No. 42, $0.02, you’re absolutely right about that! We do need to keep reinforcing the fact that we’re born gay because what The View seemed to convey was that women choosing lesbianism later in life, was just that, a choice. Ask a straight when he or she chose theirs and they’ll say, “I’ve always been this way”. Those idiots on The View can’t seem to understand that its the same with us. I’ve been gay all my life and knew I was at the early age of 7, supposedly the age of reason. They didn’t even mention bisexuality which also is not chosen. I suspect those women hooking up with other women later in life were latent bisexuals or just in denial earlier on.

As a bisexual, I live in the gray. I don’t think that we should be so rigid about our sexuality. I don’t believe anyone is either black or white. Just because you’re a lesbian and you find men attractive doesn’t mean you’re not a lesbian. I have gay friends who are obsessed with my boobs and not in a envy kinda way. They find my female attributes attractive and there is nothing wrong with that. I have gay friends who dated the opposite sex in high school b/c they were attracted to the person not b/c of some sexual repression or self-loathing. I think our community would be better off if we didn’t try to put each other into boxes with labels on it. I agree with you. We must FULLY embrace our sexuality.

2) Most women’s sexuality is NOT “fluid”. Some women know they are straight and will not dip into the gay pool and plenty of Lesbians know they are lesbians and do not desire to be with men sexually/romantically and will not act on that. The whole “fluidity” trope is old and tired. Women’s sexuality is just as concrete as men. That “fluid” nature of sexuality for some women is called BIsexuality, the yjust refuse to accept it because even to some LGBT women, and even some men, accepting that they are bisexual, placing that label, takes them fully from the comforts of heterosexual identity, heteronormative realities and heterosexual power altogether, in my view that is. Being a bisexual man or woman is not a bad thing, nothing wrong with at all, I wish folks would stop treating acknowledging it like it’s the damn plague.

3) We don’t need to stop saying we were born gay ’cause guess what? Go on take a guess… WE WERE BORN GAY! We all are not damn fluid and will jump teams/beds everytime. The majority of us know and fully embrace our sexuality as it is.

Me: So if Dad left you for a younger woman would your next mate.be a man or a woman?

Mom: You been watching the View again?

Me: No Ma, just reading about it.

Mom: Definitely a man, I dont care if he’s older than me or not.

Me: Because?

Mom: Well you and I got this in common: We like how a man loooks.smellls.tastes.talks.walks and all of that. …..That blond girl neesds to read a few books! You should send her some!
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That’s slightly edited but that’s the gist.

I think the other issue is that “gay” shouldn’t be labeled as a *sexual* orientation. There’s effeminate young boys you know will turn out to be gay. (In fact, the vast majority of gender atypical boys do become gay men according to studies.) There’s nothing wrong with that but let’s not pretend the only difference between gay biological males and “regular” males is who they like in bed.

Gay is a gender.

Instead of worrying about whether it’s “innate” or not, why not simply follow your feelings and see if they’re returned. I’m a romantic, I think it’s really hard to express in words why you like someone, sometimes it just happens. Why make it so scientific and clinical…

And this “born with it” stuff has to stop. Who cares? So are serial killers and pedophiles. Does that make it right? Of course not. Consensual sexual acts, of whatever variety with whomever, are perfectly fine because they are… consensual. That’s it. Anything else is irrelevant.

Of the first dozen Roman emperors, only one was exclusively heterosexual. What are the odds, no?

It’s time we jettison this gay/straight dichotomy. Why use vocabulary and concept (like sexual orientation) that creates a perpetual minority?

“There is no such thing as a homosexual or a heterosexual person. There are only homo- or heterosexual acts. Most people are a mixture of impulses if not practices.” – Gore Vidal

Doesn’t this woman ever get embarrassed by the things that come out of her mouth? The problem with people like Elizabeth is they have people, like the Tea Party who support her statements so they can not see what fools they are. Should we pity her or hate her?

Yes.

Unfortunately, Gay men in their quest to be equal have created an argument that sexuality is concrete and anything that argues that sexuality is fluid gets hammered by the gay community – that is what happens when sexuality and sexual orientation are politicized.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DyDlwLJU1Yk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZsE7a0d_rOA

Fewer people noticed Hasselbeck essentially said the exact same thing last year, but Sherri out-dumbed her and everyone pounced on Sherri instead.

There is a great article about this here:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/life…..-sexuality

What makes that article so much different than the thousand other articles about how “fluid” female sexuality is and how male sexuality is not?!

I mean, 30-40 years ago being queer wasn’t nearly as accepted as it is now…it still isn’t 100% fine and dandy for us, but it is certainly better.

You’re theory kinda shits the bed unless they are hooking up with younger women…………..