Jason Alexander Apologizes For “Cricket Is Gay” Joke. What Was He Thinking?

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If an actor makes a gay joke on TV and nobody watched it, is it offensive?

We didn’t even know Seinfeld‘s Jason Alexander had made a public faux pas until GLAAD sent us an alert about his apology.

Last Friday, May 25, Alexander was on the Late, Late Show chatting with Craig Ferguson, when he teased that cricket was a “gay sport” as opposed to a manly one like baseball.

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“You know how I know [cricket] is really kind of a gay game? It’s the pitch. It looks like nothing—if you slow it slow motion, it’s kind of a… It’s the weirdest… It’s not like a manly baseball pitch; it’s a queer British gay pitch.”

Wait a minute—baseball pitches are manly?

Anyway, after some consideration—and conversations with gay friends—Alexander released an apology via Twitter:

A message of amends.

Last week, I made an appearance on the Craig Ferguson show—a wonderfully unstructured, truly spontaneous conversation show. No matter what anecdotes I think will be discussed, I have yet to find that Craig and I ever touch those subjects. Rather we head off onto one unplanned, loony topic after another. It’s great fun trying to keep up with him and I enjoy Craig immensely.

During the last appearance, we somehow wandered onto the topic of offbeat sports and he suddenly mentioned something about soccer and cricket. Now, I am not a stand-up comic. Stand up comics have volumes of time-tested material for every and all occasions. I, unfortunately, do not. However, I’ve done a far amount of public speaking and emceeing over the years so I do have a scattered bit, here and there.

Years ago, I was hosting comics in a touring show in Australia and one of the bits I did was talking about their sports versus American sports. I joked about how their rugby football made our football pale by comparison because it is a brutal, no holds barred sport played virtually without any pads, helmets or protection. And then I followed that with a bit about how, by comparison, their other big sport of cricket seemed so delicate and I used the phrase, “ a bit gay”. Well, it was all a laugh in Australia where it was seen as a joke about how little I understood cricket, which in fact is a very, very athletic sport. The routine was received well but, seeing as their isn’t much talk of cricket here in America, it hasn’t come up in years.

Until last week. When Craig mentioned cricket I thought, “oh, goody – I have a comic bit about cricket I can do. Won’t that be entertaining?”. And so I did a chunk of this old routine and again referred to cricket as kind of “gay” – talking about the all white uniforms that never seem to get soiled; the break they take for tea time with a formal tea cart rolled onto the field, etc. I also did an exaggerated demonstration of the rather unusual way they pitch the cricket ball which is very dance-like with a rather unusual and exaggerated arm gesture. Again, the routine seemed to play very well and I thought it had been a good appearance.

Shortly after that however, a few of my Twitter followers made me aware that they were both gay and offended by the joke. And truthfully, I could not understand why. I do know that humor always points to the peccadillos or absurdities or glaring generalities of some kind of group or another – short, fat, bald, blonde, ethnic, smart, dumb, rich, poor, etc. It is hard to tell any kind of joke that couldn’t be seen as offensive to someone. But I truly did not understand why a gay person would be particularly offended by this routine.

However, troubled by the reaction of some, I asked a few of my gay friends about it. And at first, even they couldn’t quite find the offense in the bit. But as we explored it, we began to realize what was implied under the humor. I was basing my use of the word “gay” on the silly generalization that real men don’t do gentile, refined things and that my portrayal of the cricket pitch was pointedly effeminate , thereby suggesting that effeminate and gay were synonymous.

But what we really got down to is quite serious. It is not that we can’t laugh at and with each other. It is not a question of oversensitivity. The problem is that today, as I write this, young men and women whose behaviors, choices or attitudes are not deemed “man enough” or “normal” are being subjected to all kinds of abuse from verbal to physical to societal. They are being demeaned and threatened because they don’t fit the group’s idea of what a “real man” or a “real woman” are supposed to look like, act like and feel like.

For these people, my building a joke upon the premise I did added to the pejorative stereotype that they are forced to deal with everyday. It is at the very heart of this whole ugly world of bullying that has been getting rightful and overdue attention in the media. And with my well-intentioned comedy bit, I played right into those hurtful assumptions and diminishments.

And the worst part is – I should know better. My daily life is filled with gay men and women, both socially and professionally. I am profoundly aware of the challenges these friends of mine face and I have openly advocated on their behalf. Plus, in my own small way, I have lived some of their experience. Growing up in the ‘70’s in a town that revered it’s school sports and athletes, I was quite the outsider listening to my musical theater albums, studying voice and dance and spending all my free time on the stage. Many of the same taunts and jeers and attitudes leveled at young gay men and women were thrown at me and on occasion I too was met with violence or the threat of violence.

So one might think that all these years later I might be able to intuit that my little cricket routine could make some person who has already been made to feel alien and outcast feel even worse or add to the conditions that create their alienation. But in this instance, I did not make the connection. I didn’t get it.

So, I would like to say – I now get it. And to the extent that these jokes made anyone feel even more isolated or misunderstood or just plain hurt – please know that was not my intention, at all or ever. I hope we will someday live in a society where we are so accepting of each other that we can all laugh at jokes like these and know that there is no malice or diminishment intended.

But we are not there yet.

So, I can only apologize and I do. In comedy, timing is everything. And when a group of people are still fighting so hard for understanding, acceptance, dignity and essential rights – the time for some kinds of laughs has not yet come. I hope my realization brings some comfort.

Thanks,
Jason

Jesus Christ, could that apology have been any more drawn out?

We appreciate that Alexander seems to understand how stupid his comments were but this prolonged mea culpa reads more like he’s trying to put out a Michael Richards-level PR fires than admit he stuck his foot in it.

Seriously, a nice little “It was stupid of me to go on about how gay cricket was” would have sufficed. That’s why they limit Twitter to 140 characters.

But let’s get one thing straight, as it were: This wasn’t an off-the-cuff remark. As Alexander admits, this was a whole bit that he kept in his pocket for years. He actually kind of forced the conversation toward cricket with an awkward segue from Las Vegas.

Every guest on every talk show is prepped by a P.A. in the green room. For all his talk of Ferguson’s show being “spontaneous conversation,” Alexander knew he was going to be talking about his poker playing and cricket.

So this is a bit worse than an actor making a limp wrist on Leno.

But we don’t think Jason Alexander has some deep-seated homophobia in his heart. We’ve actually met him and he’s totally comfortable around gay people. He did a passable job stepping in for Nathan Lane in the film version of Love! Valour! Compassion! And lets not forget that Seinfeld helped show millions of Americans how silly being afraid of gays and lesbians was with the “not that there’s anything wrong with that” episode, among others.

It’s more likely Alexander—a nebbishy, overweight character actor—is just a little desperate to fit in among the popular crowd. He’s wearing a ridiculous toupee for God’s sake. (We’ve all seen you bald, Jason—we know it didn’t miraculously grow back!) While his desire to be one of the guys doesn’t excuse the rather stupid joke, it does explain it.

What we want to know is, why didn’t Craig Ferguson call out Alexander on his misstep? Ferguson’s a funny guy—he could’ve found a way to upbraid Alexander while still making the audience laugh.

Speaking of which, when are we going to get an apology from the Late, Late Show audience, who seemed to find Alexander’s dumb pantomime a laugh riot?

We’ll be checking our inbox.

Video: CBS via  Towleroad. Photos: LasVegasVegas.com