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Ummm…really? LOL, O-kaaay. Yes, um, happy Father’s Day! o_O
With all of life’s challenges…..finding the “one” and being in love is almost next to impossible! Why not celebrate these matches and all other “dad/son” relationships out there! As we know, a number, our age, doesn’t necessarily guarantee intelligence, wisdom, patience, love and the ability to be or find your soul mate….when life and it’s challenges presents you with a gift of a loving mate….grab it, don’t question it, grow with it, celebrate it!
And to those who suck their teeth at these relationships with what “societal norms” have taught them as to what is “appropriate” go screw yourself!
Your comment is quite reasonable as I have ‘beneficially’ experienced some of what you said.
I especially like — ” … when life and it’s challenges presents you with a gift of a loving mate….grab it, don’t question it, grow with it, celebrate it! “
@davidwesleyhorn: I agree. My fiance is 12 years my junior (I am 37 and he is 26) and I used to question myself about it. I didn’t go out of my way to find a younger guy, it just worked out that way. My last love was a year older than myself and I once had a relationship where *I* was definitely more of the “son” in the relationship because he was the exact same age as my own father. Love is love and as long as he is over 18 and knows what he wants, we should not allow love to pass us by, whether he’s younger, older or in the same age range as ourselves. Genuine love really IS hard to find. I have so many friends who are in relationships with guys just because they “can stand each other” and are physically attracted, but its not authentic love, its just companionship. My finace and I LOVE each other from our very depths and I never thought I would ever love somebody THIS much or BE loved this much.
Some of those are lovely. And some are stereotypically disgusting.
Okay, now this is down right creepy. Clearly, at least two of these photos are photos of gay pornstars (and, in one case, I think the pornstar is with someone who can’t be his son).
However, if you need more photos for this article Eurocreme’s “Dads $&)(* Lads” series would be right up your alley
trying to figure out if that is actually JP Dubois’ dad
How about real couples like Dustin Lance Black and Tom Daley, Robbie Rogers and Greg Berlanti, Matt Bomer and Simon Hall. They are many couples with considerable age gaps between them.
I don’t care about an age gap but this whole daddy son thing has very creepy air of pedophilia …
you had a chance to include a pic of Tom Daley and you didn’t????SHOCK!!!! Don’t think this is what they had in mind when creating Father’s Day.
@Artsenyc: totally agree !!
A few look like they could have been VHS porn covers. Sorry, but with real love one does not have to stick your tongue out or cling like you’re lifeless.
@Milk: Or Derrick Gordon and Gerald Mccullough.
Wow. You are still obsessed with Tom Daley?
So, it seems like you can be a “Daddy” as long as you have a bit of scruff and/or are more muscular than your partner. There is not a significant age gap in some of these couples.
Some of the photos are sexy — I can well remember fapping over much older guys like Tom Selleck and Harrison Ford when I was 14 — but publishing this on Father’s Day was incredibly tacky, especially in an age (and on a forum) that frequently supports gays who become parents.
Without going into longwinded detail about it, the “egalitarianism” that is desirable in consensual adult sexual relationships is INCOMPATIBLE with healthy parent/child relationships, in which the child’s deference to parental authority and wisdom is very important.
I “get” the whole Daddy/Son thing. I like some of Josman’s comics. But — to repeat — publishing this on a day that celebrates parenting was a stinker of an idea.
Unless these couples are actually father & son, what is the essence of this?
As a gay dad with a gay son, I find this thread creepy and icky.
@chinadad: VERY creepy, several of them. The whole “daddy” thing is pretty sickening to me. My dad was Bi, and the thought of any kind of play between us is DISGUSTING. He was my DAD, and if I had any issues with him, they were NOT about his privates.
I suspect the “creeped out” comments coming from some originate in some serious cultural double-standards of homophobia. There’s a huge, well accepted motif in heterosexual culture of the MILF, the cougar, etc., etc., but flash a few pictures of same sex males with the same types of age differences and a number of people start clutching their pearls. Queerty posting pics of Daddies on Father’s Day should be about as shocking as Maxim posting pics of MILFs on Mother’s Day, but there you go.
@bobbyjoe: Please. I was raised in the most queer-positive world possible. I’m 100% fine with being gay, and 80% fine with my dad having been Bi (the reminaing 20 being about HOW he went about it). The difference with MILFS has to do with how sex works– very few of the daddy/boy things are about the receptive dad.. it’s the plowed-into and overpowered little boy. And with MILFs, it’s about plowing the old woman… this is about male culture in the extreme.
@capsule: wow- you’re still obsessed with me????
@Throbert McGee: Having to agree with you on this one.
I don’t get the whole “Daddy/boy” thing. Not the intergenerational dating, ya find attractive who ya find attractive. I’m not talking about “Dom/sub” Hell, treat me like a bitch in the bed but don’t you dare do it on the street. The whole familial thing with “daddy/son” thing sounds just a needy and psychologically damaged. In the end it’s about being happy and who am I to judge….I just don’t get it. It was low rent to post this on father’s day though…come on queerty sometimes you get it sometimes you’re just a lil fucked up!
@bobbyjoe: Umn we are on QUEERTY….Not MAXIM. So that’s why we are talking about how “Daddy/Son” creeps some of us out. If we were on maxouim then maybe we would be talking about the “Daddy/Daddy’s girl” ick crap that takes place in society. You are reaching for a double standard where there is none. What kind of argument is that anyway? Oh you gays are homophobic for not talking about straight stuff that makes you grossed out….REALLY Get your head out your ass.
BTW what we are talking about isn’t intergenerational pics it’s about “DADDY/SON” relationships which is a mindset not age. The pics are fine. AND for crying out loud MILF’s are about hot women who are moms….Not I want to suckle mommy and have her take care of me act like she really is my mom and then fuck….yup that’s pretty freakn gross….now do you see why some of don’t like the daddy/son idea…probably not. But next time think about your reply and stance first. Homophobia? Seriously?
Age difference is fine. I just don’t like the dad/son name, or the idea of a relationship based on a stereotype.
I don’t see any evidence that in*est role play was intended here folks. C’mon now. It’s just common for some gay men to use terms like “daddy” and “son” in intergenerational relationships, something some of you gays with brains should already know. Some of the people revealing their self righteous judgmental side here have taken me by surprise. I have heard of many heterosexual women saying things like “come to mama!” to their male sex partners, nobody cares. Because its not meant to imply in*est role play and everyone knows it. And I see no reason to believe that in*est role play is going on in the pics above either. And yes I did notice at least one pornstar up there. So what. Austin Wilde DOES have a boyfriend. Or at least has had one in the past. Perhaps that is who he is photoed with.
As for whether or not this was “tacky” I have it say that I don’t think it really fit with the day but it wasn’t “tacky”. It’s innocuous as far as I’m concerned. Nothing to get on your high horse about.
@Teeth: “male culture in the extreme?”. So what? Are you some sort of gay misandrist? There is nothing wrong with “male culture”. So what if younger guys like older men to dominate and plow into them and some older men like doing it? You are acting like this is a crime. Are you a gay man? If so, why do you sound like a radical feminist trying to sexually shame males? I lost my virginity when I was 19 to a man in his mid 50s. He was hot, had a gorgeous rock hard stick and was in shape and I loved every second of the good old fashioned dominant plowing he gave me once the pain dulled. Who are you to act like this is a bad thing?
@DarkZephyr: I think you miss how hurtful these terms can actually be. When the daddy/son terminology is being used it is either by someone that is being judgmental or by a very small subset of the population that is also getting off in the power issues in their relationships.
I have no problems with inter-generational love, but the terminology really bothers me. I date an older man (he is 57) and I am 35. There are two things that really get to me… 1) When someone assumes I am his son and 2) When someone believes I am with him for some other purpose than that I am both in love with and physically attracted to him.
This terminology really plays into both of those things that bother me, so I hate the terminology here.
The idea of co-opting father’s day for such stupidity even more offends me since my partner has two kids… it makes it feel weird to say something like “Happy Father’s Day” to him.
@DarkZephyr: I think another thing you fail to realize is that you have this warped notion that the younger man always has to be the bottom. Where does that come from? From the warped men that get off on having younger bottoms. It takes something as pure as a relationship between two people and warps the hell out of it to meet with normal male power/dominance themes. Relationships are based on the concept of equality and two partners that are as important to themselves as they are each other. Daddy/son is based on the concept of abusing the younger but willing partner… the two things are completely different, and no self-respecting younger partner would ever go for the second… then again the older “abusive” partner knows that and seeks out very specific people to dominate (normally young kids with no options and no self-esteem). Seriously, the daddy/son thing is much more similar to domestic violence than a healthy relationship that is inter-generational.
Oh jeez, get the stick out of your butts. Not one of these couples even has that big of an age difference.
You want gay relationships to be accepted by the rest of society, yet even the tiniest deviation from the norm offends you? How is this not a double standard.
As for those who cannot at the same time entertain two different meanings of the word “dad”, that is just pathetic.
@tdx3fan: *I* fail to realize that *I* have a “warped notion”? Listen pal, *I’M* in an intergenerational relationwhip, *I’M* the older guy and *I’M* the bottom and I am NOT ashamed to admit that. I never EVER indicated that I think the younger guy ALWAYS has to be the bottom. Where the heck did you get that? And what irritates me AS a bottom is this notion that you consider bottoming being abused or an act of submission. Where do YOU get THAT? I think YOU are the warped one buddy.
@DarkZephyr: And that would be “relationship”.
@tdx3fan: By the way another thing that I think is “warped” about you is the misandristic notion that power/dominance themes are the norm for males. And have you never heard of dominatrixes? Those are women, not men. And who the bleep are you to judge ANYONE who enjoys being submissive or a bottom of lacking self respect? You cant be a top if no one bottoms! And I think the REAL abuse would come from topping someone who didn’t like it! Don’t judge bottoms! Younger OR older! And don’t judge people who like dominant and submissive sex! It’s none of your darn business! If other people’s sexual proclivities “hurts” you, you are no better than a homophobe who claims gay sex ruins their marriage. Also I never once claimed that *I* was into Daddy/Son language. I don’t use it but I’m not gonna break down and cry if someone mistakes my fiancé for my son. I will just correct them. Grow up and top calling people “warped”. Were you raised in a barn with no manners?
The Greeks got right…..left and sideways.
Dad use to hire a gay tutor for his son, and to also be his son’s first lover.
Read, “The Last Of The Wine” by Mary Renault…The single most renown expert on all things Greek.
The Greeks themselves use to seek her out for her advice, and opinions.
I’ve always liked the idea of having an older man and call him “Daddy” when we’re intimate.
I don’t know why I like it, I just do
Lame pics. I’m 24 and do like older men sometimes tho. A lot
My very first “real” relationship was with a man 10 years my senior who lived about 2 hours away from me. I stayed with him on weekends for the duration of the relationship, which was about a year. I was a 22 year old gay man just coming to terms with my homosexuality, he was experienced, had his own home, college degree, well traveled, awesome body, and the sex was fantastic. I learned so much from him, and shall never forget him. After him I went with a man equally older than me, lived about 2 hours away in another direction, older, more mature than I, taught me much about not only the gay world at large, but about growing up and becoming a man. He had an incredibly tight body, and topped me in ways I’ve never experienced again, 35 years having passed. If inter-generational relationships are deemed inappropriate, by some, then they’ve never had the guidance and love of an older man, right when I needed it most, like I have. I think these types of relationships are not only very beautiful, but very important for younger men to have.
It’s great that we are “celebrating Daddies”–at nearly 51 years old, I’m now in the “Daddy” category. Not all of us have time or money to look like the “Daddies” above or those portrayed in the gay media. I work hard to make a decent living, try to eat right, get the gym regularly, stay informed, and stay engage–am I less attractive than what we see in the media? I say “no” but I am often ignored or discounted because I don’t look like Tom Ford and I am not built like Steve Kelso. Being gay people doesn’t make us immune to the body images we are bombarded with daily. Sad.
I love this article. I’m 42 and my husband or son if you want to call him that is only 29. We have been together for 2 years now.
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