Even though eHarmony launched its same-sex matchmaking site this week, there’s already plenty of backlash — from the gays, and from the competition. But lest we allow Neil Clark Warren’s psychological profiling just get trounced with criticism, allow us to highlight an opposing viewpoint: We’re overreacting.
“It’s very frustrating and it’s very humiliating to think that other people can do it and I can’t,” said Eric McKinley, the original plaintiff in New Jersey’s case against eHarmony. “And the only reason I can’t is because I’m a gay man. That’s very hurtful.”
Counters NJ.com blogger George Berkin in … “brilliant” round of debate: “Reporters dutifully wrote down his comment, but the statement is laughable. Are there really no gay dating web sites that he can participate in? Suppose, for example, that I wanted to go to a local mosque, only that I insisted that they sing evangelical Christian songs during the service? Or that I go to Burger King, and I insist that they serve Big Macs?”
No, tolerance is letting the other fellow do his thing, in his place, and you do your thing, in yours.
Because Americans are generous and open-minded people, “tolerance” and “non-discrimination” are powerful words. But they are misused when they are used to force someone to go against his deeply-held religious beliefs, in a private business. (see here)
And it is a travesty when homosexuals use those powerful words to try to silence dissent, to destroy those who do not agree with their lifestyle. And it is an injustice when, as in this case, someone uses the power of government to force another to support economically something they are morally opposed to.
The irony, of course, is that homosexuals claim to want freedom, the freedom to practice sexual behavior that most religions teach is immoral. (In fact, of course, they have that freedom.)
And while the owner of the Pasadena, California, based web site has not spoken against gay dating, his site – which helps Christians find happiness in traditional marriage – is a testimony of sorts to traditional values.