@Bee Gaga: Perhaps they will grow and come to understand that their relationship–as with any hetersexual marriage–the relationship comes first and is the foundation for the family. A happily together queer couple should feel free to celebrate their relationship and certainly not hide their love in front of the kids. It’s good for the kids. That doesn’t mean they have to tell them all sorts of things that is beyond their years of understanding, but the kids need to see their two dads acknowledge the fact that they love one another, they are committed to each other, and leave other people’s attitudes at the door. To claim they are nothing more than “friends” is a lie, and such a lie will destroy their family.