There’s always a handful of gay men who’s entire identity is predicated on what straight people think of them. Of course they’re the one whining and crying here over a big pile of nothing.
It makes me even more glad that the next generation will soon be taking over. I work with kids Nasir’s age and younger. And guess what? They don’t care. They know some gay guys are masculine. They don’t care. They know some gay dudes are feminine. They don’t care. They know some gay dudes are kinda both. They don’t care. They know some masculine gays prefer to be recognized only as such. They don’t care. They know some gay dudes take traditional gender roles seriously. They don’t care. They know some gaydudes play around with gender roles in a serious way. They don’t care. They know some gay dudes play around with gender roles in a completely offhand way meaning nothing. They don’t care.
Straights my age are still hewing to the homophobic stereotype which says gays are masculine. Gays my age are so spooked by this internalized homophobia that they are terrified that *any* gay dude be perceived as womanly. Meanwhile, straight and gay kids recognize that 1. individuals are different and 2. there’s nothing wrong with femininity anyway.
Queen, girl, feminine is not a slur. Masculine, bro, king is not inherently better. There’s nothing wrong with a male queen. There’s nothing wrong with a male king. People are different. Once again, from the mouths of babes comes the truth.
So besides congratulating this kid for his moment, who gives a crap? It reminds me of a parent who couldn’t believe straight male teenagers hold hands, sit on each others’ laps, and are still straight. I told him to do his gender issue therapy on your own time, not on our students. Because, newflash: they really do not care.