We’ve all seen it happen. Two people start dating, and over the course of the relationship, they start to morph into mirror images of each other. It can be funny, sad, hot — it all depends, really.
But did you know there’s a blog that chronicles this phenomenon? The aptly named BoyfriendTwin Tumbler is just chock full of wonders.
Here’s a taste of our favorites:
jockjack5
While there clearly are exceptions, I think most gay men gravitate towards and are attracted to men that most resemble their “twin”.
I know that is at least the case with me.
I am an aging former twink at this point in my life, but still enjoy looking at twinkish guys and fondly remembering days gone by. The thought of having sex with a burly bear is repulsive to me!
jockjack5
Oh, and why do these comments show up in a Nova Scotia time-zone?
I just posted the above comment at 6:16 am Eastern Standard Time here in South Carolina, yet it shows up as “7:16 am”
Extremely trivial I know, but I’m a fussy little faggot at times. 😀
imperator
This shouldn’t really come as a surprise when it happens– I’ve read about research that found that because our brains’ firmware exhibits favouritism toward our kin, we homo sapiens have a general tendency to be attracted to mates who bear some resemblance to ourselves. Sexual orientation doesn’t circumvent that wiring, so we’re probably uniquely primed to select partners who could – with some similar grooming choices and conditioning of our faces over time by habitual involuntary mirroring of expressions – end up looking like our doppelgangers.
SebX
I don’t know if it’s a trend or it’s just coincidence, but if it’s a trend it’s quite disturbing to me. It’d seem as if guys were so in love with themselves they look for a guy that looks similar to them.
And I tend to go for guys who’re not similar to me, either twinkier and younger or more muscular and older. For some guys I’m very attractive but I wouldn’t do me at all. :/
Treehuggerguys
@jockjack5: Oh come-on. Put yourself in the shoes of a “Burly-Bear”. Some tired old queen indicates sex would be repulsive with you. Now if the shallow priss simply stated “Sex with a Burly Bear just doesn’t do it for me.” then no one is offended. But Burly Bears have feelings, unlike shallow queens, and lets not pretend that its all about you.
Treehuggerguys
@jockjack5: Your Mama should have taught you to be sensitive to others. Now be a nice priss, and go back and edit the part about “…(sex) would be repulsive”, and use language like “…just doesn’t do it for me”. I was a skinny twink in my day also, but I did not leave my sensitivity at the door. You could do better.
Jonathan
Awww. While these couples are really cute one of my favorite parts of my relationship is that my boy friend and I are so different in so many ways, appearances is just one of them. I hope these couples are together for the right reasons, not just some creepy narcissistic way of dating themselves. Lol.
curan
You are not the body that you wear.
What defines us are the choices that we make, not how we look.
A choice for aesthetics is sometimes noble, and sometimes shallow.
But let’s not confuse the illusory for the reality. The hope of a relationship is someone to grow old and ugly with, whom you enjoy for the personality rather than the aesthetics that have long since vanished.
1898
I see this all the time. I find it slightly bizarre… but whatever makes people happy is a good thing, I guess.
Personally I tend to be attracted to guys who don’t look like me. Taller, shorter, thinner, heavier, different races and ethnicities, etc. There’s something about the differences between us, the contrast, that I find very appealing and sexy. I’ve also dated guys who looked similar to me in almost every way… but usually it’s the guys who look very different who grab my attention the fastest.
xopher
My first and second boyfriends looked like they could have been my brothers, but not my twins, and they looked nothing like each other… It hasn’t happened again since.
lancelongmast
Doppelbangers.
Mack
And I’m the opposite. I’m a tired old bear and I tend to lean toward hot young twinks.
jockjack5
@Treehuggerguys:
Thanks for the advice, but I think I’ll skip the edit.
The word repulsive neatly and accurately captures the essence of my thoughts regarding this article and the larger point that I was making regarding twin attraction(s).
Further, I am truly repulsed by left-wing tree-huggers who think they know what is best for society at large, and try and impose their will(s) on the rest of us. So be a good little bear, and go hug a tree without humping it.
And, finally, leave us prissy aging queens alone!
Captain Obvious
@jockjack5: So did the Nazis.
n900mixalot
Nope not seeing the “sexiness” … at all. More interesting is that some of these couples seem to be into one another, but others just seem to be into themselves. To each their own though … now Queerty, find some couples that appear to be total opposites.
jockjack5
@Captain Obvious:
Well, it’s obvious you forgot to finish your point.
jmmartin
@jockjack5: In my own experience, this is most certainly the case. I no longer place much faith in astrology, so this might be entirely anecdotal, but I knew a couple of Virgos who were millionaires by the time they were 35 or 40 — you know how that sign is supposed to be crazy for success. I know another couple who are both Leos. I suspect it goes on and on. And even if the couple is not same-sign, they often tend to look a lot alike, or think much the same.
Stache99
@jockjack5: It just makes you look like a complete as*hole. I would never call someone disgusting just because I wasn’t into them.
jeffsmith60
Find the beauty in all men and you will only sleep with beautiful men.
ErichSchoe
Weirdly narcissistic. What ever happened to the attraction of opposites?
charlieeod74
@Treehuggerguys: Thanks from a burly bear
jockjack5
@Stache99:
I did NOT call anyone “disgusting” Mr. Moustache.
Nor did I call anyone an as*hole, like you called me.
Your quick and apparently reflexive defense of burly bears may indicate that you ARE one, in which case, the thought of having sex with you would indeed be something I would not be “into”.
I hope you can wrap your pea-brain around THAT concept, if only for a moment, and also understand that I am also not into staches.
jwtraveler
Most of these men are bearded. I’ve seen similar spreads about boyfriend twins and they also show mostly bearded men. Could it be that people think all bearded men look alike? Some of these men do look alike, but the 5th couple (one guy with hands on the other’s head), for example, don’t look at all alike. Even their beards are different.
Most people make at least some effort to look attractive. If gay men are trying to look attractive, it makes sense that they will try to look like the men they find attractive. Of course if you are a big hairy man attracted to twinks (or vice versa) that’s impossible, but for others it’s a bit easier.
E T
@ErichSchoe: Opposites provide a better gene pool, something gay men don’t have to worry about. I think a similarity-based relationship can be a great asset, smoothing over conflicts and moving toward common goals. Not that opposition doesn’t have its own value. My husband and I are like night and day. We both grew up stifled by too much conformity and unquestioned conservativism, so being different and disagreeing with one another has been strangely refreshing. Even still, we’ve been building common ground through time. Also, nobody calls out straight couples as looking like twins, it’s as if gender is the deciding factor on whether two people are the same or different. Just saying!
jwtraveler
@jockjack5: So I guess you prefer the right-wing Christian fundamentalists who think it’s their business to decide who everyone should love, marry and sleep with, whether and when to bear children and how to prevent child-bearing; what to believe, where and how to worship. These are personal and individual decisions, that have no effect on others.
“Tree-huggers” are trying to save the natural environment that belongs to everyone (and no one) from those who would exploit and destroy it for personal profit.
So tell me again: Who is trying to “impose their will on the rest of us”?
Aromaeus
It doesn’t help the situation when they dress alike. Dressing like your partner was cute in like middle school, as an adult it’s just silly. I love how this is a thing with white guys because they don’t vary much, not so much with people of color.
Arconcyyon
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Desert Boy
I’ve always had a thang for twins.
Ridpathos
I’m probably what’s known as a twink, but I’ve always been into bears and beefy guys. I’m Asian, and my BF is white, so we’re not really similar looking at all either (he’s also slight bear-y and hairy while I’m completely not).
Chelsea21St
Personally I find it kinda creepy, not sexy. I’ve always assumed it’s because so many gay men are narcissistic.
tellie
the fourth couple from the bottom (the guys with tank tops and sunglasses) are from Sweden. the left one is an actor and model. if you wanna check out his Swedish homepage it is: sternulf.se (you can see pictures at “Galleri” without knowing any Swedish). the other guy is a key account manager and event coordinator at a Swedish gay magazine.
Cagnazzo82
Some of these guys probably look more like brothers than their actual siblings.
I don’t know what to think about this.
One can only imagine who these people would be dating if they actually had gay twins. Scratch that, more like if they could clone a gay version of themselves.
Perhaps this might be the most accurate display of narcissism… in its most technical sense.
jason smeds
This “boyfriend twin” phenomenon is actually a form of narcissism. It’s a fetish.
Gay-identifying men are known for their fetishes. For instance, in the 70’s almost everybody had a moustache fetish. They all wanted to look like each other.
In a sense, it’s sad. There is this very conservative streak in gay men which encourages everybody to look the same. If you look like a surfer, you’re shunned.
Alan down in Florida
I think this is part of a generational change. Many of us boomers were raised to hate homosexuality and in the process to hate ourselves and our bodies. Therefore when we saw someone who looked like ourselves we would reflect that self hatred on to the other guy.
Nowadays with guys coming out in the single digits and being more comfortable with themselves and their bodies their own self-esteem allows them to see someone who looks like them and think “I look like that and I’m hot and cool so there’s no reason to think he won’t be too.”
pscheck2
Hey! Come on, whatever turns you on is the ‘bottom’ line here, be it love, infatuation or good old narcissism, what does it matter? If looking like your other half makes you happy, well, so be it! (Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder).
Michael Barnett
I’ve often fantasised about having an identical twin gay brother who was into me. That would be awesome.
I wonder if this phenomenon exists with lesbian identical twins.
To those who say gay men are narcissistic, that’s a generalisation. Many may be, plenty are not. There are plenty of men who are not gay who are totally into themselves. Just walk around any gym and look at the men virtually getting off on their reflection in the mirror.
I’m sure there are a range of factor here why these twin couples exists. I’m sure in any population of twins you’ll find those who have experimented sexually and then gone on to have a relationship of sorts. Having a twin sibling makes it all so much easier.
martinbakman
…and I had finally gotten lumbersexual out of my head. Now this. I haven’t thought of my twin that way, well at least not since junior high…
Random
Queerty covered this earlier on in the year so I’m puzzled as to why it’s being re-hashed in an almost identical way. Is this a new form of journalism, perhaps – ‘article twins’…?
http://www.queerty.com/photos-do-you-have-a-boyfriend-twin-20140407
Random
@jason smeds: I like surfers, so definitely wouldn’t shun them. But really, I’ve never been fixated on ‘types’ of men. I just like people I find attractive, and they come in many shapes, sizes and guises.
OrchidIslander
@jwtraveler: Spot on target response. Thanks for calling BS on that far-right hyper-hypocrisy which insists that only those on the left “……think they know what is best for society at large, and try and impose their will(s) on the rest of us.” All the while conveniently, and disingenuously, forgetting their war on marriage equality, abortion and contraceptive rights as well as shoving religion down our collective throats. Well said jwtraveler, I couldn’t agree more.
SSMinWeHo
Some of these people aren’t actually dating.
Marksalot
Great pics. These guys look happy. The whole question of judgment seems a little off putting to me. If there is one thing I’ve learned about being queer, it is that there is no disputing taste. Empowering.
jwtraveler
@jason smeds: You certainly do have a unique way of looking at the world.
jwtraveler
@OrchidIslander: Thanks. Always good to get encouragement from a like-minded individual.
tusgold
My brotherb and I have beeen lovers since I was 112 and he was 14. He conned me into sucking his dick and we did it everyday 3or 4 times a day My older brother taught me to fuck so gently. about a month after we began having sex he broke wis 2 year girlfriend and came in all smiles and saiid I ditched my girlfriend now I AM am all yours. we made that our anniversary date. He;s more dominering than me, but he doesn’ try to be. I basically just want what whatever he wants. W have had a tital of 3 arguements over guys paying attention to me. I have never and will never cheat.To this day our sex is so fucking hot I can’t imagine it getting bbettter. He likes to talk me into blowing him places outside like a Mc Donalds drive through parking lots in gtocery stores its such a turn on. Hes 8″ and I as his dick grew i just aturally became accustomed to it. We hate being a part.We haven’t slept apart since 2002. We will be in love forever and I never knew love like thiis existed.
Sebizzar
*shudders* I get a pretty good feeling that most of them are just highly narcissistic. Plus wasn’t there already an article like this not too long ago? I prefer couples that contrast, I find it 10x more adorable 🙂
cuddlygy5
@jockjack5: You didn’t call anyone disgusting, just repulsive and that is much worse. But no burly bear needs to be overly offended, since your attitude towards others clearly is more of a reflection of your ignorance and not truly a judgement on them. And no worries us burly bears prefer to date non-ignorant people who get that our community is made up of all types and all are equally sexy and desirable. Well with the exception of you!
NoCagada
@jockjack5: Judging by this post and your last one, I’m inclined to agree.
NoCagada
@curan: ANd…you were appointed as SPEAKER FOR EVERYBODY IN THE WORLD?
NoCagada
@jockjack5: What, exactly, are you into , other than the mirror?
NoCagada
@jason smeds: And what planet did you pull that out of…URANUS?!?
brubeard
I’m going to throw in my two cents’ worth. I’m always surprised that people think my husband and I are TWINS. Even his sister now says that we look alike (after 19 years), but right from the beginning, people would stop us and ask if we were twins. I’ve never thought, “Gee, he’s hot because he looks like me.” In fact, although we both have beards, he didn’t have one when we met; he had a goatee (the beard came back later; I learned that he had a beard for years, but, when I met him, he’d shaved it back to a goatee because he wanted to try a different look).
Sometimes it’s embarrassing but I’ve learned to smile and take it as a compliment; I do, after all, think he’s adorably cute. Other times, I smile and say, “No; I’m taller and he’s bigger.”
I really fell in love with him because of his kindness, sweetness and gentleness. He’s honey and I’m more vinegar; he’s sugar and I’m salt. And while I have more body hair than him, his bod is still hot.
Michael Barnett
@brubeard:
You and me both! When I’m out with my husband we always get asked if we’re twins. We are both balding and have similar facial hair, but he’s shorter and older than me. I don’t see the similarity, but I guess others do.
nandaric
@jason smeds: Because straight people totally don’t have fetishes right? What the fuck is wrong with you?
james_in_cambridge
@jwtraveler: You certainly are very polite. Too polite even, when it come to that lunatic Smeds!
james_in_cambridge
@tusgold: Worst Slash Fiction ever!
jockjack5
My oh my, but the resident bears have come out of hibernation over my “repulsive” post.
Relax guys, some of my best friends are gay biker-bears, and we all get along famously. Just because I like to lick my honey off a smooth flat tummy doesn’t make me a monster.
As far as the political commentary regarding left-wing-nut tree-huggers, it’s been my observation that some of the most stridently un-inclusive members of the gay community are those residing on the far left. You KNOW who you are!
I am gay and a lifelong Republican. I support gay marriage and some other liberal concepts, and find it humorous when my left-wing gay friends try and pigeon-hole us Republicans as all being in lock-step with the far right of the party. I am not alone.
tellie
FUN FACT 🙂
the fourth couple from the bottom (the guys with tank tops and sunglasses) are from Sweden. the left one is an actor and model. if you wanna check out his Swedish homepage it is: sternulf.se (you can see pictures at “Galleri” without knowing any Swedish). the other guy is a key account manager and event coordinator at a Swedish gay magazine.
check it out ;P
MrEguy
This is the epitome of narcissism. They’re not in love with their partner, they’re clearly in love with themselves. It’s odd and unsettling to behold. Personally, I’m not attracted to guys who look like me. In fact, if I had a clone of myself I wouldn’t fùçk it.
Captain Obvious
@MrEguy: Thank you!
I don’t see the appeal of wanting to be with your mirror. Part of what’s beautiful about humans is we all can look so different from each other.
You don’t see straight people trying to find their damn clone. I don’t get why so many gay men have to be so into their own appearance and find everyone else repulsive.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
If you really wanna gander at boyfriend twins use the Googles and input “Peters twins sex”……..
They are BelAmi models who are actual twins that claim to be actual lovers and engage in some of the sickest (and I must admit hottest) scenes……….
martinbakman
When they both display pouty slips in sync, that’s love.
Brad Mitchell
Glorifying incest is gross and warped
Óscar ML K
The ultimate act of vane egocentric narcissism
John Wilkinson
This will never happen with us Roy
Tim Grogan
My parents dressed like twins in the 70s this is nothing new
Jaime-Arturo Rodriguez Luevano
My husband and I don’t look anything alike but we do like to coordinate our outfits when we go out. Not necessarily twinkies, but similar colors or patterns so we match in some sort of way.
José Ramón Chavira
not hot
Jerry Equality Ward
Not me.
Joseph C Landis-Midnight
It is not sexy at all. It’s creepy. It means neither had enough of a self to be alone.
Shelby Moore
Ashley R. Hobdy omg we were talking about this not too long ago! lol
Cameron Holliday
Jordan Law Hahahaah
Keith McAuley
Jessica Lawrence
pscheck2
There is a video out there, made by a German film maker devoting the whole video to sex between twins. Most of them are twinks, some Bears, but all sexy and beautiful! The dialog is in German (no CC), so I missed out on what he had to say about this phenonomen(?)of the sexual attraction that twins have for each other. In another web site (I think Bel Ami) the producer was discussing the sexual relationship between the twins and they told him that they truely loved each other and if one were to die, the other would take his own life, for he would not be able to live without his love!