Since love is in the air, we thought we’d revisit the oddly appealing world of boyfriend twins.
We’ve all seen it happen. Two people start dating, and over the course of the relationship, they start to morph into mirror images of each other. It can be funny, sad, hot — it all depends, really.
Thanks to the BoyfriendTwin tumbler for the inspiration.
bottom250
All these men are so hot. I wish them all the best in their relationships.
onthemark
“It can be funny, sad, hot — it all depends, really.”
You left out “narcissistic” and “creepy.”
vive
Everybody looks the same with a beard, so those are not so surprising.
TVC 15
I tend to be attracted to guys who compliment me physically. I’m clean-shaven and slim-athletic, so I tend to be attracted to fit bearded guys who may be a little stockier than me. It’s not set in stone, but I know that those types of guys make my head turn first. Problem is, those guys always seem to gravitate to each other, so I’m left without. 🙁
The photos in this post are a great example. The two sexy bear cubs by the cabin, and the last two couples are very hot. Exactly what I’d go for.
Random
This story AGAIN…….?!!!
Realitycheck
But, is it real? With few exceptions on the Tumblr site, these are just pictures of
twins standing close.
Just because both twins are gay and very close doesn’t mean they are
romantically involved.
Sammy Schlipshit
@Realitycheck:
Aaaaa dude, ya kinda missed the point.
None of those guys are biological twins.
It’s all about how they are attracted to others who reflect themselves and/or the couple morph into looking like one another.
randyjl
My partner and I could never look alike. I am 65 and 300# and he is 34 and 135#.
vive
@Sammy Schlipshit, how do you know they aren’t twins or brothers? Haven’t looked closely at these, but some of the ones on the previous Queerty articles were definitely twins.
jjose712
Well, this has a clear explanation, some people tend to be attracted to people similar to them.
And if you are the same race, and use the same haircut, clothes and facial hair (which is not that difficult in gays who follow tendencies) you’ve got that phenomena.
In some cases is really creepy, specially when both look exactly the same (it’s some kind of narcissistic fall in love for someone who looks exactly just like you), but in these pictures the guys have similar styles but there are clear differences too (i suppose sometimes they even wear the same clothes only for the pic purposes)
jjose712
@vive: Oh come on, this is called twin boyfriends because the guys are boyfriends. If you have similar face estructure, use sunglasses, and the same haircut is not that difficult to look similar.
None of this guys is a twin (and if you think they are twins you need to check your eyes as soon as possible)
jwtraveler
As usual, most of these “boyfriend twins” have beards. Apparently, some people think that all bearded men look alike. As a man who has had a beard virtually my entire adult life, I don’t. I think it’s similar to the phenomenon where people of one race think all people of another race look alike. We see individual differences in our own group, but not in the other group. We just lump them all together as “the other”.
jwtraveler
@lauraspencer: Congratulations! You can count to 3.
Sebizzar
@lauraspencer: Thank you! Idk why they keep showing us this, as if they want us to find someone who looks like us :/ Every time they post this I’m just going to point out how narcissistic it is.
vive
@jjose712: “Oh come on, this is called twin boyfriends because the guys are boyfriends.”
Obviously, since everything you read on the internet is true.
lauraspencer
@jwtraveler….thank you! I learned how to count way past 3 when I was about 4 years old. I’m surprised that people who get paid to do their job on this site can’t count. If I were an editor I would be aware of the content on my site.
SteveDenver
“Dyke-Alikes”
That’s what a friend called a pair of women who looked very similar, were dressed in jeans and matching shell jackets, and had the same build and haircuts.
I’ve seen it many times with male or female or hetero couples: they eat the same food, do the same activities, share the same aesthetics, and slowly start to resemble each other. They get fat together or slim down together, go to the same hair stylist, shop in the same stores for clothes.
NoCagada
So, what do you prefer? Looking like your boyfriend or looking like your dog?
BigRedEO
The height of narcissism.
tham
@onthemark:
So agree…and it takes all the fun out of saying “Go fuck yourself”
Captain Obvious
I don’t think the “boyfriend twin” thing is sexy at all. I saw a pair like this last night and wanted to throw up. It’s crazy how segregated and self-obsessed so many gay men are while crying discrimination.
I’m not saying your dating life has to look like the UN, but why does every man who interests you have to look EXACTLY like you? It’s disturbing.
Like BigRedEO said, the height of narcissism. Very ugly habit.
vive
@Captain Obvious, @BigRedEO, while some of these make me want to throw up too (because I’m bitter – yeah I admit it), I don’t think it is necessarily narcissism. We all want to look attractive, so it is natural for gay men to try to look like the kind of man they find attractive. What is unfortunate, though, is that so many of the better-looking men have such a narrow range of types – because they can get precisely what they want with little effort, they are never forced to expand their boundaries.
People tend to think “lucky them,” but to be honest for many of them beauty is a curse. My beautiful lovers have almost invariably been the most boring failures in bed you can imagine (with only a few notable exceptions).
ScottOnEarth
There’s no way my boyfriend looks like me….since he’s a blow-up doll. Not really.
Captain Obvious
@vive: Face and body type are two different things. I have no problem with people going by body type, that’s expected to be honest.
Choosing someone who looks like you in the face is pure narcissism and frankly not that easy to do as you don’t typically see people walking around with nearly your exact face. It’s quite disturbing that some people are that into their own looks that they want to bang someone who looks just like their clone or twin.
But that’s their own business. I dunno why the internet has to make it seem cute and fun when it’s discriminatory, promotes segregation, and makes gay people seem worse than the KKK. I think we have enough color/ethnicity issues in the “gay community” without further separating people down to facial features.
vive
@Captain Obvious, I agree with your sentiments, but to be fair (1) all bearded guys look pretty much the same, and (2) I think a few of these are are pictures of actual twins.
Captain Obvious
@vive: But like even down to beard color, eye color, and minute facial features like cheekbones? I think it’s more than just the beard.
To be honest I hardly think about what my own face even looks like, but the few times I’ve seen people with almost my exact face it’s done nothing more than freak me the f out.
I hope most actually are twins being reposted by other people who think they are looking a couple for some odd reason…
lykeitiz
I once had a friend who was interested in pursuing more, but I couldn’t do it, because I thought we looked alike, and for me, that was a turnoff. When I told him, he thought I was making it up, using it as an excuse, until people started mistaking us, and calling him by my name.
For others, I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing, or narcissistic…to each his own. But for me, variety is the spice of life & opposites attract.
vive
@Captain Obvious: “I hope most actually are twins being reposted by other people who think they are looking a couple for some odd reason…”
Yes, or brothers (twins or not). Half Queerty’s articles are about gayifying straight men and other stories that have no gay import, so this would be in character.
dtpm
Another SNOOZER………….. I can see how some gays love this shit, especially since this site only posts couples that are attractive.
IzzyLuna
We call them “bookends.”
Professor Fate
If you have the same hair color and then adopt the same hairstyle along with the same facial hair, many men will look alike.
Geeker
So that’s what advanced pathological narcissism looks like.
blackberry finn
@Captain Obvious: >>>>it’s discriminatory, promotes segregation, and makes gay people seem worse than the KKK.
Hey, get off your cross. They need the wood for something else..
Ms Urethra Johnson
For Holloween maybe… creepy the rest of the year…
Grant Mealey
Cool, none of our business……works for them is all that matters!
Anthony Lower
So is non-boyfriend twins.
Eray Turkmen
most gays are narcastic anyways
Christian Vazquez
Wait what????
Deon Letsoalo
White boys and their nauseating narcissism. Fucking yuck! You might as well just look into the mirror and have a wank!
Aromaeus
@Deon Letsoalo: lmao.
ProfessorMoriarty
Waitaminnit…
…there are other ways to have a wank?
😉 :p
Tobi
@Deon Letsoalo: I still think autosexual just means getting hard looking at a Ferrari F12 Berlinetta.
Masc Pride
@Deon Letsoalo: Narcissism and healthy self-esteem/pride are sometimes confused. Note the total absence of even one black “boyfriend twin” couple…
Masc Pride
@Professor Fate: This is true, particularly if you’re both similar types (both muscled, both bearded, etc.). A lot of these guys don’t look that much alike and seem to mostly be purposely dressing alike to exaggerate the effect. I think it’s sort of cute in a way. It’s something only same-sex couples can do. Fun and harmless.
Blackceo
Interesting. I would be a little freaked if I dated someone who looked like me and actually I think it would turn me off. I typically tend to be most attracted to people with different features than mine. I’m very fair skinned and I’m more physically attracted to guys darker than me. But, best of luck to all these couples.
Marky
Let’s break it down. Two dudes of the same race who are bowing down to the same styles and trends are probably going to coincidentally /rock that twin look/ once and a while. Nothing special, just average everyday people doing what they do to fit the mold.
Glücklich
Couldn’t queerty have at least cleared *February’s* comments if they needed to recycle this post?
moldisdelicious
To each his own. Though I heard a scientific explanation behind this, i would hope that it would it wouldnt go beyond looks. Would find it creepy if these couples had the same interests and personalities. Me personally, I like variety. The same shit gets boring quite fast.
tdh1980
Oh, let these dudes have “themselves.” That just means a wider variety for the rest of us. I’m an equal opportunity lover. 🙂
TimberWolf
While a collage of photos together as a whole look creepy. Facial hair is very common two may have beards and closely look alike but the power of attraction can’t be forced or made up. They stand alone photo no big deal. Groups of people that resemble each other is just not news worthy
Cagnazzo82
Most of these guys are meh. Not my type in the least.
Oh yeah, and I really, really do not like beards. Wish that 70s trend would go away again like it did in the 90s.
Brian
I personally find the “boyfriend twins” phenomenon disconcerting. It’s a fetish – same sex, same look. It’s almost as if you are falling in love with yourself.
Joe Eugene
Never gonna happen!
Matthew David Thompson
Austin Stollings Brandon Landers
Rod Alvarenga
This is not sexy, it’s a whole new level of vanity
Tom Walton
Vain. Narcissistic. Creepy!
Jack Kear
supercreepy
Joseph C Landis-Midnight
Sexy to whom?
Casey Clark
Gross
Jane Freeman
Yep creepy! Narcissistic to the max!
Kevin Berry
This happens to heterosexual couples too, but obviously to a lesser degree. With long term couples, regardless of the gender arrangements, I think it’s a gradual, basically unintentional thing, like lines that have run parallel for quite some time & gravity has slowly pulled them towards an intersection. It’s pretty endearing, quite frankly.
This, though… This totally creeps me the eff out.
Billy Walker
Jason A Walker now I know what is happening to my hair
Jose R Negron
This is very common. I seen these couples all over. To each it’s own, but I find it odd. I love myself, but I always go for men that look nothing like me.
Yianni Christakis
Ruben Llanes
Matthew Ollendick
Nate King?
Randall Reynolds
It’s because gays are attracted to themselves. Not much of a phenomenon, really.
stranded
I don’t think this stems from narcissism. For the most part people gay or straight present themselves in the look they’re attracted to. So if you’re an “otter” you’re probably into other guys who are otters or bears. If you like smooth twinks, you probably like to keep yourself smooth and thin. That’s not to say opposite don’t attract, but you don’t really see the smooth/otter or muscle/twink pairing outside of porn.
charlietex
My ex and his new BF are featured on the site. Imagine being told after many years together that you just don’t have a look he’s attracted to you anymore. Then you find out he’s been cheating on you with someone who looks just like him. When he told me I didn’t have a look he liked anymore I didn’t know he meant I wasn’t his mirror image.
Darwin Rodriguez
Go home queerty, you’re drunk
Douglas Schlitz
Who are we to judge ! Reproduction is not involved here, science is not involved here, only love is !
ddean
My husband and I were walking down the beach a couple days ago and a guy came up to us and ask if we had heard of this story because we look like boyfriend twins. We laughed and agreed but think it’s funny. I was 40 before I met him and have had my share of losers. So if looking like my lover is narcissism then great I’ll take it. We are on year three and I have butterflies every time I see him. Most think were cute together.
Kealan Devaney
Joanne Harron Robert Corcoran we are not alone!
moldisdelicious
Another thing. I think maturity is learning to get along with and like people who aren’t exactly like you or what you like. Doesn’t surprise me that this type of shit is happening especially among gay men where the path to adulthood and maturity is at a standstill.
Bo_Hi
@onthemark: Well, this phenomenon is something that happens a lot among couples. If you’re in a relationship with someone, chances are you’ll start to look more and more like them. It really isn’t a matter of wanting to date yourself.