As part of the older generation (I’m 46) I have one thing to say to gay youngsters. HA HA HA! (That’s 3 actually). We had all the fun, great sex, chic lives and good music and didn’t leave anything for you. Young gays have Brittany and a white trash ethic (tattoos, piercing, constantly being on the phone) to aspire to. Had a great time too bad you weren’t there. LOL

Kinda hard to mentor a group of people detirmined to treat you like an old troll.

Young gays don't give a crap about anyone over the age of their particular desireability window.

Mentoring who?. I'm 68, in good health, do not look my age (most people say I look around 55) and live in Miami Beach. Do you think that the young gays here want anything to do with me?. Come on, grow up. I'm not talking about sex, I'm talking about friendship. Yes, I was super lucky. I lived in New York City in the 60's and 70's, So. California in the 80's and So. Florida in the 90' and now, I can't complain free sex, drugs and no AIDS (for most of the time). Yes, 90% of my friends are dead of AIDS & I had the sad privilege to take care of a few until death did part us. I had written to some of those web sites for friendship and response none did I get. Why?. Because gay life is only for the young. What these young gays today don't want to face is that they will be old someday. Mentoring who?. Really!!!!

Well to be fair, a friend of mine belonged to a short lived program in Toronto that paired up younger GLBT's with older GLBT's to help them out as caregivers, or helpers, if you will. My friend showed up at his buddies apartment, helped him out and went home. He got a phone call from the center and was informed that he would be at a new residence the next day. When he pressed for an answer he was told the older gent made it clear he didn't want my friend comming around anympre becuase he was, "Just too fat and not very goodlooking." So some older GLBT's have some issues to work out as well. Maybe we will eventually be able to work out our issues together, if we can all get past the looksism and ageism.

BTW--Does OUT bother to put GLBT people on it's covers anymore? You wouldn't see Purefoy on the cover of EBONY--or DIVA for that matter--so why is he on the cover of OUT?

did out magazine EVER put a gay person on the cover ??
i cancelled my subscription years ago when i tired of covers and articles about str8 people who knew gay people, str8 actors who played gay people, str8 people who worked with gay people, str8 people who lived next door to gay people, etc .... blech... who needs that ?!

wow....
out magazine actually put a gay person on the cover!

i am so impressed. who would have thought it?

i wonder why they hate me?

jack jett

>str8 people who lived next door to gay people

Hey hey! Good one el polacko 8^)

Mentoring is a two way street. As someone in their upper 30's, I'm kind of bridging the gap here and have to say - the older gays need maturity and wisdom to be able to pass it on to the younger folks (and that wisdom is clearly lacking if these posts are any indication). Yes, the younger guys are focused on looks and sex, but so what? Let them enjoy it! That's the point.

Why should younger gays listen to old bitter out of shape queens? There are dynamic healthy older men out there who inspire simply by living their lives. They don't need youngsters fawning at their feet to give them some ego boost or validate their mentoring, but they mentor by example all the same.

And, yes, I agree - Out magazine is a joke of a gay rag.

I think that its actually about education and class.
The more spoiled the young ones are, the less mature it seems they are about anything.

I'm gay, 24, and raised dirt poor and around the most varied ecclectic group of people you could think of.

If I weren't creeped out by old men talking sexual I would have more older gay friends. :) but it seems that older people only like to talk about sex and stuff and think that maybe the younger gay wants a daddy instead of just meeting a new friend.