[Editor’s note: We’ve asked John Carroll, noted Broadway performer, writer, activist to give back to the community in a way that wouldn’t cause our readers to need a prescription for penicillin. Since that wasn’t an option, he came up with this advice column. We’ll let him take it from here.]
Have a problem? Need some good advice? Well, you could bend the ear of a trusted confidant to give you some sage words of wisdom…or you could go against your better judgement and just ask me. You can contact me at [email protected] or follow me on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
Enjoy episode two in which I help “Nick” with his communication problem below.
https://youtu.be/sXHP0QQgOnY
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Chris Withers
How about… finding a healthy, modern relationship? haha 😀
musctop
So whose boyfriend is this over at Queerty that they keep relentlessly plugging an unfunny hack?
Gary Wilson
They did seem to leave out an important part.. lol
Anthony Tubbs
I was really curious to read his take on the subject but about halfway through this video I had to stop it because I couldn’t handle it anymore. He seems more interested in his body and working out and stories about little old ladies than actual, helpful advice. *yawn*
Victor Barry
Never go to qweerty for advice on anything.
Alex Williams
All you need is communication, empathy, and Valtrex.
martinbakman
If this queen can’t navigate an encounter at a doorway without getting all bitchy with a stranger, that might be a good clue whether he is worthy dating material. I hope his mom is OK though. Glad the walker broke her fall.
Whether with a stranger, a friend or your lover, there are ways to interact with other people without escalating a situation.
Just because someone else is acting like they own the world, doesn’t mean we have to get all butt hurt and add to the negativity.
McShane
John, are you trying to piss people off? Honestly. Gene Belcher wants his keyboard back.
KJ
It’s supposed to be funny, and then it’s not. Of course, it is best to remember that if one turns to a narcissist for advice, one really does need advice.
Glücklich
Apologies for being TOTALLY off topic but does anyone know in which building this gym is? I’m happy with mine but it’s one of those things where, like, the view… I can tell it’s up right around MSG (I live in the W dowtown) but which building?
Milton Appleby
Advice should be taken with a grain of salt. Not every relationship is the same. Of course the obvious and most important piece of advice of all regardless is open communication.
polarisfashion
I am a little older and a little wiser now. My next relationship will be with a guy that has a mature attitude and knows what he wants in life. I also want to be spoiled, not necessarily with gifts but I want someone that loves to cuddle all the time and be affectionate with me.
Cam
Oh shit, the videos from this guy are going to become a regular thing? Ugh, I used to complain about Davey Wavey, guess this is what I get for that.
This video reminded me of the unpleasant conversation you get trapped into at a friends party, somebody is drunk, leaning in and won’t shut up, but you don’t want to be rude because it’s your friends party, and this person is a friend of theirs or a relative, so you have that look on your face…………..the look that anybody sober could read as “How long do I stand here before I can just walk away without being a total dick?”
Jonathan Lund
The problem with gay men after coming out is there’s no soul there. They never have kids or find dates because they never developed any character, compassion, responsibility or compromise. Because most of us miss out on having kids we miss out on there being an incentive for being a good guy, a role model and having a well-rounded life, even doing the things you don’t wanna do. Since we don’t have to do any of this, we become rigid, rude, rejecting and very nasty towards each other. Rather than grown, confident men all I see are narcissistic princesses who all expect the most masculine, built, youngest guy possible or nothing at all. It’s THIS attitude why nothing’s happening. We want it all our way or not at all. This is why more gay men can’t stand each other and fewer of us go to events anymore because we’re tired of seeing this every time.
Tedd Alan Cherry
I very well doubt that queerity has any sound advice for any relationship.
Xzamilio
Okay, this guy is like “fetch”… stop trying to make him happen. Bring back Alex Miu!!!
Xzamilio
I meant Alex Liu
Chip Allman-Burgard
Meh
Bauhaus
@Jonathan Lund:
Wow. You’re full of crap.
Uncv1
How annoying! Not funny at all.
Cam
@Jonathan Lund: said… “The problem with gay men after coming out is there’s no soul there. They never have kids or find dates because they never developed any character, compassion, responsibility or compromise. Because most of us miss out on having kids we miss out on there being an incentive for being a good guy, a role model”
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Awwww, did somebody have a bad date and now all gay men are bad? Here is a thought Johnathan, get your baggage under control and stop trying to pass it off to the rest of us.
If gay men never have kids or find dates, remind me then, who are all of those gay men marrying if they never had dates? Why are anti-gay bigots trying to pass laws preventing spouses from adopting kids if gay men never have kids?
Children think that the entire world is the same as what they’ve experienced, adults know better. Here is a thought, if you have never met a gay man with a good soul, that is probably because you have nothing to offer a gay man with a soul, that you are just as soulless as those you are complaining about.
san39730
I seriously weep for the future of gay men and our ability to form lasting and intimate relationships.
Cam
@san39730:
And once again, somebody bringing their phony baggage in here and painting everybody with the same brush.
Guess all of those thousands of gay men who have been together for years, lining up to get married, are fake?
Or are you really weeping for YOUR inability to form a long lasting relationship? Once again, don’t paint everybody with your issues.
Bauhaus
@san39730:
It’s normal feeling melancholy after a break-up, rejection, getting dumped. Stop weeping for your OWN inability to form long lasting and intimate relationships, and do something about it.