It was all fun and games until someone got hurt.
Openly gay Big Brother UK houseguest Aaron Frew (pictured) has been ousted from the show for âinappropriate behaviorâ and making unwanted sexual advances towards one of his straight housemates.
It all started when the 24-year-old and his fellow housemate, Joel, engaged in a a drunken game of âtruth-or-dareâ and Aaron, who was wrapped in a towel, offered Joel an impromptu peep show.
âStop it, please,â Joel replied. âI donât want to see your bottom.â
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Instead, Aaron ripped off his towel, exposing himself, then chased Joel, attempting to mount him.
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âThis is insane!â Joel cried. âYou need to control your behavior!â
Thatâs when producers stepped in. They told Aaron to cool off in the Diary Room, where he downplayed the incident as âbanterâ and apologized, saying: âI really apologize for what I did. âŚÂ Iâm really sorry. I didnât mean to offend him or you guys.â
But Joel remained traumatized. When it was his turn to hit the Diary Room, he told producers he felt âterribly awkwardâ and that his âpersonal space was violated.â
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The next day, Aaron was asked by producers to leave the show. Before departing, he once again apologized for the incident.
âIâm so sorry,â he said through tears. âThatâs all I can say. ⌠Iâm really so upset.â
While thereâs no denying Aaron may have gone too far, writer World of Wonder poses an interesting question: If he werenât gay, and the exchange had happened between two straight housemates who were just horsing around, would it have still resulted in one of them being fired?
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h/t: World of Wonder
Danny Severino
Why waste your time watching big brother anyhow.. It’s a has been show and a loads of crap.. Good on the lad for getting the straight lad.. It’s about time the straights were upset
Christopher Jon
I don’t make “unwanted” advances toward (alleged) “straight” guys,but if one of them comes at me with his homophobia I will bash his fucking face in and rip his teeth out with my bare hands!
Nik Hua
Isn’t this a reality tv show with the expectation of drama? What’s all the commotion?
DarthRidiculous
Are you freaking kidding me? That was clearly sexual harassment. He should have been let go. Same thing would definitely happen if they were both straight. To say otherwise is just dumb.
ethan_hines
This is a watered down version of the “Gay Panic” defence.
Xzamilio
It’s not an “interesting question”… it’s deflection. And I hardly see how the situation had it played out the exact same way would have been different if both were straight. If the other guy complained that his space was violated and that he felt terribly awkward, the producers would have the same issue on his hands. The premise in the last paragraph assumes that BOTH parties are “horsing around”, in which case, there is no problem. Speegle’s question was pointless because 1. We already know the answer is no because there would be cause for concern as both are consenting adults, and 2. Totally irrelevant to what happened.
Xzamilio
no cause for concern.
James Hart
This is bound to happen more frequently as gays become more visible. This is one way for conservatives to push back, by saying, “See, these gays are predators. Be careful straight men. This could happen to you.”
captainburrito
If a guy did this to a girl there should also be consequences. Not sure if it required rejection but at least more than a slap on the wrist was appropriate.
J Wesley Mays
I have a better question of comparison than the one posed at the end of the article: if the gay guy had been straight and the straight guy had been female, would we see it differently?
Avery Alvarez
@James Hart: You mean like straight men have been doing to women since forever?
Especially straight, christian conservative men and their habit of infidelity, child molestation, indiscretions of all kinds.
Sorry, but gay men still have a looooonngggg way to go before we catch up to the indecency of some straight men.
In other words, “Be careful public, straight, conservative men could do this to you, too!”
muscl954
His “personal space was violated”? It’s Big Brother!! There’s no expectation of having any personal space when you’re shacked up with a dozen other people and “performing” like idiots for the camera and ratings.
David Bolton
“But Joel remained traumatized.”
Riiiiiiiiight.
Sansacro
he flashed him and ran after him naked?! Sounds like what I remember from school locker rooms and frat houses. As for hypothetical gender reversal, sorry, there IS a huge historical power difference between men and women that is not present between men; and if it is, it is with straight men over gay men, not the reverse. This is B.S.
SteveDenver
This was unwanted sexual attention and not appropriate. Joel said not to do it and was ignored.
Now the gay guy who got kicked off the show is more than welcome to visit my place for comforting.
Captain Obvious
I wouldn’t want anyone to chase me around butt naked either.
SpunkyBunks
The producers GAVE a bunch of 20 y/o’s alcohol? They got exactly what they wanted, drunken drama. What a bunch of shit. I do hope the gays in the UK shit on this show, it’s been on too long.
Roberson Randy
No, he crossed the line. The decision to ask him to leave was the right one.
SportGuy
Good! This guy should have gotten kicked off! What a jerk
Cagnazzo82
If they were both straight, this would be the type of horseplay only close bros engage in.
You can’t get away with this type of behavior with someone you don’t know.
Rather than asking “if they were both straight would one get fired”, the question should be “if this were a straight male attempting to do this to a female guest would he get fired?”
The answer is yes.
Paco
Why would it be ok for him to do that to anyone, gay or straight? Had a guy done that to a woman, it would be called sexual assault and not “horsing around”. It certainly is a new world for gay men, and it looks like some us need to learn how to live in it. Even with sexual liberation, boundaries do exist and should always be respected.
DavidIntl
There is no excuse for boorish behaviour on the part of anyone, gay or straight. We shouldn’t squander our newfound acceptance in the world by trying to defend this sort of act.
Joe Trione
This isn’t a homophobic issue. He crossed the line after being asked several times to stop what he was doing. It’s embarrassing that we are in a community that thinks it’s okay to ridicule straight men because it’s funny/cute and not be able to handle the consequences of our actions. He went too far; plain and simple.
blackberry finn
@Nik Hua: Exactly. If I were worried about personal space and crazy behavior, I wouldn’t sign up for a reality TV show. If he had been straight nothing would have been made of it.
Cagnazzo82
@blackberry finn: If he had been straight and doing that to a woman, something would have *definitely* been made of it.
Saying that he should be allowed to do that because he’s doing it to another man is essentially asking for a double-standard.
Sluggo2007
Of course Joel was traumatized. Something hit home.
charmin88
He needed to go for being a drunken idiot yes, but I think the Straight guy was being dramatic with the whole ” I was traumatized” thing though.
Garth
Sad that it had to end this way. Both victims of misunderstanding. Aaron by thinking Joel was comfortable having these attentions put to him . Joel for laughing each time and not confronting Aaron on how uncomfortable it was making him feel.
IvanPH
I watch Big Brother UK. He’s the only one interesting in the show. Now, he’s gone, the show will have boring written all over it. By the way, the show has gone completely bullsh*t. Those who received the most nominations were declared safe by Big Brother and those with the least nominations are the ones subject to eviction. Ugh. Adios to this sh*t show.
Shawn Ewert
He should have been booted. He crossed the line. The sex of those involved doesn’t matter. It was s dumb thing to do, and he has to deal with the ramifications of his actions.
notevenwrong
@Sansacro, exactly, you put your finger on it: this isn’t comparable at all to a straight man chasing a woman around.
@Cagnazzo82, @SportGuy, @Paco, The power differential is opposite. This is comparable to a girl horsing around with a straight guy. No girl would have been kicked off the show for it.
Paco
@notevenwrong: I’m shocked you are comparing gay men to girls. Have fun with that I guess.
Cagnazzo82
@notevenwrong: This isn’t about a ‘power differential’. That’s entirely irrelevant.
Most straight men and straight women know better than to make unwanted sexual advances.
I have never seen a naked straight chick try to rub herself all over a guy in any reality TV show ever. I have seen plenty of horsing around though, both with men and women running around naked. But it’s never got to the point of putting your junk on someone who clearly is not interested in that kind of physical contact.
Like I said, that’s the type of nonsense you can pull with close bros, but even then that’s pushing it with most people.
It’s entirely inappropriate behavior doing that to someone you don’t know and who would prefer you to stop.
Paco
@notevenwrong: and gay men can be just as sexually aggressive and forceful as a straight man. The difference is that most straight men in the developed world have been trained social limits when it comes to females. Gay men now have to realize they too have limits toward what they are attracted to in this new, more open world.
notevenwrong
@Paco, way to willfully misrepresent what I said. Have fun with that I guess.
martinbakman
Don’t rub your doodle on other boys without permission!
Paco
@martinbakman: LOL! The new version of “The ‘bees’ and the bees” talk parents will need to give.
Roberson Randy
That was the right call. Suppose a girl did that to a guy she knew was gay?
SportGuy
Glad he got kicked off! Stupid twink thinking anyone wants to see your pasty, flabby butt, get over yourself. Thanks for making the community look worse than it already is.
Kal Andrews
Is that wrong? My straight mates never have problem with it.More times than not, they’re mounting me. It’s all in good fun.
David Chachki
Man i wish.
PRyan Uttzey
Mounting? Wow the choice of words is a bit laughable while correct.
Johnny Angelo Paccini
<3
stranded
IF the 2 housemates were straight or if the 2 were gay or if Aaron was straight and Joel was gay, or if one of them was a woman it really doesn’t matter. If at the end of the day Joel still felt uneasy and harassed, then yes, i think producers would have kicked Aaron out. The thing about horseplay, I think you really have to know the person your joking around with.
daveyboy1968
The straight guy needs to stop being such a wimp! Straight men do this sort of thing to each other all of the time, it’s not big deal, he needs to just deal with it. He can only be traumatised by this if he is insecure in his sexuality and is hiding something. ‘Personal space’ LOL at the PC Brigade. Ludicrous, he wanted the gay guy out because he is obviously homophobic.
daveyboy1968
You should see the level of ‘horse play’ that goes on in the army between straight men, often involving genital contact. No one is traumatised, they just deal with it. Their ability to deal with this is proof of their ‘straightness’ real men don’t crumble because someone flashed a willy at them LOL.
Paco
@daveyboy1968: how do you know that no one is traumatized? And why would a person that feels victimized by such “horse play”, say something when they risk further ridicule and degradation by the group? Your comment is proof of that ridicule and degradation. You don’t get to decide how someone feels about the inappropriate actions you have taken against them. Sheesh!
Jake Riley
A straight guy doing that to a straight girl would be completely inappropriate as well. Good call.
Zaikheura A'ttyey Tankir Fross
Yeah it was inappropriate since he asked him to stop. That’s sexual assault.
Lovelife
That is why i don’t have straight friends. They always want to get sexual about it. And when I don’t want to play, they say I take myself too seriously.
These are the types of scenarios that I avoid. Nobody wants to look like the guy who crossed boundaries. Poor Aaron- he needs a hug.
I think that if both were straight, he would have been called a “jerk” or an “asshole”. But even with that being said,this would not reflect badly on him being a human being.
But since he is gay,he will be known as “that gay guy who tried to mount a straight housemate”. đ
I am glad that people are starting to realize how unnecessarily limiting other people’s projections of your sexuality can be sometimes. Especially when having to deal with the stereotypes of the public.
Now they can get a feel of what its like to be part of a minority group and be judged only on that basis: When a great many people project their skewed view of your ethnic group/race and judge your behavior solely based on that.
cheetah69
@Christopher Jon: what are you talking about? “Rip his fucking teeth out?” Are you responding to this article?
FairyQing
lol
too much drama
Ken A.
If it were the straight guy doing it to the gay guy, would this be an issue or looked at as the straight was being gay friendly and cute?