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Jonathan Knight Opens Up About Being Outed By Tiffany

Jonathan Knight(Photo: El Expreso)

The New Kids On The Block singer recently opened up to Gay Times, in which he talks about being outed by popstar and former beard, Tiffany. “I felt stupid having to make a public statement,” he says in the new issue. “Even when the band got back together in 2008, New Kids fans knew I was gay. Everyone did.”

While he may have lived an open life, it wasn’t quite public knowledge. And former outing king, Perez Hilton, was one of the ones that was determined to break the news.

“Perez tried to out me many times and I hate that guy for doing that. I was already gay and living a gay lifestyle but he wanted me to talk about it. Why? My brother and the rest of the guys don’t go on interviews saying ‘I’m straight” etc. so why do I need to just because I’m gay? People like him want me to talk about it to make themselves feel better. They think ‘I’m gay so I want to make sure everybody knows I’m not the only one out there.’ I hate that.”

Whether or not that’s a misguided sentiment, we are happy that Jonathan is ‘officially’ out and back in the music game. The group is currently on tour with Boyz II Men and 98 Degrees.

By:           Stacy Lambe
On:           Apr 14, 2013
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  • 82 Comments
    • BritAus
      BritAus

      I’d like him to open up for me lol

      Apr 14, 2013 at 11:58 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kieran
      Kieran

      There is no question that every gay person who publicly comes out strikes a personal blow against shame, the closet and homophobia and makes it easier for other gay people to come out as well. That said, every gay person should make the decision to come out (or not)
      in their own time and in their own way without being harassed or forced.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 12:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ncman
      ncman

      I think he needed to go on interviews to explain what the hell he means by

      “living a gay lifestyle”

      Other than having sex with men, what was different about his “lifestyle” than the other members of the band?

      Apr 14, 2013 at 12:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. E. Jones
      Mr. E. Jones

      They think ‘I’m gay so I want to make sure everybody knows I’m not the only one out there.’ I hate that.”

      What a douchebag.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 12:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • boring
      boring

      They think ‘I’m gay so I want to make sure everybody knows I’m not the only one out there.’ I hate that.”

      This guy is awesome.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 12:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RSun
      RSun

      @Mr. E. Jones: Agreed.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 1:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • sanfranca1
      sanfranca1

      @Kieran: You are absolutely right!

      Apr 14, 2013 at 1:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tardis
      tardis

      Leave the guy alone. He had, or has, an anxiety disorder, thus the basis of his privacy.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 1:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • gauty
      gauty

      I’m so sick and tired of these scumbag hypocritical celebrities whining about “Uuuu but I was out to my family and friends, living a “gay lifestyle” (wtf does he even mean by that), this automatically makes me out and proud and in these times I have no responsibility whatsoever to publicly come out wah wah wahhh” Well guess what fuckwad, as long as there are still kids being bullied into suicide for being gay, as long as actors and actresses and sportspeople and people with high-profile job still seek refuge in the closet in fear of their sexuality hurting their career, as long as people still get discriminated, bashed, murdered etc for who they are, as long as we don’t live in a society where gender and sex don’t matter anymore, you are DAMN SURE you have a duty to out yourself and help the cause, inform people, show people it’s ok and no big deal that you’re whatever you are and that you respect yourself just like any other human being. you can inspire kids, you can be one of the many cogwheels that changes popular perception of a whole lot of minorities. But all those excuses just mean one thing; you’re an opportunistic sack of shit, and all you care about is not hurting your “career” (quotation marks because lol, ex-NKOTB) by being out and proud. I’m fucking glad Tiffany forced your hand, instead of crying about it maybe you could have used it to your advantage to ACTUALLY further your career in a positive way, by becoming a spokesperson for example. Because let’s face it, what’s the only reason we are reading an article about you right now? Exactly…

      Apr 14, 2013 at 1:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • queertypie
      queertypie

      Everyone needs to live their lives in the best way they know how. If one is gay and living a gay lifestyle, quietly, that’s their business. To try and FORCE someone to come out is bullying and harassment. Would you feel comfortable to have the world know something about yourself that you aren’t ready to share publicly? If Jonathan had an anxiety disorder, it must have been torture for him. I am so proud of celebrities who have come out and I hope, one day, it won’t have to be such a big deal.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 1:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • queertypie
      queertypie

      @gauty:Young people who commit suicide aren’t doing it because celebrities are not coming out of the closet. They are being bullied and harassed which is what would be the case in forcing someone to come out. We have to have compassion and understanding when it comes to someone’s life journey. Who knows what circumstances are involved in a person’s life. Accepting and loving a person, one on one, with family and friend’s support is how we show our humanity to one another. Getting angry and yelling never helped anyone’s cause.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 1:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      He’s a hottie.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 1:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ncman
      ncman

      @queertypie: just what is a “gay lifestyle”? it is a very dangerous term to toss about because of the definition that has been assigned to that term by the far right anti-gay bigots. When those in the anti-gay camp use the term “gay lifestyle” they are talking about drug abusing, alcohol abusing, over sexualized party boys who are all riddled with AIDS and STDs in general and who are interested in nothing other than cruising for anonymous sexual encounters with as many other men as possible.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 1:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • QJ201
      QJ201

      gay lifestyle = Hanging out a the Abbey with other A list gays and wannabe A list gays.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 1:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RSun
      RSun

      I just know that as an out and proud gay man in my community that I have helped dozens through their own journey, either as a consult for those coming out or to others who want to help gay friends or members of their family.
      Think about the influence and reach an out and proud celebrity has. We owe it to each other to seen and heard.
      That being said, I don’t agree with outing someone…that is a personal decision (unless you’re an anti-gay hypocrite of course).

      Apr 14, 2013 at 2:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dakotahgeo
      Dakotahgeo

      Perez and Tiffany must lead very boring and lonely internal lives. Pity them… they may be rich, but they’re not happy. Laugh on the outside, cry on the inside, eh?

      Apr 14, 2013 at 2:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cee
      Cee

      @gauty: No, he doesn’t have a duty to “out himself” as you say. It’s his life. Just like you have your own life. How do you figure it’s okay to force people to do something they don’t want to? How do you figure it’s okay to make someone do something before they are comfortable doing it? People should be able to come out to who they want and on their own time. I was going to try to keep my comment cordial, but people like you make me sick. You think you can tell people how to live their life.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 2:21 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • fagburn
      fagburn

      And was anyone else trying to out him?
      Oh yeah… Queerty!

      http://www.queerty.com/new-kid-coming-out-20080820/

      Apr 14, 2013 at 3:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      @ncman: “just what is a “gay lifestyle”? … When those in the anti-gay camp use the term “gay lifestyle” they are talking about drug abusing, alcohol abusing, over sexualized party boys…” etc.

      Maybe Jonathan just thinks it means shopping and doing brunch a lot?

      Apr 14, 2013 at 3:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MMDD
      MMDD

      “Gay lifestyle”? “Straight guys don’t have to go around saying ‘I’m straight””? Of course they don’t because unless you speak out, everyone assumes you are straight by default. And no, “everyone” did not know he was gay. It was no common knowledge, and even now still isn’t widely known. “Stupid to make a public statement”? Um…that’s what you do so that “everyone” knows about it, moron.

      What a total jerk. He oozes self-hatred and animosity. Reminds me of Sean Hayes when he supposedly came out a few years ago and remarked about how he had been out for years and that everybody knew. (They didn’t. He never spoke out about it back when it really mattered, during Will & Grace’s heyday.)

      Apr 14, 2013 at 3:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • queerfrog
      queerfrog

      “Lifestyle” is a coded buzzword that implies promiscuity and/or substance abuse. Knight’s statement is irresponsible. He should know better. However misguided, he still has a right to privacy. We should all let him go back in the closet if he promises to take his “music” with him!

      Apr 14, 2013 at 3:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      When did these forums become slut-shaming central? Please keep your rigid sexual mores and judgmentalism to your Southern Baptist Ladies’ meetings where they belong.

      What is wrong with sleeping around, even anonymous sex, when that is what someone likes to do? “Promiscuous” is not the dirty word you are trying to make it. Promiscuity does not spread diseases, unsafe sex does. What in heaven’s name does “over-sexualized” even mean and why is it bad? And please stop talking about HIV infected people as if they are dirty scum.

      Really, the number of que*r-hating que*rs in these forums are staggering.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 4:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • gauty
      gauty

      @Cee: Boo fucking hoo, you completely miss the point. It wouldn’t be a fucking “uncomfortable” thing to come out if people still weren’t so repressed, and the way to help that is…? Exactly, by normalizing the process and having people with visible lives facilitate that transition. I don’t give a fuck how he lives his intimate/personal life. Being a hypocrite, contrived, self-hating, and helping to propagate that negativity associated to anything detracting from the default cis-hetero archetype in the public eye, that I DO give a fuck about.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 4:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ottoman
      Ottoman

      “Lifestyle” also implies that its a choice. Like your hairstyle. Anyone who seeks fame and money needs to deal with the consequences. If you don’t want your personal life scrutinized, there are plenty of jobs other than pop star.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 5:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MikeE
      MikeE

      Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh!!! leave Britney aloooooooooooooone!!!

      err… I mean Jonathan.. leave him alone waaaaah!

      (sorry, just couldn’t resist)

      my god it’s pathetic the people who jump to the defence of hypocritical douchebag celebrities.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 6:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • M
      M

      I’m still trying to get my head around that fact that he says he was living an open life yet he was irritated that people tried to “out” him.

      Which one is it? Either you’re out or you’re not.

      If Perez ran a story about one of your boyfriends, why do you give a shit if you are saying you were living an open life to being with?

      Also, why do people with anxiety issues seek fame like this and then complain about wanting to be left alone? You have anxiety problems, wouldn’t fame make it worse????

      Man, people are strange.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 6:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • DickGreenleaf
      DickGreenleaf

      Personally I think only closeted gays who embrace an anti-gay message deserve to be outed. He should have been let alone.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 6:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • balehead
      balehead

      Gay or straight…this was definately man hate…and Tifanny is a “misandrist” for doing that….

      Apr 14, 2013 at 9:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • oilburner
      oilburner

      He’s ridiculous. This is the most relevant he has been since the
      90″s he should be grateful anyone outed him.. although it was not hard to tell he has gay face. Plus w/hardly no talent and not much else to offer he should be grateful anyone outed him atleast he will be relevant this week

      Apr 14, 2013 at 9:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • erikwm
      erikwm

      That was not an elegantly phrased statement.

      Apr 14, 2013 at 11:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • John Doe
      John Doe

      Let the guy live his life. I don’t know why so many gays here want to judge everyone and their choices. Every gay person AND straight person chooses the level of privacy that they want in their lives. So long as they are honest and not being a hypocrite by saying one thing (and doing another) — let them be. He wasn’t going around telling people that he was straight…. was he? If you assumed that he is straight…. then that’s your choice and you’re just being naive and presumptuous by making assumptions about other people, regardless of the issue. As far as I’m concerned, I DON’T CARE about someone else’s sexual life unless I share a bed with them OR they are preaching something publicly about sexuality and living differently.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 1:01 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jeff4justice
      jeff4justice

      If your a celeb and market yourself with sex appeal or market yourself for the public to be intrigued by you then to complain when the public wants to know things about you is absurd.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 1:25 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jordan35
      jordan35

      With so many bitter homosexuals its little wonder he wanted to keep his private life PRIVATE!! Why do people feel the need to be so nasty to people they have never met or known? He should’ve been allowed to come out in his own time not outed by bitter people!! Good on you Jonathan and hope you’re happy. We want to be accepted and have equality but why should we when we can’t even accept ourselves??

      Apr 15, 2013 at 9:13 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      Based on these comments, why would ANYONE want to be out?

      Apr 15, 2013 at 9:28 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jordan35
      jordan35

      @viveutvivas: I totally agree!! there’s no need for it

      Apr 15, 2013 at 9:50 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tazz602
      tazz602

      He misses the point in a completely selfish way. Yes, it would be great if we reached that day where it didn’t matter if someone was gay or not, but HE is a public figure, looked up to by fans all over the world, may of whom are gay and may not have such positive role models or people in their lives to affirm that being gay is OK. It’s not about invading his privacy, it’s about him and all the other gay celebs out there telling the kid living in a rural town surrounded by homophobic relatives and Bible thumpers that HE is OK just as he is, letting that young scared gay kid know that being gay is not a bad thing.

      I understand he wants his privacy, but he gave that up when he decided to become famous and be part of a successful band and live openly. He should talk about being gay, not for himself, not for Perez Hilton, but for that scared kid who cries every night because he things there is something wrong with him.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 10:03 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RSun
      RSun

      @tazz602: Couldn’t have said it better myself. :-)

      Apr 15, 2013 at 10:59 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      So Just so I have this straight….correct me if I’m wrong…..

      This guy never had to work again. Had plenty of money, the group was done and there was no “Danger” of being fired.

      All of his friends and family knew he was gay.

      Yet he still “HATES” the people that reported that he was gay.

      If he was already “Living a gay lifestyle” and everybody close to him knew, he was financially set, etc… could he please explain just what was so horrifically disgusting of somebody to report that he was in fact gay?

      As for the other members of the group not going on interviews saying “I’m straight”…no, they didn’t use those exact words, but they DID talk about girlfriends and wives, which is saying “I’m straight” in no uncertain terms. The exact same way this guy lied and said “I’m straight” when he pretended to date all those women.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 11:55 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      I really doubt that teenagers today are all that inspired by the reunion tour of Middle-Aged Dudes On the Block, or even know who they are. (Although sure, Jonathan still looks hot, to those of us older than 25.)

      I’ve always been dubious about the argument that celebrities must be role models for that “young scared gay kid” out there. I was a young scared gay kid once, and that was in the ’70s. What role models did WE have? Even Elton John called himself “bisexual” at that time, and Freddie Mercury actually was bisexual. I suppose everyone knew Truman Capote and Liberace were gay – not exactly teenage idols in the ’70s, if ever. I knew who Harvey Milk (still alive) was from newspapers (TV would never have mentioned him before he was killed). And… that was about it. Gosh, how did we ever survive?

      Teenagers commit suicide because they’re bullied in real life.

      Besides, as previously alluded to in the comments – maybe Jonathan doesn’t see himself as a role model because he enjoys drugs and he’s a SLUT. Not that there’s anything wrong with that!

      Apr 15, 2013 at 12:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      This only seems to happen to celebrities in entertainment, who for the most part aren’t too bright and are automatically at a disadvantage.

      I’ve seen Nate Silver, for instance, interviewed maybe 8 times on talk shows, and nobody ever asks him about gay stuff or even refers to him being gay at all. They ask him about politics, or they ask him about baseball. He’s never interrogated about his opinion of gay marriage (if he even has one) or punished if he says something un-PC about gay issues when he’s gay.

      No, only singers and actors go thru that type of grilling. No wonder Jonathan Knight – who doesn’t seem to be particularly smart – is not looking forward to that type of inquisition and punishment.

      And yeah, maybe he’s a SLUT! (actually that’s kind of hot to think about, lol).

      Apr 15, 2013 at 12:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      @the other Greg:

      You left out the part where their publicists beg magazines to interview them, they submit information about their lives to the magazines and are constantly on a P.R. parade. Johnathan Knight made around 25 million in about 2 years in the 90′s.

      Just curious, does Silver pull that kind of money in? No. And when Knight was pretending to date “Tiffany” because it blew up even more publicity for him and put them on the cover of magazines, was he complaining? Did he not take the money?

      Seriously, you act like somebody asking a celeb “So, are you dating anybody now?” Is just a HORRIFIC event too traumatizing to handle.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 12:47 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      @Cam: Well he’s out now, he’s making all these comments to a gay magazine.

      I agree with you that he’s being hypocritical and shouldn’t object to the questions. But the role-model-for-kids stuff… pffft.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 12:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Gigi Gee
      Gigi Gee

      Haters call it a “gay lifestyle” Jonathan, not gays who are open about who they are.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 1:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Caliban
      Caliban

      I hate that he used the words “gay lifestyle.” I don’t even know what the fuck that means.

      Gay people, like everyone else, have LIVES, not lifestyles. That can mean anything from a tweaked-out mess to a gay couple who has been together for 40 years. It’s meaningless.

      And though I never listened to NKOTB, and detest “boy bands” as Tiger Beat nonsense aimed at preteen girls, it’s possible that Jonathon Knight’s fans might learn something from his coming out. It’s pretty hypocritical to welcome your face being plastered on magazine covers as some sort of role model/sexual fantasy then get all huffy when someone exposes a basic fact about your life, that you’re gay.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 1:21 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      @the other Greg:”Teenagers commit suicide because they’re bullied in real life.”

      Exactly.

      How is it that gay people are now adopting the tactics of the loony right wing?: When all else fails, BRING UP THE CHILDREN.

      On the other hand, I do think gay youth need fewer hetero-conforming role models and more role models who are, in fact, SHAMELESS AND HAPPY SLUTS.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 1:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • remyfacade
      remyfacade

      Perez Hilton is the worst thing about gay men. What he and other gossipy queens like him need to realize that a person needs to come out on their own terms. Johnathan hit it on the nose when he said the other guys are straight and don’t need to talk about it, so why does he need to talk about being gay. Perez really needs to just go away. He is right up there with Omarosa, and the Kardashian desperate no talent hacks who are “famous” for nothing.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 1:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      @Caliban: There’s something odd about his comments, and I agree that it centers on the “gay lifestyle” buzz-phrase, which means something to a lot of posters here that it doesn’t mean to him. If right-wingers use “gay lifestyle” as code for being druggy, slutty, etc. etc., he seems unaware of that. He is using the phrase naively and unintelligently in a totally different way.

      It’s almost like he has a negative view of what gay life is like.

      It’s almost like he’s afraid that a lot of gay men are nasty, catty, hateful bitches, and THAT’S the “gay lifestyle.”

      Gee, I wonder where he would have got that idea!

      Apr 15, 2013 at 1:34 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • the other Greg
      the other Greg

      @viveutvivas: Yes… do it for the children… for the children!

      Btw I loved your comment #22.

      “On the other hand, I do think gay youth need fewer hetero-conforming role models and more role models who are, in fact, SHAMELESS AND HAPPY SLUTS.”

      After I stopped laughing, I realized you are right! All this puritanical hetero-conformity (along with the laser-beam focus on marriage marriage marriage marriage marriage) must be freaking out a lot of gay kids.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 1:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • iluvcakes
      iluvcakes

      Jonathan is entitled to feel the way he does. Alot of gay celebs are. It’s great when they are courageous and put themselves in the front line for Gay rights, but we shouldn’t be treating them like they are horrible people just because they don’t. Im sure none of the people chastising him are shouting their sexual identity from the mountain tops and becoming activists. Why should that be forced on Gay celebs??

      Apr 15, 2013 at 2:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RSun
      RSun

      @iluvcakes: Ready my post #15…that’s why. You don’t have to be an activist.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 2:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kieru
      Kieru

      @ncman: It’s a fairly common phrase so I’m not sure why you’re objecting to it here. Likely he doesn’t want to go into the details of his sex life. The moment he does the follow-up question is going to be “So are you a top or a bottom?”… because somehow those details are perfectly acceptable to ask a gay man.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 2:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RSun
      RSun

      @the other Greg: I disagree. When I was growing up, it would have been nice to have role models, out and proud gay men. Luckily, today’s generations will have a few.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 2:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kieru
      Kieru

      To everyone here saying he has an ‘obligation’ to be out and proud; I would ask how long you were in the closet. Did you jump out proud waving your rainbow flag so that the gay kid next door wouldn’t feel so alone? Probably not.

      Oh but he’s FAMOUS… so he should be held to a different standard? Please.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 2:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RSun
      RSun

      @Kieru: As soon as I was out (19), you bet I did.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 3:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      @remyfacade: said… “Perez Hilton is the worst thing about gay men. What he and other gossipy queens like him need to realize that a person needs to come out on their own terms. Johnathan hit it on the nose when he said the other guys are straight and don’t need to talk about it, so why does he need to talk about being gay.

      _________________

      No, you are actually lying. the “Other guys” ALL would talk about girlfriends, wives, etc… That is exactly the same thing as saying “I am straight.” Johnathon himself would talk about women he was supposedly dating, so he also declared himself to be straight.

      Lastly, because of Perez Hilton, Neil Patrick Harris, Lance Bass, Portia Di Rossie Johnathon Knight, and to a certain extent Matt Bomer are out of the closet.

      Sounds less damaging than it does helpful.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 3:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Noel
      Noel

      Let’s see…I don’t think Perez outed Portia. She outed herself when she married Ellen. And for the rest, I’d rather see them be able to come out on their own terms and their own time instead of being hounded by the likes of Perez Hilton, who brings to mind the saying “it’s a shame one cow has to die to dress another.”

      Apr 15, 2013 at 3:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bee Gaga
      Bee Gaga

      @queertyAnf one of thepie: Ans one of the themes is feeling alone like youre the only one in the worl many out celebrities have talked about some pioneering queer person giving them the confidence they needed to make it through just as many black actors talk about pivotal afrivan american starlets that showed them they could be who they are and make it regardless…so dont doubt the influence of hollywood…i know for myself i’m 18 and RuPauls Drag Race for the past 5 years have taught me to be the person that I am and have no shame, doubt, or anything

      Apr 15, 2013 at 3:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mpwaite
      mpwaite

      ………………………………………yawn. Another celebrity outed… pass the hair care products………….IVE GOT A SHOT TO DO!!!

      Apr 15, 2013 at 4:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mpwaite
      mpwaite

      D@AMN FINGERS… I meant “SHOW”………………. lol

      Apr 15, 2013 at 4:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • queerfrog
      queerfrog

      @viveutvivas:

      Viveutvivas, you have a point in that promiscuity doesn’t necessarily mean sex-obsessed, unsafe or irresponsible. I haven’t seen any shaming you cite. I think that’s coming from somewhere else.

      Gay people are individuals. There is no “lifestyle” of gay people. We are different people, we enjoy different activities, we hold different values and we behave according to them rather than some sort of gay-lifestyle-collective point of view. That is what has been said in the messages I’ve read so far.

      The lifestyle implication is that as gay people we are all on some sort of perpetual and reckless Marti Gras of unprotected sex with many partners and/or illegal drug use. It is bigotry any way you cut it and it’s disheartening that Jordan used that phrase.

      No judgments on any individual’s sex life. Have fun and be safe. Nobody’s landed. ;-)

      Apr 15, 2013 at 4:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Teleny
      Teleny

      If he “used” Tiffany, then she had a right to speak the truth. When folks claim those around them know, that’s a fairly cowardly way to live. In other words, your family and close friends know, but you are str8 in the eyes of the rest of the world.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 4:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • sangsue
      sangsue

      It is NOT the job of a gay celebrity to be out to anyone as long as he’s not a politician or judge or anyone who has direct control over anti-gay laws.

      Period.

      Once you become a celebrity, it’s not just you. It’s your publicist. It’s your agent. It’s your assistants. It’s your co-stars. It’s your family. It’s their families.

      All that is affected if someone gets outed without their knowledge. Or permission.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 6:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mark
      Mark

      It’s really sad that so many posters feel they are privileged to Jonathan’s personal life. Talk about hypocrites! Let’s turn the tables and expose every facet of the poster’s lives and see how they like it. I’m guess about 95% would be major steamed.

      Get on with your own life.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 6:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • felaschiavo
      felaschiavo

      Missy Jonathan Knight got nerves. “Gay Lifestyle” bitch please – is not a lifestyle, we did not choose to be gay, nor does the straights chose to be straight – it just is. Is not a lifestyle – you bitch. No one chose to be straight, no one chose to be black, no one chose to be white, chinese, etc. – gay is, just is.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 6:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Victor_in_PA
      Victor_in_PA

      @tardis: I’m sorry but, EVERYBODY has a friggin’ anxiety disorder. It’s called life. Deal with it. Personally, instead of forcing everyone out of the closet because it makes us feel better, I’d prefer to jab an icepick in the forehead of every evangelical fundamentalist homophobe that goes on air to spread hate. Honestly, I’m done playing nice with these tards.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 6:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • DuMaurier
      DuMaurier

      ‘Gay lifestyle’ is a charged term for sure, but in context it sounded to me like he meant that by the time he was ‘outed’ he wasn’t living a sham ‘straight lifestyle’ with fake girlfriends, etc. (Of course, by the time he was being openly-but-privately-gay I don’t think too many teen magazines were asking him questions one way or the other about his ‘lifestyle’) As far as Perez goes, from what I’ve seen on his site, when he speculates about a (male) celebrity’s possible or probably gayness, he does it with a bitchy, smirky snideness whose tone isn’t too far removed from a homophobe sneering that this or that actor is ‘probably a f@!#%!!’

      Apr 15, 2013 at 7:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • LadyL
      LadyL

      @gauty: Thank you–my sentiments word for word!

      Apr 15, 2013 at 7:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • LadyL
      LadyL

      @Mark: Yeah, I’m calling bullshit on that statement. None of us went to this guy’s home and demanded an explanation from him about being outed; he agreed to talk about the experience, and his feelings about it, for publication. What, are we not supposed to talk about this? Or are we allowed to only if we make noises of sympathy?
      I don’t know what’s more tiresome–whiny celebrities who want it both ways about being sort-of-kind-of-openly gay (he’s totally out unless there’s a reporter and a camera nearby), or the people who defend their paranoia and hypocrisy.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 7:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jmmartin
      jmmartin

      Hear! Hear! Perez is such a queen, and misery loves company. I think Jodee Foster tried to make the same point at the Oscars.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 8:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • LadyL
      LadyL

      @sangsue: “Once you become a celebrity it’s not just you. It’s your publicist. It’s your agent. It’s your assistants. It’s your costars. It’s your family. It’s their families. All that is affected if someone gets outed without their knowledge. Or permission.”
      You may want to reconsider that logic because it is completely backward. It is the CLOSET, and the lies closeted celebrities tell to protect it, that adversely affects everyone around them. Those lies–including lying by omission, or by obfuscation (such as using an opposite-sex celeb as a beard)–force everyone else to lie, which is an assault on EVERYONE’S dignity and self-respect.
      *
      And for the record, once you become a celebrity THE RULES ARE DIFFERENT like it or not. You are NOT a private citizen anymore and hey, unlike your sexual orientation, you CHOSE to be famous. If you are young, attractive, and lucky enough to enjoy any kind of high profile success people are going to be curious about your private life. It goes with the territory. If you’re smart, and able to take the long view, you’ll accept that curiosity for what it is and be upfront about being gay rather than live your life like a fugitive.
      How out is Jonathan Knight, really? And for that matter sangsue, how out are you? Because his are the words not of a successful, openly gay grown man but a scared, defensive and deeply ashamed 12 year old.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 8:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • LadyL
      LadyL

      @Kieru: Who says he has to “go into the details of his sex life”? That’s a false and ridiculous argument, that idea that to be gay means to be nothing more than a walking sex organ– and if you are gay you should know better, so why are you buying into it?
      It is entirely possible for a famous person to come out as LGBT and politely decline to discuss any specifics of his/her romantic life, just like straight celebs do. He can say “I am dating but not exclusively involved with anyone right now.” She can say “There is someone special in my life, but her situation is different from mine and I want to respect her privacy as much as possible.”
      No professional journalist who wants the opportunity to interview a celeb again is going to risk antagonizing them with such insultingly intrusive questions. The exception would be if they have developed a rapport with that celeb and is asking in a facetious and playful way, and the celeb responds in kind.

      Apr 15, 2013 at 9:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • grrrandy
      grrrandy

      Jesus. What a selfish whiny SCUMBAG.

      If he could have saved just ONE teenage gay fan from committing suicide by being open and honest about who he is instead of expecting everyone in Hollywood to keep his secret while capitalizing on the adulation of naive teenage girls in order to enrich himself, then I suppose he might have some shred of honour and decency.

      Instead he wanted to play the disgusting game of being perceived as straight in order to make money off teenage girl hormones while fucking gay dudes off stage. I can’t stand these kinds of hypocrites who claim to be one thing in public and are something completely different in private. It’s these kind of dishonest freaks that have kept the rest of us suppressed and second-class citizens for decades. Most of them in the Republican party – but far too many of them in the entertainment industry as well.

      Apr 16, 2013 at 1:22 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • c2it2011
      c2it2011

      Good for you Jonathan, it’s your life, live it up! I’m Glad you’re back! Who is running the Real Estate office?
      Take Care -Blaine

      Apr 16, 2013 at 3:03 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lefty
      Lefty

      I hope he’s happy, whatever.
      Aren’t there more important things in the world to get angry about?

      Apr 16, 2013 at 3:45 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cajuninvegas
      cajuninvegas

      I have read all the comments posted here, and some of you need to pull back on the reigns a bit!!! As a 49 year old gay man, I have to say, IT’S NONE OF ANYONE’S BUSINESS how one lives their lives. I believe everyone has taken his comments out of context, especially about “living the gay lifestyle”. I believe he meant he was living his life, dating whom it wanted, and not hiding the fact he was gay. Just a poor choice of words…but then again, I as a gay man live the GAY LIFESTYLE!!! What’s wrong with that? The term means whatever YOU want it to mean!!! Tell yourselves this every morning..”It’s none of my business what others think of me”. You’ll sure have a better time in life if you did. As for someone saying it’s his “Duty” to come out…where in his job description does it say he HAS to be a role model?? And no, just because he’s a celebrity he’s obligated to share his life and give up his privacy. Anyone who thinks that is a bully themselves. Did any of you stop and think that maybe this guy was trying to figure things out along the way….just like you people?? And to have others throw your personal business out there for the whole world to know just added to the pressure of figuring out who you are? Celebrities only “Duty” is to entertain us when we pay them to do so. A lot of you making comments about him dating women…how many of you did the same thing while figuring out who you are?

      Apr 16, 2013 at 9:00 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      Most of you post on here because you don’t even have a life, never mind a lifestyle. :)

      Apr 16, 2013 at 9:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      @cajuninvegas:

      Funny how their life is never anybody’s business….oh, you know, unless they are constantly whoring out stories of it, pictures of it, interviews about dating Tiffany etc… to get some cash.

      This guy is just another cautionary tale for young gay guys to look at and think…”Wow, people used to really hate themselves a lot didn’t they?”

      Apr 16, 2013 at 11:00 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Exile3600
      Exile3600

      Lots of bitter guys here today…

      Let me start by saying gay suicide is not happening
      because some celebrity is still in the closet. It’s happening
      because of intolerance, hatred and ignorance! I grew up in a
      time where they were pretty much no out celebrities, but never
      thoughts of suicide because obviously gay Boy George never said so.

      What type of role model is a celebrity now a days any way? The Karadashians?
      Justin Bieber? That’s just gross! My role model is someone who raised me and my
      triplet brothers by herself. My mom.
      Perez Hilton is a disgusting person that thinks its his way or no way.
      His new nice attitude is nothing but b@llshit.

      Apr 16, 2013 at 5:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • sangsue
      sangsue

      @LadyL:

      Out to my family and my friends. Not out to my job because it’s none of their business.

      And I know all about the closet because my girlfriend was living a double life and tried to kill herself because of it.

      And because of that I won’t get into a relationship with a woman who isn’t out.

      But it’s easy for you to be so high and mighty. And I still say it’s not his job to be the role model for every gay person in creation.

      Apr 16, 2013 at 11:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jamesbarnette
      jamesbarnette

      Wow, the bitchy comments here are unbelievable.

      The worst thing about gay men is their judgmental bitchiness.

      What this guy was going through is NOYFB. My God, I mean did you see what he went through on that stage? Anyone who has ever and any inkling of an anxiety or panic attacks knows the emotions can easily over take you. I can imagine the though of coming out as gay would have killed him.

      It’s so much easier to judge another when the shoe will never, ever, fit you

      Apr 17, 2013 at 12:13 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MMDD
      MMDD

      Why is it everyone is allowed to express their critical opinion of someone or something EXCEPT gay men, who are instantly branded as “bitter, bitchy, judgmental queens”? It’s pretty clear to me that there’s a whole lot of gay male homophobia within our own community.

      The fact is, this guy was NOT out to “everyone” (as he supposedly claims). It was not even remotely publicized until Tiffany outted him a few years back. And if I recall correctly, she sort of followed up with an “oops” comment. If he was already out and “living a gay lifestyle” as he claimed, then why the “oops”? He’s being criticized mostly for his own bitterness and inaccuracy of details, not because he wasn’t “out” enough.

      Hollywood and the entertainment industry in general are hugely gay male homophobic. Been that way for years and will continue to be so as long as gay people within the business are not out. Say what you will about Perez, but if it weren’t for him, I’ll bet you several currently out actors would still be closeted. Neil Patrick Harris himself said he wouldn’t have come out if Perez hadn’t pressured him to.

      Apr 17, 2013 at 9:06 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • B Damion
      B Damion

      Wow!moral of the story is..Perez.H is an A** H***.
      Also I don’t care for this Jonathan character.

      Apr 17, 2013 at 11:00 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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