It’s lame that we still have to put up with this kind of thing, but an Imgur user has shared what he says is an ignorant rant from an ex who just doesn’t seem to be able to grasp the concept of bisexuality.
Whether this is an authentic exchange, or a fictional dialogue written by a lonely person who wants to boast, the whole thing is a real eye-roller.
It starts friendly enough, with some what’s-ups and long-times. Then the lady gets down to business, asking the recipient into her bed with devil emoji.
“I’m flattered but I’m in a relationship,” the guy responds. So polite! So well-adjusted! This exchange reflects so well on him, he couldn’t have scripted it better if he tried.
How about we take this to the next level?
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At that point, he reveals that he’s dating their mutual friend “Declan,” so, either millennial or Irish.
Then she freaks out, with lines like, “You can’t seriously tell me that having sex with a guy is more fun than having sex with a girl,” and “What you’re doing isn’t right, I have a p***** h doesn’t. If you like f****** a** then you can f*** mine, just don’t be gay, it isn’t right!?!”
He continues his polite, reasonable responses to these texts that in any sane universe would result in an immediate blocking. “I’m not sure where this homophobia came from but it’s disgusting, you’re 21 years old, act like a mature adult,” he tells her. But she goes even further: “Your’e too hot to be saying this. You’re too hot to be gay,” and “Never seen a gay black person before it’s not right.”
There’s no particular punch line to the story, other than the one screengrab where the author “Kyle” tried and failed to redact his name. It just sort of ends with him saying “nice catching up with you,” and also getting tens of thousands of Imgur views, which is probably worth something to someone.
Here’s the full conversation:
Dave Downunder
If this is legit then this girl has serious self esteem issues. Get it together girl.
DCguy
Ok, ugh, glad he told her off.
To be REALLY REALLY nitpicky.
Interesting that in the story it is specifically pointed out that the girl threw his race in his face She said “Never seen a gay black person before, it’s not right”. And yet the image above the story is 3 people who look like they could have been carved out of Cream Cheese.
Ok, rant over.
Dave Downunder
@DCguy: Yeah I noticed that too. Queerty editors need to get their sh!t together.
gayhope1990
I agree with her.
CaliKyle
Whether the imgur post is legit or not it does accurately depict one of the biggest reasons why both bi guys and straight guys who have same sex experiences in their past rarely admit to it. Women are socialized to be jealous of and hyper competitive with each other for male attention. The notion that they would also have to compete with other men for that attention is enough to drive them right off the deep end.
CaliKyle
@gayhope1990: You agree with her? So you think having sex with a girl is “more fun” than having sex with a guy? Pussy or girl ass beats boy butt every time? Who are you really, gayhope? You’ve already bashed bisexuals in the most ignorant and hateful terms and now you seem to be suggesting that hetero sex trumps gay sex at least in the “fun” department. Do you even have a y chromosome or are you some strange man hating crazy lady here to shit all over men?
gayhope1990
@CaliKyle:I just read the headline.She bashes the so called bisexuals and I agree after the rest.No I don’t hate women
,except my mother,but the feminists are our allies
CaliKyle
@gayhope1990: I didnt suggest you hate women. I implied you hate bisexual men and perhaps gay men as well since you’re agreeing with a woman who clearly loathes both. Why all the hate? Did a bi guy dump or cheat on you? You express too much vitriol for it not to be personal
onthemark
@gayhope1990: @CaliKyle:
Yeah! – gayhope1990 has told us he’s 26 (right?) and that he’s been with the same boyfriend for 7 years, and has implied it’s monogamous (or close to it?).
So where does all this very personal animosity toward bisexual guys come from? Why would he ever even encounter any bisexual guys?
Bob LaBlah
This happens at least 100 times a day across America. What makes this exchange so special? It looks made for a gay blog in my opinion. I say no more but thats just what it looks like. Not enough information about the guy or even an acknowledgement if that is even him in the picture is given to allow for credibility.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Remarkably Buzzfeed/Jezebel/Huff Po worthy. Absolutely perfect . Guy is a Saint
ErikO
Why doesn’t queerty write about the rampant biphobia in the so called “LGBT Community” from gay men and lesbians that’s been going on for decades?
ErikO
@CaliKyle: Just ignore the troll GayHope1990 he’s a troll, a bigot that hates bisexual men and is biphobic which is just as bad if not worse than being homophobic, and doesn’t know jack shit about bisexuality or human sexuality.
Billy Budd
Bisexuality is beautiful. It is the future. I hope to see a day when the majority of the people will be BI and only small fractions will be totally gay or straight.
Brian
The more we expose women and their homophobic attitudes towards male bisexuality, the more we will understand the nature of homophobia. It-s a gender war.
Women are threatened by men who can swing both ways because such men represent a threat to a woman’s privilege. Her privileve is that she can use sexual consent to bargain her way to a position of superiority in her relationship with a man.
Men who choose to swing both ways take away her ability yo do this.
Hussain-TheCanadian
The girl is 21 years old, shes a child, horny, and needy; it ‘s a booty call and she got turned down, so she flipped out.
I’m kind of shocked Brain has not responded yet; is he back from his vacation at the Trump Ranch?
Hussain-TheCanadian
@Hussain-TheCanadian: He hath returned!!
stadacona
Fake!
ErikO
@Brian: Don’t forget about how a lot of gay men and even lesbian women are extremely biphobic.
Brian
The woman is extra-angry that her man has sexual feelings for men and not just women. There is this additional horror in her tone which suggests extreme resentment toward the fact that he does not need to be totally dependent on her gender for his erotic comforts in life.
Women – especially Leftist women – are offended by the idea that women as a gender are not all-powerful in their ability to use sexual consent to control men. By being able – and upfront – about turning to men, the man puts this “all-powerful” woman on notice. The message is that she is not as powerful as she thinks she is.
This explains why homophobia toward men has always been much greater than it is toward women. It also explains the bisexual double standard – where women demand the right to be accepted for faking their bisexuality to titillate men (cue Katy Perry’s I Kissed A Girl) but are horrified by any notion that their boyfriends might be bisexual.
Brian
@gayhope1990: Feminists fear the power of male bisexuality because it threatens the feminist idea that women are “all powerful” creatures who can do whatever they want, including using sexual consent to control overall male behavior. This idea is what is loosely called “girl power”.
A man who can turn from women to men (and back again) represents a powerful force that destroys girl power.
gayhope1990
@onthemark:It comes from my uncle.He’s gay and learnt me everything I must know about gay life.He told me many times bisexuals don’t exist so I listen to him.He has been my mentor since I was 16 for being gay and happy.He knows well the life as he’s 52.
gayhope1990
And I want to follow his path.By the way I never meet a bisexual in my life.So I don’t believe it.My uncle is way better for understanding the life and sexuality.
zooby
Too many closet cases and closet case advocates on this site. It’s cute how much they get angry because someone tells them the truth they refuse to hear.
ErikO
@gayhope1990: Your uncle is full of shit, and a bigot/biphobic hypocrite as you are. Bisexual men exist. Try to get out more.
DCguy
Well done on switching the photo Queerty. 🙂
onthemark
@gayhope1990: So how old were you when your uncle started blowing you?
@Brian: You haven’t used the word “titillate” in quite awhile. Thanks for that. (giggle)
ErikO
@onthemark: LOL yeah the whole thing GayHope wrote about his uncle is creepy.
onthemark
@ErikO: Well, you probably think they do meth together. You seem pretty sure that ALL gay men do meth!
But damn, I just noticed gayhope’s other gem of a quote:
“No I don’t hate women
,except my mother,”
yikes!!!
ErikO
@onthemark: No I don’t believe that all gay men use meth but a large number of them do, or have used it. But far more heterosexual people use or have used meth than LGBT people.
gayhope1990
@onthemark:Of course I hate my mother she dumps me when I was 11 and since I has been bringing up by my father alone.My uncle help me to fell free to be myself.He showes me gay magazines,paid me subscribes for gayporn sites and above all he gives me advice for my life.I was so afraid when I was coming out to him.
hyhybt
Just because you found out he likes d!x doesn’t mean being one will get him back in your bed.