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Professional Fruit Fly Kathy Griffin On Why She Never Outed Anderson Cooper

Comedian/talk-show host Kathy Griffin has come forward in the wake of Anderson Cooper’s coming out to say she’s immensely proud of her friend, and that she never would have dreamed of outing him before he made his announcement.In a post on the Daily Beast, the same site Cooper’s coming-out email was featured on, Griffin explained:

Believe it or not, I don’t “out” people. It is neither my business nor my desire. Remember, folks, I am a comedian, not a journalist. These weren’t questions where I could make a joke about Ryan Seacrest getting a mani/pedi. This isn’t a joke I make about whether Oprah and Gayle are gay lovers. I have no idea if Oprah and Gayle are gay lovers. I doubt they are, but as a comedian, I find some comedy in picturing those two girls running the world as a power couple. Anderson is someone who has led a very specific kind of professional life, who never talked and simultaneously exhibited social contradictions. And quite frankly, he never gave me permission to speak about something that represented the one part of his life he was not comfortable having confirmed in the media. But in my dealings with a certain sector of the press, that simply was never good enough.

We accept that Griffin didn’t want to spill Cooper’s T, but isn’t it a little disingenuous of her to say other sectors of the media were hungry for gossip? Fans love Griffin precisely because she dishes celebrities dirt. She may have not confirmed Cooper’s sexuality in her act, but she certainly stirred the pot—with AC, as well as Seacrest, Oprah, Ricky Martin and other stars.

Griffin then goes on to trot out the line Cooper has been using about why he waited so long to come out: That as a global news reporter, he couldn’t risk his sexuality putting him in danger in some far flung corner of the world:

Many of my young gays don’t know about Uganda’s “Kill the Gays” initiative, which was developed with the help of some extremist American evangelicals. Many don’t know about Stonewall or, more recently, the importance of Lawrence v. Texas. They don’t know about Cuba’s jailing of HIV patients or even that Iran has sentenced gay teenagers to death by hanging. They don’t know that in large portions of Baghdad, honest LGBT folks are hunted and summarily executed by roving bands of so-called morality police, who kill with impunity both the “out” and those simply perceived to be gay.

What many young people do know is what they read in short bursts on celebrity Twitter posts or on TMZ. And what they read and see is how freeing being honest can be. What they don’t see is that it remains, in many places, very dangerous to do just that. And that dichotomy is deeply troubling to me.

I don’t want my friend to face that part of the world, where he might die a very different kind of death than someone who isn’t quite so honest.

We dished about Cooper’s sexuality like everyone else, but we never thought he owed it to anyone to come out. He didn’t have to come up with a reason for keeping quiet—it was enough that he was bringing stories about bullying, marriage equality and discrimination into the public sphere.

But this “safety” excuse rings a little false: Wouldn’t Cooper be a target of a rebel sniper more because he’s a famous news man—and the heir to a legendary capitalist fortune—than because of his sexuality? Wolf Blitzer didn’t hide his Jewish identity while covering the Middle East, something that surely put a target on his back.

Again, we’re not saying Cooper should have come out sooner, we just wish he—and his good friend Kathy—would be a little more honest about his reason for waiting.

 

By:           Dan Avery
On:           Jul 3, 2012
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  • 81 Comments
    • pierre
      pierre

      Give it a rest already!

      Jul 3, 2012 at 11:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hamoboy
      hamoboy

      So not being less able to cover events in anti-gay theocracies as easily as his straight rivals is not honest? Stick to what your good at Queerty, and do a Kardashian expose.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 11:31 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Analog
      Analog

      “Many of my young gays don’t know about Uganda’s “Kill the Gays” initiative…”

      At least she doesn’t patronize us…

      Jul 3, 2012 at 11:31 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • hamoboy
      hamoboy

      “So not being less able to cover events in anti-gay theocracies as easily as his straight rivals is not honest? Stick to what your good at Queerty, and do a Kardashian expose.”
      ARRRRGH Typos. I meant:
      So being less able to cover events in anti-gay theocracies as easily as his straight rivals is not honest? Stick to what your good at Queerty, and do a Kardashian expose.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 11:32 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bob Ritner
      Bob Ritner

      I’m proud of him, and Kathy is a good friend who stands by him. You, on the the other hand, seem kind of sour and shallow.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 11:43 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Joe
      Joe

      Remember Cooper getting assaulted by mobs in Egypt’s Tahir square, and now imagine if those mobs had known that he was gay. That should make the point I would think.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 11:45 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MikeinBmore
      MikeinBmore

      being a gay man in Iran or Egypt or hell, even Jamaica is much more dangerous than being a journalist. American journalists aren’t regularly killed in public to prevent others from wanting to be journalists, and in many countries gay men are.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 11:59 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cam
      cam

      “”
      Griffin then goes on to trot out the line Cooper has been using about why he waited so long to come out: That as a global news reporter, he couldn’t risk his sexuality putting him in danger in some far flung corner of the world:”
      ___________________

      Look, I am glad that he came out, but enough with the B.S. Women reporters go to Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Iran etc…

      He didn’t want to come out for whatever reason but that is a bit false.

      As for Kathy Griffin not outing people, I’m sure that Clay Aiken and Ricky Martin would be surprised to hear that.

      Fact is, he was her friend and she didn’t want to out him. Fine, just say that.

      As for all the Cooper fans. Give it a rest, you spent the last few years on here screaming that Cooper was already out and attacking the site for reporting on him.

      People like you lying about people like Cooper is worse than people ignoring him.

      If you don’t like a site reporting that somebody you admire is in the closet, don’t lie about it, encourage them to come out.

      Congrats again to Cooper, he seems pretty much like a good guy, too bad his obsessed fans seem to be nuts.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 12:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      There are openly women journalists who work abroad all the time. Just because you make up an excuse does make it the reason.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 12:21 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @cam: The truth is you have NO idea his reasoning. Just because you do not agree with his thoughts and feelings does not mean that he did not have them. Even if there was only perceived danger on his part, according to him, that perceived danger was enough to keep him from coming out.

      We do not need to second guess his intentions just because he is a celebrity. We can just listen to what he tells us with respect and integrity. It is the exact same thing that I would want someone to do for me.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 12:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • deetto
      deetto

      Queerty is so annoying sometimes. I applaud Anderson Cooper for coming out and it really is no one’s business why. Whatever happened to respecting the coming-out process as subjective and personal? Leave him alone! He doesn’t owe any of us any explanations.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 12:41 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cam
      cam

      @Daez:

      He Deaz,

      I am saying that my only issues are these.

      1. In his letter he also said that he did not want to discuss personal issues etc… so stayed quiet, however, he has written about family suicides, his mother, brother, father, etc.. So that rang false.

      2. As for staying out of danger, he is in less danger than a woman going to Egypt or Saudi Arabia so that rang false.

      He just fell into the older entertainment way of doing things I would guess. i.e. the gay community winked and nodded, knowing you were gay, and supported you, and you hid that fact from the straights.

      It has been a fast change now to the point where many in the gay community have stopped respecting closet cases and it put people like Cooper in a position they hadn’t been in before.

      He made the right decision and I respect him for it. He doesn’t need to make silly excuses, we all know the real reasons. The entertainment industry does’t like it’s folks to come out. He did now and good for him.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 12:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cam
      cam

      @deetto: said…


      Queerty is so annoying sometimes. I applaud Anderson Cooper for coming out and it really is no one’s business why.”
      ________________

      If it’s nobody’s business, then isn’t it funny that he spent a large portion of his comming out letter outlining why. Sounds like he made it everybodys business.

      You obsessive little fangirls are so beyond bad for the gay community it is shocking. You would rather see everybody back in the closet with no rights than for some person you are obsessed with to have one article written about them questioning them.

      Go read PEOPLE Magazine if you want articles that do nothing but kiss ass.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 12:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Redbone
      Redbone

      why does it fawking matter! you people are ridiculous….. he doesn’t come out and people are trying to force him out of the closet…. he does, and now he’s not being honest about his reasons for staying in so long….. “Coming Out” means radically different things for different people….. it’s a VERY personal process whereby people need to weigh what it means for them and be comfortable with the ramifications of such. Gays need to stop it with the lynching when someone decides not to discuss or reveal their sexual orientation or they don’t do it as they feel the other should….

      Jul 3, 2012 at 12:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Knew the L.A./ Palm Springs Scenes, too
      Knew the L.A./ Palm Springs Scenes, too

      AC doesn’t hold himself out there like he’s a ‘brand’–like Seacrest and Oprah, etc.. I respect Kathy’s actions for whatever spin she wants to put on them. AC tries to remain respectable in a business that’s just below the level of a cesspool. I’m Ok, You’re Ok.
      Ok?

      Jul 3, 2012 at 12:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Analog
      Analog

      I wonder who’ll email The Daily Beast next?
      Ben Maisani?
      Gloria Vanderbilt?
      I’d like to know what Obama’s thoughts on this matter are…

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • WillBFair
      WillBFair

      The excuse that it would put him in danger is perfectly valid. But those days are gone. He has that shallow daytime talk show now, so he shouldn’t be doing anymore reporting. That part of his career is probably over.
      But I’m constantly amazed at the hypercritical, ‘activist’ set for whom nothing is ever good enough, and who find fault with everything. How tiresome.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Paul
      Paul

      @Analog: I don’t think she’s patronizing us at all…she’s probably right.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Analog
      Analog

      @Paul: Seriously? “MY young gays”? While I’m sure she means well, I don’t think being referred to like little pets is really the most empowering treatment that “young gays” or any “gays” can receive.
      And so what if she’s learnt a small list of factoids about how badly treated HER gays are around the world?
      Maybe she should learn some jokes instead.
      Remember, folks, she’s a comedian not a journalist.
      As hard as it is, do try and remember that, won’t you?

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cam
      cam

      @Redbone:

      This posting was about Griffith not Cooper.

      Fact is, I would have thought it’s obvious why she didn’t out him. He was her friend, and didn’t want her to and she was happy to keep quiet as a friend.

      That is a rational response.

      But Kathy….come on, ANYBODY who ever went to one of your shows at Pride etc… knows that beyond a doubt you have outed people, so please don’t rewrite history here girl. ;)

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Making up stuff is fun!
      Making up stuff is fun!

      Dear God, there is just no pleasing you people.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Paul
      Paul

      Queerty: “We accept that Griffin didn’t want to spill Cooper’s T, but isn’t it a little disingenuous of her to say other sectors of the media were hungry for gossip?”

      No, actually, I don’t. Other sectors of the media include those rag magazines, radio, trash television shows, gossip columnists, and internet sites like Perez and yes, Queerty as you pointed out, have all at one time or another gossiped about the sexuality of not only Cooper, but many other celebrities that chose not to disclose that information at that time.

      Did Kathy stir the pot? Sure…for a laugh. All these other media outlets do it for sensationalism or ratings. To call her remark disingenuous is a bit short sighted.

      Her safety “excuse” is also quite valid and at the very least, points out to those people that don’t know, or don’t realize those are outcomes in those countries she mentions, which raises awareness. There’s no way I can fault Griffin for bringing that to people’s attention.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Making up stuff is fun!
      Making up stuff is fun!

      @Analog: What are you going on about? KG always talks about “my gays,” i.e., her gay fans. So: “My young gays” = “my young gay fans.” And yeah, lots of them probably don’t know about the “kill the gays” bill. You’re getting your panties in a bunch over nothing.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kim
      Kim

      Fruit fly Really? So is it Ok to call Gays Fruits Thanks for info.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Paul
      Paul

      @Analog: Yeah, seriously. She often does the “where’s my gays at?” at her show. It’s a term of endearment. You find that offensive??? Seriously?

      So what if she’s learnt some factoids? Well, that’s just the point, isn’t it? Younger gays *do* need to be educated about gay history, issues and other cultures that affect them, and I fear that too many young gay people are blind to those facts and don’t educate themselves on some of the dangers they face.

      Sure she’s a comedian. But she’s also a human being, too. So, what, she can’t write a serious post about a good friend of hers and how what she has seen in his world has affected her?

      And for your last smarmy comment? Try taking that big stick out of your ass and swallow a lot of Sweet and Low to get rid of all that bitterness…you’ll feel better.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Analog
      Analog

      @Making up stuff is fun!: Does she patronize all her fans or just the gay ones, then?

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Analog
      Analog

      @Paul: Are you seriously that lacking in self-respect that you don’t mind this humourless drone claiming ownership of “gays” like that? Most of the people who use the term “gays” are usually right-wing homophobic nutjobs. Know why? It makes us sound like sheep. Just a bunch of gays. Only Kathy isn’t a homophobe, is she? She loves us all. All her little gays. And Paul claps his little hands with glee as Miss Griffin pats his little head and smiles. :)

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:49 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • James
      James

      Personaly, I am very proud of Mr. Cooper. I think he is an amazing person all the way around. So honestly people, give it a rest. Gay straight or whatever, the man has stood with integrity for years as a defender of whats right.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Paul
      Paul

      @Analog: Analog said: “Are you seriously that lacking in self-respect that you don’t mind this humourless drone claiming ownership of “gays” like that?”

      Why would I be lacking self respect for someone using a term of endearment?

      “Most of the people who use the term “gays” are usually right-wing homophobic nutjobs.”

      No…actually, the term I hear homophobic nutjobs say is “homosexuals”. There’s a *big* difference…in word *and* in tone w/the nutjobs.

      “And Paul claps his little hands with glee as Miss Griffin pats his little head and smiles. :)”

      Dude, I’m not even a huge fan of Kathy Griffin. I do find her entertaining, but I sure as hell wouldn’t go out of my way and “clap my hands”. What a bitter, bitter, BITTER…queen you are…Jesus.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 1:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cam
      cam

      @Paul: said…


      Her safety “excuse” is also quite valid and at the very least, points out to those people that don’t know, or don’t realize those are outcomes in those countries she mentions, which raises awareness. There’s no way I can fault Griffin for bringing that to people’s attention.”
      __________________

      No, it isn’t a valid excuse. Not unless you believe that black reporters should wear whiteface when going to an area that is racist, or female reporters should never go to the Middle East.

      Oh wait, they don’t.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 2:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cam
      cam

      @Paul: said..


      Her safety “excuse” is also quite valid and at the very least, points out to those people that don’t know, or don’t realize those are outcomes in those countries she mentions, which raises awareness. There’s no way I can fault Griffin for bringing that to people’s attention.
      ___________________

      No, it isn’t a valid excuse unless she is claiming that black reporters should put make-up on to look white when going to an area that is ra cist or female reporters shouldn’t go to the Middle East.

      I have a feeling that Christiann Amonpour would be a bit shocked to learn that she should have hidden the fact that she was female while doing her job there.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 2:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Paul
      Paul

      @cam: I hear what you’re saying, Cam, and I think that’s a valid point, too. I read her comment as Anderson *can’t* hide the fact that he’s gay, so his going in there could prove unsafe. For purposes of the article, I was assuming she was just pointing out gay people, and not necessarily other minorites.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 2:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ChrisC
      ChrisC

      @cam: Once again: People in the middle east don’t have a hatred of women that is so severe they feel them worthy of death. Yes they have deprived them of rights, but they don’t view them worthy of death just for being women. Gays? They do view us worthy of death just for being Gay!

      Anderson also travels outside of Green and other safe zones.

      Get over yourself and stop worrying about the private life of a man who has done more for our cause than you EVER will. Does it hurt knowing that a closeted Gay has done more than a bitter open Queen like you? Sucks don’t it?

      Jul 3, 2012 at 2:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Analog
      Analog

      @Paul: Fair enough, I’m bitter, bitter, BITTER (you didn’t have to caps lock, dude; seriously, that was going too far) – I just get pissed off with straight people who think they have any right to out anyone who’s in the closet, like this moron does (that shows she has NO understanding of what it means to be gay in our society). Especially one who then patronizes the “gays” in her audience and the “gays” in her audience lap it up.
      What progress we’ve made – treated like lapdogs by someone who goes around outing “gays”.
      Personally, I think that’s something more worthy of regret than the fact some young gay people haven’t learned as much about our history as perhaps they should…

      Jul 3, 2012 at 2:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Paul
      Paul

      @Analog: Sometimes you have to go too far to snap someone out of it (altho I don’t think I did go too far…I tried to make a point, and apparently, it worked).

      That said, I don’t know Griffin well enough or long enough to know who she’s “outed”. I know she’s joked about Ryan Seacrest’s sexuality (but c’mon, who hasn’t?), but other than I don’t know, so I can’t say. I *do* know she’s a pretty involved LGBT activist, and for that, I have to commend her. Maybe she became a big LGBT activist after accidently outing people?? I don’t know, so I really can’t comment on it.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 2:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Knew the L.A./ Palm Springs Scenes, too
      Knew the L.A./ Palm Springs Scenes, too

      WOW! There’s cat fur and claws flying all over here and I’m not sure that the article was that groundbreaking for this much of a brouhaha! Save your piss and vinegar for a better battle.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 2:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Making up stuff is fun!
      Making up stuff is fun!

      @cam: “No, it isn’t a valid excuse,” he said, drawing on his years of experience as a wartime reporter.

      JK. Cam doesn’t need experience. He was born omniscient.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 2:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      @ChrisC: said…

      “@cam: Once again: People in the middle east don’t have a hatred of women that is so severe they feel them worthy of death. Yes they have deprived them of rights, but they don’t view them worthy of death just for being women. Gays? They do view us worthy of death just for being Gay”

      _______________

      How sickening, that you minimize actual conditions just to protect the word of a celeb that you seem to have a crush on.

      Women in the middle East are beaten and arrested for going outside uncovered or without a male escort. They are stoned to death for not being virgins and sold in marriage at ages as young as 7 in marriage.

      To pretend that a female reporter has less of a reason to “Claim” danger is idiotic and disingenuous.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 3:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      @Making up stuff is fun!:

      By all means, name calling etc… is a perfect way to respond when you can’t argue with what I said.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 3:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dumb Kathy
      Dumb Kathy

      @ Analog I completely agree. This “my gays” crap is getting old. Like we’re some sort of lapdog or posession. So annoying. Only dumb gays would find that cute.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 3:34 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • John
      John

      In the voice of Chris Crocker: Leave Anderson alone! He’s out now, like you wanted, so give the guy a break. Why is it that celebrities owe the world an explanation for everything they do or don’t do?

      Jul 3, 2012 at 3:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • spike
      spike

      You people crack me up, It doesnt matter why he decided to come out now or what his reasons for not coming out sooner were. I am a proud out gay male but cant stand the double standard in the community, that stars HAVE to come out or their reasons for not coming out sooner have to be questioned. Each HUMAN being gay or straight has to live their lives in their own way according to their own comfort level. It is just as wrong to question Anderson coopers motives as to why he waited and what his reasons are as it is to bash someone for not coming out when WE think they should. the point is He did come out and it wasnt a shocker so let it go and let the man live his life His way I mean really isnt that what the argument is all about. Just LIve and let live???

      Jul 3, 2012 at 3:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Making up stuff is fun!
      Making up stuff is fun!

      @Cam: How *could* I argue? You’re never wrong.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 3:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Nickolas Nam'e
      Nickolas Nam'e

      I think the author of this article is way off base here. have you ever been in a country that wants to harm you just because of your perceived sexuality? Anderson’s claim of his safety is a very real fear. Lighten up and be glad that there is one more positive role model for anyone afraid to come out.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 4:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • EvonCook
      EvonCook

      I think frankly her reasons were very valid even if they did fly in the face of our shallow new generation and news culture. Killing a gay man would be far more of an excused, rationalized and common deed than killing a famous journalist a even a jewish one, despite their anxious lock-hold on eternal victimhood. AND, you don’t have to be in a foreign country or that far from home to encounter hateful, violent, religionists who think nothing of killing for their sick beliefs.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 5:33 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      Not to come to Cam’s defense but once again the Protect the Closet At All Costs Brigade makes that necessary.

      First the argument about Cooper being endanger is one raised by Griffin, not Cooper.

      Second women go abroad al the time. One got raped while in Egypt. They get murdered too.

      Its simply absurd to argue that this was his reason for not coming out when he is not even making such an absurd argument

      Third- you do realize there are out gay journalists who work abroad right?

      I mean in your delusional world in which Cooper would have been in danger as an out gay man working abroad over women who are also endanger does it occur to you that there are out gay people already reporting abroad?

      Probably not

      Bullshit first

      Figure out if it make sense second

      I continue to be happy Cooper came out

      I also think his statement yesterday is all that needed to be said

      It was eloquent and great

      The others around him now trying to explain their own choice to protect his closet should stick to his script

      Your comments outside of that are idiotic

      Jul 3, 2012 at 5:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Don
      Don

      typical gay “activists” having to find SOMETHING, ANYTHING to criticize about every single celebrity who supports gay rights. Makes them feel like they’re on a civil rights high horse. Good job to Kathy and Anderson both.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 5:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      By the way- once again- why post under multiple screen names essentially saying the same things no matter how absurd?

      Just curious why some o fyou do that?

      Do you think your argument will have more validation is more than one screen name repeats it?

      For instance, Evon is just making shit up wholy out of his or her imagination.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 5:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • LadyL
      LadyL

      @Cam: #37: They are also subject to “honor killings” by their own fathers or brothers for having brought shame on the family after having been gang-raped.
      Yeah, I agree– the “safety” rationalizations irritate me too. As does the blather about privacy and the nonsense about wanting to “blend in” as a journalist. With his trademark silver hair, ice-blue eyes, and pale as skim milk coloring the only place in the world Anderson Cooper would blend in while on assignment is Finland. (It’s considered the blondest country on earth. I googled.)
      *
      Look, I can’t say enough times that I think it’s terrific that Anderson Cooper finally decided to come out–really, good for him–but the only thing more annoying than all the self-serving rationales he’s offering for his former glass closet is other people rushing forward to help him paper over a more personal and uncomfortable truth–he was afraid of how non-fan/ non-gay viewers and others would react if they knew. Which I can understand. Which anyone with a heart and a brain could understand. So why not just say that?
      *
      This is a perfect example of how destructive the closet can be–you learn to spend so much time and energy lying and dissembling that even when the day arrives that you decide to tell the truth, you’re still not being truthful! Worse, everyone around you who cares about you gets sucked into the deceptions. First, to “protect” you, they’re dragged into the closet with you; then to “support” you, they’re compelled to accept and recycle whatever convenient claptrap you present to explain away years of silence and self-doubt.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 5:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Josh
      Josh

      Is queerty just a hate site that doesn’t appreciate what anyone who supports our community or is a part of it does? I didn’t think so, but your articles lately are proving me wrong.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 5:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • LadyL
      LadyL

      @Nickolas Nam’e: So where’s he going to live and work now, on the moon?
      I think the safety issue is being overplayed. Yes, there are many countries that are dangerous to LGBT people–their own citizens know this better than any globetrotting U.S. journalist parachuting in for a story ever could–but in our ultra-religious and gun-loving American culture there are many places right here that are every bit as treacherous. So what are we proposing, that Anderson Cooper be kept indoors and away from the windows? Do the risks to his safety count for more than the risk to any other reporter’s? Should CNN now “discourage” him from going abroad to work a big story and should he accept that? Doesn’t the lesson to other reporters then become to stay in the closet if you want to be taken seriously as a hard news journalist?
      *
      Anderson Cooper is gay by birth and a journalist by choice. He does what he does because he likes it–it’s not a condition of parole or something. If he feels that vulnerable he can stick to his talk show. If he still wants to cover exciting stories in risky places he should just do it and not call further attention to himself whining about the danger. If something bad happens to him (because he’s gay or because he’s a rich American or because it’s Tuesday) we’ll all feel awful about it– but he’s always known the risks. Just like any other journalist doing the job.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 6:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      @LadyL: In fairness to him. he’s not making these arguments. Although he could always disclaim them these are also his friends. Now whether they passed it by him first, I can’t say

      Jul 3, 2012 at 6:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      @LadyL: You aren’t suppose think about the statements beyond the momentary rush of emotions that they make you feel. The problem here is that you are trying to think. If you start to think, you realize as someone who has listened to Griffith in the past, for example, that she has indeed attacked others for not being out although she tries to explain that away now as she didn’t really think they were gay which raises the question of whether she was using being gay as a way to make fun of people which raises the question of how much into gay rights is she considering, but then you realize its not meant to be serious. She’s protecting a friend and these are all just excuses and she probably is for gay rights, but also for a her friend. The problem comes when anyone takes what she says seriously.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 6:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jase
      Jase

      “…but we never thought he owed it to anyone to come out. He didn’t have to come up with a reason for keeping quiet—it was enough that he was bringing stories about bullying, marriage equality and discrimination into the public sphere.”

      Wow, rewrite history much Queerty? Queerty and its commenters badgered and complained and whined more than anyone about AC not specifically saying he’s gay, the glass closet wasn’t enough for you. And according to Queerty posts over the years, his stories about bullying, marriage, etc were NOT enough…you always complained that he wasn’t doing these issues justice if he didn’t open each one with “I’m Gay!”

      Queerty is still a joke and I’m damn glad I did NOT vote for Queerty for the grant. That would be a huge fucking waste of money.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 8:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      a sign of hyperbole “more than anyone else…” Pretty much you can ignore whatever follows such a statement

      Jul 3, 2012 at 8:33 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Peter
      Peter

      Part of her comedy act was alluding to Clay Aiken as being gay. You can’t actually call it comedy. She doesn’t tell jokes just lame stories about herself and who she saw and crap. So, she is a liar.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 9:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      @Peter: I like her as a comedian, but I agree- I have seen her question who is gay and out, and it wasn’t based on her believing they weren’t gay. So yes she’s lying here. I will cut her some slack because its a friend, but it really is insulting to pretend like she never believed the people she was making fun of past were really gay.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 9:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Matt
      Matt

      Ugh Kathy Griffin is a professional media whore and she is NOT any sort of ally to LGBT people she just wants to use us and our issues for attention and to make fun of celebrities.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 10:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike
      Mike

      Kathy Griffin isn’t funny, and her whole BS “My gays” crap is annoying and just shows how she only wants to use LGBT people to make money she’s scum.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 10:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jim
      Jim

      I agree with Analog this stupid cunt is annoying and doesn’t really give two shits about LGBT people at all.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 10:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jim
      Jim

      I agree with Analog this stupid c u n t Kathy Griffin is annoying and doesn’t really give two shits about LGBT people at all.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 10:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Pathetic Queerty
      Pathetic Queerty

      She did not out him because it is not her business or any one else’s. To all the pathetic career queens who demand people come out I say this. If tomorrow the US government, no better, the Republicans, passed a law requiring all gay people to come out on their 18th birthdays on the cover of People, Queerty and all the idiots demanding everyone to be out would be outraged that the government was requiring the public airing of something so personal. It’s not your fucking business what anyone else does with their lives. Get one of you own please, it’s embarrassing to read these comments and I’ve been out for two decades.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 10:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      @Pathetic Queerty: @Pathetic Queerty: She outed other gays.

      Jul 3, 2012 at 10:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • WillBFair
      WillBFair

      @Pathetic Queerty: I could not agree more.
      I also think these queens are so self involved, they think they have the right to order others about. And they’re so stupid, they don’t see the obvious: that only the individual understands his environment, his freinds, family, and career, and whether it’s safe or even useful to come out. And each person has the right to decide for himself when to come out. Period.
      The self involved queens don’t understand that, nor do the self proclaimed activists. Nor do they care. They just want to use everyone as a PR pawn, and they don’t care how many people are crushed in the process.

      Jul 4, 2012 at 12:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      Griffin has outed other in the past. Agreeing with soemone who does no know that makes you either a troll or an idiot.

      Jul 4, 2012 at 12:34 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • rrr
      rrr

      @cam:

      Women reporters go to Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Iran etc…

      Yeah, and female reporters working in countries like the ones you named are frequent targets of harassment, assaults and rape even by locals who are supposed to be on their “team” like their informants and men they hire to accompany them for work like translating. Female international correspondents don’t have the option to keep their gender undisclosed, but if they could you can be sure many would. There are some jewish reporters who choose to use a non-jewish when they work in arab countries for practical safety reasons.

      Jul 4, 2012 at 1:08 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • rrr
      rrr

      @rrr: Missed a word – should have said “use a non-jewish name…”.

      Jul 4, 2012 at 1:15 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • InscrutableTed
      InscrutableTed

      Jeez, Queerty. Stop being so negative about things you don’t understand.

      It’s not that Cooper would be shot by a homophobic sniper. It’s more that his stories would piss off some politician who could have him arrested and possibly executed based on his homosexuality.

      Snipers aren’t afraid of journalists. But politicians (especially corrupt politicians) are.

      Jul 4, 2012 at 1:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • James
      James [Different person #1 using similar name]

      Is this the same Kathy Griffin who used to refer to Clay Aiken as Clay Gayken? She just doesn’t out her friends. Ring, ring…it’s the pot calling!

      Jul 4, 2012 at 1:33 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mk
      mk

      @LadyL: Your kind of glib dismissals and encouragement for professionals in vulnerable groups to shut up about their learned experience of hazards is the reason why the major safety handbook for journalists had no sections on sexual harassment and assault as of the time of Lara Logan’s attack. Female reporters routinely keep silent about it to employers and the public for fear for their jobs, in addition to the usual shame and stigma factors. They don’t want to face your kind of “if it’s too hot then get out of the kitchen and let the real men do the work, you little whiner” attitudes or become “victim” instead of “authoritative professional” to the public’s mind.

      If a reporter dares to acknowledge to a friend they have some safety risk they have concern about and have been working around then they should leave the job or commit to silence, huh? Or if they mention it in an email as a factor they learned to start taking into account from practical experience back 20 years ago as a kid freelancing in war zones?

      Jul 4, 2012 at 1:51 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Sandy
      Sandy

      Please be honest about this. If he had come out from the start, he would never have gotten to the level that he is at now. For him to admit his sexuality earlier on would have been a big distraction from his capabilities.

      Jul 4, 2012 at 2:00 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mk
      mk

      @Sandy:

      That’s true, but it doesn’t mean there weren’t other legitimate concerns at play as well.
      He’s also not going to go around saying that in public emails or to famous big mouths like Kathy. Saying it would have kept him from job advancement would be blatantly publicly accusing CNN and his previous employers of bigoted employment practices. That would be a stupid move for a guy who wants to keeping working with CNN and CBS and have the option open of returning to ABC, and he’s not stupid about his words or his career. It’s also not an accusation he could really prove or that the networks put on the defensive could disprove.
      Telling your public they are too bigoted to have been your fans if you had started out out isn’t likely to go over well either. Did you see how pissed off the black community when Don Lemon accused the black community of particular homophobia when he came out? Black viewers were hostile and felt wronged. Again, it’s not really provable either.

      Jul 4, 2012 at 2:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • UsualPlayers
      UsualPlayers

      Again women and other out gays already face these situations

      People here are so dishonest its beyond contemtible.

      Jul 4, 2012 at 12:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Hephaestion
      Hephaestion

      Wolf Blitzer is Jewish???

      Jul 4, 2012 at 12:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rusty
      Rusty

      I agree with #6 Joe, #64 rrr @ CAM and #40 John..the writer forgot to mention that in Afghanistan they stone, hang and burn gays but their tribesmen buy or steal little boys from their families and paint them and dress them like girls to dance and whore them at their “all men” gatherings. They are known as Bachi Bachir. It is one of the great contridictions of their culture and they will deny it even if put before them. Right now there are people from America and other parts of the world trying to rescue these little boys. Boys who run away will meet a horrendous death to keep others from running away. I for one believe that a person should live in his/her closet all he/she wants until he/she feels safe to come out. I’ve traveled abroad, but I go to where I feel it is safe. We all take precautions even in America. If I mention to the younger generation how we were so closeted in high school in the sixties, most will say “Get over it grandpa, it’s not the sixties anymore,” but when traveling in cultures you don’t understand and hope they understand and think you’re untouchable because you’re an American you’re wrong. Why put yourself in danger or take the risk? Be safe!

      Jul 4, 2012 at 1:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lance
      Lance

      Sandy, his capabilities? LMAO he’s a news caster! It’s not any sort of special job.

      Jul 5, 2012 at 12:30 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Matt
      Matt

      Kathy Griffin she’s a media whore, not any sort of ally towards LGBT People or our rights, and her whole “My gays” crap is straight up homophobic.

      Jul 5, 2012 at 12:32 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • TiredoftheBS
      TiredoftheBS

      Does anyone know who David Muir is dating? Maybe Kathy knows?

      Jul 5, 2012 at 1:05 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jaded
      jaded

      @Lance:

      He was a reporter at one time. Sorry that’s not important enough for you.

      Jul 5, 2012 at 10:32 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Skeeter Sanders
      Skeeter Sanders

      So you have a problem with Anderson Cooper’s reasoning behind his long delay in coming out, citing his working in dangerous parts of the world where his safety would be jeopardized by his coming out.

      “Wouldn’t Cooper be a target of a rebel sniper more because he’s a famous news man—and the heir to a legendary capitalist fortune—than because of his sexuality?” you say.

      Excuse me, but how many people really know or care that Cooper is the son of fashion designer Gloria Vanderbilt — herself the great-great granddaughter of the 19th-century railroad and shipping mangnate Cornelius Vanderbilt? How many Americans under 50 years of age even know of the Vanderbilt family?

      And when was the last time you’ve seen anyone wearing Gloria Vanderbilt jeans?

      Get real, Queerty! You KNOW how extremely homophobic al-Qaida and the Taliban are! Now that Cooper is out, CNN can’t send him to cover the war in Afghanistan again. Nor can the network send him to Pakistan — or to Uganda, for that matter.

      Jul 6, 2012 at 4:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • thedocwatcher
      thedocwatcher

      @Paul:
      Actually the comment really could not be more condescending. Just the fact that she constantly refers to all gay men as “her gays” gives the general population the impression that all gay people adore her and agree with her beliefs, opinions and politics. Kathy Griffin speaks as though “her gays” are skinny little fems that do hair and make up all day in between gossip sessions about film and television stars. As far as “her young gays” not knowing about current events or gay history….MOST of the general population lacks knowledge on these issues.. to isolate one population and speak for them as if she had a Gay Marist Poll at her disposal …how would she know what gay people are and are not aware of? I resent the fact that she feels qualified to speak on my behalf. My fear is that because she has the ability to speak to large sections of the population she can actually do more damage than good.

      Nov 5, 2012 at 9:44 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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