Is This Anti-Gay Bully Actually the … Victim?
So says his mama. Fourteen-year-old upstate New York high school student Jacob, who is openly gay, claims a classmate targeted him over the past two years for his sexuality, and sued the school district through the New York Civil Liberties Union for failing to protect him. Now the alleged bully’s mother says it’s her son who’s the victim, and that Jacob was the one doing the harassing.
Alas, the school district isn’t commenting because of the pending legislation, but the supposed bully’s mother Tamara Hendrick, pictured, says everyone has it wrong, and that her son was not only victimized by Jacob, but now by the school, who’s letting him take the fall.
Hendrick said she has been told her son faces a six-month suspension for allegedly harassing Jacob. But she claims the harassment has gone the other way.
“This boy has told my son that he loves him, that they should go out and that he wished my son’s family dead,” she said. “They had a few verbal altercations last year and my son was punched in the face by this other student.”
She said her son was suspended for five days at the end of the last school year, but allowed to return to school. While she has been involved in meetings with the district over the summer, it was just last Thursday that she said she was called and told her son was not to attend school today and faces the six-month suspension. She said the final decision on the suspension has not been made, so she decided to send her son to class anyway.
At this point, we’re dealing with a he-said-she-said scenario. Did Jacob profess his love for this woman’s son? Maybe. But that’s not such a terrible thing; teens regularly flirt and hit on classmates they’re interested in. Did Jacob wish ill to the boy’s family? Also possible — and that’s pretty reprehensible. But we’re looking at Jacob’s allegations of suffering two years of harassment at the hands of this kid, and it’s hard to imagine Hendrick’s son bears no responsibility.
There seems to be this trend of the bullies trying to turn themselves in to victims here, and seriously to me that is like white folk trying to claim reverse racism (yes I am talking to you Glenn Beck!). From past experience with my own bullies in high school, there is very little chance that I would have turned around and done any of the things that this boy’s mother is claiming, even if I was crushing on the bully.
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Cry me a river bitch………you raised a nasty spoiled little prick who all of a sudden isn’t and now he is getting his way and is now getting his just rewards………
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Wouldn’t surprise me, Alan. Gays love to play the innocent little bunny role.
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Bullies are the same the world around, whether they are like the little prick in the headline above, or the Mormon Church, The RC Church and all of the “Save our children” and “Save our marriage” people.
They have absolutely no problem with sneaking-up behind you and delivering a rabbit punch. But, God forbid, if you should turn around and blacken one of their eyes in return.
Then they howl to holy God and Jeebus that they are the ones being abused and bashed.
They can dish it out, but they can’t take it themselves. Fucking hypocrites.
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What mother would want to admit she raised a bigot?
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Amen. Why does Queerty allow homophobes like this to continue posting, ad infinitum, on this site I wonder?
It seems to take an act of God to get them banned.
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If I knew, he would have already been gone after that drivel he put up yesterday on another thread. (He actually said he was “unfortunately gay”).
Homophobic black church queens…I tell ya, there’s a real special circle in hell for those bitches…and I give them absolutely no respect because church queens of their ilk don’t respect themselves.
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She just doesn’t want her crappy son run out of school, that’s all. Make a thug out of the gay kid? Very few young people defend themselves , yet take three offensive, until after they learn that they are OK.
The thing that we Gays need to get on our horses about is the fact that the CIVIL LIBERTIES UNION DIDN:”T DO ANYTHING.!!!!
Are so stupid that we never realize that these organizations are run by Black and often feminist BIGOTS wh don’t give a shi about us. Gay organizatons somehow bekleive that since the lawas are in place, they are in practice-wrong!
I lost a job and a Civil right battle in Minneapolis because the Civil Rights department commited fraud . It is run by Black Religious Bigots.
We have to start seeing that civil right safeguards for us are no better than their watchmen.
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Instead of Blame maybe we should start looking at the problem as a whole. A student was allegedly bullied and another student allegedly sexually harassed. I use allegedly because we have no evidence of either, save for the knowledge that a hearing is forth coming.
Hypothetically, If both are true, both students acted poorly. No matter how hard you wish, a str8 guy is still str8 and once that was made clear the other should have stopped hitting on him. The other student should not threaten or abuse the other because of his sexual orientation.
If the sexual harassment is not true the questions we should be asking are if the counter argument of family threats and a punch are true. if theya re what was the circumstances behind them. Was it a response to the bullying, fighting back or anger about being a victim?
Or is it that the perceived bully in the story actually was being bullied by the gay guy. It does happen, we can bully others just as well as other people. I find this reading unlikely but plausible, there are those within our community who will take advantage of a system in place to give themselves additional powers over others.
Or is it a combination of both. One picking on the other and the other picking back. Each attacking the other
Or finally the common obvious reading. Gay teen gets bullied, mother and bully try to get bully out of trouble.
My solution would be to transfer the bully to a different class and make him do a special project(presentation,2000 word essay and marketing campaign design) on LGBT bullying. Also bring in counsellors to all classrooms and talk about sexual harassment. No means No and the the words i’m Str8 means there str8 until they approach you, which they probably wont cuz their straight. This plan is just going from my reading of the article above, I am sure there is tons more to the issue.
@BramNash though your reading may be true, I really doubt, very few males gay or straight like the vulnerability that comes with appeariing weak. Also dont hurt my memories of lil bunny fufu by bring into the conversation, that story/song deals with why govt makes laws that contravene the majority public opinion like Civil Rights.
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I would tend to believe the gay kid is the victim in this situation, given the information we’ve been provided. I assume that before this lady’ son was suspended some kind of investigation was done and other students/teachers supported the gay student’s claim. Apparently the only person who claims the bully was the victim is the mother. And if the school board ain’t buying it, Im sure not.
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Oh, poor little shithead kid. Life is so tough for him. Especially since he’s a supposedly heterosexual white boy. Wah wah.
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Where are you getting this church queen shit from, Chi? If you stop worshiping that white cock, you don’t have to be the token black queer.
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Sounds like the kiddie version of the old “homosexual panic defense.”
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@alan brickman: Why are you even on this site? Are you st8 or just self hating?
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I personally don’t see how this mother can say that her son is the victim. The people who consider themselves homosexual are usually the target for bullying because it’s such an ‘abomination’ and it’s ‘disgusting’ so therefore they have to be punished for their ‘wrong doings’. I can even say that I’ve been exposed to bullying and bashing; from my college professors at that, because of my sexuality.
Saying “I like/love you.” is NOT bullying in any way shape or form. It’s an expression of emotion and a sense of trust that one said to another. Saying to wish this child’s family would die? Yeah, that is possible to say, but could have been out of anger or pushed to the edge because of bullying.
To Alan and Bram;;
I’m sorry to inform you, but just because someone might be gay, it doesn’t mean they find out absolutely drop dead gorgeous and must attack you like flies on shit. It’s a stereotype. Now, that you have learned something for the day, how about you be quiet and keep mean comments like that to yourself?
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Grammar correction;;
…. doesn’t mean they find YOU
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I’ve never met a bully’s parents who didn’t think their bully child was a victim. I guess they must tell themselves that their child is a victim, because then they’d have to admit they raised a rotten kid.