Actor Reid Ewing, best known for playing Haley’s dumb, pretty boyfriend Dylan on Modern Family, has casually come out as gay on Twitter just after publishing a first-person account of his experience with body dysmorphia and plastic surgery.
In the essay on HuffPo on Friday, Ewing wrote, “I genuinely believed if I had one procedure I would suddenly look like Brad Pitt.”
“I told the doctor why I felt my face needed cosmetic surgery and told him I was an actor,” he added. “He agreed that for my career it would be necessary to get cosmetic surgery.”
“He quickly determined that large cheek implants would address the issues I had with my face, and a few weeks later I was on the operating table.”
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Ewing says he underwent several procedures over the next few years, but ultimately realized his problem wasn’t one that could be solved by scalpels and botox injections.
“None of the doctors suggested I consult a psychologist for what was clearly a psychological issue… or warn me about the potential for addiction.”
Ewing’s essay led him to a 2011 ABC profile of Eugene Bata, who also suffers from body dysmorphia.
Ewing tweeted this message, followed by a response to someone who asked if he’d just outed himself:
Saw Eugene Bata on @GMA in the Body Dysmorphia segment connected to my article and I just want to say he is hot af.
— Reid Ewing (@media_reid) November 21, 2015
@MichaelJMapes I was never in
— Reid Ewing (@media_reid) November 21, 2015
There was also this tweet the same day:
When you’re told there is another gay coming to the party. https://t.co/JYtzLNkbfB — Reid Ewing (@media_reid) November 21, 2015
Below, see Reid’s Inside Edition interview about body dysmorphia:
Lainie Escovedo
Welcome to the fam.
Bob Pattinson
Well done to him! He’s extremely good-looking and will have no shortage of would-be boyfriends!!
Douglas Schlitz
Hopefully his message is seen by others who need help or advise.
Rimmington
Well duhhhh.
Ricky Cavazos
A young gay with body obsession issues? That’s nothing new.
Bradley Shade
Eddie Atreyu Altamirano
Zach Bruno
good for him! he’s so cute.
David Barney Wilson
I think he is very nice looking
James Sigmon
Old news moved on
William Meyer
Welcome handsome!
Joey Torrealba
Poor guy he already looks very Handsome so why would he need plastic Surgery. I hope he gets better .
SonOfKings
He looked better before the facial implants. And now he’s about to be bald with that struggle hairline. Better that he should work (healthily) on his body and leave the neck up alone.
alphacentauri
Congrats to him but I don’t watch that TV show.
Zach Leonard
Joe
Xzamilio
YES!!! Even on TV, the gaydar (read: wishful thinking) is on point. But I still live for Ty Burrell… it’s just something about him.
Glücklich
Ditto alphacentauri.
It was a funny little show when it started but didn’t Sophia Vergara’s character get pregnant some while back, thereby jumping the shark?
And I know they’re characters but I’d put every single one of those children on a one-way rocket to the sun with “Manny” in the nose cone.
Brandon Humphries
I thought he was hot day one on modern family. Sorry he can’t see it.
tdh1980
@Xzamilio: Ditto your sentiment about Ty Burrell. Woof. He does it for me.
CWM85
Everyone should just come out and take on the world! Yeah! Lol
Bahb Cruz
Aging is the biggest challenge. At least he has youth on his side (for now anyway). Knew hot guys that…well..age was not kind…
Bryguyf69
@Ricky Cavazos: Yep, studies show that young gay men suffer disproportionately from Body Dysmorphic and Eating disorders. Some studies show that rates are as high as that in straight women.
[SOAPBOX ALERT] But unlike women, gays have only themselves to blame — and not society at large. I know of no other demographic that is so ageist and body-conscious (as opposed to health conscious). It’s why depression among older gay men is so high. Likewise for younger gays who are overweight or otherwise not body-perfect. Even height is an issue, hence the term, “pocket gay.” And look at all the other gay descriptors based on appearance and/or age, i.e. bear, otter, twink, twunk, pup, etc. This simply doesn’t exist in any other demographic. I don’t remember the specifics but bne study showed that gay men tend to over-rate their own appearances more than any other group, and another study showed that gay men tend to prefer younger or better looking partners more so than any other group. An especially good comparison are lesbians, who tend to care the least about age and body image when compared with straight and gay men, and straight women. In other words, we can’t blame homophobia. Homopbobia is only obliquely-related in that closeted gay men may be unwilling to seek help. Otherwise, gay men have no one to blame but themselves. It’s okay to enjoy oogling young perfect bodies but what exists is outright body-shaming and discrimination. My patients have told me about it and I’ve seen it myself.[SOAPBOX OFF]
Think about it.
GayEGO
I bet he had some religious upbringing and has problems tossing out the crap about us he was taught. Some of us have more problems accepting ourselves as gay than others. I was brought up a Mormon and left the church when I was 17, realizing they taught a lot of hoopla that did not make sense. I hope he accepts himself and moves on as I did. My lifetime partner of almost 54 years, married going on 12 years, are both retired and living the American dream.
blkluvla
I empathize with him. Remarkably, he was a little more handsome without the implants (IMO). The brain is so powerful that it can distort what you’re seeing.
Jesse Balcuns-Contreras Jr.
Kit Balcuns-Contreras
crowebobby
All my youth, up to my late 30’s, I though if I looked in the mirror and saw someone like that all my troubles would be over . . . I was attractive enough to do runway shows for Christian Dior furs, but never a “pretty boy.” (Fortunately, I knew plastic surgery wouldn’t have gotten me that much closer to what I considered hot.) Still find it difficult to believe someone with a face like that can’t love what they see in the mirror, though of course I know better on the intellectual level.
Hussain-TheCanadian
Those eyes…..those eye lashes….. yum
On a serious note – it is freeing to come out, to say to the world who you are, that you are living to be happy, honest, loving, and compassionate – Its an invitation to the entire world to be joyous with you – this is the first step towards self reconciliation.
Rory P. Rentmeester
Come out, come in….just come over here cutie.
Chris
I wondered about his body issues; but now that he’s out to the world, I hope he can get that stuff under control and get on with his life.
Ogre Magi
I feel really sad that he had to go through all of that
Cam
@Bryguyf69:
So lets see, if women have body dismorphia it’s everybody else’s fault, but gays have only themselves to blame.
wow, talk about self-hating.
Damian Svid
Jessica Low
Kevin J Desmond
I had him pegged right away as being a mo, I see nothing wrong with the way he looks.
Curtispsf
It’s a shame that he couldn’t see what the rest of the world saw: a very handsome young man. I’m glad he decided to wrestle his demons to the floor. I wish him well on his journey. PS He is STILL very much a hottie and probably a whole lot smarter than the character he played on MF.
Skot Skotnicki
Fell in love first time i saw him!! Really like the dumb act!
Xzamilio
@tdh1980: I know right? I love his ass… just a nice all around frame on him.
@Curtispsf: You know it. I think it takes some serious talent to play a dumb character like that… hell, look at the kid that plays Luke. He plays a simple minded teenager great, but apparently he’s a genius in real life… like MENSA genius
John Crabb
I called this on the appearance. Lol
Bryguyf69
@Cam wrote:
“So lets see, if women have body dismorphia it’s everybody else’s fault, but gays have only themselves to blame. wow, talk about self-hating.”
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Self-hating? First off, I’m straight but have a graduate background in human sexuality, and currently work in a gay environment (AIDS research). I’ve mentioned this in prior posts. So don’t assume. Duh. Second, read CAREFULLY and do some research. Quote where I wrote that “it’s everybody else’s fault.” I said that they can blame society at large, but nowhere did I say that it was EXCLUSIVELY the fault of others. Furthermore, when I say that gays are to blame, I’m not talking about the victims/patients themselves, but gay culture. The Barbie syndrome, where girls are told BY OTHERS to conform to a body ideal, is well-documented. Compare with gays. They’re not told by mainstream society how to look. Otherwise, straight males would have similar rates of BDD and eating disorders. The reason is simple: positive gay images did not appear in mainstream media until recently. Isn’t the lack of gay role models a common complaint among gays? Gay images were then culled from gay media — and they show an unrealistic physical ideal.
So let me put it in simple terms for you: Girls/women get their ideal images from the mainstream media. Gays get their ideal images from the gay media. Furthermore, women usually don’t discriminate against other women based on body image. Gays do discriminate against other gays based on body image. Ergo, gays do bear the brunt of the blame for a very real medical issue among gays. Seriously, do some research and don’t assume anything about me.
Nahald
My partner and I both sort of suspected he was gay. Good for him !
Nahald
@Curtispsf: Absolutely !
Rob Powers
Congrates !
Jon Michael
… there are milions of guys who would give anything to look like Reid … it’s too bad that he couldn’t love himself right up front and avoid all the stress and strain … he’s a handsome dude … always liked him in the part …
JC Lopez
Leslie Frey
Steven Burr
WTF?
Jimmy McKinney
Please I knew he was and the whole ugly body thing was a hoax. He knew there was nothing wrong with the way he looked
irishluvuinme
I hope that this disease is not over shadowed from him coming out. It is terrible and shame on everyone of the “doctors” that performed the surgeries that were totally unnecessary. Reid is a beautiful man. And I find him to be quite hilarious… as a ditsy Dylan on Modern Family, brilliant. So he is now one of us, hey that is just a bonus for the family. Welcome baby. We are all open arms for support and a brilliant, happy, productive life. Live life open and free and be happy because you are gorgeous!
lauraspencer
@Bob Pattinson:
We all could be good looking if we had the work done that he has had. Would be better for him to be happy with who he is. Sad that at such a young age he has done so much cosmetic work. Hopefully, now that he is out he will be more comfortable in his own skin.
lauraspencer
@Bryguyf69:
Very well said!
JaredNorthcutt30
Aw, he has body dysmorphia. Well let’s see what his tits look like.
JaredNorthcutt30
@lauraspencer Not likely. Have you met the gay community?
daveku
Sounds like he did not, no felt the need to ‘officially out himself.
And this affects me how? I’m sorry; it doesn’t.
Douglas Schlitz
This problem is not,just an issue with gay men, unfortunately our society in general constantly dwells on youth, good looks, and perfect body syndrome. This messes with a lot of people’s self image. We all need to realign our thinking, but the advertising media needs to adjust most of all.
Wooly
Another mattel construct.
Verlaine
Who advised him to desecrate his smooth, attractive young body with a stupid tattoo? This does nothing to enhance his natural beauty.
moldisdelicious
@Bryguyf69:
you hit the nail on the head. gay men biggest enemies are themselves. you can’t tell folks that though or they’ll get mad at you. instead of folks just being down to earth and not having these crazy, unrealistic expectations on themselves and living lives that aren’t healthy, folks think that this is how they should be. nobody is telling these guys to do or even support the shit they’re on but they still see obliged to follow. that’s why i can’t take a lot of these guys seriously because they don’t take themselves seriously. i go on sites like scruff and grindr and what a joke especially scruff with the most woofed section. dudes can’t be serious and even worse, we’re talking about adults here. not kids. adults.
moldisdelicious
@Douglas Schlitz:
you are right but our population is obviously more affected where it’s basically embraced in our culture and expected of us males to be. if we chose to go against the grain, we are ostrichsized. we are made to feel bad about ourselves because we’re choosing to be our own persons instead of putting ourselves in a gay box becoming stereotypes that we set for ourselves. that’s the problem. maybe we should stop being so damn appearance conscious and realize that we are ordinary people like the rest of the world that we isolate ourselves from. as men, we should know by now that we deserve enough respect where we shouldn’t have to be damn near naked or attractive to basically be treated like people. let’s treat ourselves and other people who are gay like us better instead of shitting on ourselves and our kind.
moldisdelicious
@Verlaine:
and you’re exactly the problem. maybe he wouldn’t be doing that shit if guys like you weren’t looking at him like a damn object. time to look at your peers a lot deeper than just objects to fuck or oggle at.
n900mixalot
@moldisdelicious: exactly. People get tattoos for many reasons. If ya don’t like them, move on. That comment is just like, “too bad he’s fat, “too bad he’s bald,” “too bad he’s Mexican.” What does a comment like that add to any discussion other than someone who thinks their judgment is the end of the book.
dwes09
@Bryguyf69: Certainly we are not told by everybody else how we are supposed to look. but we most definitely ARE told, and told in no uncertain terms (just as we were 40 years ago when i was coming out), that we will NEVER be masculine enough, that we will NEVER have intellectual depth, that we ONLY have our looks and youth and will invariably be lonely and shunned after the age of 40.
It may be less intense, but this crap is still projected on us by the heterosexual world, and all too often internalized before we are out and find we exist on a continuum very similar to that of straight people in terms of looks, mannerisms and aptitudes/intellectual strengths. This statement “So let me put it in simple terms for you: Girls/women get their ideal images from the mainstream media. Gays get their ideal images from the gay media.” is not putting things in simple terms. Nor is this: “The reason is simple: positive gay images did not appear in mainstream media until recently. Isn’t the lack of gay role models a common complaint among gays? Gay images were then culled from gay media — and they show an unrealistic physical ideal.” It is in fact “hetero-mansplaining” to the fags in SIMPLISTIC terms. So nice that you think you know the social pressures under which we have struggled, but here’s the news: You really don’t. Some straight men do, you apparently don’t. Sounds like the “research” you exhort others to do comes from your imagination. YOU do some research nimrod. The forms of gay culture reflect the social stigma under which they developed, they did not spring fully formed from our psyche after only to be replaced by more positive images after Stonewall. Oppression persists, and the cultural dysfunction it breeds persists. You aid that persistance with your foolish pronouncements, and you clearly buy into the fiction of homosexual shallowness.
I suppose you also believe that “racism is over” and that blacks who remain in the underclass are oppressing themselves!
And I think I echo the feelings of other Gay men here when I say “Go away Breeder boy! Take your uppity bullshit elsewhere.” We don’t need heterosexual men explaining our culture or our selves to us.
dwes09
It is interesting that the few folks commenting positively on Bryguyf69’s excoriation of the Gay community are the ones who buy into the Log Cabin mentality or usually express distaste for anything remotely beyond the realm of convention.
eddiesocket
@Bryguyf69:
People who troll gay websites to talk crap about gay people are either self-loathing or bigoted scumbags. And since you said you aren’t gay…there’s only one option left for you.
Also, what you call “society at large” and the “mainstream media”–that’s straight people. So straight people are to blame for women’s body issues, just as gay people are to blame for their own body issues. Straight men judge women, and gay men judge men. And you ludicrous statement that “women usually don’t discriminate against other women based on body image” is so jaw-droppingly dumb that I can only conclude you’ve never met a woman before.
Dinodogstar
I don’t want to make this about me, but I was diagnosed with this, in relation to my eating disorder of anorexia and bulimia, which i’ve had since just before I turned 13, and finally have beaten now at 45. It’s a deeply difficult thing to deal with, and, not to simplify it down wrongly, but it’s partly fair to understand the illness as relating the good old ‘low self-esteem’ root and concerns. You feel as if you’re almost committing some kind of social crime in being seen and not perfect. Regardless and contrary to how you really look, you FEEL ugly, and that it often is then tied to an eating disorder, seems pretty easy to see. I did not become so weirdly out of touch because I was gay, but I did turn my self-loathing, I THINK, into expressing that through my body shame and harm as maybe some sort of punishment for it. I DO know, that a truth i’ve understood, is that I was ‘angry’ in a way, at my body for countering and deceiving my strongly Catholic/ Christian expectations. I feel very bad for him, but thankfully, he has the money, time and age to get over this well, and enjoy his youth and adulthood. Body Dysmorphia and especially eating disorders, are now understood to affect gay men at the same rate that eating disorders affect straight women. Maybe a third of men, maybe up to nearly a million, by some estimates, are both gay and dealing with an eating disorder. Because the holidays are ESPECIALLY difficult for both the lgbt community, and those with eating disorders, i hoped that my sharing will help others, and Mr. Ewing’s openness and candor must have as well. (I was not aware until now, that he was gay. I don’t really watch the show regularly. I’m glad he DID come out, and you’d think he’d not have such a bad time coming out in that sort of climate. Being in front of the camera as a child, cannot have exactly helped him NOT fall into this illness. Bradley Cooper, who i am not saying at all is gay or bi, but who has said he so connected to the story of “The Elephant Man”, that he has done that character on stage now. A lot of people have said this already in different ways, but when our culture is so focused on the immediate look and image that drives us sexually, it’s not too difficult to say that we tend to objectify ourselves and each other, in the parallel way men-straight AND GAY- tend to objectify women. There is help available, for this mental health concern and eating disorders as well, and the mental health world has gotten MUCH better at dealing with, and welcoming gay men with these very-connected issues. >>>… I heard the great ally, Valarie Harper say just today, that in commenting on her recovery from her desperate illness-based fight, this: ‘Don’t show up early for you own funeral before the day it occurs.”
Dinodogstar
@Dinodogstar: Sorry for the length here, and the over-share discomfort it might have caused.
Dinodogstar
If we can, and we care to, we can create more room for those who fall outside the “Abercrombie and Fitch”narrow parameter of male attractiveness, we tend to too often use a determination of worth and value in our community. Sometimes, many times, and far too often, some of us gay men do not live to be the idolized man at the end of the bar. We DO, as i said, objectify ourselves and each other, as men objectify women. We are more than our bodies, and the measurements and image qualifiers we use to judge and accept or reject others,> BMI numbers and rates, weight, age number, height, gender conformity, length and positions, to be blatantly un-elegant here. We can announce the ‘value and appreciation of diversity” all we want, but when we do not do that or demonstrate that within our own gay/bi male subset community, then it’s all just empty and meaningless words said. And to be even more pointed here, too often the worst enemies of gay men, are us, and other gay men, and the ones that too often vent onto each other the repression and low self-esteem we have about ourselves. Some of us gays, many of us, in many different ways, turn on ourselves, and march ourselves to our own self-imposed and/or cultural demanded demise. I never was who i was supposed to be, either outside or within the gay subculture, and I never will be. And that’s more than okay with me, and weighs much more in value and comparison as well. Have a good holiday season.
Captain Obvious
Ironically in that screencap he does look a lot like Brad Pitt. But I never watched Modern Family so I really don’t know anything about this guy. Looks like any other twink.
Weird to see all these kids getting plastic surgery before they’ve even had their first wrinkle.
Joe Mcallister
No surprises here
Louis
So happy for him I feel so badly for what he experiences mentally though I hope it gets better for him in time.
moldisdelicious
@dwes09:
NO. The problem is we want the world to change and think that the world outside the gay community is ONLY ones with the problem excluding us. Believe it or not, we are at fault too and if you and other gay men have this stuck up mentality where we continue to think we don’t have faults or are NOT doing anything wrong, we are only going to end up stuck in the same cycle that is destroying us as a group. The same issues can even be found with the fact that the number of gay men that are catching hiv/aids hasn’t decreased within our community. So please stop with this, we can’t criticize other gay people too especially if they are hurting themselves and their own. Yes, this issue is primarily caused by us. Being egotistical and arrogant has nothing to be with gay pride. You are not being down with the cause by constantly patting other gay men on the back when theyre jumping off a bridge and etc. That’s just being fucked up.
moldisdelicious
@Dinodogstar:
Exactly, even reading this blog and etc. This blog promotes and even encourages this sorry self destructive mentality that is ruining and killing gay men.
Joe
WELCOME TO THE FAMILY!!
Shaun Rodd
Seems like a sweetheart
Aromaeus
Good for him my gaydar never picked up on him.
Cam
@Bryguyf69:
Oh, I get it, So you can generalize about an entire group, lump them all together, but because you are straight and work with “The Gays” in a “Gay Environment” which you then say is AIDS research, that means your comment isn’t ridiculously off base and somewhat bigoted.
So lets see, first of all, you hearken WAY back in your old timey bigotry, with the whole AIDS is a gay thing. Secondly, the fact that “Some of your friends are gay….” doesn’t change the fact that you made the comment, that gays are different than women because they blame everybody else for the problem.
Perhaps you shouldn’t be working in a “gay environment” it sounds like you have some pretty deep seated opinions.
Cam
He came out, the show will either write him out, or make him come out as flamboyantly gay now.
notevenwrong
As far as I can tell, most gay guys feel at least somewhat bad about some aspect of their looks.
In 10-15 years you will all look back at your pictures from now and realize that you were gorgeous. It’s a shame you can never see it at the time.
scotshot
@SonOfKings: @Bryguyf69:
You’re so full of it your eyes are brown.
“Gays have only themselves to blame – and not society at large.” Bull.
There are biological imperatives and societal pressures on all levels of humanity at work here. There is no one single group that is “the worst”.
Your whole post is only meant to denigrate gays.
Inform us where you received your degree, I imagine it was from attending vacation bible school.
You’re obviously a hetero Troll. Don’t they miss you over at the Blaze?
I’d go deeper into your comment but we all know it’s crap and not worth a lengthy reply.
Carl Szulczynski
Welcome to the “community”. Now prepare to get ripped apart by jealous, bitchy queens. Remember that ain’t nobody gotta like it but you.
scotshot
@Cam: He’s been Haley’s ditzy boyfriend and since she’s (finally) hooked up with Manny. I can see him popping up once in a while, but to have him morph and come out is stretching the character a bit – but who knows anything is possible.
Glücklich
@notevenwrong:
Ten to fifteen years from *now*…ten years ago I was…meh…OK with my looks but I definitely look better today than I did fifteen years ago at 21/22.
I admit I am vain vain vain but it’s not at all “see how beautiful I am?” and more “that’s OK but how can it improve?” Not to the degree of dysmorphia but whatever insecurity I have (I was an ugly kid), I assign it a value, the currency being what comes out of the gym, the esthetician’s, and the tailor’s.
I know it’s stupid and frivolous but it makes me happy and it’s not detrimental to my health.
scotshot
@Bryguyf69:
“women don’t usually discriminate against other women based on body image.”
….”currently work in a gay environment (AIDS) research.”
Hetero males don’t have body issues or pressures to conform?
“Don’t assume anything about me”. I don’t “assume” but can categorically state that you are not what you say you are, except full of sh*t. What you are is another Troll.
youarekiddingme
@Bryguyf69: @Cam: Hold on a second…Bryguy. You were the one who said in your post, “…Otherwise, gay men have no one to blame but themselves…” Now THAT statement lends many of us to believe that you ARE saying that you are blaming the victim (gay men). It doesn’t sound like you are blaming the “gay community” as a whole for an attitude of “barbie syndrome” brought on by images through television and amplified by the larger community (as you explained in the comparison to straight men pressuring straight women). Don’t blame Cam (or me) for reading your post as it was written. If you weren’t as ambiguous in your statement perhaps we would have gotten your intended meaning the first time, doctor.
I can’t say anything about Cam’s assertion that you were gay, but unfortunately I make the same assumption when speaking to other posters on here myself (I know what assumptions are…). This is an LGBTQ Forum so I do sometimes forget that its an “open” forum and that anyone can respond. I can’t speak for Cam, but I know I would have made the same assumption about your orientation as well. Sorry if that offends you. I will attempt to change my attitude in the future.
Cam
@youarekiddingme: said…”but I know I would have made the same assumption about your orientation as well. Sorry if that offends you. I will attempt to change my attitude in the future.”
__________________
The fact that it possibly offended him says a lot as well doesn’t it?
moldisdelicious
This is why things will never change because you have way too many guys supporting and defending the bullshit instead of taking responsibility like what adults are supposed to do. We are not kids.
moldisdelicious
@moldisdelicious:
Folks are ready to downplay valid constructive criticism as homophobia or making excuses. Nobody is pressuring gay dudes to be hard on themselves besides other gay dudes. It’s true. Folks think it’s a contest or about being validated everytime. It’s ridiculous.
Merv
This condition could probably explain the current tattoo fad. Fortunately, he escaped with only one tattoo, but it’s pretty big and ugly. Hopefully, he’ll have it removed.
youarekiddingme
@moldisdelicious: I certainly don’t know what you mean by “support and defend” this guy’s body dysmorphia? I am confused by your comment…do you not “support and defend” a person who may have bi polar disorder, schezophrenia, depression, PTSD or any number of mental illnesses? According to the Mayo Clinic, “Body dismorphic disorder is a type of chronic mental illness in which you can’t stop thinking about a flaw in your appearance — a flaw that is either minor or imagined. But to you, your appearance seems so shameful that you don’t want to be seen by anyone.
When you have body dysmorphic disorder, you intensely obsess over your appearance and body image, often for many hours a day. Your perceived flaw causes you significant distress, and your obsession impacts your ability to function in your daily life. You may seek out numerous cosmetic procedures or excessively exercise to try to “fix” your perceived flaw, but you’re never satisfied. Body dysmorphic disorder is also known as dysmorphophobia, the fear of having a deformity.
Treatment of body dysmorphic disorder may include medication and cognitive behavioral therapy.”
So, I don’t get what you’re saying…Do you not have compassion for persons with mental illnesses? I suffer/ed from PTSD for years and I can tell you that it’s no picnic my friend. It’s not to get attention. It is a day-to-day struggle. I can’t compare PTSD with BDD only in the fact that they are both mental illnesses. We don’t want your pity, but we also don’t want your disdain either.
notevenwrong
@Glücklich, I wasn’t referring to comparing yourself to when you were a kid. (I was also definitely much hotter at 30 than at 18 – IMO most guys who take care of themselves tend to reach their peak at about 35.) I was referring to the subject of the article, at say, 45-50, and looking back to his current age (of about 30).
Glücklich
@notevenwrong:
Oh of course. I was agreeing with you. My assent was poorly worded. Not having reached my 40’s yet, all I can look back on 15 years ago are unsatisfactory. At 50 I expect to look back to today and be pleased.
But jesus…I hope I haven’t already peaked! My husband’s nearly 50 and is even hotter today than when we met 5 years ago. Mmmm…he is quite the little sexpot.
Franklin
I think @bryguyf69 does have somewhat of a point. Women in this country, and around the world for that matter, have little to no control over the media geared toward them. Gay men however control a bulk of their own media. We make our own magazines, movies, and in some cases music. We really have nobody to complain to about portraying unrealistic body images but ourselves.
youarekiddingme
@Franklin: Um, that’s not quite true.
Queer Eye
Queer as Folk
Real World
Just to name a few TV Shows were not created by gay men. The stars certainly portrayed “hot/fit” men. There have been VERY few movies (can’t think of any other than the recent Stonewall and other “B” movies) that were created by gay men. Magazines I think you will find are owned by very large publishing companies (there are of course exceptions), but to say that “…Gay men however control a bulk of their own media…” is entirely misleading and factually incorrect. There is hardly a plethera of Powerful gay men behind the scenes running TV, Movies and printed Media. Who controls body image? The same as women…the general public. It’s what sells! Sex sells! The underwear ads (even the infamous ones geared to straight men through their wives/girlfriends) are still driven towards HOT male models. None of these companies believe that a slightly overweight, balding, middle-aged man will sell their product like a 20 something with a six pack and bulging muscles!
Back to the body image point. The guy has a mental illness. BDD. Others have it too. Has nothing to do with what’s on TV, Movies, etc. Bryguy69 doesn’t know shit! Bryguy69 claims to be a “doctor” and quotes 3 different “studies” to make assertions with…then can’t remember the names of the studies? No “doctor” would EVER make unsubstantiated claims of studies without proof. He’s a straight Troll who thought he would come on here and start up shit and leave. Don’t be fooled by him.
strix1
He l@@ks great now, but l@@ked even better before, sad disorder that he has experienced.