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William Holahan
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Ben Goldman Miara
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Giancarlo85
Yessssss… More whiny bitches from whisper. So how much did queerty get in their PayPal account this time? If any of these quotes are real, these losers need to get over themselves.
Maude
How hard can it be? Really. Go out and pick up a trick. Develop a friendly relationship with benefits. Go to gay functions.
Invite people over for whatever.Go on a gay cruise ship.
It ain’t gonna cum to you…you gotta go out and get it.
Marky
Yeah, solution: gay friends. Straight friends will never ask you about anything, give you the deer in the headlghts look when you talk about men and then expect you to listen to all of this crap about their relationships while appearing genuinely concerned, even after witnessing their ten tons of bs. Get gay friends.
Giancarlo85
Funny how these losers talk more about their straight male friends. Another tip: stop trying to be “one of the guys”. Look at how miserable mask pride is… Do you want to be like that?
lauraspencer
Not sure why it is so difficult in 2015 to make friends in urban or rural areas.
With all the apps, websites, gay visibility it isn’t like it is 1995 or 1985. Do these guys expect friends to be delivered to their doorstep?
Bob LaBlah
No matter how “lonely” they are claiming to be I’ll bet they ALL have online-hookup-site profiles. Quit being do damn narcissistic and try understanding that the word hello does not mean “I want to fuck you” and you in a short time you might find that friend you needed all along, YOU.
A person has to be very self loathing to know that they are gay but for some reason can not/will not make gay friendships. In my day we spoke to people and made eye contact whether we were turned on or not. To us, it was the polite and RIGHT thing to do. Even when I arrived in California at age 18 people did the same thing there IN THOSE DAYS as we did back home in the midwest; they talked to their neighbors and said hello and such without sex being attached.
Knowing where these kids featured here live would help determine why they are in that situation. If they live in rural parts of the country then I can understand better why they feel that way. In NYC, San Francisco, West Hollywood or any part of southern California I blame narcissism and suggest they get off line and stay away from social media for a few months. Online friends aren’t the same as face to face-lets-go-see-a-movie type friends.
I am so happy I came along during the time I did. This electronic/information age bullshit has produced more passionless vegetables than the Crusades could have ever prayed for.
Bob LaBlah
@lauraspencer: “Do these guys expect friends to be delivered to their doorstep?”
Yes, they do. You have to understand two things about all of those featured; I am YOUNG, I’m CUTE, and I am ME. Bred in them was the mentality where; when I demand friendship and sex MY specifications must be met or else the world shall stop turning; the wind will stop blowing; the ocean waves will no longer hit the shores; the sun won’t rise in the morning…until I get what I want.
They are what they are; things to be laughed at LOUDLY. A picture that THEY posted online makes them a star so of course what ever they want has to be delivered to them ON DEMAND. lol
tdh1980
Ah. Great. More whining from the anonymous babies of Whisper. Do you know why you feel awkward talking to your straight friends about your gay life? Because either they’re homophobes or you are. Most of my friends are straight, yet I have no problem being myself around them because we all are comfortable with who I am. Moreover, if you want to be part of a gay brotherhood, then for goodness sake, go out and be social with other gay men. There are sports leagues, book clubs, volunteer organizations, choruses, social justice groups, etc. But I guess it’s easier to bitch and moan than to do something.
sportsguy1983
What a bunch of whiny dumb@sses. The people they are complaining about are obviously not their real friends. Go out and find real friends: gay or straight. No one can make you the token gay unless you let them.
Giancarlo85
@Bob LaBlah: Um is it all about hooking up for you?
Look, one can get friends in other ways. Even high schools have GSA/LGBTQQI Alliances these days. I’m not sure back in your time (was it during the Great Depression right?) they had such organizations.
“In NYC, San Francisco, West Hollywood or any part of southern California I blame narcissism and suggest they get off line and stay away from social media for a few months.”
I didn’t realize NYC was part of Southern California. Damn we really are a huge state. Just kidding… but seriously, do you always have to make swipes at California? Most people here just work for a living. And I have a large group of gay Latino friends (who are JUST friends by the way, and some have been in committed relationships for a long time). I often hang out with one and his husband and we go to movies, events (like film festivals when they occur). I’ve been his bestfriend since college (I’m 30 now, and he’s about the same age). He just got out of med school.
Friends are possible anywhere. I have straight male friends too and I don’t constantly cry to them about being gay.
These whiny bitches on Whisper are always spouting off the same.
@tdh1980: Organizations are everywhere… even at colleges and high schools. College can be a great way to grow many friendships (or fuck around or a combination of both… or BOTH AT THE SAME TIME – JUST BEING HONEST!)… of course one shouldn’t let fun detract from schooling. It’s all about a balance.
Giancarlo85
Oh and queerty… I’m sure that guy holding the flag would find it offensive you’re including his picture in an article like this one. He’s obviously out and proud… none of these whiners on whispers are.
martinbakman
Are there really gay book clubs? Where gay dudes sit together and have a civil discussion about popular literature? Would be awesome.
SonOfKings
When I was younger, I had a pretty wide circle of gay friends, male and female. Over time that circle has dwindled to next to nothing, with life changes, relocations,etc. It’s very hard to make new gay friends these days because everything seems to be about sex and hooking up. And you have these viscious queens out there who delight in tearing other gay men down. All my male buddies at the gym now are straight. You try and say hello to another gay man in the weight room and he thinks you’re after his tail.
Giancarlo85
@SonOfKings: Maybe you should change the venue where you say hi to gay men. Want to know how I met my bestfriend? At Rage (Club) in West Hollywood. And we were just friends. Not everything has to be about sex or hooking up… even at a club.
And who vicious queens are these? Nice swipe lol. Swing and miss.
Rimmington
Do what I did. Become a hermit.
Captain Obvious
Internet whines.
AtticusBennett
do what i did – get off your butt, go out, take part in things and make gay friends.
gay men who do not have other gay male friends are showing a learned aversion to gayness; gay men don’t just naturally not understand or bond with each other; we’re conditioned not to. break the cycle.
i’ve taken my times being a “token gay” in stride – both times i went to university i was the “first gay person’ many of my classmates had ever known. i took it as a rad opportunity to let them see what a gay person can be: Out. proud. strong.
but gays – BOND WITH YOUR FELLOW HOMOS!
take part in LGBT groups. get involved. activism is sexy!
if you live in a place with few gay people, accept that your pool of potentials will be shallower. get to the cities if you wanna find a strong gay brotherhood – it exists. i’ve been thoroughly enjoying it for 16 years.
Bob LaBlah
@martinbakman: “Are there really gay book clubs? Where gay dudes sit together and have a civil discussion about popular literature? Would be awesome.”
I met some really cool guys at the Gay Center in NYC book club meetings years ago. We used to meet once a month and discuss what we were writing or had read. It was great until all of a sudden these “authors” started showing up who had written books about how they, and THEY alone, destroyed their lives with meth, sex……..and couldn’t for the life of them understand why no one wanted to BUY a book about problems that they (the authors) had created themselves or worse yet many of them already had. I tell you it just got pathetic to the point I stopped going. The last meeting I attended was back in 2006.
What you could do is contact the local library and see how much their hourly rate for a meeting room rental is and then run and ad in the local college paper or gay publication about your club and see where it goes. Good luck.
onthemark
Goofily pathetic Whispers, as usual! But I’m glad to see that these guys even WANT to find gay friends of the platonic sort.
Much of the whining from young guys lately is “I can’t find a boyfriend!” “Everything just wants to hook up!” and a short step from that to “The gay community is so shallow!” (woe is me, boo hoo hoo, sniff.) They think a bf would solve ALL their problems. A lot of them seem never to have given any thought to this subject. But gay non-sexual friends are important.
Baba Booey Fafa Fooey
@Giancarlo85: yes. It’s hate yourself Sunday!
CWM85
Even as closeted I was in high school, I still made gay friends. You just have to go out and connect. Its easier now that you have social media. In 2003, I wasn’t on social media and still had a circle of openly and closet gay friend’s.
CWM85
I feel like these people on whisper are very behind in the social world. Are they in remote anti gay areas or something?
CWM85
Giancarlo85 would be a vicious queen as he attacks so many people on here for nothing, simply for stating an opinion. Why has he been banned for attacking folks on here?
Glücklich
Change the name of this piece of shit app to “Whiner” already.
That lever sticking out perpendicular to your door? You turn it and *surprise!* the fucking door opens buncha fuckin’ cry-babies.
Giancarlo85
@CWM85: Just had to attack me for no reason. Can you go back to saying “hi” every post. It suits your style better. I didn’t attack anyone here.
Everyone else is criticizing this whisper nonsense.
Glücklich
@onthemark:
A couple handfuls of benzos washed down with a bottle of vodka’ll solve all of these whiners’ problems.
Jcr003
Maybe these guys don’t have gay friends because everyone they meet is as bitchy, hateful, and unsupportive as those who have posted here.
Glücklich
@Jcr003:
More likely they’ve got their faces buried in a phone every waking minute and can’t carry on a conversation.
Mack
I can kind of understand where some of these “whispers” are coming from. I was in the same situation and it sucks. But came across a person who became my friend and he has a group of gay guys who goes out for dinner once a week and once a month we have a potluck at one of the guy’s house. Some in the group are married, some are single, some retired, some have kids, some live by themselves. But once a week we meet and talk.
Get off the media and meet people, start your own group of friends that meets once a week or if that’s too often, once every two weeks but get out of the house, put away the phone and talk. You will find life long friends.
Brian
Identifying as gay already sets you apart as a man. What you should identify as is as a man. All men should unite and feel comfortable as men regardless of sexuality.
Daniel-Reader
Three easy ways to meet gay friends – who will run the range from masc to fem and are great to just hang out with so you will fit in no matter who you are (as long as you are looking for friends and not just looking to whine all the time). First, join a chorus. Men’s, women’s, and mixed GLBTA choruses are all over the place. Second, join a GLBTA sports group – soccer, rugby, softball, volleyball, basketball, skiing, cheerleading, American football, etc. They cover wide types of sport and once again participants are a nice mixture of masc to fem so you’ll have fun and meet a nice variety of friends. Third, join a GLBTA church like MCC, or other GLBTA religious group. Welcoming groups have social events all the time where it’s easy to make friends. Just like straight people, gay people have to make an effort to gain and keep friends as we get older, but it is worthwhile.
Gartholomew Nichols
I’ve always been friends with straight guys and never felt alone or that I couldn’t talk to anyone. Maybe I just have good friends… :/
Glücklich
@Daniel-Reader:
Excellent suggestions.
Note to Whiners: Nothing in Daniel-Reader’s suggested activities includes team or group screen-staring (unless you join a “gaymer” group).
It sounds very do-goody but I’ve met friends through volunteering organizations: cleaning up the AIDS grove in Golden Gate Park, Coastal Clean-ups, etc. Find an area that interests you and see if there’s some way to involve yourself.
A lot of museums, too, have free or reduced-price evening programming that brings together a wide range of locals. I live in SF so I’m biased toward Cal Academy and FAMSF, plus I’m a member of both, but check out your nearby museums, botanical gardens, film societies, college/university…I think libraries sometimes do a seasonal reading list and people meet up there as a library-sponsored book group…take a class for fun or to enhance your skills (I met a lot of people while I studied for CFA and CAIA charters).
http://deyoung.famsf.org/programs/fridays
http://www.calacademy.org/nightlife
Do stuff on your own you’re waiting to do with your gay friend, like a road trip, go to the movies, try that new restaurant, see a show, go to a game, whatever. I don’t know why people have such a block on doing shit alone.
CWM85
I’m the only known gay person in my entire family. Whisper trying living with that lol
Glücklich
@CWM85:
Most of us are likely in that boat. I know I am and glad of it.
CWM85
I was just making a joke… I’m fine with it… I know a family with several gays, bis…
Giancarlo85
@Brian: I identify as genderqueer and raise a middle finger to your outdated views of what makes gender.
Bob LaBlah
So now we’ve gone from cis-something-or-other to genderqueer, what ever the hell that is?
Giancarlo85
@Bob LaBlah: Oh I’m sorry that term didn’t exist when you were growing up during the Great Depression. Sorry, but this is 2015. Not 1935. I never said anything about being “CIS”.
dustashed
the narcissism is real.
If you are really friends with them you would be as excited as they are when they are telling you about their sexcapades or their latest conquests.
This shouldnt even be an issue if you are really friends with them, I know there is an initial awkwardness but that shouldnt last for more than a few days. When I came out to my college buds, they thought they were being pranked, then the awkwardness came for a day or two. then it normalizes. Just keep doing what you have always been doing as friends and it will all normalize. If they really are your friends, and you really are their friend then it should overcome any biases or prejudice that they have.
Yes I had a friend who was really shocked and sort of mad angry about it and tried to distance himself from me. I did not allow that to happen, me being his friend recognize that he is in need of my understanding and showed him that I am still his friend and given our long history.. he will be my friend whether he likes it or not. He finally came around and now even asks me about who I date or fuck
dustashed
There are times that you absolutely shouldnt give up on ties of friendship just because of the initial reaction of rejection. Some friendships are worth fighting for.. yes its true that they should have been more accepting at the get go. But some people need the help, and it is the duty of those who understand more to understand those that need to be understood.
Don’t give up on friendships so easily, bite the bullet and endure the initial pain of rejection. Sometimes it can save a friendship and even make it stronger
just my 2 cents
Bob LaBlah
@Giancarlo85: Why am I NOT surprised that you don’t remember saying that just about a year ago (I do remember it was cold outside when you swore on a stack of bibles you were a cis-something or other.
I guess next you will try to lay claim you didn’t post this video of you outside the Arena during gay pride? You posted this video and then went back and changed the name of it so that no one would figure out who that is in the blue torn dress.
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=mexican+drag+queens+fighting
Giancarlo85
@Bob LaBlah: I never have used the term “CIS”. You don’t even know what that means. Regardless, it isn’t a term I have EVER used. You made that up because you don’t simply dont like me.
I don’t really care what derogatory crap you have to say to me. I never posted that video. Just another one of your long list of lies. You can’t help but lie whenever you respond to me.
Nobody likes liars.
Bob LaBlah
@Giancarlo85: Its the first video at the top. And yes, you said both that you were a cis-gender and that is you in the top video. I always thought before I saw it that that is what you looked like. I knew it in my heart. The dead give away was when you went back and changed the name of it. I have a very good memory.
SonOfKings
@Giancarlo85: Dude, I could write a book about numerous random, recent encounters I’ve had with gay men in various bars, clubs, pubs and the like that were quite horrible. Many of these exchanges start out as friendly chit chat, but soon turn ugly as you realize many of these men are controlling, egomaniacal sociopaths out to hurt somebody. You may not realize this yet but gay men over thirty are often psychologically damaged goods due to all those years in the pressure cooker of our lifestyle. High levels of education and professional achievement provide no immunity from crazy. You tell yourself, “Maybe I need to put myself in classier settings to avoid these trainwrecks. But professional, accomplished gay men are often prove to be more articulate nut cases. A guy I’d been friendly with for a year got a little drunker than usual and turned on me like a venemous snake. In another recent instance, a gay medical professional who aggressively introduced himself to me ran me out of the bar after trying to read me and shade me. I was not having it. I’ve done they gay volleyball matches, the gay barbecues, the gay discussion groups and book clubs. I would just advise anyone looking for “friends” in those setting to tread carefully. A lot of these people have been hurt and scarred, and they are looking to get back at somebody who reminds them of a type of person they never did like. Like the song says, “A smile is a frown turned upside down.”
Giancarlo85
@Bob LaBlah: You have a very good memory? Apparently not. Must be the Alzhemiers. I never said anything about “CIS”. In fact I said I never use the term. You are a vicious little liar… and not a very good one at that.
Do you even know what “CIS” means? A “CIS Male” is a BIOLOGICAL MALE. But I do not USE the term. I never have. And I never said anything about some stupid youtube video you ORIGINALLY posted.
You need a major attitude adjustment.
@SonOfKings: Wow. Here are the tissues. Maybe you’re interacting with the wrong people. Apparently you are. I remember you in the past though always crying about complainign about your own situation like the people on Whiner, I mean Whisper. Are you sure you didn’t come up with these quotes yourself?
*passes the tissue box*
Verlaine
Here’s an idea. Stop making your primary occupation being gay. Maybe find a worthwhile occupation, and work at it, get good at it. You’ll meet people who like you for being yourself. You may find a lover. If not, at least you can say you are more than gay.
moldisdelicious
Why should sexual orientation matter when it comes to finding a true friend assuming that’s what these people are looking for? A true friend will accept you for who you are where you don’t need to hide anything from them. They don’t care if you’re gay or straight. They care about you. Just because you have a gay friend or two doesn’t mean that they care about you. I’ve heard enough stories of gay men talking about how they’ve been betrayed by their gay friends. Moral of the story is true friends are hard to come by and just because someone shares the same characteristics you do doesn’t mean that they’re going to get along with you or be right for you.
moldisdelicious
@Verlaine:
Agreed.
dustashed
@moldisdelicious: this exactly. gender or sexual orientation shouldn’t be a criteria for finding/choosing/making friends.
n900mixalot
@Verlaine: I am getting the feeling that you guys live where the gay flows freely. Where I live, everyone is in the closet. It’s pathetic. I’m not and I have tons of friends, all straight of course, or struggling to live straight. I don’t think I have one single gay male friend here … it gets lonely. But I have a husband and we do just fine, though I’m used to being more social
with a broader variety of friends.
It’s not that these guys ONLY want gays friends. It’s obvious to me that they are reaching out to broaden the variety of friends they have and in many places, including where I live, it isn’t possible.
markgtx11
The problem with these Whisper guys is that they probably want/expect exact gay friend clones of their current straight friends–or demand that they be guys who provide a positive reflection of themselves socially, physically, or otherwise within their present social network. You see the same thing in a lot of gay “Mean Girls” social circles–those who only accepting as friends other guys who meet their narrow superficial requirements. So if you are still struggling with internalized homophobia, the thought of bringing someone into your current circle of straight friends that might not be an exact fit would definitely seem like a daunting task. Easier to sit at home and wait for the phone to ring….or collect pretty friends on Facebook.
But finding gay friends can be very difficult. Many gay guys are like a lot of women (and some straight men) and assume the only reason a man would engage them is because they want to have sex with them. Often times just being polite is perceived as a come-on, especially from younger gay guys. Most of the time this is a projection of their own mentality, but even with the discomfort over discussing gay things, having straight friends is usually infinitely less complicated for many of the reasons already identified.
This is mostly because most of the straight friends these guys have were friendships developed as a result of an association or specific circumstance where they got to know each other and bonded–such as sports teams, school, work, etc. There was a common denominator that allowed them to get to know each other and develop a lasting friendship beyond who they have sex with. That is why when these guys came out to them the had a shared relationship that was more substantial and allowed them to overcome some of the initial awkwardness and homophobia.
But when you try to base a friendship on nothing more than a shared sexual orientation, past hookup, mutual physical attraction, or because that person is a positive superficial extension of your ego–then you will may not find the kind of substantive relationships that are truly fulfilling. While many of us have found great friends in some of these ways, I think it is safe to say it has been the exception rather than the rule.
Out of this frustration I started a successful book group for gay men in the city I lived in. About 15-20 gay men from all walks of life who probably would never have even bothered to say hello to each other in a gay scene venue would have a great time during a two-hour discussion every month on a book they had selected and agreed to read. Did they all become great friends? Probably not. However, for many of these gay men it was their first opportunity to really connect with other gay men unlike themselves in a non-sexual way and really enjoy themselves. The book club or discussion was that non-sexual common denominator (although sex was often a topic!) that allowed them to get to know each other beyond the superficial judgements that are often our own worst enemies in the gay community. It was great to see such a diverse group having fun and really talking to each other on a deeper level. I have seen it happen, but sometimes you can’t just wait around–you have to make it happen.
Bitching about the reality someone hasn’t created for you on blogs and social media can only get you so far! 🙂
Giancarlo85
@n900mixalot: Maybe relocation is something to be considered if it is so horrible.
Bob LaBlah
@Giancarlo85: And you need to take your meds and quit trying to tear off the clothes of other queens who are younger and prettier than you will ever be. As the video shows, you lost this one. It was you whose ass got EXPOSED, shall we say? And why did your posse have to join the fray?
And by the way, that free loader who can’t figure out for the life of her that her johns got tired of picking up the tab and told her so was trying to come to your rescue here on this board (for what ever reason) but got her ass handed to her with your response. You do that to everyone which is why you have no friends. It is early in the morning. Take your meds and head on down to the 7-11 parking lot day labor pickup spot. Bad luck.
Giancarlo85
@Bob LaBlah: Says the old crusty one who will never regain his youth. I know I am pretty and I don’t need to justify or defend that. You were probably good looking back in the 1940s. Decades and decades ago. Now you are just crusty and bitter.
That is not my video. Time to get back on your meds. Dementia is a terrible condition. You have no life and you have no friends. the last gay friend you had was probably four or five decades ago. I amsurprised you even know how to turn on a computer. You are a pathetic person.
jantheman4903
ten yrs ago i went to college where my dad went a small one in a rural down 70 miles from nearest city in nebraska. no blatant homophobia.. i came out to my frat brothers n others my sophomore year and it was nice to be accepted. but..god i drove that 70 miles to a gay resource center twice weekly to volunteer drawing blood and just knowing most all there were gay was so comforting. just seeing other men n women in various stages of lives and careers SUCCEEDING…was great.yea i felt camaraderie with some..but i think u just need to see the possible. different people need different things at different times. am sure for some just being in an accepted environment would be great. i wanted more. sometimes u have to go that extra step at first. good luck all
Bob LaBlah
@Giancarlo85: You are the only person who LOOKS just as though they stank. I am serious. That video that you posted a little over a year ago and went back and changed the title to proves it. I think I know now why you never mention the Arena anymore. They can’t keep letting a drunken psychopath (who gets violent when no one will buy her drinks that she can’t afford) in there for legal reasons.
It appears you and ol’ RejectofKings were made for each other. Two fairly young (but coming fast upon middle age) queens living on different floors in the same SRO (single room occupancy…you and “girl” already know but there are plenty reading this who had no idea) building and have no idea who the other is as far as this site goes. I’ll bet I am right on that one too.
n900mixalot
@Giancarlo85: who said it was terrible? You’re being waaaaay too dramatic.
brooklynboy
The commenters here can be so mean and close-minded sometimes. Who are you all to judge how someone feels about their friend situation? You don’t know where they live, or what their coming-out situation is, or anything about them. It can be very jolting to have always had all straight friends and then to come out and suddenly feel different from them because they now know you’re different in some ways too. It’s not fair to just say that because you’ve now accepted your sexual orientation you should have to go out and make new gay friends to feel comfortable. These people aren’t whining because they’re lazy, they are dealing with a harsh reality of the society we live in – an all encompassing identity we all take on when we come out, whether we like to admit it or not. So chill out dudes, everyone deserves to feel how they feel… isn’t that why this blog exists in the first place? Geez.
Aromaeus
These are the same tools who will denounce the “gay scene”(whatever that is). I mean gay people gravitate to gay friendly places so don’t be surprised that you find it hard to meet other gay people when you make it a point to avoid gay friendly spaces.
SonOfKings
To be a healthy, well-adjusted gay man, I think you NEED to have at least one ir two male gay friends that you can share certain things with that are gay man specific. But as I’ve mentioned before it’s tough out there. Those queens see you coming and the knives come out. Sex, I have no problem with. There is plenty of that out there. Gay male friendship is anther thing entirely.
SonOfKings
@moldisdelicious: You have missed the whole point of this discussion, which is that there is some qualitatively different about gay male friendship and fellowship that can’t be replicated with straight women, for instance. Believe me, there are some things only another gay man would understand. And it’s not just the obvious sexual things. It’s kind of like black men who have no black male friends. Something is missing. There is a feedback loop that is needed, but not present.
Giancarlo85
@Bob LaBlah: You’re senile. You’re just talking for the sake of it. You don’t even know what you’re talking about or who you are addressing. I think you probably don’t even know how to tie your own shoe laces.
I never posted that video, you blithering idiot. You’re the one that’s a psychopath. You have serious mental problems… I don’t even know if it has to do with your advanced age.
You’re a worthless crusty horrible little man with nothing going for him. So you try (but fail so miserably) to attack me. You post endless incoherent bullshit nobody understands. Everything you post has nothing to do with what is being said. I don’t even think you know how to read that well.
Bob LaBlah
@Giancarlo85: “I never posted that video, you blithering idiot. You’re the one that’s a psychopath. You have serious mental problems… I don’t even know if it has to do with your advanced age.”
You did post that video and you also claimed to be a cis-some thing or other. It’s ok. We all know you look like you stink. I knew all along why you are bitter. Look at you. You are a pathetic mess; trying to tear that poor YOUNGER queens cute, turquoise colored dress off of her. You look like a downright SLUT in that skimpy ass Macy’s off-the-rack-end-of-the-month-sale POS dress you no doubt ran out the store with and jumped on the bus. And that smelly ass g-string makes it all the more pathetic. You had no shame at all posting a video featuring your half naked ugly ass a year ago but deny it today. Who the hell would want to have sex with you (safe, raw, water sports…I’ll stop there but you all know what was coming next)? Its the video at the top.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1wZqI7zyag
Giancarlo85
@Bob LaBlah: Okay prove it. Show the post. Google it as some say. Show us where I posted that youtube video. I never did. You’re the one that posted it. You’re a total liar who doesn’t even know what words mean. You keep saying “CIS”… must be some type of mental compulsion brought on by dementia. You’re imagining things. You’re a pathetic washed up loser nobody ever pays attention towards.
I never posted that I was “CIS” and I never posted that video. So if you can’t prove me wrong, stop posting clown.
Giancarlo85
This moron has serious mental problems.
Either prove I posted it (by showing the link to the post of where I posted it) or SHUT THE FUCK UP.
Giancarlo85
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AyifuNC0MT8 – This is a Youtube video I Will post. Stupid people.
Stupid, full of shit and f-king nuts. – You’re all three.
europeanguy
so very relatable…makes me feel less alone in the world 🙂
captainburrito
The grass is always greener but sometimes i like hanging out with just straight guys, precisely because they don’t ask! lol But it certainly does get lonely without gay friends. At first i got discouraged as the only ones i met were drama queens or looking for sex. But if you persevere you can make good friends.
So you have to overcome laziness and shyness. I mean i should know because most of my friends are friends of friends as i tend to expend little effort into making friends but instead rely on existing connections to expand what i have. That, and i only seem to have limited “storage space” for a few close friends, after that i get overwhelmed. :p
CWM85
Giancarlo why are you always getting into arguments and fights on here. Every damn post you and several others go back and forth… are you a mod or is this your site or something? You seem like a miserable little queen… damn…
Giancarlo85
@CWM85: You’re just as George Carlin described. Click that video.
That old troll was claiming I posted this incredibly stupid video and claims I’m an illegal. The only video I posted was one of George Carlin. You’re a miserable little man.
Bob LaBlah
@Giancarlo85: You DID post that video and you know it. It goes to show you are nothing but an ugly, violent queen who can’t be around civilized people after you’ve taken two sips of cerveza. And you are also illegal because you said you couldn’t go to school after you swam across the Rio Grande, dried off your back, and headed for Los Angeles.
YOU said all of those things over a period of time but forgot. Just like the “cis” description that I am not the only one who remembers you saying that. Just face it, your butt stinks. Now click off of your cellphone, get dressed before the other roomers in that SRO wake up and demand equal time in the bathroom, and head on down to the 7-11 and get your daily exercise of jumping up and down yelling “me, me, me”. I’m sure there is some one out there who needs a person to wash and iron their clothes. At least your good for some thing other than a laugh and scaring off the crows from the cornfield.
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=mexican+drag+queens+fighting
Giancarlo85
@Bob LaBlah: Prove it. Find the posts where I posted the video. Give us links. If you cannot you are nothing more than a liar. I have never posted that stupid video. This is yet something else from your imagination. Your nasty and xenophobic attacks have gone far enough. I am a US citizen, and the only violent one here is you. You are a psychopath.
If I said all those things, search for it and post links. Other than that you are nothing more than a braindead liar and lunatic. Nobody cares about your bigoted crusty ass and nobody will care about you anytime in the future. You are nothing more than a nasty backwards illiterate who lies about anything and everything.
And who else remembers the “CIS” description? Name me who else. You’re so stupid… Simply beyond comprehension. A total jackass with no life, no job and no friends.
Bob LaBlah
@Giancarlo85: Honey, if THIS is how you look at thirty may god BLESS you at thirty-five. By the way, I am an atheist. Now head on down to the 7-11 before the lot gets crowded and no more vacuumers are needed to clean those rich white folks homes today. At least they won’t mind you wearing heels while you work.
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=mexican+drag+queens+fighting
Billysees
@AtticusBennett:
” …get off your butt, go out, take part in things and make gay friends. ”
Good advice. It’s a ‘must do’ for sure. But also strive to enjoy your current circumstances even if they’re not ideal for now, all the while ‘expecting’ that things and like-minded friendships will get better and happier for you as you get older.
Look for it.
CWM85
Giancarlo again being an ass… still fighting with another reader. Why haven’t they banned you? Post by post you attack people for their own opinions, that have nothing to do with you just like you attacked me for bringing facts about how gop is kicking dem asses nationwide and house and senate… what is wrong with you dude?
Giancarlo85
@Bob LaBlah: Again, prove where I ever posted that video. IT isn’t hard. This site has a search feature. SHOW the posts where I POSTED IT.
The reality is you posted it in order to slander me. You are a horrible little man with extremist tendencies. Probably an old Klan member. Do you still wear pointy hats?
@CWM85: Look in the mirror! Has your reading comprehension failed you? Where am I being an ass? This fraud is accusing me of claiming I am someone in a youtube video. Why don’t you come to my defense instead of coming to his defense? Did you even read that he has been on my case?
You didn’t bring up any facts. I brought up facts about how the GOP got shellacked in the last two general elections and will get defeated next year too, and will lose the Senate. You went on some stupid inane rant about your ego.
CWM85
Giancarlo the gop won’t lose the senate next year. Those southern states are not backing dems. And I made a comment on your attacks in every post I’ve read and I’m new lol. So you definitely have a problem. A really mental health issue. Do you work, are you an illegal immigrant? Trans?
onthemark
@Giancarlo85: Hang in there, GC. Even I’m starting to feel sorry for you. 🙂
Giancarlo85
@CWM85: The GOP most certainly will. You don’t know who is up for election. You have some serious issues. Have you ever studied anything about politics? You have “85” next to your name… did you even go to college? You seem to be an idiot. Idiots don’t generally do well in college, unless they are rich and have a republican daddy who helps them along.
You have more problems than anyone on here. Your tremendous oversized ego is one of them.
CWM85
Giancarlo is such a loser… he can’t handle the truth like most lazy, entitled liberals. All you want is free stuff. You don’t work or have any education. You dropped out at 10th grade… your whole life is internet social media attacking people because of your miserable existence. You are jealous of well to do people like me and envy what we contribute to society. You offer envy, hate and a government leech.
Giancarlo85
@CWM85: Again, he is showing how much of a blithering idiot he is and he just exposed himself as a right winger. The real lazy idiots are so called “independents” like him (in reality, right wing gays who think they are entitled to everything in the world). I don’t have any “free stuff”, asides from a free sample at Costco I had the other day. I paid for my car, my education and I have a great job. I have both a B.A and M.A Degree, while you have nothing. You don’t know anything about politics.
Please take your stupid ass off this website. You are nothing more than a right wing delusional idiot who lives off his rich daddy and spends more time on here than me (you’re on here at all hours of the day!). I can only respond sometimes when I’m actually home from work. You don’t work… hence, why you post instantly.
Government leech? Cry me a river and go back to listening to Rush Limbaugh. You just exposed yourself you stupid phony!
That’s it guys! He exposed himself as a RIGHT WINGER! Only a paranoid, psychopath right wing nut uses attacks like what he just did.
CWM85
This Giancarlo guy is such an ass clown. He talks to himself, attacks others for having an different opinion. He is a big trouble maker and an ugly troll. You are one of those miserable queens, gossiping in a club sipping and smoking. I know your type.
Giancarlo85
@CWM85: You’ve overpowered once again. Your existence on here withering away faster than Ben Carson. Might as well go dig yourself into a ditch.
And I don’t smoke or drink. So nice try, idiot.
You’re the real ugly troll. Post a picture of yourself… lets all judge.
Giancarlo85
@Giancarlo85: *You’ve been
CWM85
What a insufferable low class clown Giancarlo 85 is. This what happens when someone has nothing better to do with themselves. Attack and wait for government handouts… giancarlo in a nutshell. No job, no education, no morals, no class… sad.
Giancarlo85
@CWM85: And you’re someone who is entirely dependent on welfare. You live in Kentucky and like most republicans you are someone who depends on a check. I work for a living and I pay taxes… ergo, my money is going to someone useless like you who has never worked a day in your life.
You have to wonder why you’re on here every single day at all hours of the day. I have a job, I have two degrees and I have far many more morals and class than you ever will have in a lifetime.
Giancarlo85
@Giancarlo85: *a government check that is. You have never actually made your own money.
Your daddy cut you off, so you went crying to the government.