed on and left to freeze to near death. I think anyone, black, white or any other race for that mater would have found that sickening regardless of the race, age or sexual orientation of the victim.
Mark
Whether anyone found it sickening is moot point. I’m sure everyone who saw the case was disguted by it. My point is, and you can deny it all you want to, if he wasn’t who he was his case wouldn’t have gotten nearly the amount of attention that it got. Angie Zapata a trans woman was beaten to death with a fire extinguisher. Erika Keels was thrown out of a car and run over four times. Marcel Cameo Tye was shot and dragged to death behind a car. All young queer people. All brutally murdered, yet I doubt you’ve heard of any of them. Wonder why?
Gareth
I dont agree with some of the harsh comments on here about Randy, though I myself (personally) get tired of people ‘overnight’ becoming ‘gay crusaders’. The guy was closeted due to the rules(fair enough)then came out (in the wrong way maybe too some) then proceeded to turn himself into the typical youtube vlogger, generally through putting out crap that had little relevance with the subject in the first place……showing us how much veg he puts in his basket shopping round the mall is mindblowing I must say! again, I dont agree with comments on here but I personally wish some of these people would retain their dignity and post ‘topical’ videos, ohhh and not plug goddamn tshirts for sale either!
Mike UK
@Mark: I’d never heard of Matthew either until about 2 years ago when there was a film about him on TV over here, you have that many murders in the US that if they were all reported on our news programmes we’d be watching all day!
Idi Amin Dada
Honey, girl was a straight-up ho in Iraq. Spread her legs for anything that moved.
Oh, ok.
@Cam: Oh, Tom. You’re so hilarious. Run back to Massa now, before I beat you.
JayKay
Attention black gays: Maybe if you guys would shut up for five minutes and stop crying and complaining about some vast, imaginary conspiracy against you by those evil, privileged(lol), white gay men, you wouldn’t be ignored so often. Just a thought.
JayKay
Also, it’s pretty funny how Queerty routinely censors anyone who doesn’t conform to the standard leftist worldview, yet they do nothing about the clear, blatant, anti-white racism on display in these comments…
Isaac C
@JayKay: They don’t think, that’s why they carry on like this ;). They’re only good for parody and mockery.
Isaac C
@JayKay: I agree. There is an obvious double-standard.
Oh, ok.
@JayKay: Says the fat white gay who’s totally invisible and living online. So adorable.
JayKay
@Oh, ok.:
Well you got one thing right, I am adorable.
Oh, ok.
@JayKay: Babies are adorable, most full grown adult men wouldn’t refer to themselves as adorable.
Clearly you’re a fatty. It’s ok. I figured that out by the way you post. That’s right, I can smell your fat by the enraged way you mash your keys.
JayKay
@Oh, ok.:
Excuse me but weightism is a serious problem within the LBTGQIAA2ZPCP community, and throughout American culture as a whole. Your bigoted, fat-phobic statements are directly contributing to the ongoing marginalization and oppression of People Of Size. Our overweight sistyrs and brothers are people too. Educate yourself and stop contributing to the climate of hate, you ignorant retard.
Vndv
@Oh, ok.: My parents are overweight, what’s wrong with fat people? Fuck you, you scumbag.
Oh, ok.
@JayKay: Struck a nerve, truth hurts. When you’re lying awake crying about the internet tonight remember how hard you got trolled. Your tears nourish me.
SEXXYJAMAICAN
@JayKay: Shut the fuck up bitch, black gays like me don’t think about gays like you unless we need our rent paid,. this site keeps me rollin and my boyfriend is black btw..
Isaac C
I am just shocked and disgusted by the comments on this article from the Negroes. The anti-white racism must stop.
Oh, ok.
@Isaac C: Little girl, do you have a life at all? Go outside and get some fresh air.
Isaac C
@Oh, ok.: Just shocked, I tell you. So many angry Negroes in one place at one time…attacking the white men…
JayKay
@Oh, ok.:
“Ha ha! I didn’t mean it, I was just pretending to be retarded! LOL trolled you so hard u mad u butthurt lol!”
Yeah you sure got me.
bobo
WHOAAAAAA! this just went from annoying to outright psychotic-creepy. Like, the first hour of Insidious creepy (the second hour was crap). I’m pretty sure JayKay/IssaaC are the same person, pretending to be Oh, OK. JayKay/IssaaC is like some effed up character from American Horror Story haunting the internet, a internet troll for eternity. sad.
Fawkes
@bobo: That wouldn’t surprise me, I’ve read nothing but racist garbage from all of them.
Matt
I liked the coming out video and I think what he did was great but there is some truth to what the critics keep saying. The only reason he got so much attention in the first place and the only reason anyone at all still cares is because he’s white, young, and hot. Why else would queerty still be making articles about this guy’s incredibly mundane youtube videos?
Isaac C
@Matt: And the only reason critics are upset about it is because he’s young, white, and “hot,” and they’re not. All it is is jealousy and envy, plain and simple, disguised as some sort of righteous anger. They obviously just can’t get over the fact that they’re black, probably unattractive, and much older than a 20-something, and no one wants to see their black asses make a video.
*Shrug*
Matt
@Isaac C: I’m 23, white, and in better shape than the guy in the vid. The difference is I don’t think this makes me in any way special, certainly not special enough to expect people to care about shirtless videos of me on youtube doing absolutely nothing of significance. As I said the original coming out video was great but beyond that this guy hasn’t done anything that warrants writing multiple articles.
Isaac C
@Matt: I was talking about the vid’s main critics not you.
Tackle
@Oh,ok.: Reading your comments, I don’t see anywhere you’re are anti-white or show a disdain or resentment for white people. What I’m getting is a disdain and resentment for racism.
And unfortunately it’s so ingrained, that many do not realize, or are unaware as to how it has affects their thought process.
It’s very true that when a guy is young,cute and white, whether in death or comming out, he will get more sympathy or more praise “overall”.
We all know the Matthew Shepard affect. And the time when Queerty posted about a black kid who commited suicide from bullying compared to the many times abouts white kids, three times as many posters posted sympathy for the white kids.
And funny how when Queerty has posted many of their anti-black articals in the past, where was the outrage from these white posters who claim they are so fair and so not racist???
@Ok,ok.: You articulated your points very well and I agree with what you wrote. I don’t get ANY hate coming from you. Just passion for equality for ALL.
That being said, one thing I disagree with you on. And that is using the word fat for a put down. I’m sure that there were/are many heavyset, Black, Hispanic/Latino/Asian and even some Whites who identified and agreed with what you wrote, but were put off and cringed by the your usage of the word fat(fatty) as a put down.
CBRad
@Tackle: Queerty IS anti-white, though. Andrew Belonsky used to work here (and he’s the most evil gay self-hating white-guilt type there is). And Queerty practically said Imus (despite being for gay marriage) deserved getting cancer because he said “nappy-headed hoes.” So, I wish you guys would stop pretending that the gay ghetto (like Queerty) isn’t anti-Caucasian (as one of its several Rules). Some posters on here might be anti-black, but that’s not the blog’s position.
CBRad
@Tackle: AND, Matthew Shepard is, partly, put up as the gay-victim-poster-boy because his killers were white. The killer is always just as important as the victim in what will be chosen as the iconic case.
David Ehrenstein
@Oh, ok.: New Rule: Young White Gay men should only do YouTube videos in Burkas.
Cam
@Oh, ok.: said…
“@Cam: Oh, Tom. Youâre so hilarious. Run back to Massa now, before I beat you.”
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You have now been unable to answer my question of “Explain how this video harms minority gays” multiple times.
Every time I’ve asked you, you just turn around and attack me because you are unable to defend your racist comments. So lets see here.
1. You’ve made a statement attacking whites and this video.
2. I’ve asked you multiple times just how this video or any video that gets gays positive press harms minority gays.
3. You’ve become angry and attacked me every time I’ve asked and been unable to answer the question.
Answer. You are a racist who thinks that because you aren’t white you can’t be attacked as a racist and now can’t defend your statement because you aren’t used to people calling you on your Racist B.S.
NYMATGM
@ Oh,ok.
Firstly, I absolutely agree with you that continued attention has been paid to this guy because he is indeed white, hot, and young. I don’t think that the initial national attention paid to him would have been much different had he been black. DADT and the repeal of it was very much a part of the national consciousness when the video was released.
I also think your absolutely correct about the rampant racism and vanity in many of the comment sections on this site. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve browsed this site in the morning (very much a “check your usual websites over the morning coffee” kind of guy) and turned to my boyfriend in disgust over some of the horrible shit found in the comments.
I understand that any discussion of racism in the gay community is going to get people’s hackles up and I don’t really consider myself knowledgeable enough, nor is it my place, to talk about the struggles facing gay men of color (I am white). The only thing I’m really taking issue with is attacking someone because “you can smell that they’re fat by the enraged way they mash their keys.” As someone who says that their parents are fat, wouldn’t your parents be appalled by your attacking someone who is overweight? You risk invalidating your every argument by being so petty, which sucks because you have some very valid points.
I’m on the extreme opposite end of the weight spectrum, I was born with cerebral palsy that was discovered quickly (which allowed for an injection of blood platelets to stop progression) so I’ve always been incredibly underweight. I’ve switched from a popular, very gay, gym in Manhattan to the Y because of being yelled at by bitchy muscle queens
to “eat a cheeseburger” or “get over my anorexia.” Say what you want about straight men but I’ve found that, in the gym at least, they’re less judgmental than gay boys. While nowhere near the amount of derision and disgust I’ve seen aimed at overweight people, it stung enough to make me more sensitive to how overweight people feel.
Tackle
@CBRad: Only a fool would think that Queerty is anti-white. And I bet that your the only one who thinks so, and who would make such a statement.
And for the record, I never put anything in my post about Queerty being anti-white or anti-black. So I don’t know why you came at me with that.
People are free to think as they choose as they want. Just like you choose to believe that Queerty is anti-white.
And speaking of pretending, no one is doing that more than you. Like you pretending that you knew the mindset of @Shannon1981: And then confessing that you NEVER met her. Isn’t it pretentious for you to believe that you know for a fact that Matthew Shepard is/was put up as a poster boy by those who mourn, grieve and feel sadness about his death, is partly due to the fact that his killers were white??
And how many people have you spoken to or interviewed to come to the conclusion that baised on who the killer is will be a determining factor if the victim will be elevated to icon status?? I bet not even one.
That sounds beyond ridiculous.
But I forgot. Without meeting people, you know their thoughts. That magic crystal ball works wonders
Isaac C
I see the usual militant, racist, envious, anti-white Negroes are at it again, attacking the innocent white men…
Simply unbelievable.
CBRad
@Tackle: ..the Don Imus cancer thing..
Mike
I incidentally met Randy in Florida on the beach a few weeks ago not knowing who he was… I yelled out at him walking by and joked that I wanted his Corona board shorts, well as if to “give me the shirt off his back”, I ended up with his swim trunks and he ended up with mine. Don’t ask, and I won’t tell any more…HaHa! Great guy! At the time he only told me to “google” his name as he ran off… wish I had known then what I know now! LOL ~ Mike ~ *Hey Randy buddy!, contact me if you want your shorts back! đ