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“Nowadays, when a grown woman describes herself as a ‘fag hag,’ it feels like she’s throwing around a designer label that’s faded from fashion”
SOUNDBITES — “Nowadays, when a grown woman describes herself as a ‘fag hag,’ it feels like she’s throwing around a designer label or telling me she knows a celebrity — a kind of social conspicuous consumption. Worse, it’s a designer label that’s faded from fashion — like a Juicy-brand velour sweat suit. In the past decade, gay men have become less defined and ghettoized by our sexuality than ever before, making terms like ‘fag hag’ feel as retrograde as, well, Will & Grace.” —Open.Salon.com deputy editor Thomas Rogers on his disdain for straight women who want to be his fag hag [Salon]
This could have been a great post. Have any of you ever tried to date a guy with tons of viper-ish female friends using him as a substitute boyfriend? They’re more difficult to deal with than competition from other guys. Instead he’s taking the tack that gay rights and gay labels are outdated and society is so progressive now because guys kiss on the Oscar telecast (mainly watched by women and gays). That’s easy to say when you’re sequestered in the gayborhood, but I think every objective criterion says no.
@Sean H.:
OMG YES YES YES.
AVOID MEN whose “bestie” is a straight female…or only seems to have female friends. I’ll take a guys whose every friend is someone he fucked or dated over a guy who only pals with women.
@Qjersey: Why is that?
I have to agree qith qjersey, but maybe only in urban places where the phenomenon of gross feminization of our sexuality has occured. That is not to say that effeminate gay men are somehow not natural, but the generalized feminization of all gay men to some degree is. I hate that and try to avoid it. Being immersed in straight culture also further damages the libido, if you happen to be sensitive to your identity.
My favorite is when they invade a bunch of gay bars in droves or go with their gay bfs to lesbian clubs and then sneer and/or get grossed out when a lesbian looks at them.
Um…you’re at a lesbian bar. Get over it.
God I hate fag hags.
i guess it doesn’t count if i’m queer myself but most of my male friends are gay, but i still get called a fag hag no matter how much i try to tell them, i don’t want to be identified that way. i’ve never wanted to get all gossipy and between any of my male friends and their boyfriends, etc…we just hang out when we can and life goes on. i get annoyed by the women who actually ask me to introduce them to my gay friends, as though they are some kind of fun trinket to own. *shivers*
about the title for this post on the main page:
what’s a “SRT8?” (assuming you mean “str8″) if/when you change it, feel free to delete this.
@albert:
I don’t know what planet you’re living on, but some of us are femme and have been since the womb…get over it.
They should try “Fruit Fly” on for size.
My best friend is a women I was in the Marine Corps with for 7 years. If that is a deal breaker, then so be it. My friend has been with me through thick and thin, including three times to Iraq. I will take her over some weirdo homo anyday.
The label may have faded from fashion, but they haven’t found out yet…
I prefer the term “Fairy Godmother” for some of my friends, and yes the label has faded a bit from fashion. I’m not giving up my straight female friends, as much as I’m not giving up my straight male friends. Labelling someone kinda cuts both ways. I’d rather just call them people and go from there.