He’s bisexual, just leave it at that. Why are people so afraid of people being bisexual? Especially men… Gosh.

I’m bisexual myself also but because I’m female, I get told “yeah yeah, sure” but I, myself know what I’m attracted to. Anyway, Mika HAS been seen with numerous females, one being Adele. I think it was 2008 where he was spotted on a sort of “date” and it was up EVERYWHERE all over the Mika fan sites I regularly visit (almost four times a day) and yeah. He also has been seen too cozyly siting hanging with Katy Perry, giving her piggie back rides. Also, he was seen linking arms with Lady Gaga. Now, you could say he’s just friends with these women. But if they were all men, would you say they were just friends? No. Because everyone wants to say he’s gay. I have no idea why, because to me he doesn’t scream. He more so screams a eccentric boy with an odd out look on life. Though, I have seen him probably flirt with male interviewers. And to the person saying he was upfront about his “gayness” he never was, because I’d know about it. I’m a walking Mika biography. I don’t think there’s something I don’t know. So take it from a Mika stalker, who’s been around since the early years. I’d take his word on it.

I don’t like labels either. I’ve fallen in love with men and with women. Because my male relationships were more public, everyone labeled me “straight.” But I’m always arguing with the labels and encouraging everyone to consider that we’re all gay and straight and at different points on the Kinsey scale at different times in life. It’s natural.

No wonder Mika was reluctant to talk about it. The majority of the world is too narrow-minded and uneducated on this subject.

Look, I fall in love with who I fall in love with. I’m faithful and I’m loyal. I’m also honest about the occassional attraction to someone else that I do not act on when in a committed relationship. But at the end of the day, I love who I love. Sometimes it’s going to be love with a man, and sometimes it’s going to be a woman. I hope someday I grow old with someone perfect for me. Male or female? Don’t know, but I love the suspense.

And then we get the biphobic hate from the gay population that WE SUPPORT. Do you know how much that hurts? It’s like offering someone your hand, and they spit in your face instead of taking it.

I have been ridiculed as a “dyke” all my life. I don’t even have a leaning towards either side, but I was called a closet case from middle school onward, by both gays and straights. I’ve fallen in love with people of both genders. I have also never cheated on anyone I’ve been with. I have, however, been cheated on by all kinds. Straight men, lesbian women, bi women. That doesn’t mean I think that entire selected demographic are a bunch of whores.

One of my closest friends in high school was a closeted bi man. He was always labeled a queer and a faggot and shoved into lockers. Then people assumed he was dating girls because it would shake his “faggy” image, but he actaully really liked them, and had steady relationships with 5 of them throughout high school. He waited until we were in college to date a boy. When I visited him next, he had a steady boyfriend. When they broke up, he dated a girl.

We’re still extrememly close. He tells me almost everything, even going into the TMI department. He would never cheat on his wife. He loves her dearly. But he’s still very attracted to men. If he were actually just gay, he would tell me. I know that sounds cheesy, but it’s true. He dated more girls than boys, but I assure you that his 4 year long relationship with his last boyfriend was no experimentation. Eventually, people will realize real bisexuals do exist, and we have just as many problems as gays.

I think Mika is the only one who has to know who he sleeps with, and i think putting a name on everybody and everything is not always a good idea…

Let’s just enjoy life & body, without thinking it’s male or woman… Sometimes we need guidance and time to find our true selves.

Don’t forget that naming something is to be less frightened of it…

That said, take care all :)

Please stop blaming bi women for the “bisexual double standard” – which is way more of a problem in the USA than it is in the UK or the rest of Europe as far as I can see – it’s really completely unfair.

David Bowie denied his bisexuality in the late 80s and 90s because he felt it had damaged his career in America. He admitted as much when he quietly came out as bisexual again in the 2000s. Being openly bi helped his career in the UK in the 70s.

Segregation was thus the key to allowing male-male sexual activity. If we hadn’t accepted segregation, we would still be legally forbidden.

Thus, there were strings attached to the allowance for male-male sexual activity. Female-female, on the other hand, was given a free run.

I’ve always said that this double standard is one important reason why liberalism is a phony philosophy. All phony philosophies eventually fail, and liberalism isn’t far off having a major collapse.

Maybe MIKA himself knows the best what he is.

And maybe you ppl noticed how he says “IF YOU NEED A TERM FOR ME”. He doesn’t want to be labeled as anything, but since everyone in this damn labeled world needs a term for damn everything, he says it’s easiest to be called bisexual.

There are people who don’t want or need to be labeled. MIKA is clearly one of them, so why do you care if he likes guys or girls? Maybe he doesn’t care about the sex, maybe it’s easier NOT to fuzz your own head up with thoughts of “OMG AM I GAY OR NOTTTTT”.

ranting. sry.

peace out.

Personally I don’t see why gay men are so petty that they need to try and label every sexually diverse man as completely gay: the world isn’t that boring and there’s a whole spectrum heading up to the stars on the other side of that rainbow boys. Don’t understand why we like girls? That’s fine but don’t claim to know whether we do or don’t.

If you just accepted how fun being bi actually is you wouldn’t be trying to kill our buzz right now.

Yes this page is about Mika’s sexuality and he has come out as bisexual. So who the bloody hell are you to say he’s gay?

Well who are you? Know the guy personally do you?

No, of course you don’t.

Mika is DEFINATELY Gay, deal with it.

Nobody gives a toss what your sexuality is, please stop posting things about it.

Seriously bi-bashing and biphobia is for losers and morons – just like any other kind of phobia about other people’s sexuality.

It’s not like sexuality is fixed for life for everyone anyway.

Please. Grow up already.

@charlotte- michaela I don’t know anything about Mika’s past relationships… like I said before (in post no. 53), I’m only aware of his current girlfriend because we’re in the same building, therefore I see them quite often. I will assume any other relationships he’s had, will have been a while back as these two have been together for a long time now.

couldn’t undo it as I only noticed once I hit the submit button & it was too late, it’s what you get from typing way too fast!

this is a guy who is incredibly sensitive & fragile (just ask any true fan & they will confirm it)

he may well have been scared of the kind of reaction from everyone & probably knows full well the kind of comments he’d receieve this is a very vulnerable & fragile guy we’re talking about here you know, so I could totally understand it!

And also I can understand his not wanting to use labels on himself he’s never been one to “conform” to standards & normality like Myself he is every different & quirly & refuses to be pigeonholed & good on him I say!

i have much respect for Mika :)

I do have friends who could back me up too!

I certainly think you guys need to take a look at his lyrics to see plainly & clearly it’s there right in front of your eyes!

take a look at the lyrics of the song lollipop (which he wrote for his younger sister) “mama told me what I should know too much candy’s gonna rot you’re soul, if SHE loves you let HER go ’cause love’s gonna get you down, take a look at the GIRL next door SHE’s a player & a downright bore Jesus loves HER SHE wants more oh bad GIRLS get you down”

then have a look at toy boy

its a cruel cross
that I have to bear
if you come a little close
I’m going to pull your hair

more than just a toy
in a patched blue suit
when you hold me in your arms
I’m just a boy like you

but your momma thought
there was something wrong
didn’t want you sleeping
with a boy too long

It’s a serious thing
in a grown-up world
maybe you’d be better
with a Barbie girl

she’s the meanest hag
that has ever been
pulled out my insides
with an old safety pin

I’m the sorest sight
now i feel like trash
clothes are made of rags
and they don’t even match

so she dressed me up
as the man she loved
and threw me in a box
when she had had enough

now the light of day
I no longer see
she stuck her voodoo pins

see a suggestion of bisexuality!!

then take a look at good gone girl

Could you believe
The same old story
It never bores me
Though I’ve heard it all before.

Her name was Georgia
And she was gorgeous.
When she adored ya
The whole room would get to know.

Like a movie that is filled with lust
Coming at you with a double D bust.
At the bed of a wounded soldier
In a rush cause she’s gettin older.

there’s a million & one clues you just need to look for them!

though some people will just NEVER believe him even if he married a woman & stayed with her for decades people would say he was a closeted gay how can anyone be truly bisexual

believe whatever crap you want to I say… some of us know the truth so what does it matter whether you believe it or not?

if you do your research you’ll also find that in the beginning someone who worked with him (one of his record company lot) said that they thought Mika was single as far as they were aware they said they hadn’t seen him with a boyfriend or girlfriend & said yeah I believe he’s bisexual

that’s coming from someone from his own record label before he really took off he’d barely even got known at that point google it you’ll eventually find it it was ages ago i read it

will post where it is if I ever come across it again just to prove a point that even those working with him knew & admitted he was bi!

a) homophobia towards the male-male interaction. This is ingrained from a young age. Male-male feelings are associated with a lack of masculinity. Therefore, a male child grows up repressing these feelings.

Young women, on the other hand, are “bisexualized” by their parents. They’re given female dolls and told to call them “pretty”. Can you imagine mom or dad giving a male doll to their son and calling it “handsome”?

b) the excessive politicization of the gay community. In a way, I can understand this. Our rights have been won at a political level. It has been necessary to fight for our rights under the “gay” banner, not the “bisexual” banner.

c) the excessive sexualization of the gay community. Unfortunately, the gay male community has become heavily sexualized. Porn, quick sex, rippling abs…all these have come to signify “gay community”. When a bisexual man appears, it poses a challenge to the assumption that all the men in the club are there to have sex with men and men alone.

d) the jealousy of women. Women are exceedingly jealous of male-male relationships. They see male-male relationships as usurping their role in life. Unless a man classifies himself as “gay” – and thus easily confinable – a woman finds it threatening.

Agreed. All these jerks saying this crap are all just little insecure assh*les.

You said: ‘if someone says they are bi, and they are as comfortable with men as women, and they seem to have no hang ups about it, I tend to be believe them.’
He said: ‘Many bisexually oriented people are more distributed to one gender. For instance, a man who is 95% straight and 5% gay is still bisexual but he is predominantly heterosexual in his feelings and fantasies. Thus, he may exhibit verbal and physical discomfort at the notion of being with a man despite the fact that he is bisexual in his orientation. It’s a small component of his orientation, and thus he may consider it “unusual”.
You then accused him, by saying that such men exist, of being an apologist for such men. He came back and declared that he in no way advocated on their behalf, merely said that it was an unfortunate side effect of societies discomfort with male same sex attraction. You then accused him of saying that you should have sympathy for such men and excuse them from taking on the advocacy role that you and all gay men have fought so hard for. One hell of a step there mate. That is what I would call some major projection. I think some confusion may have occured around the fact that you had referenced men who ‘say they are bi’, while I believe Jason was not talking about men who have claimed to be bisexual, rather saying that there was probably a lot more people out there whos inate same sex attraction leant more towards an unbalanced % rather than a strict 50/50.
Jason’s point, and I agree with it, is merely that there are probably a lot more people out there who are attracted to their own sex to some extent who will never exhibit comfort with their same sex feelings, who will never accept that part of themselves (and though I am sad for them on that account, I don’t expect anyone else to give them pity, especially not a gay man because he is of course more likely to suffer at the hands of their own internalised homaphobia either through their expecting some down low action from him or beating him up for being comfortable with what he can’t be). To take Jason’s point further, I believe this is why you are much more likely to meet ‘out’ bisexuals who share a more equal same sex affection, or at least one of a significant percentage because those people have really had to face up to the reality of their feelings. Hence people often have the image that all real bisexuals experience an equal same sex attraction along the 50/50% line.
So, just to be clear, if a bi person is not out and does not admit to same sex attraction, I feel no need to advocate for that person, consider them part of the community or defend them and I don’t believe for one minute that Jason suggested that we should do so. Rather I will continue to advocate for acceptance of same sex attraction in general so that maybe one day those people will come out and join the rest of us or at the very least stop being such arseholes.

He seems to be, and now you, through your defense of him, not just defending bisexuality, but cowardly behavior. One can be bisexual and not a coward about it. I mentioned one example of a guy whom I respect. Sexual orientation is not enough for respect. Behavior and personality is. This guy never hid any aspect of himself to anyone important. I respected that. And, yes, I consider it cowardly to hide the same sex part of one’s attraction while mentioning the opposite sex attractions while claiming one is not being accepted as a whole. You can not have it both ways. Be out with it all, and accept it all, or don’t expect respect from me.

You can defend bisexuality, and I will agree with that because it should be respected, but don’t expect me to agree with any attempts to excuse someone treating same sex attraction as bad. It is not going to happen. I am not interested in it from gays, and I am sure as hell not going to listen to it from people who are bi. Since my post was about my problem with such behavior, I have no idea why he would even make his statements except as defense and excuses.

There is one thing that bi men and bi women have in common. They both sleep with men (not from any of the people you listed I agree) and from Cam: “So again, am I bi-phobic? Or have I just never met any man who said he was “Bi-sexual” that seemed to stay that way. If I ever meet a Bi guy, sneaking around behind his BOYFRIENDS back with a woman, just for sex, then I’ll believe that that guy is Bi. I don’t believe in Santa Clause…does that make me “Santa Phobic”?

Do you see where we may have started to get the idea that the problem many posters here had wasn’t with them not believing Mika specifically but bi men in general.

I’m simply informing you of the perspective of some men who are bisexual in orientation but who are uncomfortable about their same-sex feelings. I’m simply informing you, not advocating it. Don’t confuse information with advocacy.

You need to understand that, because of social stigma against the male-male erotic interaction, many bisexually oriented men classify themselves as straight.