My fiance gave me the strength [to come out]. The challenge I get now is, why are you not dating a gay black guy? Why are you dating a white guy? Why would I do that? Why would I leave someone I fell in love with and have been through so many challenges with.”
—Michael Sam, the first openly gay player drafted into the NFL, speaking to Quinnipiac University students and faculty on Tuesday about reaction to his dating Vito Cammisano
man5996853
Is it progress when the criticism moves away from one’s sexuality and back to tried-and-true racism?
Cam
They’ve been together years, people need to get over it. If they’ve found each other good for them.
Xzamilio
You’re going to get crap from everyone… gay or straight, Michael. This particular criticism is not surprising, although I do find it exhausting. I’m black, and have ran the gauntlet when it came to attraction… from black as tar to porcelain white. I could just as easily drool over Taye Diggs or Morris Chestnut and then drool over Mark Wahlberg or Liam Hemsworth. Or Harry Shun… ugh, but not Margaret Cho… that’s one Asian dude I can’t get it up for 🙂
It’s possible he may have hangups from his own upbringing, and it’s also possible that he uses the same prejudices that those in society use when being with someone. I’m sure I don’t care either way. You know where I stand with Michael Sam.
http://shallowvoices.blogspot.com/2015/01/michael-sam.html
Xzamilio
@Xzamilio: Crap. Harry SHUM I meant. God, that’s a good looking man.
dhmonarch89
well- we all know Vito likes black guys- his bf before Michael was a hot black gay porn star. 🙂
Merv
That’s discouraging that some people are still like that. I admire Sam’s strong defense of his fiance.
Giancarlo85
I don’t really see the issue with this. People can date who they want. It isn’t my issue nor my life. If they love each other, that’s cool with me.
DarkZephyr
It breaks my heart that the poor guy has to deal with this kind of bullsh*t r*cist criticism. BUT I am glad that they are happy together and that they have such a strong bond. THAT is what counts. They are both beautiful men and they look great together.
@Xzamilio: I am with you when it comes to finding men of all races attractive. Men are just so damned beautiful and come in so many delicious varieties, I have no desire to limit my attractions to just one type.
@Giancarlo85: Right, its no personal attack on any of us that he dates and loves who he damned well pleases and we LGBT people should be the LAST people to criticize ANYONE for who they choose to love and be with. *Especially* two of our own.
Kieran
Michael should name and shame the rac ists who only see color. I thought we had moved past that bunk.
Bauhaus
Well, for small minded folks, they push a lot of buttons. Sexual orientation, race, pro-sports. Things aren’t the way they “should” be for a segment of this world, and they see it as their duty to remind those not in lockstep to defend themselves. Good grief, leave them alone.
kevins48
have run
Bob LaBlah
This should have been expected. Why should Michael live happily ever after? I really do wish he had shut his mouth up about his sexuality. He is cute and it would have been perfect timing had he waited till they won a playoff or better yet a Super Bowl and announced it during a locker room interview.
He has plenty of company. Walt Clyde Frazier is a very wealthy member of the club and to this day has never come out but everyone knows he is gay. I personally say get the damn money FIRST and then tell your business to the world if you must. Charmin aint cheap, even of it is on sale. Who wants to keep having to buy cheap tissue rolls from Dollar Tree, Dollar General or Family Dollar? Hell, with the rate he’s going he amounts to nothing but another unemployed Giancar…………
Tackle
I don’t think the question was really an attack or criticism. But from what I’ve read, Michael’s response was strange, if not a bit off. No one was asking him to leave his fiance,and start dating someone Black. He could use these moments to educate people about what true love is really, and should be about. How you connect on levels deeper than ones physical appearance. However, if Michael prefers White men, and has a history of exclusively sleeping with, dating, and eventually getting into relationships with only White men, he would be unable to speak to and on this topic truthfully. He will give an answer like the one he gave…
jwtraveler
Americans love to stick their big ugly noses into everyone else’s personal business. I spent 5 years living and traveling in east and southeast Asia. They have their prejudices like everyone else, but one thing I really appreciate about those cultures is that they “mind their own business” when it comes to personal matters.
-patioblog-
testing testing my comment wasn’t published above and I am wondering why
Scribe38
@Tackle: As a blk man partnered to a white male I think he gave the perfect response. Trust me he gets this race question all the time and it gets old. Both of us (my partner and I) get crap for dating outside our race even though we’ve been together for 20 yrs, met when I was 19 yrs old. I don’t attempt to educate anyone any longer and basically tell folks to go and suck my d*ck if they have a problem with us. The fact that he helped me when I was basically homeless and I supported him when he was out of work 3 yrs doesn’t mean anything to people concerned with race. Some folks only see race and are incapable of moving pass it. Blk gay men who would never actually date me, have said some of the stupidest sh*t to me about dating a white guy. Some think he must make more money than I do (he doesn’t), or I started dating him as a trophy when I “made it” (nope). Sometimes you just have to say fu*k off to haters. I don’t explain “why I’m gay” or “why I date a white guy” anymore because it allows the questioner to believe those are legitimate questions to ask someone.
-patioblog-
People procreate based on personal preference and you really can’t call someone racist (and people do call him that) b/c of their taste. There are plenty of men on this earth that I DO NOT WANT TO SLEEP WITH and that’s my choice.
tusgold
The fact that race is an issue takes us back 2 cebturies. This is the picture of equality and racial balance in our society. Why can’t he fall in love with the human soul of his choice regardless of his skin color? You have NO i idea how this depresses me. I feel like going to a Koch Brothers fund raiser…damn I hate when that happens!
Cam
@Tackle: said. “I don’t think the question was really an attack or criticism. But from what I’ve read, Michael’s response was strange, if not a bit off.”
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Oh give me a break, so it isn’t an attack to ask him why his fiance is of a certain race? But him responding is somehow bad?
Give me an f-ing break.
Paco
I’m sure the haters justify their objections, to others being in mixed race relationships, as simply being a “preference” too. That’s usually the word that gets used to cover the stink of their own BS.
I wish Michael and Vito the best.
Desert Boy
Michael Sam has the cultural burden of being African-American, gay, and a football player. Now, the bigots and the haters are dogging him for have a Caucasian partner.
For Christ’s sake people. It’s 2015. Get over it and deal.
DonovanS28
They are the answer to racism, I think everyone should have children with different race so the future generations will be so mixed up no one can hate anyone for what race they are.
lauraspencer
Race isn’t the issue for me in this coupling.
My issue is that in Vito’s young life he has already dated two gays in the spotlight (one in porn and now Sam). It seems that he is more of a hanger-on looking to bask in the glow of fame.
Cam
@lauraspencer:
Except for the fact that they have been together for years and were dating before Sam was ever in the spotlight.
-patioblog-
One cannot dictate personal taste in procreation, I will sleep with whomever turns me on, thank you VERY much.
SteveDenver
If I was in Sam’s position, I would reply with my trusty all-purpose f-off phrase: “Why do you ask such a question?”
People who ask such questions usually are unattached, because their priorities in life are all screwed up.
Xzamilio
@Cam: Exactly.
Ann Mason
God bless those ignorant, isolated people who can’t stop pondering how others should live.
NoCagada
@-patioblog-: PROCREATION??? Better get out that dictionary…
-patioblog-
@NoCagada that’s the word that I meant, I was talking about race and why it exists/why there is a social construct of race.
Dakotahgeo
Most people aren’t happy unless they’re minding everyone else’s business. They are bored with their own life, lonesome, lonely, or just a general PITA!!
tusgold
kisses to dessertboy
MarionPaige
THE PROBLEM WITH MICHAEL SAM is that he is clearly estranged from everyone Black in his life. He freely says “he will never forgive his brothers”. At an important event in his life (an event most people would share with their parents and siblings), Sam couldn’t find one black person in his life to share it with. Does that sound healthy?
Sam’s attraction to a Mighty White Guy who initially told him to piss off would come across as being a lot more healthy if Sam’s relationship with everything Black wasn’t so dysfunctional.
Captain Obvious
Normally I support this guy, but this is just an obvious cry for more undo attention.
There’s no way a black man in America isn’t used to shrugging off stupid comments about things like race and a gay black man has to deal with even more.
So of all the things to cry about in the media he chose someone(probably online of all things) whining about his boyfriend being white? Whatever, dude.
There are young black men being murdered by police officers who easily could’ve avoided killing them and actually assessed the situation by the book. But clearly someone tweeting Michael Sam about his white boyfriend is much much worse. Oh and I’m sure the boyfriend is sobbing in the corner that someone is bothered by the color of his skin in America, he’ll never be treated equally.
What a stupid “story”.
Give me a break.
Merv
@Captain Obvious – Defending your fiance against bigotry is never stupid. What is stupid is your poorly reasoned argument.
“There are young black men being murdered by police officers… But clearly someone tweeting Michael Sam about his white boyfriend is much much worse.”.
This is the exact same argument the anti-gay bigots use against us: “ISIS is throwing homosexuals off buildings, and you’re worried about marriage?!”.
“There’s no way a black man in America isn’t used to shrugging off stupid comments..”.
So, bigotry becomes more acceptable the more common it is?
Cam
@MarionPaige:
Yeah, he’s been playing football for years but doesn’t have any black friends. (Eye Roll)
DarkZephyr
@MarionPaige: Your opinions about his relationship with black people in his life is none of your damned business. Maybe his brothers did something dreadful that is utterly unrelated to their skin color. I have come to the conclusion that you are a psycho. Let him love who he damned well pleases.
@Captain Obvious: You have a frighteningly warped sense of love and honor. If somebody talked shit about MY man there is no way in hell I would just “shrug it off”. Are you kidding me?
Mike G
@MarionPaige: How on earth do you (think you) know so much about Michael Sam’s psyche? Presumptuous much?
@DarkZephyr: I haven’t followed his press-reported life story much at all, but I believe he’s said his brothers were serious assholes about his being gay, a perfectly good reason for being estranged from them, as far as I’m concerned.
@man5996853: Sad, but true.
@Captain Obvious: How is it any different than 95% of the rest of the LGBTetc “news” “reported” here on Queerty?
Raquel Santiago
We have so many ism’s that these issues become a nightmare, able-ism, ageism, sexism, gender-ism, feminism, racism. When does love become what about matters in a relationship and when do people stop criticizing others about their own personal lives. People have way to much time on their hands when they are commenting on another persons love or sex life.
dave lopes
@DonovanS28: Hell NO.
If you want to drive your race to extinction my mixing everyone, go ahead.
As for me, i appreciate the different races and want them all to survive as well as the mixed ones.
Sam does not need to explain to anyone why he is dating anyone. It’s none of their business.
robho3
Not A fan of Michael Sams but who cares what color his boyfriend is I mean come on its 2015…..Is it my imagination or does it seem like racism is getting worse in our country?
Musk
It’s always so heartening when one prejudice wins out over another prejudice. *snicker*
blackberry finn
The best revenge for all the insulting questions? Be HAPPY.
Giancarlo85
@MarionPaige: What the f-k? What if he finds someone he wants to date and that guy doesn’t happen to be black? Why is that so wrong? Do you have to be wrong on everything?
Love is love. Why is it such a big deal who the races of the two people are? Seriously what the fuck is this? 1967? I thought Earl Warren sorted this shit out? Are we really speaking out against interracial couples? WTF?
Giancarlo85
@dave lopes: “If you want to drive your race to extinction my mixing everyone, go ahead.”
What the hell is that supposed to mean?
Everyone is a HUMAN BEING. End. Of. Story.
MarionPaige
I hope Michael Sam marries THAT THANG he’s been dragging around. It would be further proof to the Black Community that Sam is MORE GAY THAN BLACK (i.e that no Black kids are gonna look to that idiot Sam as a role model). I’m all for Sam being a role model for White Kids though.
What kind of Gay Man is stupid enough to be date a guy who was photographed in a sling by his bareback gay pornstar ex? There’s a reason why a lot of guys in the sex biz date other guys in the sex biz. In a recent interview, straight pornstar Seth Gamble says as soon as he tells a girl what he does for a living, she’s outa there.
Giancarlo85
@MarionPaige: Nobody cares about your ra-cist anti-miscegenation views. And what kind of role model are you to anyone?
And your second paragraph is a whole lot of stupid.
Blackceo
If that man wants to play in the snow then let him play in the snow. I’ve played in the snow before. Big fucking deal. This is 2015 and shit like Sigma Alpha Epsilon ra cist chants and hating on interracial relationships is just stupid. Empire got flack from some about why Jamal’s first boyfriend, Michael (with his fine ass) wasn’t Black. Enough!!!! Just stupid.
lauraspencer
@ Cam….
you say “Except for the fact that they have been together for years and were dating before Sam was ever in the spotlight.”
Not sure where you get the “years” from. When Michael was drafted Spring of 2014 by the Rams he and Vito were said to be dating several months. Sounds like that would mean they met in 2013.
Sam has been in the spotlight since 2009. Not the national spotlight, but the college sports spotlight. He was the SEC Defensive Player of the Year in 2013.
Vito seems to like guys that are in the spotlight. That’s all.
jwtraveler
@lauraspencer: Why is that YOUR issue? It’s none of your business.
jwtraveler
Two adults love each other and want to spend their lives together. They seem very happy. That’s wonderful for them and it’s nice to see. As far as I can tell, that’s the whole story. What anyone else thinks, is completely irrelevant. I have never seen so much stupidity and nonsense as I have read in these comments. Really, don’t you guys have anything else to waste your time with?
Black Pegasus
@MarionPaige: LMAO!!!! Your comments got me rolling on the floor. I was wondering when someone would step in and keep the shht real. You acheived that and more LOL. WoW
Captain Obvious
@Merv: Oh please, you really are naïve enough to believe this is anything more than a shot at more attention in the media?
No one is following him around talking about his white boyfriend. The type of women who would even be saying crap about it can’t afford to hang around the places he’s in.
If anything his white boyfriend probably hears more negative crap about having a black boyfriend than anything else considering it’s not “in” for a gay white male to be attracted to any men who aren’t white.
And at the end of the day they lose nothing by the comments they’re supposedly getting in 2015. They’re not being followed around with hoses, no one is being lynched, no one is even coming up to their faces saying this.
It’s all for attention.
@DarkZephyr: Once again taking the comments section way too personally and making personal attacks. You don’t have to agree with me, quit replying to me if you don’t like what I have to say. Ignore me, and get over yourself. It’s a blog, we’re not friends. You don’t have to like my comments. The only disturbing thing is how you always have to insult everyone you don’t agree with like you know them personally. Get a life already.
@Mike G: He’s using an issue he’s not really dealing with for attention when there are actual issues black males are dealing with right now that are life threatening. That’s what’s different. He has no reason to be complaining as much as he does on a large scale as if he’s some media personality with an actual career. Others have said if he put this much time into what he supposedly really wanted which was a football career then he’d have one by now. Clearly he just wants to be famous for no reason. I say the same about all of the other people who do this stuff on Queerty. Can I not criticize Sam just because he’s black?
I got called “r@cist” by that idiot DarkZephyr for criticizing white people and now I’m unable to criticize black people either. Everything can’t always be positive, especially in a world where everyone will use any sob story they can to get ahead, get attention, and create a false career based on nothing. I won’t support the black, gay, Kim Kardashian. You go ahead if it makes you feel good.
The amount of fake PC “don’t criticize anyone” nonsense spewing out of some of you on a daily basis over blog comments is pathetic. What world do you live in where you can’t say anything about anyone who is begging to be in the media? Wake up.
MarionPaige
in re this discussion about dates that Sam and Vito were together…
Sam said in an interview that he and Vito dated and then broke up for a while. So, at some point when Sam said during the draft event that he and Vito had been dating “for a few months”, I think he meant that they had been back together again for a few months. I think the point that Sam and Vito have known each other for years matches what Sam has said in various interviews.
transiteer
They found each other and are happy together. Who’s business is it to imply it should be different?
Saint Law
Two of Sam’s siblings are dead. A third is believed to be dead. Two others are in prison. None of these losses stopped his father from rejecting him when he came out. His mother had already rejected him for choosing sports over religion.
And the Marion Paige troll wonders why they weren’t in attendance?
As for it’s toothless snarks re. his dating a white man…fucking spare me.
Bitch, it’s evident your love life is a tragic mess. It’s also clear the blame for that lies with your poisonous personality. Expend a little less energy fretting about who a total stranger dates and more trying to get some for yourself.
xx
Saint Law
@Captain Obvious: You put a lot of effort in to writing badly.
MarionPaige
In an episode of Seinfeld, the character George is uncontrollably attracted to this girl who hates him. George says something like “How Can I Not Be Attracted to Someone Who Hates Me That Much”? This is what I immediately thought of when I read Sam’s description of how he and Vito first met.
Sluggo2007
What I don’t understand is: Why do the great majority of successful black men (gay or straight) have a white man/woman on their arm? That just shows me that black people are rejecting their own kind.
NJjoe
Really? Who cares freakin’ cares who falls in love with who? Who dates who and what color they are? I feel like I am living in 1952 and I wasn’t born yet…we keep taking steps backwards instead of moving forward. Pathetic.
DarkZephyr
@Sluggo2007: Wouldn’t that then follow that the white person is “rejecting their own kind” as well? I guess what it REALLY boils down to is whether or not you REALLY believe that race and skin color shouldn’t matter and that we are all really equal. If you think its wrong for white to date black or black to date white then you *do not really believe* that skin color shouldn’t matter when it comes to measuring human worth and that we are all equal. UNLESS you want to feed me that tired old “separate but equal” line from the days of Jim Crow laws. Perhaps you are a friend of old Jim Crow?
DarkZephyr
@Sluggo2007: Also, I guess you think that the existence of mixed race people is wrong? I mean people of different races would have to date each other or at least have sex for mixed race people to be born, right? By your logic, people of mixed heritage are the result of people “rejecting their own kind” correct? So do you tend to shun mixed race people because of the wicked thing that their existence represents for you? Just curious.
DarkZephyr
@Captain Obvious:
“quit replying to me if you don’t like what I have to say.”
If I don’t like what you say I *shouldn’t* reply to you? That is nonsensical. Good thing I fully intend to reply to whatever I damn well please. You can always ignore me if you wish.
“I got called “r@cist” by that idiot DarkZephyr for criticizing white people”
I call you out as r*cist when you act r*cist and act like an all around awful person. The times I have replied to your criticisms of white people have been when you simply made stuff up to complain about that was not actually happening. You pulled it out of your dark tunnel because you clearly just enjoy being angry with white people because you have a big gaping ugly chip on your shoulder. By the way, in case you haven’t noticed, I am not the only one who thinks that you and Marion are full of it.
“and now I’m unable to criticize black people either.”
And look at what you are criticizing him for. For *being engaged to a WHITE GUY*. This is one of those “Think McFly” moments.
Billysees
@Cam:
“If they’ve found each other good for them.”
Good for them is right. Best way to say it.
Billysees
@jwtraveler:
“They seem very happy. That’s wonderful for them and it’s nice to see. As far as I can tell, that’s the whole story.”
It is the whole story, isn’t it?
Tebn
It would be interesting to know whether those objections come from white or black people.
Cam
@lauraspencer: said…
“@ Cam….
you say “Except for the fact that they have been together for years and were dating before Sam was ever in the spotlight.”
Not sure where you get the “years” from. When Michael was drafted Spring of 2014 by the Rams he and Vito were said to be dating several months. Sounds like that would mean they met in 2013.”
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The reports said they met as undergrad athletes at school.
Giancarlo85
@Sluggo2007: Again with the anti-miscegenation. It doesn’t surprise me some in the LGBT community are so rac*ist. Some of the posts on here are basically reasons why we as a community are being held back. And exactly why many LGBT people of ethnic and racial minorities feel left out.
Honestly I think some are more angry about Vito dating a black guy, then the other way around.
I don’t get it. I just don’t get it. Some on here cry and moan about homophobia, yet display rac*ist attitudes? Are you kidding me?
tricky ricky
if he wants to date a white guy who has his photo all over the web having bareback sex with a gay porn star both pitching and catching then it’s his business.
Mike G
@Captain Obvious: You, like Marion Paige, seem to know an awful lot about what goes on in a total stranger’s psyche! Again I say, presumptuous much?
As for putting more time into his football career. Um, yeah. I’m sure that would TOTALLY turn the NFL’s leadership, its sponsors, and the majority of its fan-base around in a HEARTBEAT. (Or would that be a RuPaul-esque snap of the fingers?) ‘Cos you know, there are so many other out, queer athletes who’ve done just that in professional sports (particularly team sports)… (eyes rolling)
As for black males in general facing worse issues. WTF? A huge number of Americans of many races and colors, not to mention the overwhelming majority of the world’s population, daily faces far worse “issues” than the American LGBT “community.” While I personally feel that it would actually be wonderful if the latter actually acknowledged and dealt with that fact far more than it does, wouldn’t it be ludicrous to suggest they should stop “complaining about” their own mistreatment in light of that fact? How many of the world’s starving and disease-ridden children, to name but one obvious issue, could HRC, for example, help if they stopped spending “so much damned time and money” worrying about the first-world problem of whether LGB people can “have their love affirmed” by getting “married” just like straight people rather than suffering the gross indignity of a “second-class” civil union granting similar economic and political rights?
“Can I not criticize Sam just because he’s black?”
You can criticize anyone you want, for any reason you want. As long as I get to criticize your criticism without being falsely accused of trying to shut you up for “politically correct” reasons which I don’t recall mentioning…
Bob LaBlah
@Mike G: “You can criticize anyone you want, for any reason you want.”
Out of fear of being permanently banned I dare NOT go too deep into this but I will say this…….tread lightly when you deal with a “certain” group. Not even blacks get that riled up or carry that much power when…………………
DarkZephyr
@tricky ricky: “if he wants to date a white guy who has his photo all over the web having bareback sex with a gay porn star both pitching and catching then it’s his business.”
Absolutely correct.
Cam
@tricky ricky: Why are you lying? There are no pictures like that, but the fact you would make up a story like that seems to indicate you definitely have an agenda.
bjm123
He’s just seeking attention because he cut it in the NFL! I used to root for him but he’s bringing color into this as if to say: “black men are upset that I’m not with a black guy.”
Mikey, we don’t care about you or your PORNO partner! You might want to get tested
dave lopes
@Giancarlo85: “Everyone is a human being” WOW thank you for sharing this great discovery.
Next time read and understand a response before you start whining.
softnwet2000
I think if Michael had surrounded himself with people who truly cared about him and not their own personal gain, the outcome would have been different. Those people who are around him help put him in the position he’s in. I think if Vinny truly cared about him, he would have urged him to keep his mouth shut and secure a job in the NFL first. I feel Vinny craves the spotlight and sacrificed Michael’s career for it. In my opinion, if Michael was with someone black he would have someone with him who understands the struggle that many black men sometime face. A black man would have helped Michael focus on his career before being a poster “child”/ “couple”.
Chris
On a personal level, I agree with Sam; it’s no one’s business but his and his partners as to why they are together.
I have found it helpful to read the social-science research on why educated (and/or upper middle class) people seek partners who have similar educational (and/or social-class) backgrounds. As a result, people find themselves dating and marrying outside the narrowly circumscribed norms of their particular social, racial, ethic and/or religious groups. It gets complicated; but it reminds me to suspend my own personal judgments in cases like this.
Giancarlo85
@dave lopes: You’re an idiot. Do you even use your little brain? Some people even on here treat others like they are sub-human. I can’t stand little nasty bitches like you.
Captain Obvious
@DarkZephyr: Yawn, you’re on here all day. This site is your whole life.
DarkZephyr
@Captain Obvious: yeah that’s a great reply that took a lot of thought and wit.
stanhope
Oh I remember this all too well. The Black folks hated him and the White folks hated me. In Atlanta we, as a couple, would go to the same restaurants all of the time. The Black waitresses would always give me larger portions than him. It was patently obvious. Then one day, in front of the waitress, I exchanged plates with my boyfriend. That sort of telegraphed the message at least in that one place. It never happened again at that restaurant. On the other side, a boyfriend’s friends hated that he was with a Black guy and went so far as to make up a story that I was messing around in the steam room of the gym. It was an outright lie. The stories are legion. All I can say is talk to each other, really know one another, be sensitive to the other and know that some of the world is going to have a problem and say fuck them.
stanhope
@softnwet2000: LMAO what you said is the most incredibly stupid thing I’ve read today. The only way I could beat it is to pick up the Enquirer and read about the space creatures from your planet of origin.
David
There are a lot of things about the Michael Sam story that make you want to facepalm, Not just the fact that one of the most talented players in college football has been shunned by the NFL. But that isn’t the drama dejour.
Here is a flash of the obvious for folks. Everybody take your phone out, now log into whatever app of choice you have on there (Grind, Tindr, Findr, Screwr..what ever…) and pick any 5 profiles at random..
How many of those profiles say things like “no blacks”. Or. “Not into Asians.. sorry guys, just my preference!”. etc. etc. Let me say there is nothing wrong with liking what you like… but please don’t project those preference as judgements on others. The LGBTQ-XYZ-Whatever else you wanna add on community HAS race issues. Just like ALL of humanity has race issues.
My husband and I have smiled politely at this sort of BS for nearly 15 years, bur frankly we didn’t care then we don’t care now. What comments like this tell us, is some folks are sad bitter malcontents who are bothered by seeing people happier than they are.
But here is the thing, those of us in interracial relationships don’t care if our being together bothers you. When we hear people express their feelings on someone being a “Chocolate, Rice, Potato or Salsa Queen”, because they are with someone who is different, it is huge red flag that screams this person clearly has issues with Race in general, and frankly we have neither the time nor the desire to be your diversity teachers.
Life is in color, get over it.
softnwet2000
@stanhope thanks for reading my post and respecting my opinion. Your boyfriend is so lucky to have a guy like you….. Good riddance.