This is Nancy Elliott. She is a Republican state representative in New Hampshire. And on Tuesday, she spoke to colleagues on the Judiciary Committee about HB 1590, a GOP-led effort to repeal the state’s gay marriage law. In voicing her support for the bill, she decided to describe what happens when two men lay down in bed together. She questions its normalcy and ultimately decides anal sex — “taking the penis of one man and putting in the rectum … and wiggling it around in excrement” — is not for her. “Would I allow that to be done to me? … Is that normal? Is that something we want to portray as the same as the one flesh union between a man and a woman? I don’t know.” Of course what Rep. Elliott misses is that marriage is not about fucking. Nor does the state have the right to legislate what goes on behind closed doors. Lawrence v. Texas, anyone?
And here lies the ultimate obstacle in securing equality legislation: People are scared of the type of sex gays have. Mostly, gay men.
Elliott, predictably, worries about the children. She doesn’t want kids — fifth graders! — learning about how two men can enjoy each other’s bodies. We share that concern; we don’t necessarily want young kids, in public schools, exposed to the ins and outs of intercourse, whether it’s between two men or two women or a man and a woman. (When it’s time to teach sex ed, however, we’re complete supporters of incorporating same-sex sex in those lessons.)
But teaching school children about different types of families is not the same thing. Kids’ history textbooks are filled with historical references to married heterosexual couples and heterosexual relationships; even their math workbooks will include examples of mommies and daddies. That gay marriage was legalized in New Hampshire is not reason to be scared; it’s reason to embrace a new frontier of civil rights that today’s children — the ones in school right this second — can be the first generation to truly learn about.
That’s remarkable. The disgusting argument from Elliott — who enjoys a heterosexual marriage with her husband Glen — is not.
(Elliott’s publicly available contact information, including her home address, is here.)