Each week online comedian, voice actor and chest hair model Sam Kalidi creates a new meme for Queerty readers. This week he examines the eternal question: How do you know when you’ve found Mr. Right? Sam looks forward to all your hate mail. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and at your local glory hole.
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Dave Basora
I met him, married him and six years later he died.
Ben Price
Yes
Nate Gallagher
I can’t even find Mr. Wrong. I haven’t been on a date in so long it’s embarrassingly ridiculous.
Patrick Crawford
Haha nope
Kieru
I met Mr. Right nearly 10 years ago and we’re getting married later this month. Can’t claim that he “fixed me” as I don’t really feel like I was broken. He certainly makes my life better though.
Sweetie Pie
I did meet him, 10 years later I married him, he died two years after we got married, and the memories remain
Devin Nix
Awwwww. They gonna need some super glue for me.
Desert Boy
Yep and I married him.
Jonathan26
I met him nearly 18 years ago & married him two years ago. He’s the best & I adore him every day.
Glücklich
@Kieru:
Ditto this.
GQ83
Nope! I quit looking. tried the dating websites and nobody likes to date…they just wanna bang, and bars and clubs are crappy places to meet guys so…
Ladbrook
I met him in 2006 and dated him for 5 yrs. Unfortunately, I wasn’t his Mr Right, so we broke up and moved on. It still hurts, but I don’t blame him, or myself. You can’t make someone fall in love nor can you hold him accountable if his feelings don’t match yours. Love sucks, sometimes, but you still have to try.
I’ve been casually seeing the current guy for almost two years. It’s great, but he’s not Mr Right, and I don’t think I’m his Mr Right either. We enjoy each other, respect each other, and are having a good time. For now, that works for both of us.
And yes… still in love with the original guy. Like I said, love sucks, sometimes.
onthemark
Although this is wonderfully romantic, I think things like this can be very discouraging to some guys. I read a lot of comments here from young guys who seem to have extremely unrealistic expectations.
Instead of yearning for some perfect soulmate who will “fix” everything, maybe just think in terms of someone compatible. Someone to get along with and have fun with. Not a walking Hallmark card.
It’s not always a great idea to see yourself as “broken,” anyway! Why, exactly, is that concept so appealing to so many? I don’t get it. It just doesn’t seem emotionally healthy to me.
Carlos Rodriguez
No I haven’t.
Arcamenel
Nope and I honestly don’t care to.
ronwol
We have been together 42 years, and still going! Not married yet, but will be soon.
Steven Burr
nope
Glücklich
@onthemark:
Ditto all of this.
Same with the idea of having to be in each other’s pockets *ALL* the time. I can’t tell you how many askance looks I used to get because my husband and I from the outset weren’t joined at the hip or on the phone to each other every waking minute. We’re grown-ups. Neither of us is the absolute center of the other’s universe. We understand each other’s need to have extended alone time and luckily our schedules and obligations work out where that’s easily accomplished.
ingyaom
This is not constructive: “Poor me, all broken up in itty-bitty pieces. Only the perfect man can fix me.” Let’s grow up, fellows.
robho3
I met mr right and he gave me herpes
skalidi
@Glücklich: Bitter.
skalidi
To all the people who constantly leave negative comments: Please remember to take your antidepressants and have a wonderful weekend 🙂
onthemark
@skalidi: Antidepressants? No way! Those kill the sex drive, you know.
spiffy
This one is really sweet; but realistically most guys can’t see beyond the broken pieces. Especially if you’re older.
NJjoe
Yeppers. Sixteen years strong and 2 years married. We are very happy with the ups and downs of any other couple- gay or str8.
Sam Maloney
I have met Mr. Right! But it’s not his job to fix me! We both have issues (I may have a few more) and we both work on them. But we love each other for who we are right now, not some imaginary ‘repaired’ version of who we might be someday.
Don’t let some silly ‘perfect’ ideal keep you from appreciating what’s right in front of you, and don’t let some image of yourself as ‘broken’ make you think you don’t deserve love… or that anyone else can ‘fix’ you– the right person can make you see that you aren’t all that broken to begin with.
Kenny Walker
Not had a date in Nearly 10 years let alone found Mr Right
Curty
Thankfully I have. A good man. Chris. Been dating almost a year but have been friends longer…
Cityrat2015
27,000 years; I mean 27 years. It’s all good. Hopefully at least another 27 more.
silveroracle
I met him in 2000. It lasted 6 long years.
We just didn’t fully gel.
He’s now been in a civil partnership for 2 years. I get on with him and his new partner fine.
I’m still single…
bottom250
Everyday Mr.Right now
Blair Stewart
No.
lauraspencer
Yes, I have. Every morning I wake up, roll over and get out of bed and look in the mirror and see him. Thank you Mom & Dad for raising me to stand on my own two feet, support myself, make friends and be HAPPY with who I am and not be co-dependent.
If I meet the right guy who can add to my life it will only be better than it already is, but right now as a single guy it isn’t all that bad.
blkluvla
@Nate Gallagher: lol @ Mr. Wrong
woodroad34
Not sure. I thought I had and his alcoholic abuse ruined something nice…used to like religion, too. Now I’m too paranoid about potential mates. Like the picture though…I also like sci-fi and fairy tales.
Terry Stith
Yep! I sure have!!
Jonathan Cortez
Unfortunately no… =( and i don’t think I ever will.
Sebizzar
Nope, 23 and no dating experience whatsoever. Life never agrees with me so it seems it’ll just stay this way for an even longer time.
notevenwrong
Mr. Right is a Hollywood/TV fantasy. There are many other ways to find purpose and meaning in this world. People who think their purpose in life is to “find happiness” are often the unhappiest.
Glücklich
@notevenwrong:
Exactly.
The only one who can make you happy is you.
Do you think the world owes you a living? No? Then why would the world owe you happiness?
Larry
None of us need to be fixed and we should not have friends or relatives that think we need to be fixed. We all just need to find someone who accepts us.
onthemark
@Sebizzar: “Life never agrees with me…”
That’s awfully grim for 23. If your local library has “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Dummies,” check it out!
I think your blog is very cute. I like the cats.
Doug
Nice to know I’m not the only one who’s experiencing what seems like the impossibility of meeting Mr. Right… every friend I have has hooked up with someone except me. The only guys I can seem to meet are looking for sex, “with no strings attached…”
David Thiel
Every time I do find someone cool they see all the stuff I own and try to take advantage. I wish I could just find someone who was cool, like me!!
Sebizzar
@onthemark: At first I thought you were just calling me a dummy lol, but thanks I’ll look for it 🙂 Also thank you for the blog compliment!
DavidIntl
I did meet Mr. Right, and married him – and it was the most incredible feeling that I never thought I would experience. Unfortunately due to a lot of pressures on the relationship – mainly from his family – we couldn’t hold it together. But I refuse to believe he is the only one on the planet, so I keep looking.