Comments on: Is This Throuple Destined For Happiness? Or Is a 3-Way Relationship Doomed?

By: john

john — Mon, 30 May 2011 20:49:06 +0000

the fourth is a whore i heard they met off manhunt

By: jimmy

jimmy — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 16:38:07 +0000

@Tryinit: you got to be jocking *facepalm

By: Tryinit

Tryinit — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 20:09:09 +0000

They recently added a fourth to their fucked up relationship mind fucked him and then dumped him. You people are awful and need to stop advertizing it.

By: Fitz

Fitz — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 18:04:01 +0000

I agree. I hope that they stay single for a very long time. Especially the predator one. I hope the one with zero self esteem gets into therapy.

By: Colby412

Colby412 — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 17:59:08 +0000

Wow. I’m glad I was home sick today. This has kept me entertained for an hour reading all of this. This story and the postings had a beginning, middle and an end that I saw coming when I read the article. Justin and Max seemed really messed up and Mickey seems like he has totally checked out. With that much dysfunction in the relationship it isn’t surprising that it came to an end. Hopefully, they will stay single for awhile and not mess up other people’s lives.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 11:59:47 +0000

@Tonyboy That’s not an indication that it was doomed, just that it didn’t work out. If two guys, two girls or one of each get into a relationship and then split up, was the relationship doomed? Or was it just one of those things?
I hope that all three will be very happy wherever they find themselves in the future.

By: tonyboy

tonyboy — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 05:16:38 +0000

Nobody is probably reading this thread anymore, but in answering the questions about happiness or doomed, it is now January 2010 and Max has broken up with Justin and Mickey. It seems Max has taken up with someone else. I guess we now know the correct answer is DOOMED.

By: CaledoniaGuy

CaledoniaGuy — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 00:40:30 +0000

My boyfriend and I used to see two of the three at the gym in my building all of the time. One cannot help but feel sorry for Max as the body language is very telling along with the pregnant pauses, and hesitant dialogue.

I don’t know any of these guys personally but it seems clear, to me at least, that there is some abuse dynamic going on here. Hard to accept that Max got so tired of being single that he’d settle for this sort of set up. And let’s be real: Justin is not cute at all in the face. Situations like this arise out of the mirroring of poor relationships one witnesses as a youth.

Separately, anyone who wants a piece needs only sign-up for manhunt as they are always on it.

By: clint

clint — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 09:37:05 +0000

That justin queen is just….. tragic and SOOOOOOO cliche .I realize she’s from Texas, but still.

By: aaron

aaron — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 22:23:03 +0000

Even more interesting when you consider that Justine was supposed to have been w/ Mickey longer than Maxine.

By: Oh the Pointlessness of It All

Oh the Pointlessness of It All — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 19:56:55 +0000

Nice catch, Buster! Interesting!

By: buster

buster — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 02:17:39 +0000

How come justine didn’t list mickey also as her significant other? I mean she’s extolling the virtues of being a “Throuple” and doesn’t list Mickey?!?!?

WTF?!?!?

http://www.connexion.org/viewp.....sret=5,*,0

By: JPM

JPM — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 15:48:55 +0000

@Jason:

I’m sorry Jason, but a 9 and 2 years old relationship like Justin, Mickey, and Max’s seems to be much longer than many gay guys are able to have.
I never felt more stable than I do now… No more desperate search for hookups, no more cheating on my boyfriend, no more juggling secrets.
Still, polyamory is not for everyone… Some people cannot handle these doomed messes. ;)

By: Jason

Jason — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 01:51:10 +0000

Ugh! These messes sound doomed.

By: JPM

JPM — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:36:35 +0000

I just found this post today and after reading some comments I decided to leave one as well.
People seem scared of what is new, of changes, of the unknown, so many prefer to live in a relationship based on lies or unhappiness instead of venturing in something like polyamory.
My boys and I are in a throuple that is fairly new. My first relationship is 7 years old. The new one is less than 6 months old. This is the first time all 3 of us engage in a polyamorous relationship, so all 3 are constantly dealing with jealosy, boundaries, rules, feelings, etc. As Justin, Mickey, and Max can probably relate, this initial phase is hard on everyone. Still, we are managing to give baby steps forward most of the time, leap forward occasionally, but give steps backward too.
Our relationship gets even more interesting because my primary boyfriend is part of a throuple himself. That is mostly a long distance relationship since they live in SF, but nonetheless, they love each other.
When we were all 5 together in this last Burning Man (burningman.com), we had the best time! The tribe was so loving of each other, so respectful, so caring.
To find polyamorous people is hard, but to find gay polyamorous people is even harder! Thanks for putting yourselves out there. We (poly gays) support each other, we (poly gays) grow with each other. The haters are probably just envious of what we manage to have.
And like Justin said in one of his responses, we live our lives enjoying the wonderful present. :)
Cheers boys!

By: Oh the Pointlessness of It All

Oh the Pointlessness of It All — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 19:34:16 +0000

But do you look because you want to know that no one was hurt, or because you want to know that someone was hurt?

You look because you’re drawn to the scene. You search for blood and bits of scalp, hoping not to find any.

By: Rachel (No, I'm not lost)

Rachel (No, I'm not lost) — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 18:52:38 +0000

@Oh the Pointlessness of It All: But do you look because you want to know that no one was hurt, or because you want to know that someone was hurt?

By: Rachel (No, I'm not lost)

Rachel (No, I'm not lost) — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 09:35:29 +0000

@Cole: Like I said, have brain, will use it. I live in York (which is a teeny weeny city with a negligible scene), and have done for all of two weeks tomorrow, I’m joining my uni’s GBLT society tomorrow (Freshers week started yesterday) and looking for other stuff in the city. I wasn’t looking for advice, I just found the video by accident, was interested and then got irritated by all the hate, so I thought I might as well add my twopenneth.
Thank you for your concern though, I was worried about the responses I would get to that one.

By: anders

anders — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 22:11:15 +0000

LOL!!

I LOVE Mickey when he looks straight in the camera and says; “Not everybody in the city!”

By: Oh the Pointlessness of It All

Oh the Pointlessness of It All — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 22:09:02 +0000

The apartment is straight out of Lurid Digs.com, the site for "horrifying gay amateur interiors." Some high-end furniture salesman!

By: Cole

Cole — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 21:37:55 +0000

@Rachel (No, I’m not lost):

Rachel, you certainly are lost if you are using the internet for advice on how to date or find a relationship. If you are newly out I suggest contacting local LGBT Centers in your area. I’m sure your campus has an LGBT organization. Try it, Be careful! The internet is a scarey place for someone newly out. Try to sit down with real people and not anonymous names on a computer screen. Good luck.

By: Oh the Pointlessness of It All

Oh the Pointlessness of It All — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 21:10:41 +0000

This is like slowing down for the car wreck by the highway and looking for traces of blood. Even though you don’t really want to find any, you just can’t help looking!

By: winslow

winslow — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:59:14 +0000

Justine is a TOP?!?!? She comes off as a bossy bottom.

By: Datalounger

Datalounger — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:28:11 +0000

Yeah, Rachel, go for it! Justine needs to polish her straight-guy cred so the boys will think she’s a real Macho Man! Yum!

By: Justin Smith

Justin Smith — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:16:43 +0000

Rachel, you are an amazing girl :) email me anyday

By: Datalounger

Datalounger — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:10:38 +0000

Turns out that Justine has deleted the thread where he and his buddies joked about raping some kid who got creeped out when he and Maxine brought him home, only to have Mickey sitting in the living room and watching. I'd say Justine is following all of this closely. There's a good comment thread going on The Datalounge. I'd say Justine and the boys are getting their 15 minutes worth!

By: Rachel (No, I'm not lost)

Rachel (No, I'm not lost) — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 20:08:11 +0000

@Cole:
I care, but maybe that just makes me the target audience. Who’s going to learn more from this documentary and the associated blog? A 30 year old in a committed relationship who doesn’t want to consider a relationship with anyone other than his partner, or a 19 year old single newly out (I only just got the memo) lesbian starting out with a fresh slate at university.

And before any of you tell me that I shouldn’t be blinded by the video or that it’s corrupting me etc, don’t worry. I have a brain, I will use it, I’m not going to rush into a two way relationship, let alone a three way one.

I learned something which I will consider if the dilemma/opportunity ever comes my way.

By: faber

faber — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 19:54:23 +0000

It takes FOUR queens to rent a TWO bedroom railroad flat?!?!

That’s a whole lotta Mary going on in there!

By: Cole

Cole — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 18:39:39 +0000

I know I should have been outdoors yesterday afternoon since it was so nice outside, but I got hooked on this story and the thread. A lot of good points… One of my favorites is that on this blog along with other blogs it seems that if someone criticizes the story they are labeled a “troll” or “old and out of touch” or “judgemental”. For the record I’m 30, turn heads and when I see a guy I size him up to figure out if I want to date him, befriend him or not get to know him. What gay doesn’t do this? The difference is that I’m honest about it. I think most gays look at a guy immediately and give a thumbs or thumbs down. They may not verbalize it, but they are making an internal judgement.

As for this throuple it reeks of Generation Y’s need to be seen and become “stars”. Do we really believe it is to enlighten people and help them? If these guys want to help there are plenty of organizations that could use their six hands to do volunteer work. More good would be done by working in a soup kitchen, delivering food to elderly, walking shelter dogs than lounging in front of a camera droning on their lives. Who cares? Grow up.

I don’t see much love in this video. I see egos and I see a lot of therapy in the future.

By: Oh the Pointlessness Of It All

Oh the Pointlessness Of It All — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 07:29:11 +0000

These 3 guys seem to me to be surprisingly mature for age 28

You have got to be joking!

By: Lotionman

Lotionman — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 05:44:52 +0000

BTW, the “permanent damage” to each of our lives has nothing to do with viruses or other STD’s, which is amazing, given the times. The damage was done to each of our careers, incomes, and psyches(sp?!). The worst was that each one of us reached into our dark closets of evil and pulled out some shitty things. That badness needn’t have happened but you can’t hide those dirty rags once they’ve been exposed. These 3 guys seem to me to be surprisingly mature for age 28, not that that will help their relationship,which is whatever it is, but it is not our job to judge them. Why would anyone even bother with that? I just don’t understand. Love is love.

By: me

me — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 05:34:37 +0000

the triangle is the most UNstable shape in the world of relationships. preferences form and one person ends up being the third wheel.

By: michael

michael — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 05:24:24 +0000

@Lotionman: @Lotionman: "Why does anyone care to judge these guys"? First of there are judgments and there are facts. It seems that anytime someone has to say anything that is negative it is defined as judgment, if what is said is positive it is defined as supportive, got news for you its all judgment. Thats what humans do with everything in life, that is how we make decisions, that is how we chose what is best for us, we judge. When these 3 men made this video in order to "help people" as they have stated, they open themselves up to be discussed. There is a lot of obvious things that are negative about this arrangement, it has also been stated by many that the problems do not have anything to do with the number of players, but the players themselves. 3 other guys could do a video that could demonstrate a lot of positive reasons for a 3 person relationship. I just don't think these guys would be good in any relationship where there was more to it than sex involved. They are not victims here. One cannot just put out something like this and say "look at us, look at us" and expect to get out unscathed, only a fool would believe such a thing. I just hope that people do not use them as a model of a healthy relationship of any kind. Because it is not a healthy model.

By: Oh the Pointlessness Of It All

Oh the Pointlessness Of It All — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 05:14:06 +0000

Justin’s a “high end” furniture salesman, but he lives in a trailer, or at least an apartment that looks like one. Just sayin’

So I am sure he should easily ‘blow me away’ with some hard, steadfast, conclusive and NON-REFUTABLE material contesting anything i could ever say on the subject human relationships inticacies and subtleties there of.

No need for high concept. Just look at this extra curricular gang bang story on the lovin’ throuple’s blog.

Then check out the comments. The first three in particular. You know, the ones where Justin and two other gentle, lovin’ souls yuck it up over the idea of raping the kid who got nervous once he realized what creeps the “throuple” were.

Nice bunch. WholeTruth, is that your fantasy too?

By: Lotionman

Lotionman — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 04:57:30 +0000

Seven years into my “marriage” my partner and I did a “fourple”, which later became a throuple, then a nople, and back to couple again… after thou$$ands of dollar$ and hours in therapy. It was a toxic, unmanageable, fucking nightmare from hell that nearly ruined but did permanently damage four lives on so many levels. But that was just our experience(s). My partner and I are still together, now for almost 25 years for all you time-queens. The other guys, whom we despise, are also still together, and are thankfully now living in another state. My comment is this: why does anyone care to judge these guys? They are all young, healthy, and happy (and hot)! It just doesn’t get better than that. Mind your own affairs and be sure to live well while you can. Our issues had almost nothing to do with polygamy and everything to do with alcohol and a few honesty/trust problems that could have been worked out if we knew what the fuck we were doing before it happened.

By: theWholeTruth

theWholeTruth — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 04:40:28 +0000

this particular case aside (justin’s 3ouple).
it is my contention/affirmation that other forms of ‘loving relationships’ between consenting adults other than the traditional couple such as polyamorous relationships or open relationship couples are niether immoral nor unethical, in and of themselves, per se. Furthermore not only can they be healthy but often they can be just as stable and even as ‘loving’ as most couple-type relationshis are.
From a psychological, socialogical, philosophical perspective (justin’s 3ouple case aside again – lol) it is also my firm contention that traditional couplehood can not be proven, per se, as conclusively superior to that of non-traditional types of relationships, as well either.
Of course, i only barely graduated from the 5th grade and have only done a little reading here and there o such things…
Unlike some of you on here maybe like the OhThePointlessOfItAll guy to have done some post-doctorial thesis research on this among other collegiate acaademic scholarly projects on similiar subjects as well.
So I am sure he should easily ‘blow me away’ with some hard, steadfast, conclusive and NON-REFUTABLE material contesting anything i could ever say on the subject human relationships inticacies and subtleties there of.

By: theWholeTruth

theWholeTruth — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 04:04:38 +0000

oh i see what this about now for some of the commenteers – it’s these guys furniture that aren’t up to some queen’s high standards ‘Bastille Taste’ of the furniture they own or their interior decorating taste – WTF ?!?!?
priceless, tho sad …
i can just see y’all prancing around look-at-myyyy-house furnishings theeeeir better than yooouurs darling dearest so laa-dee-da
git life you fem-bots. this post has turned into a big joke of non-related petty crap.

By: buster

buster — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 00:12:47 +0000

I just want to know what’s up w/ all those umbrellas.

By: Oh the Pointlessness Of It All

Oh the Pointlessness Of It All — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 20:05:53 +0000

@Whole Truth, but what do you really think?!

@Michael, yeah I also wonder about the furniture gig. I can’t imagine Justin being anything more than a cute (to some people, that is) order taker. By the way, did you see the furniture they were all sprawled out on? Not exactly the ne plus ultra of metro style.

By: michael

michael — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 18:25:34 +0000

Good synopsis mds. This relationship is definitely about power and control. Very little about hopes, dreams and aspirations as a throuple, just all about sex and who controls that. The photographs are all exhibitionist in nature. He justifies his web site by saying there are twice as many supporters than critics. Flawed logic that suits his ego. More people vote against gay marriage than for it. Justin is definitely grandiose and has a hugely inflated opinion of himself. The more I see him, the more he speaks, the less attractive he becomes. And wow is he degrading and humiliating, the way he talked about the Perrier bottle, the way he shouts “when somebody gets a job”. This relationship is a train wreck. Its like watching an Anna Nicole Smith rerun. Very low rent. I would also like to know what brands of furniture he sells because as an interior designer he really does not exude the kind of class required to work with high end furnishings and clientele.