Oprah welcomed Dina Matos McGreevey yesterday, giving the former Mrs. Gay American a chance to plug her book set the record straight about her marriage to Jim McGreevey. In addition to coming off like a real Jersey girl – despite her Portuguese background – Mrs. McG contradicts McGreevey’s assertion that they prayed about his landmark speech (that didn’t happen), Dina claims McGreevey never said, “I am gay”. Rather, he gave her the news in “cowardly installments”.
No matter how he explained it, however, poor, clueless Dina simply “wasn’t absorbing it”. What a shocker. Speaking of shock, Dina claims to have been in shock while McGreevey delivered his resignation, thus giving her that plasticine, Stepford Wife smile. Shock and the distinct possibility that she’s had her brain surgically removed.
As for her book, Mrs. McG tells The Big O:
Over the last 2 1/2, almost three years, I’ve tried to stay in the background and away from the limelight and the media. I was hoping that I could go on rebuilding my life and stay in the background, but I was forced to write this book because there was so much interest and frankly I was tired of people concocting my life story.
And that’s why she hired a ghost-writer to pen it for her.
Take a look at this clip from the interview and comment at will…
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paul
I was a married man who also came out later in life. My ex-wife had the same reactions, including, “he was living a charade. He never loved me.” Why do women find it impossible to believe that you can long for something else but still love them at the same time? Why can’t they separate love from sex? Sex is a strong primal urge or need for most men — straight or gay. Love is emotional. The two can exist together or apart.
Ryan
Certainly, McGreevey’s no victim here, but she seems like a true witch.
ousslander
I thought she came of a little dense but it’s Jimmy boy who comes off as a true sociopath. He’s only out for himself and his wives and children be damned. I feel bad for his partner that he loves after 2 weeks.
Paul men will lust after others while married but acting on it is a completely dif story. The vows made don’t have a pass for same sex affairs.
Matt
Paul, I think that you are stereotyping women there. Being married to a man who later comes out of the closet is something that no woman should ever have to go through (and the man shouldn’t either). I’m sure it’s not easy on anyone involved. I don’t think the thoughts that you attributed to her are crazy given the situation. Sex and love are both better when together.
robert
christ, i think they’re both pretty slimy.
nystudman
Please a moratorium on these two! I haven’t seen a couple duke it out so publicly since Chuck & Di.
mike
She came off like a bitch. She is a horrible speaker, Oprah had to pry the words out of her.
Meanwhile, EVERYONE in New Jersey had heard the rumours that Jim McGreevey was gay! People I know in Trenton told me he was gay back in 2002. It would have been nearly impossible for her never to have heard.
Oprah’s audience came off pretty homophobic; when they showed a clip of Jim McGreevey giving his boyfriend a peck on the lips, the audience groaned and booed.
Liam
Her publicist should be fired – she looked like an idiot and didn’t seem to have her story very straight (sorry for the pun). I think Oprah kind of called her on her BS and even said something to the extent of, “well at least that is a little progress.” How do you sleep in the same bed with a man that cheated on you for three months AFTER the fact.
She seems truly clueless and is just trying to sell her sob story to cash in one last time before her 15 seconds are up.
traffick
I thought she came off amazing. Everything that she said confirmed the feelings that I already had for McGreevey.
Even with the statement that he issued to Oprah in response to Dina coming of the show, he came off sounding like a dick. He holds no personally responsibility for his actions. All he had to say is that he was in the closet and therefore justified in everything that he did. THAT IS NOT THE CASE. Just because your in the closet, doesnt give you the right to cheat on your wife. Lets get real he only married her for political gain.
Hopefully with the release of her book, he will be blackballed from all public events, and therefore we the public will not have to hear from this coward ever again
DS
Wait, so why do we even give a shit anymore?
McGreevy is a coward and needs to stop milking this “gay American thing.
Dina can stop the charades and sell her story to Lifetime and get the hell over it.
love
speaking from personal experience. she probably did not suspect her husband was gay because he was working very hard to make sure she didn’t find out. it’s not a bad thing to love and trust the person you have chosen to spend your life with.
despite the fact that others suspected and i gently and then not so gently(with the cell phone bill and computer logs) confronted my husband about his sexual orientation he continues to deny that he is gay.
it is sad that we live in a culture that would make a person’s sexual orientation so shameful that it is worthwhile for some to sacrifice their own happiness along with the happiness of the loved ones they marry.
Michael
Mike said it best…..everyone knew McGreevey was Gay…and dare I say even going back longer then 2002…by then he had his “public non boyfriend”…it was the best kept openly known secret…even members of the Press said they knew but couldn’t definitely corrobrate the story. For years, (going back to his days as Mayor of Woodbridge) it was the best kept secret…..there were rumos that his first wife left him after she discovered he had a boyfriend….even rumors she found them together in bed…but she wished him well and went back to Canada with their daughter.
rumors aside, it was rumored Dina knew but kept a blind eye….since it would make her the first Portuguese First Lady..a positon of power in the large Portuguese community in New Jersey…
who knows what is fact or fiction or both…but at this point…as said, a pox on both their houses….I do see McGreevey as a sociopath and he went out of his way to be anti Gay in his positons.
I do agree that Oprah and her audience are homophobic…..I say she does it to cover her and Stedman’s and her girlfriend’s Gail’s tracks..
both McGreevey’s are pretty despicible. In my humble opinion…Oprah’s homophobia is just as bad.
el polacko
oprah certainly loves to tsk-tsk over other women’s had-her-groove-back-until-she-realized-he-was-a-homo stories. i doubt we’ll ever hear her telling her sordid tale to “dr.” phil though.
her audience is full of str8 chicks whose worst fear is that a man should go “wasted” when they could be supporting them and giving them many babies to coo over.
Seamus7
Jim McGreevey is shown to be a obsessively self-serving arrogant controlling snake. Dina, one of his victims, came across very sympathetic on Oprah. I thought Dina’s response to Jim’s bizarre diplomatic statement about her appearance on Oprah said it all: “Another performance by Jim McGreevey.” Jim McGreevey spun the mess he had gotten himself into by focusing on his struggle with his own sexuality. Instead, the real story ought to have been his sinister rise to power in the context of his widespread manipulations and dissembling.
nystudman
Seamus7 is right. McGreevey was a conniving SOB who didn’t have the strentgh of character to be himself, so he used two innocent women and an entire state apparatus to hide his real identity. He’s a scumbag. she’s merely a dupe.
S.H.A.M. Scam Sam
I thought it was Oprah who came off badly – constantly following Dina’s comments, that Jim was delusional with “Well, he says you’re the one that’s delusional” – when, it’s obvious, Jim is the one with the mental problems (lying, cheating, betrayal, etc.).
And to call Dina “clueless” is cruel – she has been betrayed – do you have any idea what that means? Here, let me help you:
–verb (used with object)
1. to deliver or expose to an enemy by treachery or disloyalty: Benedict Arnold betrayed his country.
2. to be unfaithful in guarding, maintaining, or fulfilling: to betray a trust.
3. to disappoint the hopes or expectations of; be disloyal to: to betray one’s friends.
4. to reveal or disclose in violation of confidence: to betray a secret.
5. to reveal unconsciously (something one would preferably conceal): Her nervousness betrays her insecurity.
6. to show or exhibit; reveal; disclose: an unfeeling remark that betrays his lack of concern.
7. to deceive, misguide, or corrupt: a young lawyer betrayed by political ambitions into irreparable folly.
8. to seduce and desert.
As someone said, being gay – or even gay and married – doesn’t give your humanity a pass.
YoGin
There’ll always be issues when a gay man comes out regardless of age status, or culture. It’s part and parcel of the choices we make in life ladies and gents.
There’ll be Dina’s, Oprah’s and PLU’s of varying levels who’ll pitch in into the fray–welcomed or otherwise. Some will be your neighborly gossip, gf, bf or what have you’s.
Ahh.. the wonders of being out there. That seem makes the closet a comfy place. Still.
Walking in her shoes
H E L L O! Testing…1,2,3….Can anybody hear me??
OPRAH…With all due respect, I am soooo disappointed! Unless “YOU” are walking in the same pair of shoes, it is “YOU” that is CLUELESS.
Ladies and gents, the impairment and dysfunction that affects this woman is not something that can be easily placed into words. It is a daily roller-coaster ride and the BIGGEST mind screw of her life! A deception so deep that it causes confusion beyond recognition! I challenge anyone out there to just TRY handling and absorbing a life altering crisis and be expected to behave and fully function in a “normal” capacity. Wrap your head around this issue once and let’s see how much pain exudes from your pores. Just what does the world expect from this woman? Jim McGreevey justifies his betrayal because he’s gay. He denied his own integrity and refuses to see that his denial has ruined lives. The woman should be commended for trying to deal with major mind numbing issues without going postal. She should be allowed to feel, think, react and deal without judgement. The last thing she needs is a bunch of useless information that will humiliate and force her back into isolation. Dina and her family are the VICTIMS of Jim’s denial and self-serving agenda. Jim created that situation not only once, but twice! Jim needs to take responsibility and own HIS problem. And..he needs to deal with the consequences of his behavior.
Hmmm…wonder how Jim would react if a man took his daughter’s hand in marriage and did exactly what Jim did to his wife?
Mr. McGreevey I hope you find your peace. I sympathize because I don’t believe you’ll be truly satiated in life. I truly feel empathy for the both of them. However, there is a bigger issue they need to address. Collectively they should be seeking counseling on how to move forward in a civil relationship and be loving, caring, understanding parents to their young daughter.
God help us all to understand, forgive and love one another.
Aspasia
Women cannot separate sex from love because we are not wired that way. And thank God, because we are multiorgasmic and if we didn’t we would be out doing you know what 24/7 and the dinner would burn on the stove, the kids would starve, and the laundry would pile up as high as the Eiffel Tower.
Hey, that may not be so bad (smile).