What’s it like to be gay in sports? Well, better than it used to be — that’s for sure.
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But “better” doesn’t necessarily mean “good.”
How about we take this to the next level?
Our newsletter is like a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.
Below, hear from guys on Whisper who are dealing with being gay in the still largely homophobic arena that is team sports:
Glücklich
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RNc45FTenhg
Giancarlo85
Oh look more quotes from Whisper… probably just some fantasies some guys have.
Glücklich
@Giancarlo85:
Nearly all of these sound like the beginning of something that might be found on Nifty. No “Coach Joins in ‘Hazing’ Our New Teammate”?
Josh447
It ain’t easy being Hot.
Giancarlo85
@Glücklich: Some of these kinda piss me off. It’s giving the image that gay men can’t be professional players and are always checking out their teammates. It’s a load of crap.
Glücklich
@Josh447:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I45-zWJtvfM
Stache99
@Josh447: Yeah, really. That’s my only take away after scrolling through.
martinbakman
@Giancarlo85: I agree, like the bball player that claims losing 3 games in a row because of a crush on teammates
Sounds like BS a straight guy would write.
Cagnazzo82
@Giancarlo85: Of course they can be professional. But at the same time it’s like the equivalent of a straight guy being on a team with hot chicks.
Even if they play well of course they’re going to notice their teammates.
Personally I’m not even sure if all of these are real. If so, that 17m on the baseball team will be going through a long period of soul-searching :S
bottom250
I feel so sad for them. I can’t imagine the pain they go through everyday. Not being an athlete or even liking sports and being very effeminate I never had these issues. My heart goes out to them and my tears flow for them.
frenchjr25
I have a significant problem with posts that use quotes from Whisper, Reedit, Twitter and other social media sites without verifying that what the poster is saying it accurate. It might seem fun but it’s not journalistically ethical.
McShane
@Glücklich:
https://youtu.be/LS6Ycu148O0
Giancarlo85
@Cagnazzo82: Oh wow. So if I work with guys or gay guys for that matter in my workplace, I’m going to notice them? No I won’t. Why? Because I value a professional work environment. I would show no interest because that isn’t the place for it.
I play football (or as Americans call it “soccer”)… I don’t go checking out straight guys. That’s for desperate losers.
Glücklich
@McShane:
Hadn’t seen or heard that before. Thanks!
Were you gay-goth at school?
@Giancarlo85:
I wouldn’t fuck anyone who reports to me but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t notice attractive men in my office. It’s a fairly open secret I mess around through work. Not necessarily guys I see every day in *my* office, but in other offices. And clients. And vendors.
bottom250
@Giancarlo85: You know you can be attracted to other men and not act on it. I think it is very common.
Bauhaus
Never had the problem of falling for a teammate – they always seemed like brothers to me. Just no chemistry. I always went for the open-minded, film, exchange student type. Instantly drawn to someone not of my own village. Still am.
Gabe Givens
Heart-wrenching.
bottom250
@Bauhaus: Hugs sweetheart that is so sweet
Ladbrook
The knock on gays in the locker room has always been “BUT HE’LL LOOK AT MY DICK AND HE’LL TOUCH MY ASS!” These Whisper posts just give the homophobes more ammo. Ugh.
Glücklich
@Ladbrook:
In my experience it’s always ugly guys who get all up in arms and respond that way. Because a big, fat, paunchy saggy-titted pimply-assed dumptruck of a guy is in *real* danger of being wrestled to the floor in the gang showers and violated by the token fag.
McShane
@Glücklich:
No, I was more of the swim team jock that hung out with the stoner girls, talking about boys, Joy Division and smoking hash behind the Agriculture building.
Glücklich
@McShane:
I. Adore. Joy Division.
Have you seen Grant Gee’s documentary that ties the story of the band in its heyday, its resurgence in popularity, and the rebirth of Manchester all together? So good I get a little weepy at the end.
http://watchdocumentary.org/watch/joy-division-video_16b6decf4.html
Site divides the film into three parts.
Fran Hughes
Where’s the honesty in that relationship.
Baba Booey Fafa Fooey
That Cyd Ziegler over at Outspirts.com goes on and on about accepting sports teammates and athletes are of gay people. Maybe he’s just desperate for a job in the sports world and doesn’t want to bite the hand that feeds him.
Baba Booey Fafa Fooey
Are *accepting
Giancarlo85
@Glücklich: I don’t care for your unprofessionalism or whorish ways. That is your own business.
@bottom250: How about knowing boundaries? Oh that is right. None exist for you. It is always about sex.
bottom250
@Giancarlo85: The boundaries are called not acting on your attractions. Wow you come of as really repressed and almost to the point of self hatred. Being attracted to someone is perfectly normal and healthy.
Giancarlo85
@bottom250: LOL Repressed? I have a boyfriend. I don’t need to go checking out every guy I see. You have no boundaries and you act on everything. What am I self hating about? That I’m not totally self absorbed and into having sex every day like you? Oh I’m sorry just because I’m gay doesn’t mean every thought I have is about hot guys or sex.
bottom250
@Giancarlo85: Just because you have a boyfriend doesn’t mean you stop finding others attractive. Being attracted doesn’t mean you have to have sex with them.
Giancarlo85
@bottom250: Who said anything about attraction? I’ve seen what you wrote in the past and it’s all about sex. And you’re reading something I never wrote. Same old from you. Your mind revolves around sex.
bottom250
@Giancarlo85: Yes I have sex with men I have talked about it other threads. You have stated ” I work with guys or gay guys for that matter in my workplace, I’m going to notice them? No I won’t. Why? Because I value a professional work environment. I would show no interest because that isn’t the place for it.”
Being attracted doesn’t mean you have to have sex with them.
jwtraveler
I have an ounce of sympathy and a pound of annoyance.
Paul Priore
The Book of the Century
Greetings from New York City, one and all!
The Book of the Century is finally here!
My name is Paul Priore, and I am one of the two coauthors of a controversial tell-all book about my life and experiences working for the New York Yankees.
Part of the book describes the homophobia at the New York Yankees, and the abuse that I suffered at the hands of several ballplayers and managerial employees.
The book is titled “Abused by the New York Yankees.”
The link to the book’s website is http://www.abusedbytheyankees.com
It’s a great read and well worth purchasing.
Gary Toushek, who is my coauthor, and I proudly self-published it.
If you choose to purchase it and read it, I’m so sure you will enjoy learning the unbelievable details about my behind the scenes life at the New York Yankees.
The book contains a detailed, factual presentation of numerous shocking events.
It is 100% true — I willingly submitted to a voice stress analyzer test, and passed with flying colors.
I hope you will consider purchasing the book.
But whether you do or not, I invite you to visit the book’s Facebook page, and give it a “like.”
http://www.facebook.com/abusedbytheyankees
Thank you in advance for your anticipated interest.
Sincerely,
Paul Priore
Former New York Yankees Clubhouse Attendant
Matt Latessa
i think this is the reason why i never liked sports
Giancarlo85
@bottom250: What did I say about attraction? Do me a favor and reread what I posted. No, I value my job. You apparently try to get sex whenever and however you can. That’s not how I live.
bottom250
@Giancarlo85: I re-read your post and you talk about how you can’t be attracted to others that you work with.
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tusgold
assclown
Giancarlo85
@bottom250: Point out where I said that. And attraction develops if you allow it to.
tusgold
let me guess your tired ass got dumped again bitter bitter bitter
Giancarlo85
@tusgold: Who are you talking to?
bottom250
@Giancarlo85: I am not going to again.
Giancarlo85
@bottom250: You never did in the first place. Have fun with your no boundaries sex everyday life. Not my issue.
bottom250
@Giancarlo85: You must be a blast at parties.
NJjoe
I think many of the would be surprised to find out they may not be the gay man on their team. I know many baseball players that are gay.
Giancarlo85
@bottom250: Oh wow… I’m not into bareback gangbangs… you must have guys lining up.
VERNON
I know all about it they sure know what to do with a guy that is gay on the sport team – push him in the corner or make hand gestures behind his back especially in the locker room holy of all places.
Soon there would be gay teams like what the heck divide everything because it cannot be accepted and not forget to built the WALL.
Captain Obvious
How much is Whisper paying for all this advertisement?
Chris
Lots of people on this site criticize these stories because they claim they’re fake and/or that this site picks quotes based on stereotypes. However, the stories of athletes who’ve come out all agree that there was incredible homophobia in their respective locker rooms; that is consistent with the fears being expressed by these quotes.
Also worth noting is that, in at least one case, the locker-room language went away and the athlete realized that the language being used was a lot of hot air and BS, not necessarily an expression of deep-seated homophobia.
So while I share people’s skepticism, I am not yet convinced that all the above is fake.
Anyways, insofar as there is any truth in the above, I do hope the posters find their ways into healthy relationships. They’ve accomplished the first step of being out to themselves; the next step is to find people to share this information with. … good luck to each of them. [The best irony would be if two posters were crushing on one another….but THAT would be fantasy!]
Brian
If these “gay” sportsmen stopped obsessing over their gay identity, they might actually find that they enjoy life better. Obsessing over one’s sexual identity is a recipe for a one-dimensional life devoid of the pleasures that things other than sex provide.
If you base your life on sex, you are going to end up very rejected. Stop and smell the roses. There are things in life that have nothing to do with sex and which can be very fulfilling. Roses, for instance.
AtticusBennett
*eyeroll*
we need a radical overhaul in the cultural idea of “manliness” and “masculinity”. playing sports doesn’t make you manly. building muscles doesn’t make you manly. approaching life’s challenges from a place of honesty and visibility is manly; anything less is being a timid evasive BOY.
what are these guys saying? “I don’t want to be treated the way the other gay guys who are Out in school are treated”
so, who am i supposed to have sympathy for? the kids being mocked and targeted and denigrated, or the guys who hide and do nothing at all to stop it?
i don’t care if you’re not ready to come out yet, at least have the integrity to pretend to be a “straight guy that isn’t anti-gay”. i have no sympathy for closeted guys who choose, yes CHOOSE, to be friends with anti-gay idiots. WHY make the active choice to make your life harder?
the reality is this – this “type” of gay man does the same thing, over and over again; they wait for someone else to pave the way for them. and you know? they should befriend and HANG OUT WITH those openly-gay kids that their peers are mocking.
it’d give them a perfect lesson in what it means to be a strong and courageous man.
Josh Eslick
Not gonna lie, I found some of those way funnier than they actually were.
David Dewberry
So, things never change…