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Keep up the great work Colby.
Who said nothing good comes out of Alabama.
However, Mr. Melvin is apparently fighting for the life of his
new puppy and may not be in the mood for publicity right now.
Omg I want that jumpsuit… So cute.
I’m always fascinated by these later in life coming out stories. Did they really not realize they were gay up to that point or were they just in denial? Is there some sort of cognitive disconnect? Is it an inability to connect the dots? I just don’t get it. I’m not effeminate and can easily pass as heterosexual, but I knew by the time I was in 6th grade. I didn’t come out until college and played the part up ’til then, but I knew it as an act. There was never an epiphany. I remember wondering at a very young age why the attractive women presented in the media didn’t excite me. My understanding of what it meant to be gay coincided with my understand that I was gay, but I don’t remember any specific moment. It was so early in development.
I just don’t understand how someone could be an adult and not know.
@erikwm: We all develop and things click at different rates for us. Some people may be in denial; some may have urges both ways until they finally land on one side or the other (or even continue to sample both sides throughout life); some may have a blind spot in their self identities; and some of us are simply clueless until a clue smacks us up side the head. My experience is that not all guys are self reflective; and recognizing that one is gay at an early age requires just a touch of that.
How many women are out there in the gulf sweeping up crude oil? And, when did Alabama become “the oil industry”?
In every tale I’ve heard about oil workers it has been about men, all men, working long hours away from women. And, we all know what men do when they are isolated from women.
Sometimes though, a guy can just be too attractive to be “one of the boys”. It’s like the old saying that ugly guys were picked for straight porn so as not to make the male viewers uncomfortable. Sometimes a guy can just be so “pretty” he will make other guys uncomfortable (even if the guy is straight).
@erikwm: From the account here, it sounded like his job was very demanding. Some people genuinely like their job, but others can dedicate their lives to work to cover up for other dissatisfaction in their lives.
I personally did not come out until I was 25, but not from lack of knowledge beforehand. I was working a highly stressful, low paying job before then. When you’re balancing work life with wondering how you’re going to pay next month’s bills, that doesn’t leave a whole lot of room for working through your sexuality…or going out for that matter. I always had an inkling before that, but it was not something I gave a significant amount of thought to. It was when I was promoted at work that I suddenly had a lot of free time on my hands to think about things like relationships and what I really wanted out of life.
You could miss out on a lot of things about yourself if you’re spending a lot of energy worrying about other things.
@level75RDM: I can understand that, but human sexuality begins to develop with puberty. What about your teenage years? Were your sexual desires unfocused in any given direction? What went through your mind when you masturbated? You’re talking about employment, a career and I knew before I finished elementary school. There is a large chasm between our two experiences.
I’m of the belief that many straight-identifying guys secretly harbor desires for other men but see it as a form of rule-breaking. The rules for straightness are very strict and require that you abide by a code of conduct. If you breach that code of conduct, you’re no longer a part of the straight club.
I think a lot of gay-identifying guys underestimate how important this code of conduct is for straight-identifying guys.
Interestingly, once you take a straight-identifying guy out of his circle of straight-identifying friends, he tends to let his guard down, especially if he’s had a few drinks. This is where his same-sex desire may come out and manifest as an animalistic outburst of passion, albeit for a few minutes.
I met a guy like this once and he humped me like there was no tomorrow.
Definitely, he looks like fun for the weekend. Next.
@Chris: I remember having a crush on a boy in the year above me. It was exciting, I was 7 and kept very quiet about it.
@jason smeds: “straight-identifying guys…” “gay identifying guys…” What year do you live in?
All the negative comments about Colby have been removed despite the fact they didn’t violate the comment policy. How very professional it is to continue to sculpt the false image he has crafted. From first hand knowledge this is a very inaccurate article. He is from Louisiana, not Mobile.
@Captain proton: Mr. Melvin is never not in the mood for publicity lol.
Colby is amazing and very inspirational but, a lot of this story doesn’t ring true. Great article though. Although a good proof reader…lol
@Captain proton: All my prayers for the puppy. My best advice to all pet owners is always get pet insurance.
Great story. Would have liked to have known what was the path from the LA arrival to the Full Frontal video and Andrew Christian.
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WTF. “You’re gay? Yeah, well prove it. Here’s a pic of a naked wiener, now show us your boner.”
It does make you feel sorry for those gay refugees who suffer from ED.
@Ladbrook: Or if they are strictly tops!
Well unfortunately they do need to try come up with something to prove whether these refugees are really gay.
@Clay83: What like pink triangle arm bands? The last thing we need in this world is idiot’s advocating we prove who we are!
@damon459: Refugee status in Europe is highly valued throughout the world. If simply saying the words “I’m gay” were enough to gain it then lots of undeserving people would get it that way.
WOW! Couldn’t they have used a lie-detector test?
@Kevin B: Couldn’t they just ask the prospective gay refugees to do a simple color-coordination test? Or rearrange some furniture?
@Kevin B, given the stigmatization of gay people in many immigrant communities, it is very unlikely that someone would claim to be gay unless he or she really were gay.
You cant just “take their word for it”. They have to prove they are gay some way. The old test was effective but is a very queasy one.
That is naive and dangerous. Just because someone says he is gay doesnt mean he is. Otherwise it can be abused. Refugee status for gays is there to help gay people. If its is abused, gays could lose this avenue to escape persecution – and the people who would suffer are the real gays, the ones who need it the most.
@damon459: If you’re going to call people “idiots,” you should at least not spell it with an apostrophe.
Hahahah how funny, I got to watch the “Normal heart”.
MMMM, long hair, me like. (top photo) Too bad it looks like the skin on his chest is about to rip open from the stress. Still, I wouldn’t throw him out of bed for drinking a protein shake and an energy bar.
Rod and Bob saved me when I was a kid. I saw their story in the paper folded it up and carried it in my wallet for a few years. It was proof to me that being gay wasn’t wrong and two men could love each other. They gave me a model of what gay love could look like and it saved the suicidal teen that I was at the time. I will love these guys forever.
In the 80s and 90s Bob Paris was the sexiest, most beautiful man on Earth. And he still looks great. He is one of the smartest gay activists of all time. Always a serious thinker and a very kind man.
Wasn’t the blonde one naked in Playgirl?
Yes, Rod Jackson did pose for Playgirl some years before. Of course we all know Playgirl models are straight [eyes rolling]. Anyway, I remember that interview they did for Oprah. It blew people away. There was some homophobic remarks from her less intelligent audience members but I guess we shouldn’t be surprised considering the conservative attitude that was pervasive in the 80s.
Couldn’t agree more. I remember many straight women were in love with Paris, even those who weren’t normally attracted to bodybuilders. He was and still is one of the sexiest men on earth.
Most straight bodybuilders didn’t care he was gay…Only the sad queens really hated him….
@Paul F: are you bi and like trans women with long hair?
ewww, his former partner is almost trans
Bob Paris was an awesome example of a bodybuilder with a perfect classical physique, and an awesome example of a human being for coming out at a time when it was going to make things very rough for him. And there were a lot of gay bodybuilders who didn’t have half the talent and genetics to make it in competition that he did and never came out, hich says a lot for Bobs character. Good to hear about Bob today, he seems very happy, although he and I both have “shrunk” a little since the eighties! Then again, that was eons ago. I wish him all the best.
I remember him. What a great, courageous guy.
Kind of surprising to see him in the video though. He looks good but now just a regular middle aged guy. I guess when they stop the steroids it all goes away.
It was all steroids. He is not a role model.
Look, we get it that you are anti-gay. But the issue is, you spend a lot of time on a gay website so which are you? A troll or a self hating right wing gay?
Bob and Rod were my role models; I came out shortly after they did. I figured if they could do it, so could I.
I’ve never looked back.
I am much more interested in what happened to Rod Jackson. Some vilified him as an opportunist back in the day and I would expect his story to have much more texture. It seems he virtually disappeared from planet Earth. All of the ink is on Bob Paris….OK so he was Mr. Universe…I know that story. If Rod is reading this, write a candid book…..it would sell.
The most interesting thing about DUO by Herb Ritts and Bob and Rob Paris Jackson (at the time) is that Ritts was the SECOND choice to do the book. Mapplethorpe was gearing up to do the book, and got so ill, he couldn’t do it, and died. Forget which one of the Glimmer Twins really wanted the book done, or if Ritts decided himself to do the book, but that’s the story behind the origin of DUO. The stink about it is that neither Rod nor Bob would “sign” the book when they were in Miami on South Beach decades ago. Nice attitude.
@Cam: both, s/he also likes sex with dogs
@ibernard: Can’t speak to their attitude, but I actually own a copy of DUO signed by Rod.
@stadacona: That was an era when everyone was doing steroids. He wouldn’t have been considered for anything if he hadn’t done it. I bought one of his body building books a long time ago. They should’ve re titled it to Juiced or something.
I used his book Flawless back in the 90’s. He offered great tips for beginners and I commend him for his work.
Ew, definition of “too much”
@litper: While I lost my virginity to a woman(she insisted)at age 26, and I don’t think women are “yucky”, woman parts don’t make me hot like a dick will. I just like a man to have long hair (and a beard) like they were designed to have. The furrier a man is, the hotter I think he looks. As shown by the comments on this site, people have different tastes in men. Mine is for HAIRY men, and I’m not repulsed by tattoos either, like some.
As someone around his age and remember the original interview….I about fell off my chair when I saw the current day Bob. He is still an attractive man but I don’t see ONE ounce of the previous Bob.
I think the more attractive we were as young gay man the harder it is getting older and totally loosing ALL bits of our original look. Some men grow older and just look like older versions of themselves, others evolve into a totally different look. It happened to me and it took me a long time to really accept I would never regain ANY of my former looks.
I would love to hear how this has effected someone like Bob who was, for all purposes, a perfect specimen.
@Bobby Christina Crawford:
We can look good at any age as long we accept the age we are. At least I think so.
Bob looks great–dapper, articulate, silver fox-hot. I wouldn’t necessarily kick the 20-something version of him out of bed, but I would be concerned about ball shrinkage and performance, if you know what I mean.
i met these two at a book signing in san diego shortly after their oprah show appearance and it was down-right disheartening. of course i didn’t expect them to offer up a threeway or even spend more than 15 seconds of personal time with me. but they seemed both distracted and disgusted by the block-long line of gay men who’d shelled out $20 something for their book and waited in line for over two hours to get it signed. they wouldn’t shake hands, they wouldn’t allow picture taking, and they made no eye contact with anyone/anything except for their watches as they counted down the seconds until they could get the eff outta there. after that OBVIOUS money grab, i never gave a flying fritatta about either one of those guys. instead of being ACTUAL role models, they were the exact thing the gay community did NOT need: two more stuck-up pretty boys who acted like you should be honored to be within 20 feet of them.
Dreams do come true. Now only if Bob would grow his beard back. That would make this sexy amazing inspiring man that much more. :) Glad to see more people coming out to inspire others!!
Never watched the show, but whenever I saw the commercials for it I always thought he was gay. Glad he came out on TV.
I am proud of my future husband!!!
Finally! I’ve never watched this show but I do know that he is the cutest
Hey Bob, everyone with eyes and ears already knew, buddy.
I thought he already came out? His wiki listed him as gay months ago.
@AEH: Unfortunately coming out is a process that usually have to do many times. Whether it’s someone not believing you, like a parent, new friends, colleagues. It appears he didn’t it more to help his client than to bring attention to himself.
@Caleb in SC, hands off my boy biaaatch!
Who didn’t know this? I was waiting for him to come out all along but I’m glad he did. I never once doubted the fact that he’s gay. The same thing happened when I was like 15 and I saw Ricky Martin and immediately I was like “he’s gay”, and I’m ALWAYS proven right!!!
Congrats, Bob. Welcome to our struggle and our community!!! I’m just so glad he chose to be honest at long last. I have hope now that things are finally getting better.
*sniff* I swear I wasn’t crying. This room is just dusty!!!
Good for him!
You mean this was supposed to be a surprise? I knew he was gay before that show was popular. That show is so fake. Jillian cheated to help her team (typical lesbian) and the people usually end up fat again after leaving. I find that whole show disgusting. “step right up! Come see that fatties. Watch as we make them run and jump and do embarassing stunts for your entertainment!” Its a form of abuse.
I remember watching on TV (I think it was “The Doctors) where Jillian Michaels said that she had met the love of her life, Bob Harper, on the show. She went on & on about their relationship. That made me scratch my head b/c I thought I had read rumors on the internet that they were both gay. Fast forward several months later, she comes out & now so does he. So she was definitely lying. Was he on the lie too?
@hotshot70: Cheating is typical of lesbians???
You said you find the show disgusting.
What I find disgusting is gay men who are prejudicial towards lesbians.
He has a nice body, but I’ll take Jillian.
He came out when he was 17 (31 years ago). I don’t think he meant it to be a big surprise.
I haven’t seen that show in years and never really watched it, but once I heard his voice, saw his mannerisms I knew he was gay. Not to mention his lisp was in OVERDRIVE.
You fell for that? I think everyone knows they made up that story to create a reason to bring Reuben back. The ratings dropped dramatically when he left, and this was the way to get him back without it seeming fishy. I don’t watch the show and even I know that
heres hoping that by doing as he did, it will encourage all other closeted celebrites to come out.
the only person they’re harming by not coming out is themselves.
the sooner more prominent people come out; the sooner the haters
in this country will realize that we’re no different from anybody
else except for who we love.
@viveutvivas: I see a gay version of The Hunger Games. Bring it!
And better yet, he was a gay FATTY who worked hard to get into the shape he’s in now, to help others as well. Now off to stuff my face for Thanksgiving lol
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