What’s the tingly sensation that comes on when you Facetime with your siblings and their adorable kids? Is it baby fever, or are you just hungry for a quesadilla?
Count us squarely in the quesadilla camp as of now, but who knows — things change.
For these guys on Whisper, baby fever is as real as can be:
Paco
I’ve never wanted children. Maybe future generations of gay men will have access to artificial wombs someday. Watch their babies grow in a jar in a lab or something.
CaliKyle
Being a father someday has always been important to me. As a kid I loved playing with baby dolls as much as I loved sports. Thankfully my sister is also homo and was more than happy to swap two of my toy trucks for two of her baby dolls – I named them Baby Girl and Baby Boy and pretended I was their dad. I think a lot of men of all orientations have a strong paternal instict but are universally socialized to deny or reject it by the time we are toddlers.
Prinny
Why the hell would anyone want children ?
gayhope1990
They want kids because they know one day we get old and so they want not to be alone.It’s sad but gay people often finish alone when they get old.
ErikO
Baby fever?
I know gay men who wanted kids, so they adopted them. The one guy tried to use his sperm to get a lesbian who donated her eggs to have a kid but it did not work out.
But the majority of gay men I’ve met don’t have kids and do not want them; but some of them do raise their nieces and nephews which is a good thing.
CaliKyle
@gayhope1990: My impression of the typical Queerty commenter continues to grow increasingly dim. Way too high on the bitter mean queen quota it seems. Some of us want kids because we have an inherent instinct or intense desire to be parents. But yeah go on with your miserable selves and suggest that gay men who want kids only feel that way because theyre afraid of being alone in old age. What a load of ignorant crap.
Dave Downunder
I think most gay men are ‘programmed’ to feel that they don’t want kids because they never felt like it was an option for them so why want something that’s not possible. Now that laws and attitudes are changing and adoption and surrogacy are options for gay men it has become a possibility. For the first time all gay men are now faced with the possibility of having children if they choose.
The good news is that you know gay men’s babies will be planned and wanted rather than being accidental teenage pregnancies or people pumping out babies so they can get more welfare. The sad news is that due to the cost or surrogacy and adoption means testing it is going to be a much more expensive exercise for gay men than it is for straight couples. Even lesbians are better off because all they need is a sperm donor.
Dave Downunder
@CaliKyle: Ignore the narrow minded single vision trolls.
Dave Downunder
@CaliKyle: Ignore the narrow minded tunnel vision trolls.
CaliKyle
@Dave Downunder: Good advice, Dave, just sometimes hard to follow.
ErikO
@CaliKyle: If you want kids then adopt one or two. 🙂 That’s what my friend did and it had nothing to do with the idiot troll GayHope1990’s reason but because they wanted children and a family.
gayhope1990
I’m not a troll like you EriKo.I remember you whining about biphobia worst than homophobia.Pathetic weasel guy.It’s just a fact.My uncle told me so many times the loneliness of gay people in the end.That’s why I want to commit suicide when I’m going to be 50,I won’t have riddle.
Billysees
@gayhope1990: July 10, 7:06 pm
” They want kids because they know one day we get old and so they want not to be alone. It’s sad but gay people often finish alone when they get old. ”
Good and truthful comment.
@gayhope1990: July 11, 12:17 am
” That’s why I want to commit suicide when I’m going to be 50… ”
Dumb comment.
DCguy
Is it a good thing? Gee, are people being free to have kids if they want a good thing?
Yeah.
ted72
Personally, I don’t want any kids. They are a burden to my time and finances. But, I respect others for wanting them.
So ridiculous that xtians don’t want gays to adopt. There’s already so many unwanted kids out there and they’re not willing to take them in.
Gay people don’t need to go get surrogates as the planet is already over populated as it is. Just change the damn laws to allow us to adopt.
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CaliKyle
@ErikO: Adoption is a great option for some but I strongly prefer to have my own biological kids.
NateOcean
Jesus Christ, I hate “whisper”
Hussain-TheCanadian
@Prinny: I second this motion.
I hope to gawd I don’t get a partner who wants children.
An afternoon at my cousin’s, hearing their kids screaming and running makes me want to grab a pillow and choke someone.
Chris
Adopt or become a temporary foster parent; there are countless children out there who are in desperate need of a loving adult person to care for them. And yes, having “baby fever” (what an insulting term) is not a bad thing; it is what it is.