In general, the “but all guys do it!” excuse should really be limited to waking up at full-alert or tearing up during The Shawshank Redemption.
It should not, under any circumstances, be an appropriate answer to the question “Why do you have Grindr on your phone?”
Especially if the person asking that question happens to be the girlfriend of the guy being asked.
But such is the case for one justifiably confused young woman who recently confronted her “straight” boyfriend about why the little orange icon was tucked away in his phone.
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“So the other day I found out that my boyfriend of like four years had downloaded Grindr (shamefully I was looking through his phone). He didn’t have a profile or anything but I confronted him and he told me that he looked as a joke and that all guys look up weird stuff like this. He said it was “just to see what the app was like” but that he is not gay or curious in any way.
Is the whole ‘all guys look at it’ thing true, should I trust him, or should I try to talk to him more about it? Kind of freaking out and really confused.”
Naturally, many of those who responded to her question pointed out the almost-certain possibility that even if her boyfriend isn’t gay, there is a curiosity on his part that should be able to be expressed openly.
“A straight man isn’t going to go near that app,” LoveLiveLearn wrote. “He is curious at exploring his sexuality. He might have used it, he might not have, but he is curious.”
And one gay man offered this take from personal experience:
“All the ‘straight’ guys I’ve met hanging out on Grindr have at the very least been willing to experience some form of love from a guy, regardless of the presence of a GF or even a wife. That I know of, none of my actual straight guy friends keep Grindr downloaded on their phone as a source of entertainment.”
Either way, we wouldn’t advise just “letting it go” and hoping for the best. Who knows, maybe the most amazing threesome of her life could be on the horizon, or it might just be time to embrace being single again.
Patrick Crawford
Hahaha wow no
Rob Laughlin
Bless her heart. She needs to start swallowing.
JessPH
If he does not have an account then it is most likely that he’s only curious about app so he downloaded it, checked it but forgot to delete it.
David Tillman
All guys should……
Petro Dance
Lmao Mwoww Cortez
Philip Epstein
I don’t have grinder and I don’t have to tinder so no he’s a liar
Nick Guida
yeah…everyone looks at gay porn lol
Charles Schultz
Dump the blank problem solved grindr on.
Keith Perdue
OK, I’m 63 & I dunno what “Grndr” is…izzit sumthin pertaining to sexual acts with a sandwich or what?
Giancarlo85
Oh so he’s one of those closeted types that still thinks he’s straight. lol.
Christopher Hayward
Only men such as myself which are bisexual and had two girlfriends. Yes, they knew and did not care, I am friends with both still. I never had a grinder account but had fun with one of my ex-boyfriends, yes they knew.My heart with them each.
Rory P. Rentmeester
Lol. That’s almost as good as the girl fell from the ceiling onto my dick.
Gerard Sikora
gay guy.. in the closet.???lol
Mack
@Keith Perdue: I’m 68 and I know what Grinder is. But I’ve never used it. Don’t know if anyone in my backward area would use it either.
Brian Johnson-Frazier
I don’t have one. I am not downloading free STD onto my phone lol
Don Hanover
tries?
Douglas Schlitz
Good luck with that !
BigG
That man’s gay and in denial
Nonato San-Chez
Hahaha she is stupid if she believes this
Evji108
It’s what she gets for snoopin on his phone. It’s his business and after all they’re not married. And so what if he does get some dick on the side? More guys should get some dick and then not be so dependent on some kunt crossing her legs and cutting off the pussy supply just because she is in a bad mood that day.
Kevin Hurst
Dont they??
L Daniel E Kaufman
Ahahaha! Nice Brian Johnson-Frazier!
Jeff Nichols
Lol, yeah that’s right
rikard
all the straight guys I know are surprised to learn there is a gay ap analogous to Tinder, even more surprised to find out which came first, that it has a relative distance feature and that in some towns it’s like ordering free blow job delivery to your hotel room.
David Chachki
Lol
Trevor McGee
Don’t they?
Keith Perdue
OK, yeah, I be ignernt as to what a “Grindr” is, and why it’s on a phone escapes me & makes it sound a tad messy or impractical….do ya stick it on w/glue? Velcro? Does it just snap on? Can ya take one off if ya don’t like it? What kind of a weird attachment would one want on their phone anyway, it’d just take up more room in yer pocket, maybe make it hard to talk on yer phone, or even bulge in yer thigh, right? Gawd, being 63 sure makes me feel out of touch with you young studly dudes…or dudely studs, whatever…
hyhybt
“All guys look up weird stuff” isn’t such an unreasonable response. It’s not the same as saying all guys have Grindr on their phones. For example: though I do happen to be gay, I’m neither interested in hooking up with strangers nor even, for now, wanting to date or even meet new people. Nonetheless, I sometimes wonder how many and what kind of people in the area use apps like that. I might sometime install it to find out, even if I were straight. It’s not that different than when, having no need or desire to actually do the work, I nonetheless satisfied my curiosity about different roofing types and how they’re installed by reading on the subject.
Glücklich
@Brian Johnson-Frazier:
Based on your comments history it comes as no surprise you don’t have Grindr or much of anything else going on.
Of which order are you a member? I wasn’t aware one could surf the web from the convent.
Billy Budd
She must learn how to swallow and how to deep throat, as soon as possible.
James Sigmon
To funny
Brian
Men are very impulsive sexual creatures. They will have sex anywhere, anytime…and with a completely anonymous person. Apps like Grindr suit them to a t.
The problem for men who have sex only with women is that women are not similarly inclined as they have relatively low, non-constant sex drives. This curtails the man’s ability to have sex with her. It cramps his style, so to speak.
But when men can have sex with men, it opens up a Pandora’s box of sexual impulse, promiscuity, anonymity…you name it. It becomes a feast. This is why I keep saying that men are more suited to each other sexually than they are to women. Straight-identifying guys need to note this, and opt into men more often if they wish to fulfill their sexual desires.
I’m not saying that straight-identifying guys should cheat on their spouses. Far from it. I’m simply saying that, if you are a single, straight-identifying guy, you’d have more fun opting into men than into women. Maybe marry a woman later but have fun while you’re single.
Bauhaus
@Brian:
What a load of crap. Guess you’ve never been on a college campus. Clearly you’ve never been with or around a woman. Branch out a little.
Llewellyn Russell
Lol
Giancarlo85
@Brian: This is the rants of JASON SMEEDDDDDDSSSSS. Who else? He somehow turns this whole thing into a way to bash on women because his mommy never paid attention to him when he was younger. This is a pretty sad existence. I’m gay and I think your explanations about homosexuality and sexuality in general reek of bullshit.
Brian
@Bauhaus: Women tend to use their sexuality as a marketing ploy. But this doesn’t mean they have the high or constant sex drives that men have. Using one’s sexuality as a marketing ploy is a form of selling and is NOT indicative of sex drive.
For example, a woman with absolutely no sex drive can still put out for 20 men in one day. How do you think most female prostitutes do it? They’re not doing it because they’re aroused, sweetheart.
Bauhaus
@Brian:
Chunder.
Joshua Grubb
If only….
CaliKyle
One of the biggest lies ever told is that orientation is defined by with whom a person might have sex. Bullshit. I always have been and continue to be unequivocally a gay man. However, I’ve had sex with many females and enjoyed it. A horny human, especially those with penises, can basically have sex with anything, anytime, anywhere if the mood strikes or circumstances necessitate. I refuse to id as bisexual because orientation more accurately speaks to the gender to whom someone is overwhelmingly sexually AND romantically attracted, not simply who we’re capable of boning. I’ve occasionally found myself sexually attracted to or curious about certain women but have never been able to develop feelings for any of them beyond platonic, nor do I make a habit of checking women out or lusting over them the way I do men. I have only ever felt romantic toward and fallen in love with males. So, it is entirely possible to be a legitimately straight guy interested in exploring purely sexual options with other guys. I’ve mentioned here before that I had a two year relationship with a straight guy. I’m as bothered and utterly unconvinced by the stubborn, rather closed minded people who insisted upon labeling me gay for occasionally having sex but nothing more with females. Similarly, the guy I was involved with in college was thought of as gay or bi by many yet to this day I’m the only male he’s been sexually involved with – if he were gay or bi he would’ve been able to fall in love with me in addition to having sex with me; if I were bi I’d be able to fall in love with at least one of the many amazing women with whom I’ve had sex. Orientation is about to whom were are overwhelmingly and most frequently attracted to romantically first and foremost plus sexually. All human beings are potentially capable of having sex with either sex under the right circumstances so sex alone does not accurately reveal orientation.
hyhybt
@CaliKyle: people insist on labeling you as gay because you have sex with women?
Keith Andrew
Lmaoooo
Michael E Gwinn
What phone doesn’t?
Michael E Gwinn
And ……don’t forget….all straight men have sex with other men so that they can better understand the tasks that they require of their women
RIGay
Reminds me of me before I came out in the mid-1980’s; I would let myself be “Gay for a week” to see if I liked it. News flash; I liked it, I really liked it! Then I tried “Gay for a month”, then “Bi-curious”, then I just said “Fuck it, I’m gay!” on July 4, 1988.
Grindr is this mans “Gay for a week” starting point. Honey, tell you what – before he permanently moves on to trouser trout, take advantage of his keen sense of things. Trust his sense of fashion and grooming. At least you will come of this looking better and ready for the next boyfriend.
Stefano
I eat pizza but i hate it !
Stefano
@Brian: “For example, a woman with absolutely no sex drive can still put out for 20 men in one day.” Hey ! Me too ! I knew i was a women deeep inside.
Stefano
I hate pizza but i eat it !
Brian
@CaliKyle: You are gay by choice. When you say “I’m a gay man”, that is a choice. You have made the choice to identify as a gay man.
Giancarlo85
@Brian: You are an idiot by choice. You refuse to educate yourself on sexuality… that is a choice. Being gay is NOT a choice, you dingbat.
Mikah
He’s definitely curious at least,and that’s okay.Maybe if he’s honest with his girlfriend she may be more understanding.Women knowingly dating bisexual men is not uncommon.
Blackceo
@CaliKyle:
I totally co-sign with all of this. Someone tried to label me as bi because I have had sex with women and still have an itch too sometimes. I’ve always said Im gay with bi tendencies but Im a gay man, just not 100%, but I am not bisexual. I don’t desire women nor have the passion with them the way I do with men. A woman has never given me that butterflies in my stomach feeling. I’ve just occasionally liked to fuck them.
Giancarlo85
@CaliKyle: Still talking away about straight men having sex with you? No, if someone has sex with the same sex they aren’t straight. Stop it with these fantasies. And yes if you had sex with both genders you are bi. If you deny it, you are in denial yourself.
tusgold
She is his ex gf once he get’s sweet tight boi pussy and a real blow job from a gay guy and a thorough rimming he will take her of his contact list and block her number. THE END
tusgold
@Giancarlo85:
How old are you> Do people really have these stoneage beliefs about sexuality. Sexuality is fluid imagine on one side you have gay on the otherside you have str8 and you can have pure straight on one side and then pure gay on the other and he can fall anywhere on the continuum. I dont know know if 100$ gay or stright exists, it may but our lil player sounds like some variation of bi-sexual. Hes probably getting more dick than his gf. Maybe he will teach her how to really suck dick
Bryguyf69
A friend downloaded Grindr onto my phone as a joke. I’ve never registered. I’ve never even loaded the app. But neither have I deleted it because I’m too lazy to delete apps until I need the room. For what it’s worth, I wouldn’t use Grindr even if I was gay. I feel the same way about non-gay hookup apps. So no, having the app on your phone doesn’t necessarily mean you’re secretly gay or curious. Been there, done that, not interested(?).
Jalen stegman
Lmfao!