AB: Let’s talk about your childhood. Where did you grow up?
IC: I grew up in the suburbs of Philadelphia.
AB: And would you describe your childhood as a happy one?
IC: Is there any such thing?
AB: I don’t know. You tell me.
IC: I’m not going to make any broad generalizations, because I’ve actually met people who have had a happy childhood and it’s not my place to doubt them. I wouldn’t describe my childhood as happy. It wasn’t tragic, but no, it wasn’t a happy childhood. It was reasonably secure.
AB: I imagine like many gay people, you spent your childhood confused and alienated.
IC: I think that was a part of it. I’m sure some of the feelings of alienation had to do with being gay and not knowing. But there are all types of other reasons for feeling alienated.
AB: Who was your first celebrity crush? Do you remember?
IC: It was one of two people, I can’t remember which came first – Lauren Hutton – I had a really big time Lauren Hutton crush – and an actress-singer-songwriter called Ronee Blakely, which was a much weirder crush because she wasn’t anybody that too many people even knew. I saw her in Nashville – it wasn’t a youthful crush, it must have been a college crush – but for some reason I developed a massive, massive crush on her. I started finding out where she was singing and going to all her concerts. I went to RISD and I remember she was playing in Newport Beach, Rhode Island, and I dragged some boy I was dating out to see her.
AB: I take it that relationship didn’t end well!
IC: That relationship never even began! He was just a guy who would do what I wanted him to do!
AB: [Laughs] How old were you when you came out?
IC: I came out when I was twenty-four. I vaguely started coming out a little before that, but I went all through college not out and not dealing with it apart from major crushes.
AB: What spurred you to finally come out?
IC: Misery.
AB: That’s a big motivator.
IC: Misery and attraction – that ineluctable thing that makes you do the thing that terrifies you because you can’t stay away from it anymore.
AB: It was terrifying for you to come out to your parents?
IC: I didn’t come out to my parents until I was in a relationship.
AB: Were they supportive?
IC: Uh, no. Not to begin with. We had a long period of discord and a slow evolution of acceptance. You know, my parents are liberal Jews, they’re life long Democrats with reasonably progressive ideas, but they still weren’t prepared to have a gay kid and they were pretty upset about it and they said all the wrong things and some vile things. Over the course of time, they became a little more accepting, but the thing that made them fully accepting was having grandchildren.
AB: How do your parents feel about your career trajectory?
IC: They’re mystified by it – and delighted.
AB: Do they watch The L-Word?
IC: And they watch The L-Word! They now live in Tuscon – I grew up in Philadelphia, but for some reason my parents moved to Tuscon, but they found their community, they have their friends and a real community and they all watch The L-Word together and talk about it.
AB: That’s so cute.
IC: Cute and horrifying!
This is the coolest show ever! I’m so happy the girls have got their own show! Makes me proud, now come on guys!!
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The L word should continue even beyond the sixth season. I am the author of Butch and Butch II, now revised into one book, and I can say that the impact Butch has had on so many women, particularly young women, is both amazing and sad. One wrote that I kept her from suicide; another that antidepressants were her only relationship before she read the books. If there is a way for L word to continue, I will support it.
why steel the pregnant man stuff from the news, when you write so much better.
hello i wish i could email you personally i hope you get this my name is ashley i am a 21 year old lesbian and i loved the l word it has come to my attention that there is going to be a spin off and i think i would be a great addition to your new show i would love to try out please please contact me my email is ash8887@hotmail.com thank you so much
thank you, ashley
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Thank You-the lword has been an amazing series and helped me more than i can say over the past six yrs, in coming to terms with my sexuality and feeling good about who i am..i am so disappointed that the lword has finished!
i agree that season 6 was a bad ending…alice the killer?…soooo unlikely!…and tinas confession that is just not right! absolutely ruined tinas character! and i was so happy tina and bette made it…i could so realte to being in love with my first gf and never having been with another woman..
why would shane have burnt her business down?…then swear off dyke drama?…doesnt make sense…and why would she not go after molly now she knows…it is a rather a disappointing finale to a fantastic series…
why did it have to become so far fetched and finish..surely it could have run for years with good story lines…days of lives is crap and has run for too long…but its still going…whats with that?!? six seasons only?
perhaps ilene feels she has done enough..pity no one else stepped up as she hoped.. perhaps she could develop the cageny and lacey idea further herself or other similar shows…lol
i dont think she made a mistake with the dana story even though it was v.sad it raised alot of awareness and money for very worthy causes..
i dont agree with the negative reviews about ilenes work..i think she is very talented indeed…i am just left with numerous questions none of whichi like to speculate about…
i dont have stories or ideas..just a please fill the gap that is now missing with no lword to look forward to…