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First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, And Now In Colorado, Its First Gay Divorce

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By:           Les Fabian Brathwaite
On:           Jul 31, 2013
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    • kurt_t
      kurt_t

      And that’s one aspect of the marriage issue that people are reluctant to talk about, but it’s important. Sometimes divorce is the best outcome for a couple, and marriage makes divorce possible. Judge Judy Sheindlin, in one of her books (I want to say Keep it Simple, Stupid.), says that there are three things no unmarried couple should ever do: have children, buy real estate, and open a joint bank account. The reason you shouldn’t do those things is that the law doesn’t know what to do with an unmarried couple’s children, real estate and joint bank account when the couple splits up, but when you’re married, things are pretty straightforward.

      I think that both sides of the marriage equality debate tend to lose sight of the idea that marriage is a civil contract. It’s not God’s magical pixie dust from heaven. It’s not Ryan O’Neil and Ali McGraw in a rowboat. Maybe it’s those things to you, but what it is from a legal standpoint is it’s a contract, and one of the convenient things about contracts is they can be dissolved.

      Jul 31, 2013 at 9:37 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BJ McFrisky
      BJ McFrisky

      In others words, Be careful what you wish for, for you just might get it.

      Jul 31, 2013 at 10:17 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rock2XL
      Rock2XL

      @kurt_t: Excellent, Kurt, if you have a blog, then I would like to follow it! I went through a “gay divorce!” Got a protective order to put him out. His attorney got him “visitation rights,” which proved to be a nightmare, to his exotic plant collection, as it couldn’t be removed immediately. I first had my attorney file for “Partition of Realty.” He had not paid one penny toward the expenses involved with purchasing our home, but only bought furnishings that I wouldn’t, more exotic plants, and an enormous amount of porno for his exclusive use! Despite what I was paying her, my attorney wouldn’t argue over pictures of the dog, etc. — I waited until she died before filing — and we went into binding arbitration. I won’t go into any more details, but suffice it to say that it was an extremely ugly “divorce!” I wonder how it might have been different if we had been in a legal civil union. I had to pay him even more to settle as just putting his name on the deed made ownership 50/50!

      Jul 31, 2013 at 3:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Spike
      Spike

      Shock & awe . . . .

      Gay Divorce = Lesbian Divorce

      Jul 31, 2013 at 4:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rock2XL
      Rock2XL

      @kurt_t: I’d like to draw a dichotomy between marriage, which is a civil contact, and (Holy) Matrimony, which includes legal marriage where the legal conditions are met, but is a religious ceremony where two people take each other into the bonds of Matrimony. As an alternative where legal marriage is denied, gay couples, for hundreds if not thousands of years, have married in such a ceremony but it provides no legal standing for the couple. “God’s magical pixie dust” notwithstanding.

      I have attended several of these ceremonies myself.

      Jul 31, 2013 at 4:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Red Meat
      Red Meat

      Why are lesbians always getting divorce? Its like a thing for them over in New York.

      Jul 31, 2013 at 7:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tanvy
      tanvy

      I’d prefer to bring the dichotomy concerning matrimony, which is a civil contact, as well as (Holy) Matrimony, which include authorized matrimony in which the authorized disorders are generally satisfied, but can be a faith based wedding where a couple consider one another in the provides involving Matrimony. Instead where authorized matrimony can be refused, homosexual lovers, with regard to lots in any other case a huge number of decades, include married in such a wedding nevertheless it supplies no authorized position to the few. “God’s marvelous pixie dust” however.
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      Aug 1, 2013 at 6:38 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Spike
      Spike

      @Red Meat: Same reason what 70% of str8t divorces are initiated by the wife, it’s a female thing. Blame the spouse for their not being happy.

      Aug 1, 2013 at 3:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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