@Michael: Well, first off, I didn’t mention anorexia even once. I don’t know who did, but it wasn’t me. I know the damage eating disorders can do, having had friends and family who have dealt with them over the years. I also know that they are a symptom of society’s obsession with the idea that “thin = beauty.”
Second, your previous post came across as a defense of the people who initiated the abuse on this thread in the first place, the allegedly attractive individuals. After Sal’s ceaseless, hateful blather, I think you can understand that the conversation had already been pushed into a realm where defensiveness and misunderstanding were not only possible, but probable. I’ll admit to having gotten swept up in the hysteria myself, but what seems to be flying over everyone’s head is the intent behind it. I thought being over the top was enough, but I’ll take the blame for not being obvious enough for some of the idiots here.
The point of my rant was a simple turning of the tables. Slender/athletic/muscular people are simply not accustomed to being the objects of scorn and ridicule, in western culture at large, but particularly in the gay subculture. Rather, they are frequently complimented, placed on pedestals, and fed this belief that they are somehow better than normal people simply for having a lower BMI. The flip side to this is that they develop a sense of entitlement when it comes to telling those of us who are not blessed with their genetics/metabolism/spare time/whatever that we’re the ones who are ugly and wrong. Society has decided they are beautiful, so they believe that they are the arbiters of aesthetics.
People are fat because they’re lazy, they lack impulse control, they don’t try hard enough, they don’t care about themselves…everyday I hear the same shit, and we have a whole thread full of that tripe right here. It doesn’t matter to the arbiters that everyone has their own individual circumstances in their life that influence their body type. To them, the only reason we don’t look like them is because we’re broken in some way, and we’re entirely to blame for it.
You know this is true, because you never hear them asking questions. They only utter pronouncements, judgments, and these are only reflective of their own self-absorbed perceptions.
Most people wouldn’t look at me, or someone my age, and expect me to have joint problems that make the mere act of walking up or down the stairs an ordeal on most days, much less any prolonged physical exertion. Even fewer of them would believe that these started long before I became overweight.
I’d wager that many of them would scoff if I mentioned that I quite likely consume less food and fewer calories than they do on a given day. I eat reasonably healthily, and permit myself the occasional culinary indulgence if I want it. They would just assume I’m stuffing my face with Twinkies all day and then forget about me entirely.
You say you get similar treatment for being too skinny, so you should understand what I’m saying here. People, particularly those who have it easy due to society’s bizarre and inhuman standards, are quick to pass judgment and slow to seek understanding.
So, what harm is done if I give them just a taste of what they give the rest of us? There’s no way one person can balance that scale, Michael, but if I can do my part to let these people know that they are not the only standard of desire on this planet, I’m going to do it. By dehumanizing the abnormal (and they are abnormal) I am, hopefully, making them think twice before doing it to someone else in the future. It’s a simple wake-up call. Do I expect most of them to understand? Of course not. They’re not wired that way, and even I can admit that’s not entirely their own fault. If you live in a world where everyone says you’re right, it’s hard to admit, or even see, that you may actually be wrong.
I don’t hate slender/athletic/muscular people. I have known many over the years whom I have grown to personally admire for a variety of reasons. But I admire no one for simply being nice to look at. If that’s the only thing you have going for you, then your life really is empty and meaningless.
Furthermore, I do not respect anyone who makes arguments like “it’s just about health” or other bullshit like that. That’s not what they’re about at all. They simply want to be able to tell you that they’re better than you without sounding mean, because heaven forbid their fragile egos be wounded by someone not liking them. If people just say what they mean, sure, some folks might be hurt, but at least we know where we stand. I’d rather someone come right out and tell me they think I’m ugly for carrying a few extra pounds than waste my time with their “I’m a good person, really” P.C. bullshit.
“You are the unattractive new “average,” fat, lazy and a burden on our healthcare system.”
And I’m certainly not going to sit on my hands and not respond when people who do not know me, have never met me, and don’t know what I look like make statements like that.
So yeah, Michael, I get where you’re coming from. I’m sorry for not making my point more clear from the get-go, but I’m not sorry in the slightest for saying what I said and feeling what I felt when I read this thread. I’m going to assume you now understand where I was/am coming from.