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Porn Star Mason Wyler: I’m HIV-Positive And It ‘Sucks’

Mason Wyler, the porn star and entrepreneur (real name: James Wallace), reveals he’s HIV-positive in a blog post (all links NSFW), saying “I have only myself to blame. I have HIV and it kind of sucks.” It was followed up the next day with a demand to “STOP” criticizing him and his sex life.

He writes: “I am a sex fiend. I am NOT a monster. So to the people who are spreading rumors that I have done otherwise, STOP. You are not saving anyone’s life by talking about me so STOP. You can not equate countless hours spent browsing hook-up sites and blogging about my sexual desires online to a wild and irresponsible sex life offline so STOP. You don’t know what I do in my private life so STOP. What you are saying about me could be considered defamatory so STOP. You have already done enough damage so STOP. Seriously. Just STOP.”

The acknowledgment comes after a brewing porn “war” (AGAIN: links NSFW), which included stories of Wyler — who made rape allegations against an Army soldier in 2008 and has performed in bareback scenes — being fired from his own website, having his roommate (also a porn star) tweet that Wyler is “spreading disease,” allegedly still cruising Adam4Adam with a profile that says he’s HIV-negative, and having his status exposed by porn publisher Mark Wilson of Great Atlantic Media, which manages the websites of some of Wyler’s fellow industry stars.

Supposedly it was in the name of safety for other performers.

By:           JD
On:           Aug 23, 2010
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  • 200 Comments
    • Jack
      Jack

      Poor guy :(

      *hug*

      Aug 23, 2010 at 11:47 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Joseph
      Joseph

      I hope he never dose porn again! Knowing you have HIV and risking other peoples life is disgusting!

      Aug 23, 2010 at 11:50 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Qjersey
      Qjersey

      of course this has nothing to do with him doing bareback porn…and the move of the “amateur” websites and companies featuring more and more bareback with “negative” performers.

      Just wait, he’ll be doing cum dump porn for Treasure Island soon enough.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 11:51 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jeff
      Jeff

      He’ll do porn again. He’ll work for Jake Cruise. Weeks ago there was an article in the NYT about how Tim Kelly (porn model) was on a waiting list for AIDS medication. He does movies for Jake Cruise. That is where Mason will end up.

      Mason glorified barebacking and talked about traveling overseas and getting fucked in each country by a guy bareback. HIV and AIDS are horrible, but I have little sympathy for people who do such stupid shit.

      His “STOP” post makes me laugh. He says he only had sex with three men since finding out and all of them were HIV+. What about the guys you had sex with right before finding out? Plus, this is the same guy who faked a rape to get sympathy gifts from his fans.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 11:58 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • spider_orchid
      spider_orchid

      @ Jeff, I totally agree. No one deserves AIDS and I can’t bring myself to say “LOL KARMA KICKED YOUR *SS”, but I can’t really feel bad when he was definitely BRAGGING about barebacking and how many dudes he and his boy friend f*cked. I really hope he gets the medical attention that he needs and that people LEARN from this, but yeah…he kinda brought it on himself… :/

      Aug 23, 2010 at 12:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      Ugh, Porn actors don’t have a long shelf life anywah, and they usually don’t have educations etc… and now this guy, who probably doesn’t have many other qualificiations, has even fucked up his porn earning potential. Yeah, he was idiotic, but I can’t help but feel sorry for the pathetic state of the guy.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 12:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • whatever
      whatever

      He needs a shrink. :/

      Aug 23, 2010 at 12:36 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Anthony in Nashville
      Anthony in Nashville

      Is that a recent photo? If so, he looks used up.

      Becoming HIV+ is a risk you accept when you do bareback. He made his coins and got famous, now it’s time to pay the piper.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 12:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Black Pegasus
      Black Pegasus

      Hmm so lets see, Miss Wyler is a self described Sex Fiend who enjoys eating Cum and getting Banged Bareback, yet he wants the world to STOP talking about what he does although his life is an open book…??

      **rolls eyes**

      Bitch Please!! Your little unfortunate circumstance is the direct result of LIFE exacting it’s Consequence. For every Action there is an equal and opposite Reaction. Do you think I can NOT pay my bills and get to keep my shit? And do you think I can fuck every guy in the club and NOT wake up with a STD or HIV? You can’t have your cake and eat it too Miss Wyler!

      Hopefully, ObamaCare will be able to keep your funky ass alive!

      Aug 23, 2010 at 1:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      He’s a gorgeous hunk and I feel very badly for him and hope he improves.But goddamn this type of thing is what continues to perpetuate the gay aids myth and the one about gays being whores and fucking anything that moves.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 1:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • anonymous (not that one)
      anonymous (not that one)

      @Black Pegasus: Have you noticed how diseased looking MANY black bareback performers are looking these days?

      I bought a discounted DVD in the Village earlier in the summer featuring ex-Cocodorm model Romeo. That child, along with several performers in that DVD with him, had second stage syphilis written EVERY where. It was horrible looking at their buttholes because I knew what the signs were. But they eagerly licked and sucked each other and the aftermath all up.

      Totally disgusting.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 1:47 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lexxvs
      Lexxvs

      I feel sorry for him –being dumb comes at a price- and even sorrier for the stupid comments that attack him trying to exorcize their own fears of not doing what’s right, that is, always use protection, no matter what, you can only trust on the condom. It’s not about blaming the infected –he may or may not know- it’s about taking care of yourself. Unless we talk about a rape, when someone is infected, there’s two to blame.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 2:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dave
      Dave

      What is up with posting porn stars’ “real names” and acting like it scores you some kind of elite media points or something?

      Ugh.

      It’s disrespectful. People in adult entertainment work under stage names for a reason. Please stop making their lives more difficult.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 2:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Enron
      Enron

      I am really sorry for him. But, I have to be honest, when you enter porn, you really are signing up for anything can happen. Its always so sad when you hear stories like this, I have been watching him for a long time in porn movies and to know that he has to re-evaluate his life after this, really makes me feel so much sadness.

      In the 80′s when Gay men and Gay male porn stars were dying left right and center, they didn’t have a clue. We now live a more educated society that is aware of the consequences of unprotected sex, both on the screen and off. So, at the same time, to hear Mason say, ‘It sucks’ shows a major lack of understanding about this virus.

      Its still a death sentence and a life altering event. Yes, death is assured for everyone, but the fact you have control over HIV/AIDs by simply changing your behavior but still choose to put yourself at risk, is what I don’t understand. Of course, there is nothing that compares to having raw sex, but Gay promiscuous gay men who are sex fiends need to realize, this can only be done in a committed, monogamous relationship when both partners know their status.

      I wish him all the best. :(

      Aug 23, 2010 at 2:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • L.
      L.

      In a small-scale study soon to be submitted to The Journal Of Behavioral Analysis, researchers have found that 83% of Queerty readers would go in lung cancer wards saying “Told ya!” to patients.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 2:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • andy
      andy

      I’m sure he will do fine. As long as he seeks and receives treatment/meds he should be at Undetectable levels in a year. Sounds like he’s going to be doing some life changing in the near future and hopefully all for the better. I wish him well and hope he is able to transition away from the sex industry and into some sort of fulfilling life of sorts. I guess he will find out who is true friends are as well. Wishing you the best.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 2:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • EdWoody
      EdWoody

      Actually to my knowledge he has not performed in bareback porn scenes. I may be wrong, but I believe all his barebacking has been restricted to off-screen activities. Which doesn’t make him any less stupid. No-one should have to go through what he’s going through, but in this world you reap what you sow.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 2:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lamar
      Lamar

      I feel sorry for him but what did he expect really? It was inevitable, hope he stays in the best of health for as long as possible.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 3:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      I have heard it said that each minority finds another minority to put down in order to feel more superior itself, and that gay people were sort of the last minority that it is still somewhat “ok” to disparage and discriminate against. So, who were gay people going to find to look down upon and ridicule and judge, so that they might feel superior? I NOW know the answer to that question! HIV POSITIVE members of their own population! That is great. Keep it up people, I am officially losing any faith and hope in the human race. Seriously.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 3:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      and PS Hiv is terrible disease… but stop fucking calling it a death sentence. It isn’t, if you take care of yourself.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 3:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jeff
      Jeff

      @BP: You’re fucking kidding, right??

      This tool SEEKS bareback sex from strangers and we’re suppose to feel bad for him? Gay or straight, he’s repugnant. I’ll save my sympathy for the unfortunate individuals who practiced safe sex and got infected. Or the unsuspecting partner of a person who cheated and passed the disease on to their wife/husband/partner.

      BP, stop spreading this false idea that HIV and AIDS aren’t death sentences, they are. They can be managed, but the FACTS are that your drugs could stop being useful at any time. Your body can reject the drugs. That is assuming you can afford the drugs. And what about those that it gets passed onto?

      Fuck off BP…you foolish, misguided idiot. Yes, I feel superior to YOU.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 3:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Blake J
      Blake J

      It is disappointing, but not surprising that there are some cunty gay guys who need someone to put down.

      Hate should be reserved for the straights!

      Equality need not stretch that far!

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      LMFAO. Dude, you just proved my point BRILLIANTLY. Bravo. Ever heard the phrase “there but for the grace of god go I?” It is sort of a fancy way of saying don’t judge other people because you could easily end up in their shoes some day. It takes one slip up to give someone HIV… and we’re all human, so sit up there and judge on your soapbox or whatever it is, but the only point you are making crystal clear is that you are not a happy camper and you should get some help for that. Peace.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      and ugh, i totally meant “one slip up to GET hiv”…

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • TonyD
      TonyD

      Regardless of if you do it in front of a camera or not, HIV is a horrible unforgiving virus we should ALL be cautious of. I don’t see how anyone participating in casual sex has any room to judge this guy that openly admits he now has a virus that won’t go away by saying, “Oops, my bad.”

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • dawson
      dawson

      Oh, by the grace of God go I. Let’s wish him well in his time of need.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tom
      Tom

      @Jeff: So only CERTAIN people that get HIV in a CERTAIN way (that you approve of) are deserving of compassion and sympathy? And the rest can just fuck off and die, I presume? Will you be the arbiter of who deserves what punishments for certain behaviors or is there a pamphlet coming out we can all consult?

      And by the way your supposed “FACT” that HIV is a death sentence is an absolute lie. The majority of Americans getting regular treatment for HIV can expect to die of old age and heart disease, just like everyone else. I know you don’t want to hear that, because then it takes away from your horrible lack of compassion and bigotry doesn’t it?

      No worries, I’m sure you’ll find plenty of other people to judge and look down on.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AV
      AV

      agree with #19-20.

      shame on the fellow queers throwing stones in here. there are too many porn-obsessed queens to be judging wyler.

      good luck, mason. i hope that you have some supportive friends and family.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • EdWoody
      EdWoody

      @Tom: @Jeff: So only CERTAIN people that get HIV in a CERTAIN way (that you approve of) are deserving of compassion and sympathy? And the rest can just fuck off and die, I presume?

      The point is that this was an intelligent young man who knew what precautions to take to avoid getting HIV, as best as one can. He voluntarily chose to disregard those precautions, and now he’s experiencing the consequences. He even says, “I have no-one to blame but myself.” He knowingly put himself in this position, and therefore yes, he doesn’t get the same amount of sympathy as someone who got HIV by way of rape or transfusion, through no fault of their own.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike
      Mike

      I can’t wait to see Mason doing porn for Treasure Island Media – you know those movie’s are going to be hot!

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      The idea of measuring compassion is absurd. I didn’t know we had limited amounts. Is it like eggs, we’re born with a certain amount, and when we run out, we go through compassion-apause? Nope. I think, if you have a heart, you can find enough compassion to go around. You don’t know Mason’s circumstances, his background, his sexual habits, the state of his mental health… The dude fucked up, and is paying a tough price. I think at some point in all our lives we fuck up one thing or another. I’ll say it again: there but for the grace of god go I. Anyone one person that is sexually active in any way whatsofuckingever, is at risk in some way for HIV. You are only deluding yourself by passing judgement on Mason Wyler. There is enough compassion to go around, and who knows, you might be in need of it one day yourself. Karma.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      @BP: said..

      “I have heard it said that each minority finds another minority to put down in order to feel more superior itself, and that gay people were sort of the last minority that it is still somewhat “ok” to disparage and discriminate against. So, who were gay people going to find to look down upon and ridicule and judge, so that they might feel superior? I NOW know the answer to that question! HIV POSITIVE members of their own population! That is great. Keep it up people, I am officially losing any faith and hope in the human race. Seriously.”
      ___________________________________

      Actually you are completely wrong, this post isn’t making fun of “HIV positive members of our own population” What it is doing is commenting on the circumstances that one dumb individual found himself in. So according to you, nobody could ever say anything judgemental to anybody who happened to have HIV. Sorry, but having HIV, or being gay, or black or a woman does not absolve people from having others question their decisions. This guy posted apparently about getting fucked bareback by a bunch of different guys, please don’t try to pretend that somebody who has done that should be shocked that people have a comment on their sex lives.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 4:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      @Cam Actually, what I find shocking, is that any gay person at all, has the audacity to feign disgust and pass judgement on anyone, after the personal hell most of us have had to endure growing up, at the hands of other people judging us and being disgusted by our own “lifestyle choice.” So, yeah, I stick by my assertion… it’s just a way for another disenfranchised group to find yet another to look down upon in order to feel superior.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 5:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      @BP:

      Omfg get a grip already I for one am not judging the guy and how dare you make assumptions about any of us like that just because we state our opinions about how we feel.It doesnt mean we hate him and it certainly doesnt mean any of us here wish him ill will ive seen him on YT people talking to him and he is very nice humble and friendly .My comment was just saying that it is just these types of things that perpetuate so many myths about this community that the right wing hypocrites try to use against us to suit THEIR agenda.

      I wish him nothing but the best and a speedy recovery hopefully a cure also its just a common sense reminder that safe sex is the smart and logical way to go in order to avoid things like this from happening.Hes young also people make mistakes it doesnt make him a horrible person because he screwed up hell all of us have screwed up in our lives at some point and I dont mean getting aids I mean being human in general.

      We need to stop judging one another in this community either its always something someone getting a disease someones looks dick size and so on.Whatever happened to judging a persons character and personality instead of the superficial part of it? Granted I like looks but I also like intelligence compassion humility and warmth in a person.One of the many reasons I love my boyfriend not because of his looks but because of everything else that matters more :)

      Aug 23, 2010 at 5:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • whatever
      whatever

      @BP: I think we might have a clue about the state of his mental health. As Hank Hill used to say, ‘That boy ain’t right.”

      Aug 23, 2010 at 5:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      @BP:

      Thats a huge duh in that area im afraid to say.But you are doing exactly the same thing as you claim we are doing to Mason: judging us.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 5:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MaybeTruth
      MaybeTruth

      Does he really have HIV or is this just another publicity stunt? That might sound like a ridiculously crass statement to make, but I wouldn’t put anything beyond a guy who faked that he was raped for publicity.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 5:47 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Adam Sank
      Adam Sank

      Jeff, you’re a dumb piece of shit who needs to learn what’s been happening in HIV medicine for the last 15 years.

      HIV is not a “death sentence” any more than any other manageable chronic disease — diabetes, lupus, asthma — is a death sentence. Do people still die from HIV? Sure. But people also die from the flu. In fact, the flu kills far more Americans every year than HIV does.

      And what if HIV were still a death sentence? Is this how we treat people with a fatal illness? We go, “Ha ha — you’re gonna die, and it’s all your fault?”

      I hope if you’re ever infected with HIV… and your chances of that are pretty good if you are sexually active and living in any urban area of the U.S…. that people treat you with more compassion and common sense than you’ve exhibited here. You fuck.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 5:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jason
      jason

      HIV doesn’t cause AIDS. HIV is simply a marker virus, not a cause. Many people are living normal,long lives despite having HIV.

      Don’t fall for the phony notion that HIV causes AIDS. AIDS does exist but it’s the product of several factors such as drug use and a cascade of venereal diseases acting in concert to reduce immunity.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 6:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • stefanod
      stefanod

      @Jack:
      It is so sad. I hope he has some good grounded friends and or at least saved some money.

      It’s time for a career change. I was in the same bought 4 1/2 years ago. I wish him so much luck.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 6:21 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Shade
      Shade

      Poor Mason, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. Anyone who has been tested knows what you go through in those minutes before you are told your status.

      The most positive thing I can see coming from this would be something in the way of Magic Johnson opening up about his status all those year ago and the important conversations that started because of his ground-breaking acknowledgment.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 6:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Estelle
      Estelle

      Adam Sank is a fucking moron. Manageable? Yeah, crix belly, buffalo humps, horrific GI issues, chronic nausea, and rapid aging are very easy and manageable to endure.

      “I hope if you’re ever infected with HIV… and your chances of that are pretty good if you are sexually active and living in any urban area of the U.S…. that people treat you with more compassion and common sense than you’ve exhibited here. You fuck.”

      FUCK YOU, YOU IRRESPONSIBLE PIECE OF SHIT. No asshole chances are not pretty good that you will get infected if you live in any urban area in the US. Chance are pretty good that you may get infected if you have UNPROTECTED SEX and use IV DRUGS. Most gay men do not have HIV and how dare you ASSume that getting it is inevitable.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 6:58 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Pygar
      Pygar

      This was over a year ago, but….
      (fighting the urge to let out an I TOLD YOU SO.)
      http://blog.unzipped.net/2009/02/is-mason-wyler-a-trainwreck-or-what.html

      Aug 23, 2010 at 7:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kevin, New Jersey
      Kevin, New Jersey

      Sic transit gloria mundi.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 7:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Steve
      Steve

      Obviously HIV is no laughing matter, so I feel bad saying “You reap what you sow” but…

      …Mason, you reap what you sow. That’s life. You have risky sex, don’t be suprised if it comes back to bitch-slap you.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 7:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Adam Sank
      Adam Sank

      That’s funny, Estelle. Because half of my friends are living with HIV — some for over 10 years now — and guess what? Not one of them is experiencing “crix belly, buffalo humps, horrific GI issues,” or “chronic nausea.” In fact, except for having to take a single pill every day and get their levels tested several times a year, their lives are in no way different from those who are negative.

      Want to know why? BECAUSE IT’S NOT 1995 ANYMORE, YOU STUPID CUNT.

      Why don’t you learn something before you continue to propagate misinformation and hysteria? HIV is real, and it’s serious. That doesn’t mean we should spread lies about what it is in order to frighten those who are negative and stigmatize those who aren’t.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 7:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • TheInsider
      TheInsider

      Wyler is just the tip of the iceberg in this industry, rotten and hollow to the core.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 7:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Enron
      Enron

      A recent study showed that half of the over 1 million people who have HIV/AIDs in the United States are Gay men. That’s still too much, considering that the virus was discovered in 1981 and the information about its effects were made known since then. On top of that more and more keep getting infected at alarming rates. Check the stats for places like Washington DC, New York, San Francisco.

      Gay men should be able to make the right decisions and understand that promiscuous behavior is very risky. I don’t want to see any of my Gay brothers die or end up in a costly situation of paying for medication forever just stay alive, I love all of you. I said its still a death sentence because I have read the obituaries for young Gay Porn stars who have passed away from HIV/AIDS complications. These deaths could have been avoided by simple changes in the behavior.

      Some of the studios are partly at fault too for promoting this bareback behavior. I do hope there is a cure or better medication with less side effects in the “near” future.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 8:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Gosszip
      Gosszip

      I hope people stop being fucking ignorant and making out HIV to be an “ok” thing so they can continue to sleep around casually and all because of “medications” today. Theres billions of factors that go into a person contracting HIV. Every person is different. I dont care if you have friends who’ve been living with it for over 10 years and them being healthy. I once knew someone who contracted it, only smoked cigarettes and drank socially and they died 2 years later due to the virus that started it all.

      Wake the fuck up and stop being idiots!

      Aug 23, 2010 at 8:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ckdexter
      ckdexter

      @Cam:
      Why do you (or anyone)get to question other people’s decisions that have no effect on your life? I’m sure there are plenty of decisions you’ve made that others would love to question when it is none of there business. “Questioning Decisions” seems to just be a nice term for being judgmental.

      I have a feeling that all of the things these messages are pointing out have already, and will still, go through Mr.Wyler’s mind. He probably doesn’t need to be beat up by anyone else because he is too busy beating himself up. Until you’ve walked in his shoes, you won’t know what it is like. Please reserve judgment.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 8:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • True Words
      True Words

      Aiden Shaw has worked for many years in porn and he is HIV+. His life has been documented in his books.

      Mason is one of MANY porn performers/escorts that are HIV+ and have not disclosed the general public.

      Bareback porn placed a lot of people in a weird spot where the money was a draw and the risk was even hotter.

      The reality is if I test you on Tuesday and you are negative that means NOTHING…I would have to put you in solitary confinement, come back in 3-6 months and test again as the antibodies might be present.

      Too many gay men are completely clueless in regards to their status and it is EASIER to say negative or avoid it ALL together…than have the conversations that need to go on

      Aug 23, 2010 at 9:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      No one has said HIV is an ok thing to have, like Mason said, it sucks. MOSTLY because of having to deal with people like some of the posters on here. I wish I could take a pill a day to shut up the ignorant, insensitive, hypocritical, self-loathing traitors to their own kind.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 9:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ogre Magi
      Ogre Magi

      He needs a kick in the ass, not a dick in the ass!

      Aug 23, 2010 at 9:36 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tiredofthebs
      tiredofthebs

      he should of kept it to himself.
      it wont help our cause
      virusmyth.com

      Aug 23, 2010 at 9:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Nate
      Nate

      I’d rather be poz than a ignorant, heartless bitch like half the posters in this thread. What a sad life for you. Plenty of negative people are miserable and alone…but at least they are hiv-negative!

      I’ll take my pills, my friends, my compassion, and my joy anyday over that sad reality. Good riddance to the negative-nancies.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 10:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • James
      James

      @Adam Sank: Perhaps your friends living with HIV were lucky enough to stay healthy for over 10 years after getting infected. But many people aren’t lucky — there are different strains of HIV, and some strains of HIV are more resistant to treatment than others. Even for people with less virulent strains of HIV, they may be unable to pay for their medications. Finally, in many parts of the U.S. — especially in more socially conservative areas — there is still a lot of stigma associated with HIV (and gay men) — not only within the general community as a whole, but also within the medical community (doctors, nurses, etc) who are supposed to provide treatment for HIV infected people.

      Perhaps HIV is not the “death sentence” as it used to be, because people would previously die within 3 to 5 years of infection, but now people are living around 20 years or more, after being infected (provided that their HIV infection responds well to their medication). By the way, HIV medication is rough on the body (it has to be, to fight HIV) & is NOT pleasant to take. Side effects of nausea, vomiting, and worse, are fairly common.

      But it is precisely the statement that “HIV is no longer a death sentence” which explains why new HIV infections are increasing among young gay men (or men who have sex with men). Now, there is a new generation of gay males coming to age, who often have no personal experience of peers dying from HIV/AIDS. And when they hear that “HIV is no longer a death sentence” and that “people can take pills or medications for HIV”, they might think that is okay to be careless or complacent when it comes to sex.

      I think that sympathy and compassion should go out to EVERYONE who is affected by HIV/AIDS, even those people who got the virus by being careless or reckless.

      But it’s also a “teachable moment”, especially for young gay men today, about the importance of having safe sex (i.e. using a condom, and not barebacking). We should definitely not frighten HIV negative people away from people who are HIV positive, but a little bit of frightening of today’s youth about HIV and it’s impact on the human body could be really useful.

      HIV/AIDS has ravaged the gay male community, and while we can try to treat people who are already infected with medications, the BEST form of treatment is to educate people, especially younger gay men, to make more responsible choices to stay HIV negative.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 10:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Reality check
      Reality check

      Just found a friend of mine is HIV positive.

      To convey why I am all about judgment let me emphasis a story. He and his partner took me to what I thought would be a normal club, and it turned out to be this sex club.

      He wanted me to participate, but I am the type of guy who is understands there are things like HIV out there. Therefore, I said no. This was year ago.

      He told me only last week that he has HIV. He’s apparently had it for over a decade. Yet, he was at this party, trying get me to participate, and having sex.

      I just don’t get behavior like this. He’s my friend, but that part of him I don’t get. He claims to be liberated, but there seems to be less liberation and more pathos to it.

      I just think there is something pathological about segments of the gay community. I am lucky in that I have also seen the healthy parts of being gay as well.

      I feel sorry for the porn star. Enough people have said he can blame no one but himself. And, despite others not wanting to hear it- that’s true. But, its still sad. I know from talking to my friend that there are GI issues, etc and health issues that one has to worry about.

      Gay men are worth a lot, and yet, there is something in our society that tells some of them they have to engage in self destructive behavior. Like sex can only be fun if they sleep around a lot.

      I don’t personally understand people like BP. He seems less interested in helping people be healthy than he is in trying to pretend that life is not about making healthy choices- whether its sex or friendships or lovers or whatever.

      What do you say to people BP who say t hey want to bareback? That there is no risk involved? That you offer no judgment? To me, if you say to a friend, you aren’t really being a friend.

      So, just because this touches so close to home to me. That I made a good choice when it was easy under the pressure to make a bad one. This story and the action of my friend remind me of the value of caring about yourself enough not to do these things.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 10:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Santi
      Santi

      @James: Well said.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 11:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      I don’t have time to write such a long response, but since I was addressed specifically, I kind of want to say something… I guess we are just two very different people, because I don’t understand you either. What I would say to someone who wants to engage in BB sex is to make sure you understand the risks you are taking. You see, to some people, BB sex is worth the risk. Of course you hope you won’t contract something or pass something… but… ugh, this is freakin pointless and stupid. Everyone knows the risks involved with bareback sex, but some people take the risk, some more than others, and some pay a price. That’s the gist of it. My point all along has just been that anyone who has a disease that we are ALL susceptible to is deserving of compassion. That’s it. It doesn’t matter how they got it, or how often they had unprotected sex. I don’t understand people that have never had any kind of unprotected sex, to be honest… Everyone knows you should, but we should all also not smoke, not drink, not eat sugar, exercise an hour a day, get to bed before 11, floss twice a day… I don’t judge people that don’t follow those rules either. We are human, and sometimes throw caution to the wind, and sometimes there are consequences for that… and sometimes not. I just truly don’t get people that are so robotic when it comes to sex as to not be able to understand getting swept up in the moment, and letting judgement lapse. Sex is so emotional, and often people have been drinking or something… sheesh, what is so hard to understand about the fact that people with HIV are not dirty whores with no regards for their own well being or others? It is simply an unfortunate circumstance that could pretty much happen to anyone of us, so get off all your freakin high horses already. God! I somehow found the time to write a long response, lol… sorry. I think it is time to let this argument go though… it’s pointless.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 11:36 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • TiredOldQueen@Queerty
      TiredOldQueen@Queerty

      In the darkest hour of the aids crisis (noting of course that for the newly infected this is the darkest hour) my Mom said to me: “Its so tragic that something so natural to young people, exploring the freedoms and joy of sex with abandon, is now this thing fraught with risk and anxiety. For my generation, it was a liberating experience.”

      Young people by their nature are not prone to thinking through the consequences of their actions, and mostly that makes them wonderful to be around.

      The awful thing here is the virus, not its victims. Was then, is now.

      Safe sex doesn’t happen because people vilify those who are just doing what comes naturally. It comes from patient, persistent engagement and care.

      Too many people do nothing to speak to young people about this, and too many adult industry farts are still making money exploiting the naive and gullible for profit.

      Get off your high horses and reach out to the young people you know, and outlaw bareback porn.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 11:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      … and we are all the product of unprotected sex… just a thought.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 11:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Reality check
      Reality check

      @BP: Your version of reality requires for me to become a fool.

      I can be sympathetic without being a fool.

      What you require is for us to be as foolish as this person who has poor judgment. Why? Because it is important to discern what is good and bad judgment.

      If we don’t do that, risk can not be determined. We stick our hands in a fire, and, each time “surprise! we are burned.”

      The reason why this is important is precisely because we want to reduce the risk that someone will think its not a big deal.

      To say to them, we value their lives. You can not value someones life and not think about the risks they are taking. What you call being non-judgemental is what I call not giving a shit.

      Aug 23, 2010 at 11:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Reality check
      Reality check

      @TiredOldQueen@Queerty: Your mother can wax romantically all she wants, but if she were truly an adult she would realize that we don’t always get to do what we want in life because of the consequences of it.

      A kid who wants to jump of the Empire State Building is taking a risk too. It may be fun for a the first few stories down. It doesn’t mean he’s not taking a risk that will end his life.

      It doesn’t mean it isn’t tragic that we weren’t able to explore our sexuality as freely as we want.

      The reality is that there is this disease that may or may not shorten their lives. That’s the reality.

      Saying we don’t like that reality, doesn’t mean we should ignore it.

      What you are advocating is the Peter Pan syndrome. This is what my friend, whom I describe, has as well. This desire to never grow up makes us say and do stupid things.

      Being gay doesn’t mean you get to ignore that.

      Like I said, I feel bad for this guy. I hope he lives full life. But, he is a cautionary tale for why what he did is dangerous. To pretend that’s not the judgment one should take from this is to invite more younger gay men to do stupid things.

      Doing stupid things, by the way, is not an accusation about who he is as a person. Unlike others, I don’t know the rest of this person. I just know that what he did was self destructive, and he needs to examine it because he clearly is bright enough to know that he was acting foolishly even as some of you try to politicize and romantize this for what sounds like your own self need for internal youth.

      I want this kid to see old age. To see the different aspects of life. To find someone. To love them. Or not. To have kids or not. To do whatever he wants to do, and not have those choices have been ended because of a mistake he made when he was as my uncle would say “young and full of cum.” Its just sad for him and for others that now we aren’t sure whether he will get to see that.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 12:05 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • PopSnap
      PopSnap

      I feel sorry for anybody who contracts HIV/AIDS, just as I feel sorry for those smokers who eventually get lung cancer or people who die from drug overdose.

      This is a major problem in the gay male community. I hardly ever go on Myspace anymore, but when I did go on it frequently (2005-2008 ish) I got requests daily from shirtless men who wanted SEX. That was their ENTIRE LIFE- there was literally nothing more to their personalities than “i love dick”. I didn’t find it arousing, I found it sad and disgusting.

      I am in the minority here. And by that, I mean it’s a 20% minority of gay men who aren’t obsessed with sex. If you don’t behave like Brian Kinney from QAF, you’re suddenly outcasted and nobody wants nothing to do with you. I’ve been laughed at in my face by my fellow young gay men because I have said that I one day would like to find a life partner and even perhaps have a family. When I told my ex that I wanted to wait until at least four months before I had sex with him, he charged out of my house and never spoke to me again. My friend has informed me that I’m silly for believing in love because no such thing exists- there is only sex. I know guys who bareback several times a week. They are between the ages of 17-21.

      And yet, the gay media at large (with plenty of exceptions, of course) still perpetuates the stereotype that we are all supposed to be obsessed with dick and fucking and sex. If we maybe emphasized that we have a lot more to be proud of than just the fact that we’re dudes who do other dudes and woah that’s so hot and forbidden, I think there would be a large drop in HIV and AIDS.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 1:37 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Enron
      Enron

      That’s the thing about HIV, the uncertainty it adds to your life while certainly taking away years from your life. I feel bad for Mason, but at the same time, there is a point I want to get across. After 30 years, why are gay men still a high risk group for the virus? Especially in a America and other western cultures. Places where you are saturated daily by information from all angles.

      I do agree that emotions can get the better of us sometimes. But, I think in the case of Mason, he was given numerous chances but ignored it because of promiscuous behavior. He even admits to it. I just want this generation of young Gay men to realize, how important they are to us. Losing one of them is a battle lost in a world filled with so many obstacles already against us.

      Gay men involved in promiscuous behavior need to realize, like a lot of things in life, sexual behavior needs to be kept in moderation: Alcohol, food, exercise, computing. Not because you can’t get a guy pregnant means your penis needs to be a world ambassador to every hole.

      BP, actually, you should have a minimum of 10 teaspoons of sugar per day (non-diabetic) since its rich in vitamins and minerals. Your intake of sugar though should be done through a normal diet such as fruits, juices and regular daily meals.

      Yes, all of us came here through unprotected sex, but I am sure it was either through marriage or a committed monogamous relationship for the most part.

      Just like the sugar, a healthy sexual life can be had in moderation. Having multiple partners increases your risk of contracting HIV, even this applies to heterosexuals.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 2:02 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Enron
      Enron

      That’s the thing about HIV, the uncertainty it adds to your life while certainly taking away years from your life. I feel bad for Mason, but at the same time, there is a point I want to get across. After 30 years, why are gay men still a high risk group for the virus? Especially in a America and other western cultures. Places where you are saturated daily by information from all angles.

      I do agree that emotions can get the better of us sometimes. But, I think in the case of Mason, he was given numerous chances but ignored it because of promiscuous behavior. He even admits to it. I just want this generation of young Gay men to realize, how important they are to us. Losing one of them is a battle lost in a world filled with so many obstacles already against us.

      Gay men involved in promiscuous behavior need to realize, like a lot of things in life, sexual behavior needs to be kept in moderation: Alcohol, food, exercise, computing. Not because you can’t get a guy pregnant means your organ needs to be a world ambassador to every hole.

      BP, actually, you should have a minimum of 10 teaspoons of sugar per day (non-diabetic) since its rich in vitamins and minerals. Your intake of sugar though should be done through a normal diet such as fruits, juices and regular daily meals.

      Yes, all of us came here through unprotected sex, but I am sure it was either through marriage or a committed monogamous relationship for the most part.

      Just like the sugar, a healthy sexual life can be had in moderation. Having multiple partners increases your risk of contracting HIV, even this applies to heterosexuals.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 2:04 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Robert
      Robert

      @Adam Sank: Half of your friends will be dead in 12.2 years.

      Sorry, that’s just the fact. Barring breakthroughs in treatment, as of 2005 average life expectancy from diagnosis with HIV is 22.2 years. Time to HAART failure is something like 18 years. Estimated average years of life lost around 21 years.

      This of course doesn’t include those who are nonresponders to HAART treatment – life expectancy approximately 10 years from exposure, 9 months from AIDS diagnosis. Or those who are noncompliant with their meds. Or those that have inadequate access to health care. And it doesn’t address the fact that the lifetime cost for HIV treatment is about $500,000/patient. Or those with some kind of dual diagnosis. Addiction, mental illness, HEP C or chronic B, etc., all = accelerated progression and earlier deaths.

      The majority of persons currently infected will NOT die of heart disease or some other age-related illness. Thank God they will live much longer lives than the ones we lost before.

      For me personally it seems like I have a responsibility to those who had no chance to beat this disease to remember what they went through. If for no other reason than out of respect for them I do what I can to reduce the spread of this disease. And I’d rather kill myself than give it to someone else. And mooching half a million off of society seems pretty distasteful too.

      But that’s just me.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 2:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Michael
      Michael

      So let me get this straight…if someone driving down the highway at 120 mph ends up wrapping themselves around a light post I can’t feel compassion while simultaneously stating, “they are at fault due to their poor judgment”? Sorry BP and Co., but my psyche has developed far beyond the ability to feel sorry for someone who causes their own misfortune.

      I don’t think it’s arguable that his poor choices led to his unfortunate diagnosis. Are the people commenting saying “he paid the price” incorrect? No. Does it make them heartless for pointing out that such behaviour increases the risk of HIV contraction exponentially? No.

      And BP, please don’t go out in public trying to compare flossing your teeth twice a day to practicing safe sex. It’s that type of moronic logic that leads to such a lassez-faire attitude toward safe sex.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 2:58 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Michael
      Michael [Different person #1 using similar name]

      @BP: So, the moral of the story, and your advice to say, a younger, perhaps uninitiated reader would be; STOP?

      Aug 24, 2010 at 3:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dan
      Dan

      Just a reminder.. HIV positive people should practice safe sex and that includes with other HIV positive people because there are many different strains of HIV and you may acquire more than one strain which may be immune to your meds or become a super-strain.

      Also, there is no guarantee companies will still make the meds. Economies collapse. Companies and countries go under when you least expect it.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 7:28 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • True Words
      True Words

      Well I am not going to say that it does not feel better because it does. However that 20 minutes of bareback could place you on 20 years of medication. There is no denying these realities; while the medication is helpful there is a backlash in the gay community because of the perception of being HIV+. Many in the gay community see HIV as preventable and IT IS but please remember we are all having SAFER SEX; condom usage is VITAL to this.

      Here are some of my thoughts:

      1. I think EVERY gay man should have an answer regarding whether or not they will have sex or date a HIV+ person. I would never try to convince someone as it is your decision but you should have a solid answer.

      2. STOP using language like I am clean UB2; some HIV+ men are caused to further hide their status. You can NO longer tell if someone is HIV+ and many gay men do not tell even their closest friends about their health status because too many gay men are not discreet.

      3. The #1 reason most men are HIV+ is TRUST sure it is misplaced TRUST but there it is. You say I am negative and then it is happy trails down the unsafe sex lane. It just can’t be that easy to be convinced about someone’s status. Where is your paper work from the doctor? Something of proof, some discussion about your sexual practices. If they have an ad on Manhunt, Grindr, Adam4Adam, Gay.com, RealJock, etc. you may want to rethink having unsafe sex. Oh hell, you should not be having it with anyone under any conditions.

      4. Bareback videos whether people want to acknowledge them or not cause many HIV- and HIV+ men to formulate an opinion about bareback sex. HIV- may see HIV+ men as “slutty” and HIV+ men as a measuring stick on how to to behave sexually. Of course this does not apply to all men but there needs to me more talk about this.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 7:43 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • True Words
      True Words

      @Dan: I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU; once you start having bareback sex for the actually SAKE of bareback sex then you are going down a slippery slope. Too many gay men forget the MENTALITY that goes along with the behavior.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 7:47 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jason
      jason

      We are all the product of unprotected sex. Unprotected sex is wonderful. It’s what was intended by nature. I will continue to engage in unprotected sex as I see fit.

      On the other hand, you promiscuous queens had better wear a condom. Your disgusting promiscuity in saunas and sex clubs is what makes you vulnerable. You expose yourselves to a number of men at these clubs, men you’ve never met before. Do you realize how fucking vulnerable you’re making yourselves?

      As a non-promiscous gay man, I’ll continue having unprotected sex and enjoying it.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 8:33 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jason
      jason

      It’s amazing the number of gay guys who insist that their sexuality is natural and, yet, rely on condoms to protect themselves from venereal diseases. Condoms are not natural. You’re simply using a band-aid approach to justify your continued promiscuity. The male-male paradigm is a promiscuous one.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 8:37 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jimmy Fury
      Jimmy Fury

      @jason: I don’t quite understand your logic there (what you said in 71).
      The use of condoms to protect against STD’s makes a sexuality unnatural?
      Because heterosexuals have to use condoms to protect against STD’s as well. There’s no “natural” protection against STD’s aside from abstinence.

      And at the end there were you saying that using a condom makes you promiscuous? Or that simply being male makes someone promiscuous?

      Because you just claimed to be “a non-promiscuous gay man” but then you said all gay men are promiscuous… so… i’m not following.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 8:59 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kevin, New Jersey
      Kevin, New Jersey

      Mr. Wyler had a good time. Now he’s paying for it.

      But we’ve all got to pay. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but every one of us comes into this life a debtor, owing one death. This is true whether you are righteous or wicked, rich or poor, foolish or wise.

      Mr. Wyler was foolish. He let pleasure and fame convince him that the rules were different for him.

      But a foolish man suffers pain just as much as a wise man. Anyone who knows him and is moved by compassion has an obligation to try to alleviate his suffering. After all, he’s headed to the same place you are, the same place we’re all headed.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 9:51 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jason
      jason

      I’m simply saying that the male-male paradigm is conducive to promsicuity. Promiscuity makes one vulnerable to STD’s. Condoms may protect but they are artificial solutions to a profound reluctance to exercise morality. Exercising morality means saying “no” to one’s base instincts to have sex with lots of men.

      By all means, be a sexual human being. But being sexual doesn’t mean being promiscuous.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 9:58 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      @BP: said..

      “@Cam Actually, what I find shocking, is that any gay person at all, has the audacity to feign disgust and pass judgement on anyone, after the personal hell most of us have had to endure growing up, at the hands of other people judging us and being disgusted by our own “lifestyle choice.” So, yeah, I stick by my assertion… it’s just a way for another disenfranchised group to find yet another to look down upon in order to feel superior.”
      _______________________________

      Oh give it a rest, this “Cult of non-jugement” is worse than the Mormons. We must make judgements every day, from the small ones “This coffee looks hot” to the large ones “I don’t want to go out on a date with this guy who has sores all over his body.”

      It is precisely our ability to be jugemental that origionally helped slow down the AIDS crisis. The judgement? “You are being stupid if you don’t use a condom with people you don’t know/trust etc…” So since judgement is such a huge part of the campaign against AIDS your comment that because we were picked on for being gay, we cannot have an opinion on somebody who made mistakes, got himself sick and was possibly putting others at risk is foolish at best and dangerous at worst.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 10:01 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Adam Sank
      Adam Sank

      Robert (No. 64), I don’t know where you’re getting your statistics from, but they’re certainly not coming from the doctors who actually treat HIV. Every positive person I know has been told by their doctors that they can expect a normal life expectancy, provided they take their meds as directed, get their levels checked and make healthy lifestyle choices with regard to diet, exercise, not smoking or doing hard drugs, etc.

      Here are some actual statistics from from the CDC. In 2006 (most recent data available), 1,106,400 persons were living with HIV in the United States. In 2007 (most recent data available), the total number of people with HIV in the U.S. who died FROM ANY CAUSE was 17,197.

      In other words, conservatively, the death rate from this disease, according to the most recent data, is 1.5%.

      http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/surveillance/basic.htm#dpdhi

      That’s still far too many people dying. And I don’t want a single person — gay or otherwise — to become newly infected. But telling all positive people that they have 22 years (or less) to live is more than just cruel; it’s a lie.

      Last thing I’ll say on this subject: All of you judgmental, holier-than-thou, hysterical scolds who have left despicable comments above? You have a helluva lot more positive people in your life than you know about. If you live in NYC or San Francisco, you can pretty much assume that half the gay men you know are positive. That includes your closest friends and sex partners. And if they’re telling you they’re negative — or if they’re lying by omission — it’s because they know you’re a judgmental, holier-than-thou, hysterical scold.

      Until everyone learns to discuss this issue like adults, and to separate fact from fiction, people will continue to get infected.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 10:31 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • DR
      DR

      Thank you, Cam. I share your frustration at this point.

      We can’t keep excusing and forgiving this type of behavior. We can’t continue to sit back and take a “live and let live” attitude regarding reckless sexual behavior, straight, gay, or bi, damn the consequences.

      I appreciate this young man’s openness to talk about his status, but I’m not going to applaud him or hold his hand for traveling the world engaging in high-risk behavior with random strangers knowing full well the risks that behavior carries. It’s not going to happen, and if that makes people mad, well that’s too bad.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 10:43 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • industrysinner
      industrysinner

      so, he’s the one.

      Living in SoCal, there have been so many rumors lately about all the local porno guys testing positive and that they all got it from the same person. Well, now we know.

      It is a shame really because they are sort of looked up to by many. They may play safe on screen, but once you know a few, you learn that ain’t what happens off screen.

      These guys aren’t going to sleep with you or me unless we pay tehe $$$, they only hook up with each other, in pairs, triples, or orgies….full of cocaine, Ecs, etc and they don’t play safe.

      If they all had to disclose publicly to shoot their next movie, there would be a lot of shocked fans out there.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 11:21 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      @industrysinner:

      Sounds like that “Speedo Student” guy that Queerty was posting about a while back picked the wrong time to get into the SoCal Porn industry.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 11:45 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"
      Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"

      @jason: @ No. 38

      Jason, your stupidity is only exceeded by your misogyny (Jason regularly rants that all women are whores because they always use their sexuality to get their ways).

      What you are saying about HIV not causing AIDS (and AIDS related deaths) is like saying “Gun shots/bullets didn’t kill anyone, it is the bleeding to death that does them in.”

      ******************************

      Is HIV/AIDS a death sentence OR is it a manageable disease? The CORRECT answer is that it is both. Years of taking anti-viral poisons that keep virus levels low cause all sorts of lifetime limiting side-effects. And like any bell curve of life expectancy among any class of humans, there will be those who will die in short periods of time and those who will live for long periods of time.

      My first-of our-generation cousin (8 years older and boy did I have a crush on him) died back in 1986 less than 2 months after being diagnosed with AIDS. I tested positive for HIV just 3 months before I even knew that my cousin was sick. Though we shared significantly similar DNA, he was at one end of the bell curve and I at the other.

      Of course treatment for HIV is completely different today and constantly evolving toward more efficient treatments. Nonetheless, treatments are based on average results from studies and affect patient populations on the average. For most treatment means longer lives and better quality of life. And for the unlucky, average treatment is not enough while for the “so-called” lucky treatment is relatively easy.

      I use “so-called” lucky because longer living and better quality does not change that fact that for 12 years I, and other longterm survivors, lived within the shadow of the Reaper constantly in our paths. At every funeral, and there were so many, we saw him in the faces of the friends who’s funeral we would soon be attending. We endure year after year of promises of better yet we still have up-and-down bouts with deathly-ill side-effects, periods of uncontrollable diarrhea, facial wasting, and long periods of time where even sleeping hurts. Then you go into therapy to deal with survivor’s guilt, too. Fucking yuck. And then 12 years of bouts overcoming side-effects, more tests and blood draws, new side-effects because you are also dealing with a 50 year-old body thats been on anti-viral poisons for more than a decade. And for many, that is more than their body can withstand.

      ***********************************

      There are all sorts of ways to enjoy the sexual company of other men WITHOUT THE NEED TO SHARE CUM. For fuck’s sake, literally, use your imagination to create other fun than the insane need to feed/feed on it.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 12:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Adam
      Adam

      @Pygar: Dude, that article linked was fucking amazing. LOL. I’m actually wondering if Mason hasn’t been positive for a while and only recently found out. I mean, ummm:

      I’m bad. I know. I’m a big let down and I don’t really have any excuses. I may have a busy schedule and my boyfriend’s family may have moved in but if I was the slightest bit professional I would have still found the time to fulfill the promises I made you. I mean I found plenty of time to go out and get my throat and hole fucked raw until my insides were filled with cum. I had time to hit the bars, get drunk as hell, pass out in a bathhouse, and wake up the next morning with seed leaking out of my cunt. I had time to pay two muscled escorts to tag team my boy pussy bareback and make me suck their cocks clean after they blew their loads. I had time to schedule a bareback gang fuck on my ass in Budapest for March. I had time to suck off three guys in a public restroom and drink their piss. I did all that and more when I should have been spending time with you. Sadly, I’m obviously too irresponsible, too selfish, and too much of a slut to be able to manage such a simple undertaking like answering your phone calls and masturbating live on webcam for you once or twice a week.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 12:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jjgg5
      jjgg5

      By now, everyone should know that promiscuity comes at a high price.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 12:34 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"
      Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"

      @ No. 76 Adam Sank

      I tested positive in 1986 and have been under treatment ever since. I have outlived 2 of my doctors, 2 others have since retired from their practice, and 3 others due to moving. I am now on my 8th HIV specialist. Let me add, my first doctor was an early specialist as he reported the first case of thrush in California. While in New York, my doctor taught HIV/AIDS specialty at Cornell. My LA doctors were in an HIV specialty practice that also conducted trials for the CDC.

      NOT ONE TIME IN 24+ YEARS HAS ANY DOCTOR I HAVE SEEN SAID ANYTHING REMOTELY CLOSE TO AN EXPECTATION OF A NORMAL LIFE EXPECTANCY NOR NORMAL QUALITY OF LIFE.

      I have been told, and experienced first hand, that treatment is very much easier, side-effects reduced, and life expectancy and quality greatly improved. Normal, no fucking way. And decades of treatment using poison (and anti-viral medications are poison designed to kill specific cells though they kill a lot more than just the targets) cause all sorts of other side-effects including enlarged belly (got that one myself), facial wasting (me too), bouts of diarrhea (shit myself last Saturday just walking down the street, nasty and horribly humiliating), etc.

      You are just making shit up. Or, your friends know what an idiot you are so they make light of their ordeal so not to have to argue with you and your ignorance.

      *********************************

      Oh, and for your claims of honest reporting of facts, you are as bad or wrong as any other. You proclaim “If you live in NYC or San Francisco, you can pretty much assume that half the gay men you know are positive” and that is just a bunch of crap. The CDC estimates 1.1 million cases of HIV/AIDS and that 55% are MSM and MSM+IV drug use. Roughly 600,000 gay/bi cases of HIV. Yet the gay male population of the US is (330,000,000 / 2 ) x 5% = approximately 8,250,000. Or, approximately 1 in 14 gay males are HIV+. A far cry from your “half the gay men…” dribble.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 1:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      You people are ridiculous I get thumbed down to the point of hiding what I said for being compassionate understanding and honest about how I feel?Such hypocrites some of you wish Mason ill will due to his stupid mistake yet you all keep forgetting that everyone of us are human beings who make mistakes from time to time.Was he smart to do what he did? Hell fucking no but I am not gonna sit here and bash and judge him like the majority of you have done here.Grow up children.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 1:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      Anyone who thinks not using a condom to have sex with your partner is putting themselves in a very dangerous position.I learned this a long time ago not by personal experience but ive had friends who have had AIDS and HIV. I’m not gonna condemn the guy though like a majority of you people are doing though for his stupidity.At least he learned a valuable lesson from this and maybe he can use it in a positive way and get out there and educate our gay youth about having safe sex being morally responsible and smart in that area.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 1:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Blaine Ward
      Blaine Ward

      @kenny: It’s thanks to enablers like you that HIV rates keep climbing. In this day and age, there are no excuses. None at all. Play with fire and pay the price. Period!

      Aug 24, 2010 at 2:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SomethingElse
      SomethingElse

      The guy sounds like a real loon to me. He fakes a story that he was raped, then continues doing bareback porn. And now he contracted HIV (or did he)?

      Aug 24, 2010 at 3:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SomethingElse
      SomethingElse

      And the fake pic of him “post-rape”, using an earlier pic of himself in the hospital with a new black eye photoshopped in, was tacky beyond belief. But his tacky fan base didn’t care, even after he was busted. Gays were still like, “Oh Mason, we love you.” All that projecting for such a ruthless dishonest dipshit.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 3:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Enron
      Enron

      I think the persons who keep arguing that we are bashing Mason are missing the point. Its not just about unprotected sex, its about behavior and the behavior among young Gay men in their teens and Masons age group which is all about promiscuity even though they know the risk are high to catch a VD.

      There is a major difference between sexual liberation in the 70′s and what is taking place these days. In the 70′s it was about expressing who you are and being able to love and be loved openly. It also came at a high price for many. I remember reading a story about a Gay couple who went to a party they were invited to in the early 80′s when HIV was slowly taking control. When they arrived at the party, all they saw was one huge orgy. One of the men said, lets go join in, while the other hesitated and insisted they go home. They didn’t bother with the party and found out one year later, all of the guys participating in the orgy had died.

      Now, that’s a rough lessen, but because we live in a modern society where drugs are readily available to prolong life, we believe that party must go on. Even if there are the well known side effects, its nothing to worry about . We also forget that, the mind of a young Gay teenage male or someone in their 20′s is different, they feel like nothing can happen to them, they are kings of the world. They feel invincible and not even HIV can stop them.

      But the reality is, it can, and the young Gay porn stars who have passed away because of it have proven that point time and time again. The circuit scene with its promiscuity is also a major contributor too. I believe there needs to be better examples for young Gay men. A relationship is important, it teaches you how to share love in a way that’s respectable and responsible. That it is sacred and you are loving yourself in return. Again, it goes back to moderation, but even basic behavior like using protection is lost on so many along with knowing their status and just getting to know the person you are getting involved with.

      There is still a lot that is unknown, some factors for such behaviors can be linked to childhood, anger, revenge and even psychological disorders. What I want to come out of Mason’s story is that there needs to be a wake up call about this. Its 2010, lets try and just make better decisions that protect ourselves and the lives of others.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 3:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ohs
      ohs

      @L.:

      damn right…you know the risks when you do unsafe things! you can’t deny that. In this day & age doing bareback is so not hot and so risky!

      Aug 24, 2010 at 3:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Blaine Ward
      Blaine Ward

      @Enron: Here, here, Enron! Very well said!

      The party in the early 80′s you referred to is a story told by Joseph Lovett in the documentary, “Gay Sex in the 70′s”. He wanted to participate in the orgy. His lover refused and they left. Flash forward 5 or 6 years and every man who was at that party was now dead.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 4:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Zach
      Zach

      @BP:

      “I don’t understand people that have never had any kind of unprotected sex, to be honest…”

      Because I don’t want to die, or unnecessarily suffer either because of a debilitating disease or because of the financial costs associated with keeping it in check. Comparing it to not flossing is ludicrous. It’s the sexual equivalent of drunk driving: maybe nothing happens, maybe you get yourself or others injured or killed. And just as I’ve been able to exercise enough restraint to not drive when drunk, I should (and have) exercised the restraint to abstain from sex without a condom. It’s not foolproof, but it’s leaps and bounds better than having sex without.

      I know you’re concerned with people’s self-esteem, but coddling them and accepting their actions, no matter how destructive, will not help them. And engaging in bareback sex with non-monogamous partners is – given what we know – an inherently destructive act.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 4:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • moby
      moby

      Last time I checked compassion didn’t come with strings. Does the man have some responsibility for his actions? Of course. I don’t think anyone is denying that.

      Does that give others who don’t know him or even know the real story behind whats going on here the right to summarily pass judgement on him, simply because he used his body to make money? No it does not. How very comfortable it must be for you sitting in your glass house. If life’s decisions were always so easily black and white, we wouldn’t have all the strife in the world today. Social interaction is never just about logic and if anything our entire history as a species has taught us that. Yet we continually fall back on adages like, ‘he deserved it,’ or ‘serves him right’. Really people? I haven’t seen one single person come forward stating they were put at risk by him or even exposed and yet everyone has assumed he has done such things. I’m not claiming he is innocent but I’m also not hanging him out to dry based on rumors and hear-say.

      I’ve been around porn most of my adult life and I’ll be the first to admit, as an industry, it is easy to get caught up in the fame, the ideology, and the drugs. It is also a rarity to find someone who has the mental/emotional fortitude to survive the industry in-tact. And for the record, there are way more porn stars that are HIV+ that let on. Their companies don’t broadcast it because it would hurt sales. Oh yea, so much for morality. Anyone with have a brain can see there is so much more to this story than meets the eye.

      How about we step back and encourage this young man to be smart, learn from his mistakes, stay healthy, and move on with his life as best he can. I’ll reserve my self-righteous indignation until the facts actually show any wrong-doing.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 5:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Miles
      Miles

      This may seem like an inappropriate question at this time but hey there are a lot of inappropriate comments on here right now. Mason is a self proclaimed “cum guzzler” does anyone know in which films he does his best cum guzzling? Would love to see it.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 5:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • TonyD
      TonyD

      I don’t think anyone with a serious condition needs pity, but I’m sure support is always accepted.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 5:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Zach
      Zach

      @moby:

      Last time I checked, maybe 5 people in this thread said he deserved it. Pointing out that it’s stupid to bareback, and that he was stupid to do so isn’t the same thing.

      I’m beginning to suspect that much of the defensiveness in this thread is from people who have or regularly engage in bareback sex, and resent any suggestion that it is dangerous behaviour.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 5:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Shade
      Shade

      My inclination is to be angry at him and other men who engage in a lot of BB sex not protecting themselves and their partners.

      But then I have to think “There but for the grace of a condom that did not break go I.”

      Aug 24, 2010 at 5:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      I am so glad most of my friends are straight… that’s all I have left to say after this 24 hour foray into an online gay “community.” I get waaaaaaaaaaaaay less judgement and condemnation, and so much more support and love. And for the record, 1) contracted in a relationship from a cheating partner that I should have known better than to continue sleeping with, but hey, I’m human, didn’t want him to dump me 2) can count on one hand the number of times I have had unprotected sex. I am not proud of that, nor would I encourage people to give it a whirl, but I have no problem comprehending a moment of weakness and desire, a lack of condoms, or telling someone to fucking pull out, and they don’t. This is all something my straight friends have no problem whatsoever comprehending, because they’ve all been there themselves. And truthfully, I don’t believe any one of you that says you never haven’t, either. So, ya’ll have fun on your soapbox. Whether you realize it or not, most of your preaching is a holier than thou attempt at maintaining a false sense of superiority, plain and simple. And, spare me any “oh, i didn’t mean people like you, I only want to judge and condemn multiple-load-taking whores.” It’s a fucking disease, stop judging and condemning anyone with it. Ugh!!!!!! Why am I even bothering…. Peace out.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 7:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Blaine Ward
      Blaine Ward

      @BP: In Wyler’s case, it was much more than a moment of weakness. The guy is a slut and he is the first to admit it. He played with fire and now he is paying the price!

      Aug 24, 2010 at 8:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • gilber
      gilber

      i feel sorry for him. hopefully he will be fine if he takes care of himself. HIV is a behavioral disease,however,i have one gay friend in cuba which i recently visit who got it from a canadian man,with the body of a bodybuilder and who was very healthy looking,and he is not promiscuous at all,in fact it was his very first sexual experience.unfortunately, the majority of people who get HIV is because they TRUST their own perceptions and usually they base their judgment on physical appearance.they also seems to be very confident that it will never happen to them,as if it were a remote possibility.my friend has two other gay friends living with HIV, they were also infected by foreigners.they swear that they never did anal sex,they must have gotten it from swallowing cum or just oral sex.HIV is still a major heterosexual disease,it when into cuba via heterosexual paramilitaries that went to congo and then took it to cuba ,gay men started to get infected when cuba started to receive western tourism.my friend is convinced that the majority of people living with HIV in cuba are heterosexuals.this is according to what he sees when he goes to his HIV specialized hospital and what his friend, which is an immunologist, tells him.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 8:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BP
      BP

      What? I can’t hear you up there on the soapbox… A thought I just had is that I bet there is a huge generation gap amongst posters… I am in my early 30′s. People my age and younger didn’t experience first-hand the horrors of the early epidemic. If we had, and were then taught that always using condoms no matter what, could prevent a similar fate, things probably would be different. My generation grew up being pretty much told that the epidemic was under control, that only hookers and iv drug users had it, etc… so there was sort of a lax attitude. Most people my age that I know and talk about this stuff with grew up with the attitude that you SHOULD use condoms… not you MUST use condoms EVERY SINGLE TIME or you will die a horrible miserable death. I think that is probably the disconnect… anyway, I am done here, for real this time. Just wanted to come back and get that out. Thanks to the supportive and caring people, and that goes for those of you looking out for people’s health by reiterating the importance of safe sex, in a judgement free manner.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 8:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Enron
      Enron

      We are not judging anybody, we are just saying, after 30 years of this virus, the party is now over, start behaving like a responsible adult. Why must the continuous cycle of promiscuous behavior continue with the abnormal amount of partners that exist throughout many parts of the Gay community. The problem with so many persons is the I want to have my cake and eat it too.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 8:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • D'oh, The Magnificent
      D'oh, The Magnificent

      @Zach: I am starting to think the same thing. The idea that we are supposed to condone this is truly screwed up.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 8:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • D'oh, The Magnificent
      D'oh, The Magnificent

      @Enron: My advice is to ignore BP. At this point, its pretty clear he’s a troll. How many people have said what you have said only to have BP respond with the same comment each time. He’s either a) a troll or b) a sock puppet of the site. This isn’t a close call issue.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 8:32 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      @Blaine Ward:

      What a fucking fool you are you dumbass.I have NEVER enabled anyone in my life and never would.Excuse me for showing compassion to my fellow man take a midol you bitter little ass how dare you make a statement like that about me.I have a friend who HAS AIDS I never judged him though I just hoped he would get better.So you go right on ahead condemning him yes it was fucking dumb and I would never do it.I try to see the best in everyone though and all I or any of us for that matter can do is hope that he learned from this.Having safe sex in this community has ALWAYS been a problem and no I do not support it or condone that in anyway whatsoever.

      Your comment about me proves what kind of person you are now get off your pathetic pedestal already it could happen to ANY of us including YOU moron.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 9:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      @Blaine Ward:

      I cant stand holier then thou superior fucks like you.Thats the problem with this community we judge exactly the same way as the BIGOTS do.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 9:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • @BP
      @BP

      Guys,

      So…the reality is that it fucking sucks. None of us wants to be poz. It’s no good any way you cut it. That said, we can be sympathetic AND judge the decisions that some have made. BP has the worst of it. He did exactly what he should have done, and I really feel for him. BP, I am sorry for the judgment you’ve felt. You really don’t deserve it.

      H/E there are many guys out there who do things to put themselves and all of there partners at risk. Those men need to take responsibility for themselves and theirs actions. Our community needs to stand up for itself and put as much of a stop to this as it can.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 9:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • shaneg
      shaneg

      @BP: and i am wayyyyyyyyyyy glad that i have friends (irrespective of their sexuality )that are not irresponsible dipshit like you. Personally i doubt someone with your attitude have any normal friends -str8 or otherwise, but that is beyond the point.WHAT IS SO DIFFICULT IN UNDERSTANDING ABOUT SAFE SEX??? for crying out load the society coined the term keeping Gays in mind. If it was an accident, yes lets sympathize, but in this instant it was like he was coveting it and now why complain it sucks! and stop saying that we are all judgmental.Cos we are!! Most of us here have lives, people we are responsible for, and that includes being at least moderately responsible., a concept which bare-backers cant seem to comprehend. If you all are going to get diseased and die out before time, whats the point in fighting for prop 8 and the rest? Unless all this barebackers are already infected and like they say” misery love company” are looking forward to invite rest of folk, in which case the whole debate is moot.
      and its gays like you that makes internalised homophobia acceptable and i am very Judgmental. Take that you bareback promoter!!!!!
      Gay men like you give full meaning to GOT AIDS YET!!you must be proud.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 9:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SomethingElse
      SomethingElse

      BP – It took you THIS long to realize how scummy most gay men are? And, believe me, most of them wish your straight friends would meet horrible ends too. When you talk about the “gay community” you are NOT talking about nice people.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 10:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dennis
      Dennis

      I’m going to try to keep this to one post because I have better things to do than argue with a bunch of pissed off holier-than-thou bitches…

      First, if you haven’t personally fucked around with Mason Wyler, then his health status is none of your fucking business. He was wrongfully ‘outed’ as positive by a couple of vengeful assholes, and while Mason is, yes, a little ‘quirky’ (quirkier than fricking vapid Davey Wavey??!), he is just a porn star…and you’ve got to be a complete moron to use a porn star as your idol/behavioral rolemodel. If you take your major life cues from pornstars, you’re prolly braindamaged beyond redemption anyway, regardless of your HIV status. They are ‘sexual entertainers’, nothing more…and are just as flawed (if not more so) than any other person.

      Second, if you are negative and wish to stay that way…wrap your dick, or make sure that dicks which go up your ass are wrapped, and chances are, you’ll be just fine…so you can all calm the fuck down. It’s good to encourage others to play safe, to have high self esteem, and to get tested regularly if you are sexually active…but if all you can do to make yourself feel superior is to insult others who have made mistakes, suffered from low self esteem and/or engaged in self-destructive behaviors and become HIV positive as a result, then YOU are an asshole, with no compassion, regardless of your HIV status.

      Just being HIV negative alone doesn’t make you a ‘good’ person, FYI, or better than anyone else…despite whatever falsely high opinion you have of yourself.

      And yes, I became positive about 4 years ago, after making some poor sexual choices…I was negative for several years, and mostly had safe sex…well I learned that ‘mostly’ ain’t going to keep you negative…and I GUARANTEE that at least ONE of the judgemental bitches on this thread will become positive at some time in the future…who knows, maybe it’ll be you…so judge others at your own risk.

      BTW, I am doing fine…on meds, undetectable viral load, and healthy with no side effects…I don’t have a ‘death sentence’, I have a manageable health condition and DECADES of healthy, productive life ahead of me. I don’t need your sympathy, and I’m sure as hell not taking your crap.

      “Mason Wyler” is not a monster, nor a hero, nor deserving of intense scorn. He’s just a human being who worked as a sexual entertainer, made some mistakes, has some self-esteem issues, and who will hopefully ‘get his shit together’, remain healthy, and live on to attempt to become his best self.

      Drop the hate and judgement and focus on your own damn issues.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 10:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Reality check
      Reality check

      @Dennis: He’s announced his status as a part of a media statement. So, when you say we have nothing to do with it, that’s ultimately makes you an idiot not worth reading beyond that point. HIV and AIDS is a PUBLIC health crisis. It has something to do with all of us precisely because idiots like you think you can do whatever you want without there being any relationship to a greater world around. So, yeah, keep your post to one. It would decrease the likelihood of any of us catching the true disease that you and your sock puppet BP share: stupidity. Ignorance can be overcome. But stupid is forever.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 10:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dennis
      Dennis

      @Reality check:
      His positive status was outed which he confirmed AFTER the fact on his blog, you “who is in need of a reality check”…

      And I NEVER said that I could do whatever I want without any relation to the outer world, i said I remained negative for several years and but have also made some mistakes and wound up positive, it does happen to good people…judge much? holier-than-thou much? asshole much? You are exactly the type of judgemental jerk that permeates this thread. If you’re HIV negative, good for you, now you can give yourself a “big fat gold star” because you’re such an awesome human being who never makes mistakes…blah blah blah…I’m not impressed.

      I take FULL responsibiliity for my life, my past actions, and my health. I am worthy, healthy, and done justifying myself to the likes of you.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 10:41 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      @@BP:

      Awesome statement I also feel for BP my parents raised me to have compassion for people no matter what and even if none of us agree with what BP did or Mason they are still both human beings.Granted I also agree that as a part of this community we can indeed set a positive example especially for the gay youth of America nowaday.

      The fact is the bigots who hate us it would not matter if it was this about Mason or something else.Those sad individuals will always find something to hate about us.But the more and more we turn on each other in this community and hate on each other we are no better then they are period.This community is supposed to be more understanding tolerant and respectful towards one another.Sadly over the years Ive seen the exact opposite of that especially HERE the last few days.

      AIDS is a dangerous disease as is HIV it is our responsibility in this community to do the right things looking at porn stars as role models in the first place is not a smart thing to do to begin with.They’re just like us they also have imperfections insecurities issues and fuckups just like the rest of us do.

      The only thing that disappoints me about this whole thing is that Mason only admitted to being HIV positive due to a now ex friend who smeared him.I wish he would done the right thing and came right out with it when he first discovered he had contracted it.There is no getting around the fact that he did indeed put the people he worked with at risk every single time.

      We need to do the right things in this community so we can be a positive representation of it period.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 10:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      @Dennis:

      Exactly just because we do not have HIV gives us no right to look down on those who do.We can not continue to act superior just because we are not HIV positive think of it this way if any of your friends accidentally contracted it would any of you laugh at them or condemn THEM?It could just as easily happen to someone you care about and love think about that.

      Aug 24, 2010 at 10:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mathis
      Mathis

      @Joseph:
      Seriously?
      I agree that HIV is bad, but there are many people out there that TRY to become poz. He was not one of them.

      If he wants to do porn, and hes up front about his status, then, just like in the bedroom, it is both his and his partners decisions. Not yours, NOT mine, not anyone elses. People like you are the reason our community as a whole is HIV-Phobic. I know more people that are poz than neg, and you know what, some of them are the sweetest people ive met. Yes theyve had bad luck, but guess what. You can be perfectly responsible and still become poz. All it takes is a bad transfusion (yes, even in this day and age they do still happen), one rape, or one lieing SOB of a partner. it happens

      Aug 24, 2010 at 11:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ms. Jimmi
      Ms. Jimmi

      Bareback has become au du rage among many men. It is a serious issue. You have many porn stars out there spreading disease and it is done from a very destructive place. Many of these “porn stars” were sexually molested as children and have low self-esteem to begin with and engage in risky behavior. These choices are usually informed by chemical dependency and alcoholism. A lot of porn stars come from a very dark and destructive place and there are many vultures who are there to profit from them. There are so many men out there with such low self-esteem that they no longer care about their lives and engage in risky behavior. Many of these people are sex addicts as well as D&A addicts. This is a serious issue of psychiatric well being as well as physical well being. We let ourselves down when we encourage this behaviour.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 12:20 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ms. Jimmi
      Ms. Jimmi

      @Mathis: What person in their right mind would ever choose such a thing? A lot of this beahviour is associated with many deep psychological scars. A lot of people who do this are in deep pain and are very broken inside. Think about the self-eradicating thing these guys are doing. rest assured that this is not the product of a logical, thought out decision. It is the result of trauma and addiction. And the fact that people buy this porn and watch it are putting their stamp of approval on this.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 12:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • D'oh, The Magnificent
      D'oh, The Magnificent

      @Dennis: Its a well known fact that blogs are private rather than public forums.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 12:49 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • D'oh, The Magnificent
      D'oh, The Magnificent

      With the behavior promoters here is there any surprise that people feel embolden to take these risks. They know they will have a willing group of idiots who say its okay.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 12:51 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jamie
      Jamie

      Has it not occurred to anyone here that this is just another of Mason’s stunts? After blogging about the things that Mason has, is anyone shocked to learn he’s HIV+? The kicker is, of course, that he’s famous for his condom-required porn, with only one bareback scene for Boys Pissing. Gee, having burned so many bridges in the industry, could Mason be preparing for the next step in porn star evolution, and going bareback full time?

      Aug 25, 2010 at 12:53 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tylertime
      Tylertime

      @Shade:

      Do not compare Majic Johnson who contracted HIV nearly 20 years ago to Mason Wyler who contracted HIV today. One is an inspirational athlete who went public with his status at a time that Black, Straight, Athletes were not the face of HIV/AIDS. He was and is known worldwide. Mason is known by few in the gay community and that’s it.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 1:07 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Khrys
      Khrys

      So reading through the majority of postings its really disappointing to see that our community is soooo under educated regarding HIV and AIDS.

      I really suggest that people go to the next HIV education session at your local clinic and get informed, you never know it may help you or someone you love some day

      I am Negitive and sexually active (and get tested every 6 months) but we all need to be a little honest with ourselves- some times we slip up,
      sometimes we take stupid chances, and
      sometimes we love people and they don’t know or are scared of loosing us (I dated a Poz guy for 3 years.

      HIV doesn’t make a person a monster and not announcing it considering some of the posts here, doesn’t make you a monster either (as long as you are safe)

      Fundamentalists hate us enough, lets try to support each other to do the right thing

      Aug 25, 2010 at 1:33 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Blaine Ward
      Blaine Ward

      @kenny: Sympathizing with someone who has deliberatly and knowingly played with fire makes you the fool, not me. And your aggressive reply does not speak in your favor. You are obviously very young and stupid. And yes, an enabler.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 7:09 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • andy0529
      andy0529

      OMG…..we need sex ed in this country in the worst way
      A) If your positive even without drugs the average person is problem free for the 1st 10 yrs
      B)All the condoms in the world won’t protect you from any of the Hep or HPV viruses.
      C) You can drink a gallon of cum and never become positive unless you have a mouth full of bleeding sores.

      and although he has done BB porn, he was also raped and my “straight ” has BB parties weekly and dates a ton of women….so lets not judge….at least he’s using condoms in his porn videos and neg wen he did active duty videos.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 8:09 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Harrison
      Harrison

      How can people be so uncompassionate? especially to someone who has done them absolutely no harm?
      I would not wish this upon anyone, not even my worst enemy. I am very sorry for mason, he’s a nice guy. Yes he’s taken risks, and now he has to deal with the consequences.. for the rest of his life. In 20 years time, when all the little bitches on this website have forgotten who he is, he will still be living with the consequences..
      so just give him a break..!

      Aug 25, 2010 at 10:38 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"
      Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"

      @ No. 123 Andy0529

      You are absolutely correct about the importance of sex ed needed in the country, as you have spurted out such false statements of “so-called” facts;

      A) “If [your, sic] you’re positive even without drugs the average person is problem free for the first 10 years”: FALSE.

      The incubation period (time of initial exposure to body response) is 2-4 weeks, during which time one would test negative. The second phase of acute infection lasts typically 4 weeks and results in patients experiencing flu-like symptoms, some quite serious enough to seek medical attention, but most assume they have the flu (my case). And like the flu, the symptoms go away and you go on thinking nothing about it. The latency phase is the dangerous one. It can last up to 20+ years but the typical period is 5-7 years — NOT THE 10 YOU FALSELY STATED. This is the period when the virus goes active and unknown to the patient builds billions upon billions of copies throughout the body (viral loads are counted as the number of copies per cubic milliliter). What is most important, though, is that if you do not get tested, you don’t know that you are passing through the latency stage before you develop the last stage. And the next stage is AIDS.

      B) “All the condoms in the world won’t protect you from any of the Hep or HPV viruses”: FALSE.

      The FDA reports that proper use of condoms DOES INDEED prevent exposure of HIV, Hepatitis, and many VDs. Also, University of Washington study shows condoms effective in preventing exposure of HPV and is under further study. It is important to note that HPV is a serious disease for women but not for men. However, for the sake of women sex partners, men need to show proper awareness and concern for their partner. AND, using multiple layers of condoms (some are actually into that) indeed creates barriers against infection.

      C) “You can drink a gallon of cum and never become positive unless you have a mouth full of bleeding sores:” FALSE.

      While infection rates of HIV through oral sex is mostly minimal in most cases, you refer to someone ingest a “gallon of cum.” Okay, lets not use a gallon but, say an oral slut at a glory hole taking 6 loads for each weekly venture. You do not need anything close if bleeding mouth soars, It could be as simple as a small bleeding gum do recent use of dental floss or use of a tooth pick to remove a small bit of food between teeth just before settling in at the glory hole.

      **************************************

      Back when I was young and stupid, I sheepishly went to the public library to sneak a look into what was going on with my cock. What was causing the ooze and pain. Oh ha, gonorrhea. Well today its simple to Google the FDA and find out FACTS and not the stupid fiction Andy is spurting.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 10:45 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • DR
      DR

      It’s really sad that one cannot comment on one’s choice not to support high-risk behavior without being called a judgmental bigot. Some folks posting here need to grow up already and learn the concept of personal responsibility.

      Yes, some of you have horrible stories, but you need to stop projecting those stories and fear of judgment from those around onto every person who actually says that this guy engaged in too many careless and high-risk behaviors and is now facing the consequences. Read his blog. If he’s done half of what he claims, well, he knew the risks. And now he has to live with the consequences, and those of us who accept that should stop apologizing to those who refuse to understand that.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 11:40 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      @Blaine Ward:

      You’re the one who needs to grow up child.You had absolutely no right whatsoever to claim that I am an enabler because I have never been an enabler a day in my life.I think what Mason did was foolish dangerous risky and stupid and I for one would never do it myself.BUT I am not gonna sit here and condemn him for the mistakes he made he is already suffering the consequences I will not add to his suffering anymore then he is already dealing with now.Don’t you ever insult my intelligence like that again either I said specifically that I had friends who were HIV Positive and who also have AIDS.I never once judged them though because unlike you heartless one I showed them compassion and understanding what the hell good do you think it does to tell someone who has gotten AIDS or HIV : I told you so, you got what you deserved and so on?

      Not only is that classless it’s also cruel so the next time you make stupid assumptions about someone like you did me you better get your facts straight.You know nothing about me little boy and people like you in all honestly make me ashamed to be a part of this community always judging always pointing those holier then thou fingers at each others always blaming people for their mistakes always condemning always acting better superior more arrogant and egotistical.Disgraceful behavior no wonder so many say so many negative things about this community the proof is in the pudding …when it comes to the personalities and lack of compassion and understanding in this community that is.

      I also love how warm people are towards each other in this community the moment someone finds out someone has aids or hiv they reject them from their own community condemn them put them down and demonize them.Pathetic.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 1:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • D'oh, The Magnificent
      D'oh, The Magnificent

      @DR: 100 percent agree.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 6:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Blaine Ward
      Blaine Ward

      @kenny: Ok, we have another dumb one on our hands. First of all, he himself admits to being a slut. A “sex fiend”, as he calls himself. He was fully aware of the dangers and he went ahead and did it anyways. That deserves no sympathy. Play with fire and pay the price. Period! Is your small mind capable of grasping that concept? Didn’t think so. And it really makes me laugh when you call me little boy considering I’m likely twice your age. You’re not going to tell me my business or what I know or don’t know.

      You are unbelievably stupid if you think playing with fire while being fully aware of the dangers deserves any sympathy. Had he contracted the disease unwillingly, say, by rape, or by blood transfusion like in the old days, then that would be a different story. By he willingly had unprotected sex and doing that is just plain stupid in this day and age.

      Supposing I smoked cigarettes. I know it can cause lung cancer. But I go ahead and smoke anyway. Then I get diagnosed with lung cancer. Would I demand and expect sympathy? Would I start crying for sympathy and saying it sucks? Hell no! I knew the dangers but I did it anyway. I had no excuse. So it’s tough nuts for me! Like another poster wrote…the cause of this runs a hell of a lot deeper. Or like knowing that reckless driving and speeding is highly dangerous. Then I get in an accident because of my reckless driving and end up paralyzed for life. Would I expect sympathy? No! I knew the dangers but went ahead and did it anyway. So it’s just too bad for me!

      Do you understand what I’m saying? I cannot feel sorry for a slut who willingly played with fire while fully aware of the dangers. Mistake my arse!!! He knew what he was doing!

      Aug 25, 2010 at 7:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Blaine Ward
      Blaine Ward

      @kenny: Kenny, I will quote what the poster by the name just wrote above. He nailed it!

      “It’s really sad that one cannot comment on one’s choice not to support high-risk behavior without being called a judgmental bigot. Some folks posting here need to grow up already and learn the concept of personal responsibility.

      Yes, some of you have horrible stories, but you need to stop projecting those stories and fear of judgment from those around onto every person who actually says that this guy engaged in too many careless and high-risk behaviors and is now facing the consequences. Read his blog. If he’s done half of what he claims, well, he knew the risks. And now he has to live with the consequences, and those of us who accept that should stop apologizing to those who refuse to understand that.”

      Ok, Kenny, get the above paragraphs through your silly little skull!

      Aug 25, 2010 at 8:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      @Blaine Ward:

      You are so pathetic in so many ways you’re the one whos stupid you made some asinine foolish claim of me being an enabler for showing compassion for my fellow man? Well excuse the fuck out of me I was raised better then you were in that area apparently.I will continue to flag your comments also you’re not gonna go around this site slandering me like the immature egotistical pompous jerk that you are .I have never been an enabler of anything in my life I was only showing concern for what he is going through now.Yes I agree he was stupid and did not take the necessary precautions to keep both himself and the people he worked with safe.All I can do is hope he learned from this and that WE in this community can set a more positive example in that area.

      There needs to be more aids awareness and HIV awareness in this country anyways people DO need to be more educated about it.I am nothing like you thankfully and never want to be you are a despicable individual in more ways then one and thankfully there is no respect for you from me either so we are even in that area.

      Don’t you dare insult my intelligence and claim I am stupid for showing compassion to people who are suffering yes he fucked up whats that mean moron that people as hypocritical as YOU are can point the finger at them demonize them and treat them as if they are no longer a part of this community because they fucked up? Once again people like you make me ashamed to be a part of this community unbelievable you are no better then bigots period.

      Of course everyone is entitled to their own opinions but that doesnt give you or anyone else here the right to blame OTHER people here and claim they enable it.You especially have no right that because I DO have friends with HIV and AIDs people whom I love more then anything.So the next time you try to pass judgement on someone get your facts straight and actually try to understand the persons point of view better period.I have nothing further to say to you talking to people like you is a waste of oxygen.

      Aug 25, 2010 at 8:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • seaguy11
      seaguy11

      I feel sorry for some of the bitter bitchy mean spirited people who are commenting on Mason’s HIV POZ results being made public. He fucked up and he seems to have come to terms with that fact but having HIV should not make him the object of everyones pity or the poster boy for the anti bare-backing busy body’s who like their anti abortion brethren seem to love sticking their nose in other people s business specifically their bedroom business. There is an old saying if you don’t have nothing nice to say then don’t say anything. I think that the authors of some of the more hateful vile postings I have come across should heed that advice.

      Mason hopefully will get on any medications he might need for his HIV and then get some support so he can see life’s not over, and there are people out there who do not consider him a leaper or something. He’s already gotten offers from bareback studios, and I hope he takes them up.

      Aug 26, 2010 at 4:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • seaguy11
      seaguy11

      @Joseph: You should educate yourself before posting something so stupid. First: does is spelled with an “e”. Second of all where are you getting that he is going around spreading HIV?? That was stated by a bitter ex roommate and I would hardly take that as fact without verifying it first. How would you feel if you were in Mason’s shoes??

      Aug 26, 2010 at 4:30 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • seaguy11
      seaguy11

      @Mike: Thanks for posting this cause I was thinking the same thing. Hope he takes them up on their offer. Because it would be a hot video seeing Mason be a bb pig for TIM.

      Aug 26, 2010 at 4:33 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Del
      Del

      Queerty: promoting the gay agenda!

      What is the gay agenda?

      From the looks of those whom have posted it is to prove that “gays” are as vapid, shallow, bigoted and self-hating as any other group out there that spews such vile hateful fear based comments!

      WELCOME TO AMERICA!! YOU HAVE ARRIVED AND NOW ASSIMILATED INTO THE GENERAL POPULATION!

      Many have watched his and others movies and enjoyed them in private… participated in practices all have called into question, and now take equal pride to disclaim yourself about the rest in public! Cant wait for next years Gay Pride to celebrate this culture !!! YEEHAW AMERICA shoot em up bang bang “we’re number 1!!!!”

      Aug 26, 2010 at 2:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Zach
      Zach

      @seaguy11:

      Please don’t compare safer sex advocacy to pro-lifers.

      I promote safer sex because I care about my fellow human beings, and I want them to live relatively comfortable lives. Even with medication, HIV often has severe emotional and financial impacts, both on the individual and on society. You cannot expect a community or society to unconditionally support you and your actions, if those actions lessen the quality of others lives. And by unnecessarily acquiring HIV through voluntary bareback sex, you’re harming others who never even had that choice. The bad decisions we make – to smoke, to consume fast food, to bareback – often come back to impact not only us, but the limited resources society has to deal with them.

      Now, I want a society where people don’t have to worry about being bankrupted by medical treatments, or dying because they don’t have the right insurance. But that kind of society can only work when people exercise self-responsibility. I don’t want to meddle too much – I’m sceptical of sin taxes, and I’d completely oppose any effort to ban smoking or fast food. But I’m not going to shut up either, and I’m going to remind people that when they smoke two packs a day or bareback with a non-monogamous partner, they’re doing something inherently dangerous, and something which will probably impact both them and the society they have so many expectations of.

      And I do pity Mason Wyler, because he was screwed up enough to allow this to happen, and still doesn’t know if he would change things, given the chance.

      Aug 26, 2010 at 2:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • david
      david

      hiv+ = death and hell

      so people with hiv+ must die because they don’t must contaminate other people

      sorry but mason like other take the risk with barebacking so he deserve that

      die…

      Aug 26, 2010 at 6:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kenny
      kenny

      @david:

      Umm what? I know many people here do not like me for my comments could care less either way I am not here to be liked only speak from the heart .

      Anyways in response to your comment you are exactly the kind of person in this community I was referring to what a disgusting statement to make about anyone.Yes there have been differences of opinions and arguments about this particular issue.But I think most of us here can agree that we do not wish that Mason will die.As some other knowledgeable posters have also said it is not a death wish for Mason I as I said before also have some friends who have AIDS and some who have HIV and they are still living a normal healthy productive life like anyone else in this world is.There is still hope for him if he makes the right decisions here on out that is and takes the medications as prescribed to him.

      Aug 26, 2010 at 8:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"
      Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"

      @No. 136 David

      Fuck off asshole piece of shit. Nasty comment to follow.

      Aug 26, 2010 at 8:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      Sorry, but I don’t believe a single word this man types. Its probably just another big publicity stunt. Mason Wyler understands that negative publicity is still publicity better than any other porn star except maybe for Michael Lucas.

      Aug 27, 2010 at 3:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @Anthony in Nashville: Yes, completely used up. I mean after 18 you are dead after all. You say that HIV+ = barebacking as if there is no way you will ever get HIV with a condom. Since the statistics are 90% (1 out of 10), you have to be naieve to believe you can’t get HIV if you use a condom.

      Aug 27, 2010 at 3:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • michael Kilpatrick
      michael Kilpatrick

      Check out this from Barebackrt.com: ChasinChasers

      What can I say guys, all BB is good but nothing excites my cock more or makes me squirt harder than topping you wild-ass neg boys who take poz loads or just don’t ask/don’t care. If that’s you, let’s talk! Also, happy to trade contacts or get into 3way/group with other Poz guys who like the same. Got a very nice 8.5″ uncut that goes long n strong and plants it deep.

      BareBackRT approved this profile. Tell them what you think!

      Aug 27, 2010 at 8:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Richard
      Richard

      Knowingly spreading HIV in some states is a felony…I hope whatever his “personal life” is like that he at least is a decent and responsible enough person to not take part in knowingly spreading HIV. If he is spreading it I hope they charge him and lock his ass up. He has a ethical and moral obligation to not continue participating in BB pornos either!!

      Aug 28, 2010 at 10:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Derek Washington
      Derek Washington

      !/ HIV is not a “death sentence”.

      2/ I hope this guy takes a look inside and realizes that he is better than just a “sex fiend”.

      3/ I would hate to be some of you when the Karma God looks in your wayback machine when he’s deciding it’s your turn for some bad mojo. This guy is saying things because something life changing has happened and he has no clue how to deal with it. Now isn’t the time to jump all over him. In fact, nasty comments might just send over the edge where he decides, “fuck it, I’m going to give it to as many people as possible because I hate a fags.” I know people who have had that reaction because they were mad, afraid and confused about what to do and how to react to the news. Hopefully, this guy won’t be another one of them.

      4/ It always amazes me when I see people comment that BB porn is somehow immoral. The actors in these movies have to know what they are getting into and half of them have the tell tale signs of meds. As far as someone producing it goes, there’s obviously a market for it, so, why shouldn’t they produce it? There’s a market for slasher movies and not a whole lot of people go out and cut somebody’s head off after seeing “Saw 23″ or whatever. I don’t watch porn as an instructional video, nor do most adults.

      5/ Everyone is responsible for themselves. ASK a person’s status before sleeping with them and then assumed they lied and put a Jimmy hat on it anyway.

      Aug 29, 2010 at 1:03 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Robert
      Robert [Different person #1 using similar name]

      @Adam Sank:

      Adam, I was pulling from the January 2010 issue of the Journal of Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrom, titled “Life expectancy after HIV diagnosis based on national HIV surveillance data from 25 states, United States.”

      There’s an abstract at:
      http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19730109

      These are for someone infected by 2005, but are the the most current risk tables for this population. Of course, THESE ARE AVERAGES. And they show tremendous improvement in under a decade, thank God. My degree was in molecular biology, and my sense is what we need is a radical new insight into the science of this thing to really move forward. And theres just no way to know when or if that will come. So, for me I still see HIV as a death sentence except for those lucky few who seem not to ever develop symptoms.

      Sorry.

      Aug 29, 2010 at 11:03 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Wow really?
      Wow really?

      I’ve noticed that most of the people(like BP) who are commenting to support this guy and condone what he did, are always swearing, shouting, and just going on and on about the same thing. Very stupid and ignorant.

      The ones who are thinking for the future, who are open minded yet think this is wrong are making sense, being respectful & not judging. Just being mature.

      I think the people who are defending unsafe sex are people who have casual bb sex themselves.

      I think this guy is total sick douche who got himself into this mess, but again who knows the kind of childhood/past that makes some one think like this.

      Sorry for not sounding professional and what not,(I am only 16) I had to post my opinion, i learned so much from this ( i read every comment)

      I learned that you don’t have to be a wild horny 24/7 guy being gay. And that there are so much people who respect themselves and there bodies out there.

      Some guy said that he is a minority in the gay community,because he isn’t wild whore or whatever, but from all the comments i read i beg to differ. Looks like more men are self respecting.

      Where do people get all this data from anyway? how do u trust something so easily. No one has been interviewed personally on there gay sex life or straight.

      I have so much more to say but i just can’t think now :S

      Aug 29, 2010 at 11:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Wow really?
      Wow really?

      @Wow really?: I made amistake, i meant to type: “not every single person has been interviewed about there sex life” So where do all these percentages and stuff come from?

      Aug 29, 2010 at 11:27 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"
      Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"

      @ No. 145 Wow Really?

      Wow, you’re 16? Really? Not making fun of you just pleased as punch that boys [more accurately, young men] having the opportunity to explore more and know more about sexuality, their gay sexuality, than my generation.

      I am at least the age of your parents, 50. In 1976, when I was 16, there was not a single gay character on TV and the very few (as in perhaps 2 roles per year) gay characters in movies were always portrayed in horribly negative light. The only relatively well known person who was known (though still a secret because his sex life was NEVER discussed) was Liberace (Google him and watch a video and you will see just what kind of role model that was).

      I know that I sure liked looking at boys and had no interest at all of girls. I didn’t really know that that was being gay, I just knew I was different. Then I went to college at UC Berkeley, and a whole new world opened to me — a wonderful gay world with some pretty wonderful gay guys (and girls, too, as friends) who gave me strength and courage.

      When I came out to my parents at 19, my dad became my hero all over again! (My dad was a WWII navy grunt serving on a war ship in the Pacific; he lost his two best Navy friends in battle; tall, rugged yet charming, strong and kind, and honest.) My dad gave me the tightest of his famous hugs and told me that my right to my happiness was as real and as valid as everyone else, that my happiness was what was important to him, and that I could count on him to support me through any struggles. During the “coming out talk” I tried to make myself seem more normal with a couple snide comments about “girlie” gay guys. Importantly, my dad reminded that I owed the very same level of respect that I wanted for myself to every other gay guy (and lesbians) who wants their own happiness. “If they are happy, why shouldn’t you be happy for them?” he asked.

      I took that attitude forward on. In the case of this story on Mason, yes he most certainly has made some life choices that he now regrets. But Mason is just one of the younger generations. Infections of HIV/AIDS are not the same as they were 30 years ago when I was infected. The years of struggles for medical care and fair treatment have passed better medical practices, information, and help to those, like you, who follow us. There will some who make mistakes like Mason but most will learn to do better. I don’t condemn Mason, I wish him success in fighting his own dragons even if the dragons turn out to be windmills (that’s a reference to Don Quixote, a great book to help guide the growing minds of youth).

      And to you too, much success in living a life you love.

      Aug 30, 2010 at 10:28 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"
      Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"

      @Wow really?:

      @ No. 145 Wow Really?

      Wow, you’re 16? Really? Not making fun of you just pleased as punch that boys [more accurately, young men] having the opportunity to explore more and know more about sexuality, their gay sexuality, than my generation.
      I am at least the age of your parents, 50. In 1976, when I was 16, there was not a single gay character on TV and the very few (as in perhaps 2 roles per year) gay characters in movies were always portrayed in horribly negative light. The only relatively well known person who was known (though still a secret because his sex life was NEVER discussed) was Liberace (Google him and watch a video and you will see just what kind of role model that was).

      I know that I sure liked looking at boys and had no interest at all of girls. I didn’t really know that that was being gay, I just knew I was different. Then I went to college at UC Berkeley, and a whole new world opened to me — a wonderful gay world with some pretty wonderful gay guys (and girls, too, as friends) who gave me strength and courage.

      When I came out to my parents at 19, my dad became my hero all over again! (My dad was a WWII navy grunt serving on a war ship in the Pacific; he lost his two best Navy friends in battle; tall, rugged yet charming, strong and kind, and honest.) My dad gave me the tightest of his famous hugs and told me that my right to my happiness was as real and as valid as everyone else, that my happiness was what was important to him, and that I could count on him to support me through any struggles. During the “coming out talk” I tried to make myself seem more normal with a couple snide comments about “girlie” gay guys. Importantly, my dad reminded that I owed the very same level of respect that I wanted for myself to every other gay guy (and lesbians) who wants their own happiness. “If they are happy, why shouldn’t you be happy for them?” he asked.

      I took that attitude forward on. In the case of this story on Mason, yes he most certainly has made some life choices that he now regrets. But Mason is just one of the younger generations. Infections of HIV/AIDS are not the same as they were 30 years ago when I was infected. The years of struggles for medical care and fair treatment have passed better medical practices, information, and help to those, like you, who follow us. There will some who make mistakes like Mason but most will learn to do better. I don’t condemn Mason, I wish him success in fighting his own dragons even if the dragons turn out to be windmills (that’s a reference to Don Quixote, a great book to help guide the growing minds of youth).

      And to you too, much success in living a life you love.

      Aug 30, 2010 at 10:30 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • bobby
      bobby

      @Estelle:

      Exactly what I’ve been scanning these responses waiting to see… Typical negative gay slut arrogance. “Aids ain’t never gonna happen to mee cuz I wearz de rubberz”. Bitch please, shit happens. Condoms break, partners lie, “stealth pozzing” happens. Huge swaths of the population apparently don’t even know how to use them correctly, and at the end of the day, those blowjobs you give out like handshakes are attributed to nearly a fifth of HIV infections. The dude is right, to varying extents we’re all at risk and there truly is no such thing as “safe sex”. Condoms mitigate the risk, but their presence doesn’t eliminate it.

      You’re pissed cuz he called you out on the fact that if you’re a sexually active gay man in an urban area, you’re at risk. You responded with bile and defensiveness, further stigmatizing pozzies by reducing their infection to the black or white notion that “they chose to bareback”. Real classy, and not entirely accurate. He was generous to wish you well if your luck ever runs out.

      Aug 31, 2010 at 12:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • bobby
      bobby

      @michael Kilpatrick: I think the “wild ass neg boys who don’t care” are a helluva lot more realistic about their prospects than barebacking idiots who use internet self-disclosure as their protection of choice.

      Aug 31, 2010 at 12:47 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Keith
      Keith

      Since he’s HIV+ he should not have unprotected sex with someone who is unaware of his status. To be cruising sex sites claiming he’s HIV- is criminal. He belongs is prison if he infects others by believing his claim.

      Aug 31, 2010 at 11:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Sam
      Sam

      @Dave: @Dave: The reason the majority of porn stars use pseudonyms is not for anomnity but because their real names are less marketable as “brands”. Jeff Stryker would be less well-known if he’d used his birth name Charles Peyton as his credited name, simply because one sounds better than the other in this industry.

      In any case, Mason Wyler isn’t exactly private about his sex life outside of porn, nor is he ashamed of his line of work – and so he needn’t be. The only aspect that is open to criticism is his willingness to bareback with multiple partners so often without anticipating the consequences of such risky behavior. Regularly blogging about attending fuck-fests where such activities took place doesn’t help garner sympathy.

      Sep 1, 2010 at 8:50 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Doug Morrison
      Doug Morrison

      No need for hate! enough of that going around already, no need to spread more of it…

      Sep 1, 2010 at 2:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mark
      Mark

      Give the guy a break….all the more reason for an AIDS cure.

      The treatments are too expensive anyway.

      And please stop mistreating HIV+ people.

      Judgments are for jerks.

      Sep 3, 2010 at 1:28 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Nick
      Nick

      This whole affair reminds me of the death of Steve Irwin (The Crocodile Hunter). His death was not a surprise to anyone who has a strong sense of self-preservation. He delighted in playing with dangerous animals, and when one eventually killed him, people with common sense thought something like, “huh, surprised it wasn’t a crocodile…” Yeah, it sucks, but really, what did you expect?

      When you do dangerous things, whether going unprepared into the wilderness (Christopher McCandless), not wearing a helmet on a motorcycle, barebacking, etc., it’s only a matter of time before disaster comes. To actively refuse simple protection that drastically and tangibly improves your outcome is simply mind-boggling. Eventually, that unrestrained pursuit of pleasure and adventure starts to look like a death wish.

      Sep 3, 2010 at 1:56 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rob Moore
      Rob Moore

      @Enron: You are foolish if you think you have control over HIV infection. I know how I got HIV and it was a single bad choice on a bad night. My choice and no one else’s. I had not had bareback sex in years and two months earlier my six month test came back negative. A friend of mine tested positive one year earlier after having sex when the condom broke at the very end; shredded is how he described it.

      He is dead, now, but I am alive and well. Have I had sex since testing positive in 1995? You bet. At first, I did not disclose consistently before sex although condoms were used consistently. It was wrong of me, and I did come back to them and ask them to be tested. A couple of them did not speak to me, again, which is understandable, but they followed up and were negative. One tested positive but admitted he had bareback sex with other before and after me.

      You cannot possibly understand the feelings that go through a person who learns he is HIV+. When I heard the result, I only heard the rush of my own blood and the room felt like a vacuum for a couple of minutes. I felt stupid, toxic, non-human, frightened, grief, shame, and feared rejection by family and friends. Fortunately, if anyone of them are as full of self-righteousness and judgment as most of you, they keep it to themselves, at least.

      I read Mason Wyler’s blog posts about the news. He is not asking for your pity, sympathy, or even your understanding, but he cannot stop you from using his situation as another opportunity to play the clucking, disapproving church ladies that you so love to do. You want people to accept you as you are as gay men without judging you from their moral pedastals, but you are so unwilling to offer the same acceptance to your brothers and add to the oppression.

      All of you standing in judgment are hypocrites to the nth degree. Examine your own behaviours in honest light and you will certainly see things you do that are not up to the high standard to which you hold others. Some of you smoke. Some of you drink a little more than is healthy. Many of you drive after drinking but rationalize that YOU are not impaired. Many of you talk on your mobiles while driving and some of you text while doing the same. Many of you don’t consistently wear a seat belt. How many of you eat only high-fiber, no-sugar, low-fat or good-fat? How many of you look at the nutritional content of the groceries you buy? How many of you observe traffic rules consistently when riding bicycles on the street? How many of you swim in the ocean even though rip currents, sharks, jellyfish abound? How many of you use tanning beds or spend a lot of time in the sun without sunscreen (I had melanoma in my early 20s)? How many of you self-righteous prigs have any moral authority to judge anyone else?

      Sep 8, 2010 at 11:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MONTREAL
      MONTREAL

      gay men are very judgemental…homosexuals talk about equality and compassion and respect and tolerance from those outside of the homosexual community..yet so many homomsexuals are probably the nastiest , hateful and judgemental group of people on the planet..and not to mention extremely superficial..

      Sep 12, 2010 at 4:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BlogShag
      BlogShag

      @anonymous (not that one):
      I see many porn models doing porn even when they have full fledged AIDS. Joe Romero was like this. You can tell by looking at them. I don’t know what’s wrong with these brain dead producers. Porn is not the glamourous world some believe it is. It’s really sleazy and gross, even when you’re talking about people like Titan Media and Chi Chi La Rue

      Sep 13, 2010 at 7:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rob Moore
      Rob Moore

      @BlogShag: Then again, doing porn might be the only way they know to make a living in the end. A person fights to survive to the bitter end. What many people ignore is that people who work in the sex industry are no different from people who work as health workers, steel workers, soldiers, etc.

      They are people who through design or accident know how to make a living through one service or skill. Dismissing sex workers as dehumanized whores or porn stars with diseases is no better than dismissing a plumber or carpenter because they didn’t attend university or get dirty when they work. If a plumber or carpenter is HIV+ and has an accident with bleeding, are they not capable of passing along the virus? In the same way, it can happen with office workers, bank tellers, or health workers.

      If none of us were willing to pay for the service, it would not be available. If working in the sex industry is somehow tawdry and sleazy, we are all complicit in maintaining its existence. Every person deserves to be treated with respect regardless of circumstance.

      Sep 14, 2010 at 2:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • eve
      eve

      thanx sweety for being couragious theres more to do

      Sep 28, 2010 at 11:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ventroaq
      ventroaq

      HIV has never been proven to cause AIDS! Look for it, you won’t find it! Only so called evidence. No papers PROVING it cause AIDS. People only react to this information with emotions, not curiosity or logic. Put aside your initial angry response and do some research for a change. I had to study this topic for 12 years before completely understanding it. Don’t just hear HIV=AIDS and believe it without some studying! And remember, the past almost 30 years of research has been on HOW HIV causes AIDS, not whether or not it cause AIDS. That research was about 2 WEEKS.

      Oct 2, 2010 at 11:21 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • NotThis
      NotThis

      Such bullsh*t, Mason. Plenty PLENTY of male porn stars have HIV. It sure as hell doesn’t stop them from doing more porn, or having lots of sex.

      Seriously, how dumb are you??

      Oct 6, 2010 at 9:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ErganeFlood
      ErganeFlood

      @whatever: Who IS right?

      You know, I don’t care to comment on how ANYONE seroconverts — especially other gay men because transmission does not rely on whether you are safe or not since mayhem and accident do happen, as well as apathy, low-self-esteem, drugs, etc. Not one gay man that becomes HIV + has done a single thing that I have not at some point done AND yet I am HIV -.

      BP called it… compassion is what is needed.

      Also, it isn’t like we all didn’t contribute as we have all watched at least one video of his doing something we spit seed over.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 5:13 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ErganeFlood
      ErganeFlood

      @NotThis: @NotThis: @NotThis: You do have a point. There are LOTS of HIV + porn stars out there… your career is really just beginning.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 5:15 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rob Moore
      Rob Moore

      @Robert: You provide a really good example of an educated person interpreting data to suit his prejudice. Half of Adam’s friends will not be dead in 12.2 years or 20 years for that matter just because you read it in the New England Journal of Medicine. The study analyzed death rates amongst a number states in the U.S. and derived an average. It did not actually adjust for differences in behaviours in different areas or the effect of access to treatment.

      For example, in mostly rural states, the number of infected people is lower, but access to doctors with experience treating HIV is considerably lower. There is also a tendency for later diagnosis often not until symptoms appear. On the other hand in large cities, there is a larger population of IV drug abusers who are infected but sharing needles and not seeking treatment in order to hide their addiction plus they often are in a financial situation that makes it less likely they will seek help early enough. Amongst those IV drug abusers who have not experienced financial meltdown, they aren’t sharing needles either. I was infected nearly 17 years ago and tested positive 16 years ago. I am not dead nor have I been close to it. Except for those of my friends who died in the 80s and early 90s, I only have one friend who has died from AIDS since 1993, and he was already dying from AIDS related lymphoma in his brain when the first drugs were coming out.

      @Estelle: I don’t know how I could have missed your tirade two months ago, but you are about as far off base as one can be. I have been on various anti-retrovirals since 1996. I actually don’t know what the hell ‘crix belly’ is, but I am pretty sure I have not experienced it. I do not have buffalo hump, horrible G.I. issues, or any of the many possible side effects. Perhaps, I am one of the lucky few, but none of my fellow Poz folk have mentioned experiencing those symptoms. They look perfectly normal and continue doing things like working, dating, having sex, etc. Adam is one of the few posters on this topic who struck a rational tone without a lot of histrionics and hysteria. No one is saying it is a walk in the park, and I’ll be the first one to tell you that. I have been approached by bug-chasers who want to get infected, but I take them on a brief journey through the life of someone with HIV then suggest they seek counseling with a mental health professional. People need to step back from some of this knee-jerk emotion. It is so counter-productive. Reserve your bile for ignorant right-wing politicians and activists who want to undermine all the work mostly so we will “get what we deserve” as if their fat, miserable selves won’t do something that pushes off the glory road to heaven. I really wish there was life-after-death just so these folks would discover that nothing they read in the Bible or the Qu’ran was correct.

      Oct 7, 2010 at 1:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • N
      N

      “I have HIV and it kind of sucks”

      O rly?

      Oct 10, 2010 at 2:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mt
      mt

      “I have HIV and it kinda’ sucks” shows this guy doesn’t even understand that situation that HE got himself in. He obviously still isn’t mature enough to work in the sex industry, imagine how immature he was in the beginning! This shows that some porn producers don’t much care about the health/maturity of their actors, but just the lonely dollar. And the actors don’t much care either.
      In this day an age, there is little to no excuse for getting HIV/AIDS in the porn industry. NONE. And it bring little sympathy from me and probably most other people as well.
      It’s sad but it’s reality, unfortunately.

      Jan 6, 2011 at 7:03 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rob Moore
      Rob Moore

      @mt: You assume he contracted HIV as a result of his work. I do not believe that to be the case. In any event, I don’t think he wants or needs your parsimonious sympathy. I do not believe he at any point tried to blame someone else for contracting HIV. Like me and most every sane gay man in America, I am willing to bet he knows what is what. Like me, he will have friends or family who still love him and do not recoil in horror. Like me, he will adjust to this additional reality if he has not already.

      None of us who are positive want or accept the tsktsk pity you and others display. None of us are a threat to you unless you expect us to take responsibility for your safety and choices. Some of us do feel as if we are guilty of something heinous and will make sure you are protected, but some of us expect you to take care of yourself.

      If you are smart, you will continue supporting AIDS research because you never know. You might slip and take a risk. You might take a one time chance discover you are not quite as proper and high and mighty as you thought, or the same research might teach us enough about the immune system to allow treatment for autoimmune diseases that even the righteous develop from time to time.

      Jan 6, 2011 at 8:47 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ErganeFlood
      ErganeFlood

      @Rob Moore: You rule.

      Jan 7, 2011 at 3:06 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ieatmespinach
      Ieatmespinach

      @Dave: They should used their real names if they’re ashame of it.

      Jan 8, 2011 at 7:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jonathan
      Jonathan

      @Estelle: Brava!

      Feb 13, 2011 at 5:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Scott Werne
      Scott Werne

      Here’s what I know – I’m HIV positive and have been for nine years. I take responsibility for the unfortunate mistake that has become something that I can still not frankly talk about in public as if I had breast cancer, for obvious reasons, but that’s the point I would like to make. I am now solosexual. Yeah that sounds like some ‘hum hum ching ching’ bullshit, but it’s not. And actually, I’m fucking happy I am. Five years ago I moved from Chicago to my hometown in Southern Indiana and YOU KNOW WHAT?! By far, I repeat, BY FAR, the ‘the backwoods straight trailer trash whatever’ that have become my social network are FAR MORE UNDERSTANDING than any fag at Big Chicks or Sidetrack or Steamworks!! And I’m talking about dudes willing to have safe sex with me! You fuckers with your fucking talking points make me want to take a shit on your fucking laptop! You have absolutely no idea what your talking about. I would kill to have James’ looks and job. Thank god I don’t. Wrong place, wrong time. I AM A HUMAN BEING, JUST LIKE JAMES AND MILLIONS OF OTHERS. WE ARE STRONG AND WEAK. WE ARE MEN AND WOMEN. WE SUCCEED AND WE FAIL.

      Mar 1, 2011 at 2:58 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mister larry priss
      mister larry priss

      all the aids money is now going to african american communities and to the african continent.

      straights hate queers with aids but these same straights feel sorry for africans and african-americans with aids.

      wlyer will now find out queers do not want anything to do with him. i hope he does have a supportive family.

      blacks starting demanding civil rights in the 1950s and by 1968 had all their rights. gays have been fighting for 40 years and are still fired from jobs for being gay while old, retired queers in san francisco and disconnected queers in ivory towers made gay marriage thee issue to annoy straights while gay teens commit suicide from bullying and no queers are doing anything for them other than telling them to “come out” so they can be beaten up and kicked out of their homes.

      gay rights were going full steam ahead in the 1990s until black ghetto culture became mainstream and stopped it in its tracks yet the queers continue to believe some redneck in west virginia is responsible for their misery.

      May 11, 2011 at 7:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Paul
      Paul

      I’m a married man from a small town in the North of England separated from my wife, I have only played since leaving my wife and i played safe until i met this great guy – middle class a Banker who i chatted a few times and then met and eventually spent a night wish , Almost at the heat of the moment I asked him and he told me he was on meds and said he had had a non-detectable load for years even so i asked him to wear a condom asi was negative, but he wasn’t used to it and got angry do you like me or not, whats your problem so I felt bad challenging him i let him just for a few minutes and then panicked and he said what the f**, and found one in his draw, but he was big it was old and it partially split as he pulled it out.
      A month later i got a rash and a fever… So I’m the unlucky guy first time ever with a pos guy and i have HIV. But who will beleive this story ?, I read some guys go to BB clubs for years and nothing . I cant bring myself to tell my wife even though she knows i’m gay, she will never let me see or touch the kids . i have had a rough two months so she knows something is wrong, I’m 50 so it hit me hard. I did go to the clinic the next day and ask to go on PEP but they said the risk was low so advised against it.
      The UK government is cutting the meds bill for HIV by over 30% so restricting the type of tablets available to the older type. Despite new evidence that you should go on meds straight away, they will not do that now. I like i’m sure countless guys in my shoes feel alone frightenend and slowly dying inside I cry every day., I don’t have a gay community of friends, i cant tell anyone, just strangers. So I know i will take the decision to go to the beach and take the long ‘accidental’ swim and hopw only my empty body is found so no one will ever know. . So yes i took a stupid risk , and i paid for it. I would say to anyone dont risk it , take your own condoms you can trust. people don’t know there status at a point in time even on meds. My life is over, but I hope others can see from this that it really i very easy to get HIV once you allow any penetration, and this one pill a day thing is only for the privileged or targeted to the young .I was told i would be on up to 3 different meds at least. There is no magic bullet and there isn’t a cure just around the corner.just be safe.

      Jun 23, 2011 at 10:22 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike in Asheville
      Mike in Asheville

      @Paul: Time to “man up” Paul — you should have over the use of the condom, now do it for the sake of your children.

      I am 51 years old and have been HIV+ for more than 30 years (I frequented San Francisco/Berkeley bath houses at 18, 1978, before anyone knew there was a virus circulating).

      When therapy finally advanced to be able to control the virus, 1996, it arrived just-in-time for me. At that time, I was taking 55 pills/day — some with food, some without, some 3x day, some 2x day. I had to have a spreadsheet and alarmed watch to keep on schedule. The heavy doses took additional tolls, pushed my weight down further, loss of fat under the skin, bloated stomach, bouts of diarrhea, kidney stones, etc. AND, I was attending funerals of friends, it seems, every month or more for years.

      You fucked up by engaging in unsafe sex; don’t fuck it up more by remaining ignorant of the disease you now have, treatment, prognosis, and mental health support. You will learn that you are hardly alone: there are over 100,000 HIV/AIDS cases in England and over 3000 new cases EACH YEAR. There are many government and NGO confidential counseling support groups, clinics, and health advocacy in England. You obviously have a computer, use it to help!

      **********************

      IF YOU ARE HIV NEGATIVE, NEVER NEVER NEVER RISK UNSAFE SEX! And if you do not know your potential partner’s honest health status — and you NEVER know when you hook up for quickies — PROTECT YOURSELF.

      Even if your potential partner is truthful that they have an undetectable viral load, there is still a HUGE risk. Undetectable is not the same thing not having the virus. Undetectable simply means that there are less than 50 copies of the virus per cubic centimeter of blood. There are over 6000 cc of blood in a typical adult male; at just 20 copies of the virus, undetectable by current testing measures, there would be over 12,000 copies of the virus in the undetectable body. For someone just undetectable, at 50 copies per cc, that person has 30,000 viruses in their body.

      Think of transmission of the HIV virus similarly as pregnancy. A typical male issues 30+ million sperm per ejaculation — yet but 1 of those 30,000,000 actually causes fertilization and pregnancy. And in what, 95+% of cases, it is just 1 sperm that does make it through, millions of times every year.

      With HIV, am undetectable adult will have 12,000-30,000 virus copies — and it only takes 1 to cause transmission.

      Of course, then there are the liars who either have no idea of their status or they do know and are reckless about other’s health. Most untreated HIV carriers will have viral loads of 20,000 to 100,000 virus copies per cc, OR, 120,000,000 to 600,000,000 virus copies in their body.

      Jun 23, 2011 at 11:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jason
      Jason

      @Rob Moore: Did you ever think that maybe you are lucky not to have experienced horrible medication side effects? I, myself, have been poz since 1996 and the majority of the people from our “generation” who have had to take meds have had lipodystrophy and the whole nine yards. So, consider yourself lucky

      Jul 12, 2011 at 1:51 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Belize
      Belize

      There are a lot of laughable comments in this site. It’s a pity that flamboyance cannot hide the lack of substance. Perhaps a dictionary is in order…

      Condone: transitive verb
      : to regard or treat (something bad or blameworthy) as acceptable, forgivable, or harmless

      As far as their posts are concerned, BP and Kenny are not necessarily condoning Mason Wyler’s behavior. To show compassion to someone is not the same as to applaud or support their decisions. It merely acknowledges the suffering of another human being. This is also not the same as “enabling” someone since the mere fact that Mason contracted HIV cannot be erased by compassion. The consequences of his actions cannot be entirely undone by mere sympathy.

      This is the reason why homosexuals barely get enough respect from the public. The community itself is full of bitchy queens who speak before even contemplating the weight of their words.

      That said, your actions are more degrading to the rainbow flag than the behavior of someone like Mason Wyler.

      How pitiful.

      Jul 20, 2011 at 11:50 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • David Grant
      David Grant

      @Joseph: shut the fuck up – no one wants to hear your retarded, tunnel-visioned, uneducated remarks that only fuel the propaganda surrounding the virus that is pretty much the same thing as chronic illness such as diabetes, allergies, anemia, etc…

      Jul 27, 2011 at 12:37 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • David Grant
      David Grant

      @Belize: I agree wholeheartedly with your comment. Thank you for sharing this. However…I don’t feel Mason’s behavior is wrong whatsoever. Remember…the gay male community was getting really strong in the late 70s when this virus ‘appeared’ out of nowhere and started killing us…

      This virus was created to keep the gay community from growing stronger together. Right now…the creators of the virus are winning. The amount of ignorance in this thread sickens me.

      I love you all, though…regardless.

      True consciousness, perspicacity, & endless possibility…

      Jul 27, 2011 at 8:49 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rob Moore
      Rob Moore

      @Jason: If so many exhibit these side-effects, have their doctors not switched them to newer drugs that are low risk for side-effects. Lipodystrophy (buffalo hump) will resolve itself if the drug causing it is halted. Some symptoms such as neuropathy are irreversible but manageable. The medications most common, today, are low risk for those symptoms. I have met lots of people who became HIV+ after we all knew what it was and how infection occurs. A decidely low percentage of them display visible side effects to the medications. I have taken several different medications of the years. Only one had a significant side effect, neuropathy, but it is uncommon to use it now. Every few years, my doctor tests to see if the virus in me is developing resistance to any of the drugs. Every year, I have a full physical, and my doctor does a full visual examination for things like buffalo hump. I have a belly these days, but that comes from eating too much. I still do not know what ‘crix belly’ is although I surmise it is connected to use of Crixivan. I do not know its symptoms.

      Jul 31, 2011 at 3:11 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Fusion
    • rh
      rh

      I live in Dallas, and I’m a member of A4A. I have seen Mason’s profile on there. One thing that is interesting to me is that he does NOT list his HIV Positive status on there. His status is just missing.

      Oct 4, 2011 at 6:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mark
      mark

      I really don’t believe the jist of the situation is that, he is responsible for his own fate, rather than the fact that people are kicking the man when he is down, (or beating a dead horse , so to speak). We are all human, make mistakes, pay consequences, and therefore have some idea of what it feels like when it comes time to “pay the piper for any mistake”. What is going on here is torture. We can argue to infinity about the risks, behaviors, compassion and consequences of HIV. Until we come together with correct facts, understanding and stand as a cohesive force against this terrible disease, we will all suffer one way or the other. There is enough blame to go around for everyone, including those that do nothing at all. Education is needed, minds for research is needed, lawyers and debaters are needed, funds are needed. With all the talent and eloquence that has surfaced in these conversations, I am sure we would all rest more easily if this was one disease that we could wipe from the face of the earth forever. So let’s get busy!

      Oct 9, 2011 at 9:14 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • related
      related

      Interesting. All these comments about Mason Wyler’s HIV status but no comments about how we are in relation with him…whether or not we know him, whether or not we can see ourselves in his actions, no comments about the reality of human relatedness.
      Odd, that.

      Jan 2, 2012 at 2:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rob. W.
      Rob. W.

      Mason; hope your doing well; I’m 50 yrs old, was Gang raped- drunk; naive, ” chicken” at the age of nineteen; rape, ” Woman; or Man is brutal,” Hate filled violence, it left me with syphilis. I worked at the time in a National park, hid the act from everyone, when i finally started, seizures I went to clinic, almost third stage, I got treatment and was told I probably had “GRIDS” “GAY RETRO IMMUNE SYNDROME” I have lived, come very close to death with it, it;s called “AIDS” I have been; authorized by the ” GAY COMMUNITY” to many times to count! I have a great distrust in humanity now, work on healing this every day. I see the majority of gay men as look est disposable, selfish, petri dishes. At 50; I’m amazed to have survived numerous immune compromise; infections, ” Women suffer more than men with this infliction’ I have been on the Ryan White Care Council in San- Francisco, am proud of what little I did to help people, in- need, ” the “disfranchisement” ” (throwaways) of this society, ” you comment on having sex addiction” I also think it was greed, vanity; and stupidity; that brought you to where you are now, ” I would imagine you can afford some pretty damn good Medical care, ” I’m sorry for your illness; but I will not shed a tear. You put your self there; plain and simple; ” people like ” Paul Morris” should face; incarceration, for life as far as I am concerned.

      Jan 29, 2012 at 5:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • greenman49
      greenman49

      Ostracized; type o

      Jan 29, 2012 at 5:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lefty
      Lefty

      @related: That’s one of the most perceptive posts I’ve ever read on here. :)

      Jan 29, 2012 at 5:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • greenman49
      greenman49

      Lefty; Thank you Buddy.

      Jan 29, 2012 at 5:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • greenman49
      greenman49

      @Joseph:

      Remember the magic word though, Ca- Ching!

      Jan 30, 2012 at 3:48 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike UK
      Mike UK

      @Paul: Not sure if you’ll get to read this Paul but here goes anyway, your banker one nighter was a wanker of the first order, he shouldn’t have thought twice about wearing a condom, even being undetectable he is still able to pass on the virus.

      I live in the North West of England and I was diagnosed in 2006 after the glandular fever (mono) I had was taking a very long time to clear and my GP thought it may have been something else when he advised me to take an HIV test. to this point I’d always thought I’d been safe but obviously not as when the results came back I was HIV+.

      I have been on medication since early 2010 after losing a lot of weight in a short period of time, I see my hiv specialist at the hospital every 6 months who told me the 1st time I went to see him that would more than likely die of “old age” rather than symptoms of the HIV, there’s never been a problem with getting the drugs I need, if I have any problems I have a direct number for the hospital that I can ring and go into see them the next day. As for side effects, had a couple, the first tablets I was taking were a 3 in 1 tablet once a day, the day after took the first tablet I felt like I’d been hit by a fright train, the day after was fine, unfortunately these gave me a rash all over my body after a couple of weeks, I was pinker than Patrick from SpongeBob! lol, went back to see the doctor at the hospital and a change of medication, I now take 3 different pills once a day, no great shakes, I take them before I go to bed and that’s it and I’m now undetectable and have been since the end of 2010. I have put back on all the weight I lost plus a bit extra on my stomach which is being investigated as it may be a side effect of the pills, if this is the case my Doctor says it will just be a case of changing my medication once again.

      You say your life is over, IT’s NOT!, it’s just a new begining, like you I will be 50 later this year, I have friends who know about my status and friends who don’t, I chose not to tell my family, my parents have passed away and feel my remaining family don’t need to know, the only people you need to tell are future sexual partners. I have a partner of 4 years who is NEG and I want him to stay that way, I was very open with him when we met and he knew what he was getting into.

      It’s not all doom and gloom Mr, there is life after diagnosis! think on the bright side, our health care is free, your very expensive medication is free, in other countries you would have to pay for it! get out there Mr and enjoy your life, you’ve got a few more years to go yet!

      Jan 30, 2012 at 6:52 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike UK
      Mike UK

      @Paul: unfortunately Paul you won’t get to read that i wrote t your life isn’t over after contracting HIV as queerty seems to think I’ve written something offensive and it’s waiting moderation, if previous comments awating moderation are anything to go by then this could take some time!

      Jan 30, 2012 at 7:43 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kevin
      kevin

      LOUIS JONCAS, CANADIAN PHOTOGRAPHER/PORN ACTOR DID ALSO HAS AIDS AND CONTINUE TO SPREAD IT FREELY TO EVERYONE. bY THE WAY, HE DID A FEW PORN FILMS IN IN THE 90?S. DOES ANYONE KNOW WHO DISTRIBUTES IT IN THE UNITED STATES? I KNOW IT IS AVAILABLE IN AUTRALIA, NEW ZEALAND, ENGLAND AND GERMANY. HE IS SAID TO TAKE HUGE DILDOES UP HIS PINK ASSHOLE AND HAVE DICKS ALONG WITH IT POUDING HIS ASS!!! THESE MOVIES ARE HOT! HOT! HOT!

      Mar 16, 2012 at 1:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mala
      mala

      Hello Mason…I like all your movies..amazing..

      Mar 24, 2012 at 4:48 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • meilisa
      meilisa

      hello Matson, i have seen a lot of people with HIV and working with their treatment,
      i just want to say even with HIV positive you can live normally (except few things), also just be your self never let anyone let you down because of your HIV status..

      Oct 20, 2012 at 9:22 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • babybabybaby
      babybabybaby

      So sad he was good looking guy with a nice body I like the work the porn stars do but… Its a risky business you have to be so careful good luck to you Mason…

      Feb 12, 2014 at 11:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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