Gay San Francisco-based astrologer Barry Perlman (aka Astrobarry) has been a personal favorite of the editor for years now. His weekly horoscopes are tops and his astrology articles taught us things we never even thought we would want to know. He took a few minutes to sit down with us and talk about everything from what the gays really want to his own personal astrological magnetism.

1. Which did you realize first: that you are gay or that you wanted to be an astrologer?

I realized the gay thing first. Being an astrologer sort of snuck up on me. I'm still surprised it's what I do. I didn't grow up with exposure to such belief. I just stumbled there on my own, and liked what I found. It's funny the directions life takes, if you’re open to crazy plot twists.

2. What is the number one reason that gay men should have a birth chart reading?

To learn more about yourself, and to gain more perspective on what’s going on in your life now. Your chart maps where the planets were at the time and place of your birth. This gives a good overview of potentials in the personality. Then, by tracking the planets as they continue to move, we can see the luckier opportunities and trickier challenges as they arise in different areas of your life. That way, you’re better informed—and can make
more conscious, well-timed choices.

3. Is life in San Francisco good for a gay astrologer?

Life in San Francisco is good for a gay anything. I love SF to pieces. It's so quirky, gorgeous to look at, great food and culture, and people tend to be pretty laid-back. We SFers are quite content inside our liberal, fog-filled bubble.

4. You recently went to Tokyo for a couple weeks. Is astrology a big thing there?

Yes, definitely. I saw lots of cute cartoon zodiac characters in Japanese magazines and on the public video-screens. But it drove me crazy that I couldn’t understand any of what they were saying.

After the jump, hear what Barry has to say about cosmic love matches, and also a few words for you skeptics.

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Between Friendster, Myspace, and all the other social networking sites we have since forgotten about, none of us ever really feel like making another online profile, but DList.com could possibly tempt you to crank out one more list of "interests."

It claims to be "MySpace for gays, except better," and we find that to be pretty much true. First of all, you can find some nice cockshots, but they somehow manage not to take over the site. DList is definitely about more than just sex, while still providing a nice service to those who want to make a variety of love connections.

In addition to "private photos," there is integrated blogging, a very slick, web-based instant messenger, and a DList inbox for sending private messages. There is also a "party photos" section that highlights some of New York's raunchiest night-time events. We hope the DList team looks beyond New York someday, but they are certainly off to a good start.

As if you needed another reason to go check out DList, one of your Queerty editors is on there. Go on, be my DList buddy.

DList [Official Site]

Online dating not scary enough for you already? Try dating in the hetero world, where your online profile (and real life details) might end up on DontDateHimGirl.com — a website where women sound off on the losers they dated.

While Kevin Federline's name has yet to pop up (we're guessing), men whose names do appear on the site are, predictably, quite upset about it. One of them is Todd Hollis, a private attorney whose listing on the site is accompanied by plenty of negative reviews, where women "accused him of giving them a disease, dating two people at a time and being bisexual or gay."

Now Hollis is taking DontDateHimGirl.com to court on charges of defamation, though the website's operator, Tasha Joseph, is taking a hands off approach: as a web service provider, she claims, she isn't responsible for the content on her site. And if the courts rule in her favor, we just might have a business proposal for Tasha: DontDateHimBoy.com.

Man Fights Back After Bad Dating Reviews Online [ABC 7 Denver]

This is one we've never seen before. Gay single guy Daniel went to a psychic who told him that the man of his dreams is named Eric, but all the Erics he knows are straight. Thus heygayeric.com was born. If your name is Eric, you are over 30, and you feel like applying to be this guy's boyfriend, then take a shot. Be warned, his screening test is kind of hard, but it does show he has a sense of humor. Sample question:

Which picture comes next in the series?

That is a riot. If our name was Eric, we would apply and definitely answer that question correctly. Alas, we leave it to the rest of you Erics out there to woo Daniel with your smarts and sensitivity.

Hey, gay Eric! [Official Site via Chrisapher]

Wagging tongues have always had something homosexual to say about Jesus, Mohammad, Abraham and Buddha. Queerty loves all of those figures, but understands that we have readers who don’t need any divinity in their life to enjoy the little things, and still less the big things, that come along to make a day worthwhile. That’s why we’re letting you know about Secularity.com.

Secularity.com is one of those websites where in order to gain admission, you must check a box reading “I deny a belief in the existence of any god(s) and I agree to the terms of service.” Once your gay atheist derriere is past that milestone, you can take advantage of the site’s buddy networks and even set up a dating profile. You are going to be amazed by how many hot gay people out there think the Immaculate Conception is a crock.

Queerty can take no responsibility for what might happen to you on a date without god, but if you have a great time we will take all the credit. To break the ice between you and your prospective atheist honey, you might ask: “Is gay religiosity really masochism?” Leave your bibles at home and beware of lightening bolts.

This dude named Justin noticed a huge gaping void in the online dating market: queer Christians. Seems like even Bible-thumping gays enjoy getting nailed. So he started a web site. Preaches Justin:

In too many places and churches a "gay Christian" is seen as some sort of contradiction, but I have come to discover through my own struggle with being gay that there is a place for people of all sexual orientations in Christ's Church.

And that place is GayHarmony.net. We checked out the site and, though not exactly for us heathens, we like what we see. It's like most other dating sites but with that extra bit of holiness. Relationship options not only include such basics as marriage and friends, but also prayer partner and Bible study partner. Nothing you'll ever come across on Gay.com.

You hot queer Christians in the Bible belt need to sign up now. The site is offering ungodly free registration for only a limited time.

You can get so caught up in the details of your life . . . career, shopping, the gym . . . that you forget to have meaningful relationships. Naturally, everybody has a different idea of what makes for a meaningful relationship. Some believe that until they’ve plumbed the depths of another’s soul, even holding hands is imprudent, while others feel that if they don’t first plumb where the sun doesn’t shine, they have no means for entering into another’s soul.

(Solve)Dating, which has already provided our heterosexual counterparts with a classier-than-average dating site, is poised to connect gay men as well as lesbians. The site contains thoughtful reflections on many aspects of relationships and allows you to submit your own thoughts for possible posting.

The emphasis, of course, will be on forming an enduring relationship, though the 30 minute relationships won't be neglected.