This weekend in New York City, the polyamorous among us (read: openly involved with more than one partner) will be celebrating the tenth annual Poly Pride. In addition to a NGLTF-sponsored conference, there’s a Central Park rally, a day of enlightenment, and a massive cuddle party. We’re bringing throuple Justin, Mickey, and Max as our dates. Or maybe True Life‘s Jim, Thomas, and Chris (pictured).
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Gawd not those True Life three again! The Clay Aiken lookalike was nothing more the two blondes bitch……….Their bickering, bitching and brooding made the viewer want to throwuple…….
Fitz
…by remaining devoted to working out my trauma instead of acting it out.
NAP79
Q: How Are You Celebrating Polyamorous Pride?
A: Laughing my ass off at these 3 clowns with the ridiculous hair in the picture above! Matthew and Gunnar Nelson (the current version) called and want their terrible style back. LMAO!
Hilarious
We need to fight negative “queer” images the same way we fight homophobic images.
These three aren’t helping us get any further.
Are we really going to include polygamy and pretend it’ll give us a leg up in gaining our rights and being treated equally?
Even straight polygamists have the sense to hide it.
RomanHans
If all goes well, I’m going to be third from the top in a pile of guys with Justin Bieber’s hair.
Viral
Holy sh!t those are dudes in that pic?! o.O
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
@RomanHans: Funny thing is in that episode the Clay Aikin look a like was soooo very jealous of the other two that he went out and found a fourth (who was pretty hawt) to “even things out”. After a couple of dates the fourth began hooking up with the one in the red shirt and then the other two were mad and feeling like there wasn’t equal lovin being spread……….
Sorry some guys may think that ya can make these poly relatinships work but just doesn’t seem like it can. Its confusing enough to have multipartner hooks where everyone gets equal attention let alone trying to make everyone happy after the screwin’ is done………..
jason
Polyamory is not a sexual orientation. Therefore, comparing pride in polyamory to pride in sexual orientation is completely wrong. Pride in polyamory represents pride in indulgence and sleaze. Don’t elevate polyamory to a position it doesn’t deserve.
Qjersey
I’m totally into polyamory until I orgasm, then not so much.
Joe
I know nothing about this show, nor about these 3, and I agree that society is hardly ready for this. HOWEVER, I would argue that the two causes (gay rights and polyandry) are somewhat related. The government should have absolutley no role in determining how people arrange their relationships. If someone wants to have multiple partners, that’s their gdmnd business and no one elses.
Theo
I don’t mind bring someone to spice up in bed once in a while, but three way relationship? hummmmm…..wonder how that work emotionally.
missanthrope
@Hilarious
Yeah awesome, we more closets m because “inconvenient” queers can remain invisible so YOU can win your freedom. Makes perfect sense, especially if you have a huge sense of entitlement and think that you’re way of being gay is somehow more moral or “less freaky” than others.
Equality: You’re doing it wrong.
Hilarious
@missanthrope: So we should also rally behind the queers into beastiality, infantilism, leather, and bondage so they can gain more visibility at our expense too?
Wake up, you have to draw the line somewhere. Just because we’re gay doesn’t mean we have to get behind every single kink on the planet and publicly support it.
That’s their private fetish. They can leave it in the bedroom.
We’re fighting to make people realize that being gay/bi/straight isn’t a fetish, lifestyle, or even a choice but something that is a part of us. How exactly does including people’s fetishes in our fight help us achieve that goal?
Why do polygamists even need exposure? Ask yourself that. What needs to be exposed exactly?
You go ahead and try to fight for the right to marry more than one person. Just don’t try to make it a gay thing.
skzip888
It’s called “Queerty,” not just “Gayity.” We’ve been told multiple times to consider a relationship / lifestyle “queer” if there’s a heterosexual component. Not to say there shouldn’t be a “Gayity.”
Can’t stand behind those haircuts, though.
missanthrope
@HARLARIOUS:
I advocate total sexual freedom for everyone in consensual relationships, I don’t care if they’re straight/gay/les/bi/queer/whatever or how many partners a person has. I’m not interested in judging other people who are hurting no one.
And I don’t believe in leaving behind my convictions between what’s right and wrong just because my own self-interest may not be involved (how funny that you ask straights to support your struggle for freedom, but aren’t willing to do so for others). I also don’t believe in abandoning people to the wolves of our sex-phobic and narrow-minded culture just because in doesn’t fit in to some narrow conception of identity politics that should have been left behind 20 years ago.
And in this case my self-interest is involved, like many gay/les/bi/ people I am into leather kink, one of the “freaks” you deride, much a like a homophobe would deride you.
The same sexphobia and narrow-minded religious dogma is as essential in perpetuating the homophobia that oppresses you as it ends up in biases against kinky people. And there a lot of straight people out there who would consider your relationship(s) as “your own private fetish” to this day. Don’t forget that only a few years ago what you did in bed was outright illegal in most states before Lawrence v. Texas. Considering all of that, I don’t know how you can’t see that other people’s sexual freedom affects your own sexual freedom.
Good luck trying to make homophobes love you because you live in the suburbs and pass yourself off as some kind of non-sexual person. They will still hate you all the same even if you had the most boring sex in the world.
Not only do you fail to see how other people’s sexual freedom affects you, you don’t even know what the hell you’re talking about. Polygamy (one man having multiple wives) isn’t the same thing as polyamory, which is dating more than one person at a time with all parties involved giving consent (which is something that many queer people do). Before you make a judgment against something, you may want to google it to find out what exactly it is.
Hilarious
Not even going to read all that nonsense you just posted because you’re literally fighting for your “right” to an orgy when no one is stopping you.
Have fun.
Justin
@Hilarious: If you HAD read what Missanthrope said instead of engaging in childish attacks, you would know that the post did not in any way advocate for anyone’s “right to an orgy.” It advocated for gay people to stop oppressing others and then turning around and asking straight people to treat them like equals. If you can’t treat people in your own community as equals, you sure as hell don’t deserve equality from anyone else.
Hilarious
@Justin: You’re kidding right?
Sean
That “throuple” from True Life was heinous. You had 2 sociopaths and a bottom (is that a psychological term?) and there was so much lying and manipulating. There’s enough of that in gay 2-people relationships.
ousslander
pleas stop comparing the fight for eaquality to their right to be sluts.
Justin
@ousslander: I would if I thought there was any difference between the two. “Freedom for those who share my values and world view” doesn’t have the same ring to it as “Freedom for all.”
ousslander
They are free to love whoever and however many people at the same time as they want. Do I think they’re abominations? NO. Do I think it’s slutty behaviour ? yes.
Do I think they (straight/gay) should have the right to marry mutiple partners? No. Unless you are rich, the “wives” and children will sugffer and also become a burden upon the tax payer.
There is a diference between being born gay and choosing to act a certain way. The two are not comparable
Justin
@ousslander: A) No one on this thread has been talking about legal polygamous or polygynous marriage. That’s a valid discussion and conversation to have, but no one here has been having it so you’re bringing it up out of the blue.
B) The wives and children will suffer? That’s some of the most patriarchal stuff I’ve heard in a long time. Only one person is a breadwinner in a relationship? Tell that to all the gay couples I know, both of whom work and contribute to the household. Why are you making the assumption that once there’s three people in a relationship, suddenly not everyone will be able to support themselves? And where did children come in to this picture? No one has said anything about children either.
C) You choose to act gay. You choose to have sex and form relationships with people of the same gender. You don’t have to, even though you want to. That’s the same argument social conservatives make against us, and you in turn are using it against members of our own community. I don’t think that’s productive.
The bottom line is: whether or not it’s a lifestyle that YOU yourself want, shaming other people for pursuing what THEY want (as long as what they want is with other people who consent to it) is counterproductive and wrong. There is nothing inherently wrong with being a so-called “slut” (and I’m pretty sure the threesomes talked about in this article are all committed to each other, so slut really isn’t an appropriate description anyway) and the sooner we realize that and become a more sex-positive society, we’ll also become a more equal society.
A lot of people think your sexuality is deviant too. No need to continue passing along that deviant label to others.
Michael
Anything that begins with poly, is either too complicated or not worth wearing.