In a new Reddit thread titled “Damn, gay guys are nice as fuck,” a heterosexual man opens up about his fondness for chatting with gay dudes on OKCupid.
“I’m a straight guy,” the post begins, “I guess.”
“So I’m on okcupid. Just checking things out, and these women are just stuck up and kind of defensive. Some are just rude as hell.”
So, he says, he started looking for other options.
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“I start checking out the gay dudes,” he writes, “and I’ve been thinking about going to a gay bar, cause, why not. I can get women, mind you, but, eh, I’ve always had so much more fun with guys, normally.”
But before you go getting any ideas, the man admits the thought of having sex with another guy “is gross to me,” but he doesn’t mind the idea of “being close and shooting the shit.”
“So I start msging gay dudes,” he continues. “I tell them what’s up, like what I’ve explained above, and they are so cool to me! Nearly all of them take the time to msg me back, talk to me about introducing me to bars, or going with them and meeting some people.”
“It’s so nice,” he writes, “just to have someone talk to me and not instantly assuming I’m an ax wielding maniac. Anyway, I just wanted to say this, thanks.”
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But not everyone on Reddit is thrilled by the man’s post.
“Dude, it’s impolite to tell somebody you’re trying to be friends with that their sex life is gross,” one person responds. “Keep it to yourself. I wouldn’t sit next to you and tell you that your sex life is gross and I wouldn’t tolerate the same from you.”
“I don’t want to burst your bubble, but I should just note that there are some frankly terrible gay people out there,” another person says. “Being gay doesn’t make a person immune from being a bad person. But I’m glad you are enjoying meeting nice people.”
“You can’t honestly expect to come in here and say that, and be well-received, can you?” a third person adds. “I’m glad you’re enjoying your tourism, but try not to talk down to the locals in their safe spaces.”
What do you think? Is this allegedly straight, non-ax-wielding-maniac’s post impolite and/or insulting? Or are all gay guys really “nice as fuck”? Sound off in the comments below.
Stephen Mole
Hetero like I’m Chinese.
John Kuehnle
These articles are so stupid
DistingueTraces
COOL SO SOMEONE SAID SOMETHING ON REDDIT HUH GOOD TO KNOW PLEASE ALSO INFORM AGAIN ME THE NEXT TIME SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING ON REDDIT BECAUSE THAT IS THE TASK OF A JOURNALIST
David A. Peña
Spoiler: He’s gay.
David Russell
How very condescending of him.
jdboston617
These blog “stories” are really insulting. C’mon Queerty- stop teasing the gays with pseudo gay/hetero blogs that aren’t real.
John Schwartz
One step out of the closet!
Cam
Oh look, ANOTHER article on here about somebody interested in “The Gay Thing” who can still call themselves hetero.
Hetero guys have NO problem hanging out with other hetero guys as friends, there are so many opportunities and ways to do that.
What THIS guy is hoping for, is that he can hang with a gay guy, get drunk, hook up, and then the next morning go “Oh my god, I was so drunk last night!”
jdboston617
@John Kuehnle: THANK YOU!
zooby
LOL “hetero” guy. Don’t you love these “straight-identifying” men who are too cowardly to admit they are at least somewhat interested in me? It’s why I never felt bad when Perez outed celebrities or that guy was outed on Gawker (and don’t get me started on married men)
Patrick Sager
Then in a shocker, he announces he’s a straight man who loves “brojobs”.
AxelDC
He sounds more “bi curious” to me.
Next year, he’ll have a boyfriend and hopefully drop the hetero nonsense.
Qwrangler
That a straight man found welcoming gay men warms my heart. Growing up an outcast I know the value of friendship. Being welcoming is part of our gay DNA. I’m proud of who I am and have no problem sharing that with my rightist friends; in fact, I enjoy doing that because it enriches our friendship.
archiesdaddy2011
I think this man is very disrespectful. I am sure I should love his telling me that he enjoys spending time with me but the mere idea of my sexual practice is gross. How lovely!
It is not heart warming to know there are such tolerant and accepting heterosexuals about, even though our sexual nature repulses them they can still enjoy themselves in our company…….Oh, joy
Maude
Remember the old saying: “Today’s trick, is tomorrow’s competition.”
And it’s right on target many more times than not.
kurt_t
I cannot help but observe that this is one of those times when the stock photo just ain’t cuttin’ it.
Baba Booey Fafa Fooey
“I don’t want to burst your bubble, but I should just note that there are some frankly terrible gay people out there,” another person says. “Being gay doesn’t make a person immune from being a bad person. But I’m glad you are enjoying meeting nice people.”
I bet you $5,000 that this same poster claims all gay men are gross and straight men are hot. And, I never lose.
Mugsy6263
I have been with the ladies. My honest option GUYS give better blow Jobs
Aromaeus
This guy sounds like a misogynist and he’s probably ugly.
onthemark
I’m calling bullshit on this. Straight guys don’t talk about anything except football! What exactly is he *discussing* with these gay guys? It doesn’t add up. 🙂
aidanbh
We have to be cautious not to be as ‘cut and dried’ as the original guy seems to be. There may be more going on here. If he is disillusioned with women, he now seeks the company of men. But why specifically gay men? Perhaps he may think that a straight man that he wished to befriend may simply assume that HE must be gay. I don’t know. But I do know (from decades of personal experience) that many men DO in fact want not simply a close relationship with other men but even an intimate one, even to the extent of physical intimacy. The idea that he has that sex with men is “gross”, by the very use of that word (which is a little bit old-fashioned) indicates to me an orthodox response rather than a thought-out response. It is one used by people who see the relationship in terms of sex leading to intimacy, rather than intimacy leading to sex. If we look objectively and absolutely at ANY sex, on its own, in isolation, it can ALL seem “gross”. His wanting to have connections with gay men may be a case of wanting to dabble his feet in the water to find out whether his opinion on “gross” really is true or just the socially expected response. We need to see what develops before we draw any final conclusions.
MarkoBravo
The guy in the picture is a cutie
kurt_t
@MarkoBravo, exactly.
asby
So basically he is getting his ego stroked by these gay guys…Who of course are going to be super nice and chill …Cause they think they may get in his pants….Straight guys love attention too ….
Brian
Straight-identifying guys are actually open to many things. It’s just that society – including females – have influenced them in a negative way.
From a young age, males are taught that male-male intimacy is “wrong”. You can see it in the way parents treat their sons differently from their daughters when it comes to the issue of intimacy. A lot of the negative issues that adult men have intimacy-wise have their seeds in the way their mothers and fathers treat them as children.
Brian
And, no, this straight-identifying guy is not gay-identifying. He identifies as straight. He is entitled to do so.
Nobody has the right to impose the gay or straight identity on another person. However, it’s OK to say that someone has homosexual desire or is interested in same-sex intimacy – sexual or not – with another person.
We need to get away from imposing identities on others.
brandon
It’s good he’s having a nice time and people are being to him, but politeness is not exactly the same thing as friendship. I’m sure the novelty will wear off soon, for him, and all the gay guys.
youarekiddingme
@Brian: What are you Brian? Have you “identified” yourself yet? Do you enjoy sex with men or women or both? Are you perhaps asexual? You portray yourself as such an expert…here and on other subjects…Tell us, what was your childhood like? Did you cling to your mother? Was your father overbearing? Were you allowed to play with dolls? Did you dress in boys clothes only? Do you resent your parents? Is your job (if you are employed) a traditional male job or can it be classified as a female job? Does your job require manual labor or is it strictly a desk job? Do you enjoy sports or would you rather decorate your home? Please Brian since you are so big on these “identifying” stereotypes I want to hear a bit about you. You talk and give opinions that are contrary to proven scientific evidence so I am wondering how these views on the world were formulated…
scotshot
The moderators didn’t like this comment, this is a slightly censored version:
Wow dude! you s*ck c*ck like a real man! Now roll over and give me that manly b*tt!
Musk
Guess what I learned. It’s okay to not have an opnion on EVERYTHING!
Evji108
If he is hot, I will tell you exactly why the guys are being so nice and polite with him. They want to get into his pants. Nothing like a “straight” guy indicating some interest to get the boys interested.
da90027
I can’t believe how ridiculous these articles are on this website…I keep thinking they might get better or more intelligent but they do not. This one seems to have been written by a 14 year old.
It seems all the articles here are about actors or celebrities I’ve never heard of or silly stories like this.
Milton Appleby
These stories are ridiculous.
Baba Booey Fafa Fooey
@Milton Appleby: indeed.
Toni Kahwage
It’s called bi, you know? *smh*
alphacentauri
@Milton Appleby: yeah, I would not be surprised if the editors here go on reddit and make up fake posts like this one and then have a ‘story’ for this site.
Eiji
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DutchGay
So there’s no news today and another “straight guys love to be gay” story has been invented. Yawn.
Ives Meagher
…..another “staged story of a young and up and coming, not so brilliant author. “Author” even isn’t a good choice?
DavidTheLeo
I agree completely with aidanbh. Word for word.
martinbakman
No Queerty, I do not think ‘all gay dudes are nice as fuck’, but are all nicer than pharma-bro. I do have a gay friend that is super nice (I don’t mean Minnesota crazy-as-fuck-kind of nice like Fargo kind of thing), but just plain nice to the point where people go out of their way to accommodate him. He amazes me. But that’s just the way his parents raised him. Something for the rest of us to aim for.
Bauhaus
Here’s the thing: he’s not cozying-up to gay guys online (flirting) cuz they’re “nice as fuck” and he knows it. He’s testing the waters.
enlightenone
@Qwrangler: “…my rightist friends…” Did you mean your RIGHT HAND?
enlightenone
@Brian: “…We need to get away from imposing identities on others….”
We would like to get away from your “ex-gay” non-intellectual nonsense! Painfully, something tells me you are not going away, perhaps back to Liberty “university.”