Navigating desire, trust and commitment is a challenge in any relationship, and apps that turn lust into fast food menus of sexual appetite certainly don’t make things any easier.
But they usually don’t result in a visit from the local police force, either.
Let this be a lesson to us all — communication is key.
A May/December couple recently had to seek professional intervention when an argument over Grindr turned frantic and violent.
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It’s a he-said/he-said, though, as both the 37-year-old and the 18-year-old claim it was the other who became enraged after discovering Grindr on the respective phones.
Local Michigan site Home Town Life writes that the police report indicates the teen became furious when he noticed Grindr open on the older man’s phone, while the teen claims it was the other way around — that the older man noticed Grindr on his phone, and threw the teen to the couch and hit him.
Either way, the events led to the teen running into the street screaming at the top of his lungs and taking refuge at a neighbor’s house.
All in all, probably not the greatest night for anyone involved, including the cops who had to sort out the absurd mess.
Ultimately, the older man was issued a citation for malicious destruction of property because he’d broken the teen’s smartphone during the squabble.
The teen, who had been staying with the man, likely went back home to his grandmother’s house.
As far as Law & Order goes: Worst. Episode. Ever.
tham
As it been said in the gay community for over 60 years…the young ones never stay.
Stache
Daddy problems. Lol
Hermes
@tham: nonsense. They do stay sometimes, not always, but sometimes. Whether they do or not, the duty of older partners is to nurture them, act in loco parentis and care about them — and if they move on, to continue to love them as friends.
Blessed be,
Hermes
Mack
There are many Daddy/sons relationships that lasts as there as many same age or close that also last. But violence is never the answer.
Stache
@Mack: Yes as long as his allowance flows and he stays young. Those kind of relationships are always built on one thing. Money and youth.
Stache
Please don’t insult real relationships with comparison’s of daddies and their sons. A fetish and nothing more.
SportGuy
Maybe they should both date people age appropriate and they wouldn’t have this problem.
dave lopes
and what difference would being closer in age makes.
men 18 and 38 are not meant to be monogamous.
there will be plenty of time for that when they are old and unwanted.
Aromaeus
I think if you are going to have a boyfriend that young you need to be realistic about the type of relationship you are going to have. At 18 there is just so much life they could have possibly lived and of course how many guys they’ve met before curiosity starts rear it’s head. Also if he was into you when you were barely legal then there should at least be a red flag there even if it ends up being for nothing later on down the road.
Captain Obvious
An 18 year old and a 37 year old. Pathetic.
trell
The whole difference in age doesn’t bother me about the article. Different strokes for different folks, and if these two had a good relationship, then fine.
But police get called to stupid, petty and pathetic domestic issues, all the time, just to mainly act as mediators for a pair of adults who are reduced to squabbling like kids, and who suddenly think & behave like they are on one of those car-crash Jeremy Springer TV show clones. – I’m sure the cops don’t need to be wasting their time with this sort of triviality, and the paperwork afterwards.
Irrespective of whoever is at fault, if someone cannot manage a simple thing like sitting down maturely at a table with their partner, and having a level headed conversation about the issue, and how to resolve it, they are not mature enough to be in a relationship in the first place.
Dave Downunder
@tham: They stay until the money runs out.
JerseyMike
@trell: I looked up and saw your last comment..”they are not mature enough to be in a relationship in the first place.” that pretty much sums it up for me.
robho3
That’s what happens when you take away a teenager’s phone
Antony Nguyen
The tea gurl spill lol