Thanks

First off, there were no “casting sessions” as both Roland and Bryan are in relationships.

Second, the guest list was vary diversified. Black, White, Asian, Latin, Meddle Eastern, Straight, Gay, Lesbian, Transgendered, Average Joe’s, Models, Rich and not rich, Young & Old, and the list goes on. The main thing is that they all had fun, were treated as equals, and most called each other friends.

Lastly, those of you that were actually there knew there was also a charity fundraiser aspect to the event… But that never makes the blogs!

Thanks everyone.

During the day time, there were probably around 10 children in attendance. The crowd got a bit wilder at night after people were drunk, but other than a few people taking a hit of marijuana, there were no drugs on display. No sex on display either–bathing suits remained on and although the pool had more than a few people making out once it got late.

Rest assured commenters, while most attendees might have been white men, ALL ethnic groups were well represented.

I went and I’m neither a twink, in-shape, rich or powerful. And I know this is going to bust some stereotypes but everyone was really very nice and friendly to me.

And yes the pool was very warm.

“I’ve never seen the blacks excluded by the white gay community, but I’ve seen plenty of blacks that exclude all gays …”

I’m not sure if you were baiting me with your comments, but I’ll respond anyway.

I thought we were discussing racial concerns in the gay community, not black homophobia. These are different issues.

If you can’t recall any instances of black gays being excluded, ignored or treated differently by white gays, you either haven’t lived long enough or you live in an extremely inclusive city.

I agree that people need to come out, but based on the general portrayal of the gay community by ads, television, mags, blogs, etc., I think non-white gay men (not qualified to talk about lesbians) feel like they have nowhere to come out to. So they stay in the closet, live double lives, or whatever you wanna call it.

Its really a shame the community is so still so gender divided. Lets face it,. “A” gay in LA is very segregated when it comes to looks, wealth and power, The lipstick lesbians are far and few in between so the butch ladies who wear flannel really are not the cast that would fit in a hollywood gay pool party… so so sad,, we have a long way to go even in our own community.

oh my god Gizmo I wrote the comment a few paragraphs earlier and could not of said it better,.,you are right on the mark,,

these bashers are jealous homos who probably stayed home and did not even come out to celebrate their own pride.. Pride is not bashing any sector of the community,

Get over it people… take a sociology class and realize mammals hang with their own pack primarily-

I’m not denouncing this as debauchery. I’m denouncing it as just pure yuck. Most of these guys aren’t even good looking and yet they label themselves as A-list. No no no… A list would be referring to people like Dustin Lance Black, Adam Lambert, Ellen, or Tom Cruise. Do you see any of them in there? Exactly. I certainly wouldn’t be surprised if Tom Cruise were in there though.

He keeps gettin’ older, but they stay the same age.

My suggestion to you is to try harder. That is the only way things will change. I am not surprised by the lack of color in the crowd (though there are clearly POC’s of every hue sprinkled sparsely through out).

Los Angeles gays are a segregated lot – I am not exactly sure why but it probably has a great deal to do with Los Angeles itself being so segregated ( car culture!). Any gay house party in NYC (sans Fire Island) worth attending is going to have a healthier mix of the rainbow cuz that’s how we roll.

In the end who you know really depends who you are (as a person ) – at least from my pov.

I couldn’t take it, which is why I moved back to New York. We certainly still have our own race issues, but at least we can all go out together and have a good time, even if we’re not exclusively around “people like ourselves.”

You can say I’m hating, or say that people want to have out with their “personal preference,” but the only way for a person of color to get invited to these kinds of events is to have an exclusively white social network. You may be accepted as the token, but get more than a couple of black men in the area, then we’re “taking over.” LOL.

We can play it off as just a party, but when the vast majority of photos taken at “gay” functions show all white guys, what are other people supposed to think?

I try to work on activist issues with the “community” here but it’s difficult because of the social awkwardness that comes from having different social circles and seemingly little in common to base a relationship on. Some groups may have success with a “strictly business” approach to work, but my experience has always been that activism and socializing usually go together.

Most of the people at the party work in the entertainment, fashion, political, or fundraising – and bring you some of your favorite clothes, TV shows, and are working day and night to overturn Prop 8. If Bryan,Roland and Adam are generous enough to throw a party and invite 2000 friends, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU.

It was a fun party that consisted of mostly white men, many Latin, and some Asian and black men. It was a decent cross-section of the LA gay population. Although, I think minorities will always be lacking in representation in the gay community…at least until the white gay community becomes more color-blind. But as an attendant of the party, I’d have to say it was a VERY attractive crowd overall. And more than anything else, gay men are guilty of discriminating against the unattractive!

Btw, I’m one of the Asian guys in the pool…

And sure, no diversity…but if you think that’s the worst of it, you haven’t looked hard enough. Would you really like to be there, though? Do you think that these things are the “gay community”? That’s sad if so…or the white party or any of these lame boring gatherings of obnoxious queers.