How comfortable is too comfortable with a hookup? Letting him in on the fact that you do drag? Or maybe that you are just outraged at how Delta Burke was treated on her way out of Designing Women.
YouTuber Michael Henry is back with a video that answers that age-old question of exactly how long one needs to butch it up after completing an act of gay sex.
It’s alternately sad and funny how real these questions are, but in the age of “masc,” “gay-for-pay” porn and the cringeworthy phrase “straight-acting,” the video adds a clever little twist to something that has definitely (maybe) crossed our minds from time to time.
Watch below, and make sure you butch it up after you’ve tussled with that jock you met on Grindr last night. You wouldn’t want him to think you’re gay or anything.
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Peter Jonsson
🙂 🙂 🙂
Nathaniel McManus
Robothedestroyer
I’ve always liked it if a date let’s their guard down a little after getting busy. Then again I find versatility in everything, including demeanor, to be attractive. It’s the sugar in your coffee that makes it a treat in the morning, after all.
Billy Budd
Loved it.
drewthemoviefan
That was depressing.
bottom250
Oh sweethearts that is so me after a hookup. I am uber effeminate. I am so not ashamed of the queen I am.
Glücklich
Another good reason not to have away games. I deploy my back-up plan after a fleeting encounter: “I’ve got plans in the morning.” (To self: like planning to wake up in my own bed.)
Stached1
LOL I once dated a guy who thought he was masculine/butch and after he wiped my cum off his face he got whiny like Truman Capote and talked about interior design.
Stached1
LOL I once dated a guy who thought he was masculine/butch, but he was really a queen, and after he wiped my cum off his face he got whiny and talked lispy like Truman Capote, and talked about interior design.
Richard Hall
Way to perpetuate the stereotype!
Masc Pride
Last weekend I met up with a guy that would make Davey Wavey seem like John Cena. His pics looked normal, had a quick phone conversation to check the voice, etc. Did all the right things but there’s just no telling what will happen face to face. It was my weekend w/o my daughter, so I really wanted to have some “fun”. Tried to see if he’d be more appealing after a couple of rail drinks, but they were no help. I didn’t think it was possible for him to get any worse, but when we got to his apartment, he went from Davey Wavey to Carson Kressley. We ended up watching Furious 7 (which of course is really long), first time I’ve ever actually watched a movie from beginning to end with no physical interruptions. On the upside, he was one of those super fem guys that waits on you to make the first move. Thank God for small favors!
bottom250
@Masc Pride: Sweetheart try being with an effeminate man you may have a fabulous time. We are so much fun honey.
Idunno
Prime reason not to hookup. If you are ashamed of how you act after sex….then don’t have sex…..or grow a set and be comfortable with who you are. Another shallow stereotype gay men have. They want a gay man to be “masculine”. UM, HELLO?!?! You just sucked a D. You had sex with another man! You are gay!!! What’s with the “masculine” thing? They don’t want to see 2 40 year old men together. What a scandal that would be. If the other guy wants someone “masculine”…..let him go try and find one. He’s not for you. Be you. Flamboyant and all!!!!!
Masc Pride
@bottom250: I didn’t have a “fabulous time” at all. Plus, why do so many fem guys hide it and wait until after a few dates or after hooking up to be their fun and fabulous selves? It’s just as deceptive as guys using fake pics, maybe worse.
Masc Pride
@Idunno: Seems you’re saying gay men can’t be masculine. Rather homophobic, no?
Bauhaus
It’s been my observation that men who act a little too gay are better lovers. I’m only speaking for myself – even though masculine guys may have an initial and superficial advantage over effeminate men, it’s always been effeminate guys willing to try different things and freely explore their sexuality in bed. Effeminate guys tend to be very giving and adventurous sexually, much more than masculine guys. Many of the masculine guys I’ve been with have had major hang ups about sex, power, and maintaing an image. Again, that’s just been my experience.
arthurb3
I am laughing so hard!
AxelDC
I think you are more gay when you are actually having sex with another guy.
Xtian99
@Idunno: your comment “Another shallow stereotype gay men have. They want a gay man to be “masculine”. UM, HELLO?!?! You just …..had sex with another man! You are gay!!! What’s with the “masculine” thing?” seems odd- so a man who has sex with men is by definition not capable of being masculine? that’s incredibly stupid… gay men span the gamut- from femme to masculine. lesbians as well- uber femme to uber butch. masculinity is trait that some people find attractive in a man, and it is not magically lost when said man touches another man. I do not like the masc bashing. we are allowed to say we like tall, short, beefy, latin, all American, educated, working class, etc – but I cant say I like a masc man over fear of offending some folks who aren’t masc? maybe that’s ur own issue with not liking your own lack of masculinity, rather than an statement about my liking men who are masculine. after all, I am gay, meaning I like men, so it is not surprising that a trait attributed to maleness- masculinity- is attractive to me. there is something and someone for everyone. I was head over heels for the most masculine man who declined my attention and then went out with an super effeminate twink-! that’s what he likes…its not disparaging to me because I am not a super effeminate twink.. it’s just what he likes.
scotshot
@Masc Pride: You weren’t attracted to him from the beginning, yet you went out for drinks which you didn’t enjoy. You then went to his apartment where he got even “gayer” which was a turnoff and watched a two and a half hour movie. “On the upside, he was one of those super fem guys that waits on you to make the first move.” Were you happy that he didn’t initiate sex because you would have felt emasculated if he had. Was it then easier to throw your legs up in the air that way? Did he make you breakfast.
Masc Pride
@scotshot: We had planned to meet up for drinks a week in advance. I’m not rude enough to say, “Sorry, you’re way too femmy. Not my type. Going home. Bye.” Though I’m sure if I had actually done that, you’d have even more criticisms to impose on me. As I said, this was a weekend without my kid. I wanted to hang out, have some fun and possibly have some NSA sex. Going back to his apartment for shots and a movie was actually his idea. No one’s legs were “up in the air”. I was happy he didn’t initiate any physical stuff because I thought he was nice enough and didn’t want to hurt his feelings. I just wasn’t interested in him like that, and it would’ve been awkward. Just the shots and the movie and then I thanked him for his hospitality and went home and passed out on the couch. So much for dad’s big night out.
bottom250
@Masc Pride: Sweetheart you are either fem or aren’t there ain’t no faking honey.
Glücklich
@Masc Pride:
You had me at shots. So long as it’s not Jägermeister. Bleyech!
bottom250
@Glücklich: I prefer shots of protein
Masc Pride
@bottom250: I agree w/u there, but no one really fakes fem. I’m referring to the guys faking masc when their authentic self is “fun and fabulous”. Like online his idea of fun is “hitting the gym, watching a game, going out for beer”, but in person his idea of fun is twerking to Britney dance remixes and the only competition he watches is RuPaul’s Drag Race. False advertising! lol
@Glücklich: I’m a Cuervo guy. No chaser necessary.
bottom250
@Masc Pride: Oh my god twerking is fun and RuPaul’s drag race the love.
Glücklich
@Masc Pride:
Man after my own heart. No training wheels.
@bottom250:
Well that’s the kind I dispense!
bottom250
@Glücklich: Honey you would hate me because I put the me in flaME
Glücklich
@bottom250:
Nooooo…I wouldn’t hate you. What would make you think that? Takes all sorts. *I* put the me in MEan.
spemat
another plus to being a bi only bisexual guy… I don’t get this shit…
surreal33
Unfortunately FEMBOTS are lurking everywhere!! Only way to not be duped is extra long conversations before sex. Usually the flaming queen will slip out if listen long enough.
Truly masculine men are EXTREMELY rare!!!!!!!!
Masc Pride
@bottom250: And more power to the guys that love those types of things. I was just saying they should be just as proud of it in their profiles too! lol
@spemat: I feel like I work best with other bisexual guys too. It does eliminate a whole bunch of issues. Bi guys tend to kind of effortlessly click and understand each other. How do you meet them though? That’s always been the obstacle for me.
bottom250
@spemat: I would assume there are effeminate bi men
Masc Pride
@bottom250: There are probably some, but in my own experiences, I’ve never met a super fem bi guy. I’ve met and seen countless gay ones though. Anything is possible, so likelihood and frequency are more important when making arguments like yours. Avoids “cherry-picking”.
Josh447
Masc Pride,
As a bi guy I have to agree with you. Bi guys are few and far between because I guess they don’t really have a dating app out there anywhere, and there are a ton of bi guys. There seems to be more of a calmness to bi guys maybe it’s because they know both sides of the fence and that creates a more expanded knowledge base mentally and emotionally. Nonetheless the fear directed at homosexuality can get everyone a bit jumpy.