Oy vey ... As a gay, black man, I am soooooo NOT offended by that joke. I have even made the big penis joke a time or two myself. Just when you think political correctness couldn't get any more ludicrous!

Ugh. Didn't anyone read Peter and the Wolf as a kid?
(And no I'm not talking about the Tom of Finland version.)

As someone who has sex with (several!) black men, I'm at a loss to understand what's offensive about this remark. I can relate!

It's an imperfect book, but Scott Poulson-Bryant’s "Hung: A Meditation on the Measure of Black Men in America" explains why the size thing is insulting and annoying.

http://nymag.com/nymetro/news/people/columns/intelligencer/14803/

Was he speaking from prior first hand experience? Not the first metaphor that would have sprung to my mind and I have first hand experience. Did they say he won Dancing With The Stars? Mmm???? A clue perhaps?

certainly an interesting choice of metaphor.
.. and yeah, i know all about 'sexualizing the black man' blah blah, but i STILL can't wrap my head around having a big dick as an insult. (plus.. hellloooo... it's, generally speaking of course, TRUE )

oh wait.. he said it was 'LIKE having sex with a black man', so that's a simile not a metaphor, right ?
i shouldn't try to type while i'm thinking about big dicks.

Actually el polacko, a simile is a type of metaphor, so you're covered.

el polacko,

" (plus.. hellloooo... it's, generally speaking of course, TRUE )"

Some proof would be nice.

As for the insult, it is similar to Asians getting the "model minority" tag. And it is also part of the whole black male "sexual super-star" thing which is also a tad bit annoying.

And please no one post about how your black lovah rocked your world and made you see God.

I must say, interracial gay sex is the hottest thing ever.

For me, it has nothing to do with specific fetishes. We all know the stereotypes...blacks have big cocks, whites are naughty/kinky, asians are eager to please, hispanics have great stamina (blah blah blah). But who cares about that, really. It's just awesome to see intimacy between two guys who have been taught by society to hate each other. There's something very transgressive and erotic about the act (in and of itself).