Evan and Addison Are Domestic Partners
I was just reading this book by a Rutgers University professor, Dr. Jaspir Puar – Terrorist Assemblages: Homonationalism in Queer Times. In this book, Puar talks pretty negatively about gay marriage. She’s not talking about every arrangement, but she does write: “Gay marriage…is not simply a demand for equality with heterosexual norms, but [is] a demand and reinstatement of white privileges and rights – rights of property and inheritance in particular…” Have you guys ever heard any arguments like that?
AS: Oh, yeah, of course. In terms of – at least for me – it’s something that we want to commit ourselves to each other and just have the ceremony before friends, but it’s not – I don’t think [that’s] exactly what we’re looking for. I’ve definitely heard that argument. I don’t know. How do you feel about that, Evan?
EH: I think, at least from my own personal experience, it’s not in any way tied to anything but the idea that you’re committing your life to someone. It’s not in anyway tied to -
AS: And we wanted to have a party with our friends.
EH: Right.
AS: And just be like, “Be happy for us†and such like that.
EH: True.
AS: In terms of things that we’re interested in fighting for, I mean, obviously the only parts of it are income – basic – property rights. There’s a host of rights that we would want, but in terms of the things I’m concerned about for the gay community, marriage is not the top. At all.
What is your main concern?
AS: I mean, there are just so many other things that are – gay immigration issues, trans issues, the way the whole ENDA thing went down – there are so many other things that are fracturing the community that I think that [Puar’s] argument stems from the fact that – you were just talking about – gay people kind of woke up and a lot of them being white and male and once they realized they couldn’t get married, that was the first time in their life they’d been told, “No.†But they also vote for Republicans and vote for all these other things that are extremely detrimental to every other part of the gay community.
Are they actually gay or just posing?
Who’s the third guy at the table? I’d like to marry him.
UM, You guys need to take the hand towels over the stove and place them someplace else.
Don’t want a fire do you?
Ha! Yes, afrolito, that’s a real life gay couple. Can you believe it?!
Those guys are adorable.
OMG they’re fucking adorable. Now I want to be gay… wait… I already am. damn!
At first I thought this was an article about gay brothers. They look related.
And we’re supposed to care about these guys why?
i want to be them.
Hate to burst their pink bubble, but domestic partnership isn’t marriage. Not even close.
They’re adorable. The story was sweet.
That post was full of warm fuzzies. It reminds me that I have the chance of meeting a guy and settling down.
Queerty should have more posts like this. It compliments the biting sarcasm and caustic wit that I’ve grown to love quite nicely.
What a snoozefest. I bet that you everything in their apartment is in neutral tones.
Thanks for the slice of life.
I want them to adopt me.
I guarauntee you, one of them is into scat.
they are friends of mine. they are genuinely that sweet, that funny, and that GAY. they are painfully lovable. and…the fact that they are so young and in a committed relationship is lovely to me, because i’m young and i married my partner in massachusetts in 2005 and it’s nice to feel like we’re not alone in going through it all.
I don’t think that’s a regular old neutral-toned hand towel over the stove, it appears to be a handmade, one-of-a-kind, bright yellow John Deere logo apron with a ruffled hem… and I bet EH looks *HOT* in it. xoxo
This should be forced reading for the ChristiaNazis, so they can see how sinful and hedonistic this lifestyle really is… YAWN…
Nice interview with a real gay couple. Glad to read and see coverage on regular people.
Great article. Guys, look me up when you get back to Austin. My bf and I are in our late 20′s and know plenty of families. johnnieb085@yahoo.com
Addison, I swear you get more press than anyone I know! First the Times article now this :)
You two are so cute, it makes me want to strangle a kitten! :)
I just saw Thai and Sean get married in Paris today. SO cute!
Ahhhh…Alan in Florida. I would expect such drivel from a tired queen in soFL. The land of serial killer and diabetes. Please don’t travel.